A few days ago, the doctor accidentally brushed such a post on the Internet, a 48-year-old woman complained that she and her husband have not had married life for a long time, and have not had intimate contact for several months.
When I was young, I was obviously very passionate, but now I am almost cold. Sometimes she is obviously very active, but her husband is indifferent, which makes her once doubt whether her husband is cheating, but there seems to be nothing suspicious, she is very puzzled, is it the reason for age?
In real life, due to the influence of idol dramas, when it comes to sexual life, the vast majority of people think of almost all young men and women, and middle-aged and elderly people seem to slowly disappear within the scope of people's discussion, if middle-aged and elderly people talk about sexual life, it is likely to be called the title of "disrespectful for the elderly", and they seem to avoid this topic, feel "difficult to speak", the real husband and wife life is even rarer, as if for them sex life is dispensable, Not to mention the passion of youth. Therefore, most middle-aged and elderly people have very little married life.
In fact, the elderly are also very in need of sexual life, age is not the standard for judging whether to carry out husband and wife life, many people have misunderstandings about this, today the doctor will give you a good science popularization.
Do you want to sleep in separate rooms when you are old? Older people can't live as a couple?
With the rapid growth of the population, the mainland has entered an aging society, the elderly group has become the focus of individuals and even the country increasingly concerned, the emergence of "the elderly", "the elderly" these topics, so that many people shift the focus to topics such as elderly health, but ignore the same very important point, that is, elderly sex life.
As the age increases, most couples will encounter troubles in husband and wife life, and even there will be a "bottleneck period", so that people slowly lose interest in this, the number of couples life is particularly small, some people feel that the elderly can no longer live a husband and wife life, but some people simply began to sleep in separate rooms, they feel very embarrassed to sleep together, as if there is a sense of guilt, obviously when they were young before "like glue". Nowadays it seems to be "disgusting each other", so what is going on?
Many people think that most middle-aged couples do not have sex because the body is "no longer working", but doctors believe that there are certain reasons for this, but it is not only that. The answer to the question of whether older people can live as a couple is yes. Medical experts have long said that as long as the physical conditions of the elderly allow, the relevant organs function normally, and have the ability to complete sexual life, then there is no need to refrain in this regard, and it is completely possible to carry out husband and wife life.
However, compared with young people, due to the aging of physical functions, the aging of sexual organs, the function will be relatively weakened, for middle-aged and elderly people the possibility of life is not so smooth, the needs will be different, like when young as "forgetfulness" may not be realistic, it is inevitable that there will be some difficulty, so the number of sex life, duration, etc., will have a certain difference, these should pay special attention, otherwise the body may not eat, the gain is not worth the loss.
First of all, according to the different ages, the elderly should make appropriate adjustments to the frequency of sexual life, the doctor gives a reference range, if it is the elderly aged between 60-65 years old, then you can choose to have a one-time life in 2~3 weeks; The elderly aged 65~70 years old should have a one-time life for about one month to one and a half months. Of course, if the physical condition allows, and the demand in this area is relatively high, it can be increased as needed.
Sex is everyone's need, and when it comes to it, the elderly should not be excluded, they also need it. In fact, for the elderly, the difference between having sex and not having sex is very large, and proper conjugal life is also conducive to improving the happiness index of their old age.
There is such a big difference between having sex and not having sex?
There is no doubt that sex life as an essential behavior of men and women, is a matter conducive to physical and mental health, there is still a big difference between sexual life and no sex life, appropriate sexual life, there are still many benefits to the body, such as the following:
The chances of depression will decrease
In today's society, there is a status quo that there are more and more left-behind elderly people, and they will inevitably feel lonely in their hearts, and over time there will be more and more bad emotions, and some people may also appear depression.
The proper husband and wife life of the elderly will make them experience the feeling of love and being loved, and their mood will naturally be much better. This is because, driven by sexual desire, in the process of husband and wife life, the body will release a large number of dopamine, endorphins, oxytocin and other substances, these substances in addition to a certain "aphrodisiac" effect, but also affect people's mood, making people open-minded.
Dopamine, in particular, is a neurotransmitter secreted by the brain that regulates the central nervous system of the brain and makes it excited. Has always been known as the "happy" hormone, with dopamine, happiness index rises, it can not only make people feel physical and mental pleasure, but also make people guide to the optimistic road, thereby helping to fight and eliminate negative emotions such as depression, which will also delay the aging of the brain and prolong life.
The incidence of cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases will be reduced
Sex life is an aerobic exercise, will consume the body's energy, due to the release of dopamine and other hormones, in this process people's heart rate and blood pressure have increased, the whole body blood circulation accelerated, breathing also became deep and powerful, followed by a relative increase in blood oxygen.
At the same time, it will also promote the expansion of blood vessels in the body, thereby facilitating the orderly circulation of blood circulation, such as pulmonary arteries, coronary arteries, etc., which will enhance cardiopulmonary function to a certain extent, thereby having a certain preventive effect on cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases.
Studies have confirmed that the prevalence of cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases will be reduced by about 10% compared with asexual elderly people.
The chance of developing prostate disease decreases
When men get older, the chance of prostate disease will increase greatly, and many men will be troubled by this, in fact, what they don't know is that sex life is a great help to reduce the incidence of prostate disease. The United States has done research in this area and found that middle-aged and elderly people who have sex have a much lower chance of prostate problems than normal people of the same age.
In this regard, some experts explained that this may have a lot to do with men in the sex can stimulate the prostate, in the couple's life, because the prostate will be squeezed to a certain extent, in this process will help the prostate fluid timely discharge, will also increase the patency of the prostate, and then the incidence of prostate inflammation and prostate tumors will be greatly reduced.
Therefore, the benefits of sex life are indeed more, but in real life, it is undeniable that as people age, husband and wife life will gradually decrease or even disappear, why?
What causes the decline in sex life in old age?
The first is physiological changes, with age, male and female sexual organs will appear aging, the secretion of sex hormones will also decline, sexual function will naturally be affected, such as male impotence, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, etc., for men, if these situations occur, they may feel that they have lost "men's dignity", so when the other half wants to make out, in order not to "expose" themselves, they will refuse.
There is also the reduction of female estrogen secretion will make the vagina slowly become dry, will make the urethra and vagina thinner, and the pain brought by sexual intercourse may be stronger, which in turn leads to low libido and even frigidity, which in turn makes many women subconsciously refuse sexual life. And everyone's libido is different, so the needs will be different, some people's libido is already relatively low, physiological changes may make them more tired of sex life.
There are also psychological changes, for those elderly people who have normal body organs and can have a partner from their own conditions, if they cannot maintain normal sexual life, it is likely to be caused by psychological changes in the elderly.
Many elderly people have to be conservative in their thinking, long-term closed hearts and the influence of public opinion, they will feel that sex life is shameful, is criticized, over time these people will slowly think that the elderly do not need to have sex, and even talk about sex life is shameful.
Finally, the impact of diseases, such as common atherosclerosis and other cardiovascular diseases, abnormal blood vessels will affect the blood flow around the male penis, which can easily cause erectile dysfunction.
In short, under the physical conditions, it is still necessary to properly carry out husband and wife life, usually, it brings more benefits than disadvantages, do not let the elderly couple life become a thing of the past.
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