The "wind-chasing boy" who rushed into the stadium to embrace Messi, can he bear the price of breaking the rules?

The illegal operation can still be envied by the whole network, probably only the 18-year-old boy who recently hugged Messi.

In the friendly match between the Argentine national football team and Australia in Beijing, when the famous player Messi walked to the corner of the stadium, a teenager suddenly jumped off the three-meter-high stand, rushed into the stadium, and hugged Messi in the limelight.

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Later, he also ran around the field excitedly, high-fived with several stars, until he was tired of running and lay on the field and was taken off the court by the security guards.

Perhaps because his enthusiasm and courage are too eye-catching, or perhaps such behavior evokes too many people's memories of youth, everyone is more envious and even appreciative of his approach, and there are few accusations.

Even the Argentine media are said to have expressed support for the boy's behavior because they believe that whatever you do, you must be happy.

Later, the boy described in detail on social platforms his preparations for "hugging Messi", including but not limited to running 5 1,000-meter meters a day for a week to exercise physical fitness, consulting lawyers about possible legal consequences, planning routes and contacting his companions for cover.

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As a result, netizens were even more amazed: it turned out that the 18-year-old boy was not only courageous, but also quite strategic and thoughtful.

However, while appreciating the boy, there were also many skeptical voices, after all, the boy's behavior did violate the regulations, he was administratively detained by the police, and he was not allowed to enter the stadium to watch similar matches for 12 months.

On the one hand, the "hug Messi" that fans all over the world dreamed of, and on the other side, who was administratively detained for violating the rules, the teenager made his choice after much deliberation.

However, more children are torn between the two, unable to choose. In other words, many children do not know until they reach adulthood that there is a second alternative to following the rules.

This is because too much education tells children to fear the rules, but does not tell them that the bottom line of morality and law is not fixed or unique, but that there are too many possibilities for being broken.

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Gray area between black and white

The so-called gray area refers to the vacuum below morality and above the law, and some people think that it refers to the area between legislation and enforcement.

This gray area arises because the enforcement of rules needs to take into account realistic conditions. Many times, jurisprudence is not ruthless, but people-oriented and respectful of humanity.

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To give a simple example, some schools stipulate that students who are late will be demerited points, but they are not strictly enforced every time, because students may be sick, have an emergency, or have other objective reasons.

Therefore, some students will cover up the fact of being late under the guise of illness, and the school will not strictly pursue it every time.

For example, in recent years, the Internet industry has risen rapidly, but because the early industry standards and regulatory systems have not yet been established, there have been many Internet enterprises that use gray areas to attract traffic and become formal companies.

The video website Kuaibo, which is very familiar to people, relies on pirated videos and accumulates a large number of users in a short period of time.

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Between what can and cannot be done, there is often a vast gray area, which is the original face of the society we live in, and family education should not and cannot avoid this truth.

However, the reality is that different families have huge differences in their perception of right and wrong, and children's values and outlook on life also change with different family concepts.

In some families that follow the rules, parents are cautious all their lives, and they are also very cautious about their children's education, and it is difficult for children to have ideas about breaking the rules.

In some relatively open families, such as parents who went to the sea to do business in their early years, they will see more possibilities for operation, and when children encounter problems, they tend to try some unconventional methods.

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Should children be taught to follow the rules?

So, in the process of educating their children, should parents require their children to abide by the rules?

Because the situations faced by children are so different, it is difficult for parents to give their children an accurate answer. But the following two questions apply to most situations, and parents can try to teach their children to think:

First, can the child bear the consequences or costs of breaking the rules?

If it can, it's called sanity; If not, it's willful.

One of the important reasons why people recognize the teenager who embraced Messi is that he has the courage to take responsibility for his actions.

It can be seen from the chat records posted by netizens that the boy consulted with a lawyer before the game to understand the possible consequences of his rushing into the stadium and the legal responsibilities he needed to bear.

He felt he could bear the consequences of breaking the rules, so he decided to do so, and also accepted the punishment of administrative detention, and posted a video apologizing for his actions.

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Second, will the child's behavior cause harm to himself or others?

Some left-behind children in remote areas may be affected by their surroundings and contaminated with drugs, and even if the children feel that they can bear the consequences, it is clear that such behavior has caused serious harm to their own bodies.

In previous years, some large-scale exams would expose cheating by candidates. Originally, everyone competed on the same standard, but cheating broke fairness, harmed the interests of others, and caused harm to normal test takers.

In fact, there are few violations that do not affect others, but whether this impact is innocuous, can be laughed off, or will cause damage to the interests of others, requires mature thinking and rigorous judgment from parents and children.

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Psychological adjustment to facing boundaries

Last year, my child went to junior high school, went home after the first midterm exam, and asked me sullenly: "Cheating during the exam at the same table, the teacher obviously saw it but did not deal with it, does it mean that we can all cheat during the exam?" ”

I have been engaged in education for a long time, and I can't even say comforting words for a while. On the one hand, cheating on exams is both immoral and against school rules, but every child cannot remain indifferent to the high scores obtained by others through improper means.

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In life, we often see others gain additional benefits through actions that break through moral or rule boundaries, and many people's hearts will be shaken by this.

Children are the same, as they gradually see the truth of society, they begin to wonder whether what they have always believed and insisted on is correct.

At this time, parents need to help their children accept reality, stick to their original intentions or make appropriate adjustments to adapt to a complex society.

On the one hand, parents should clearly tell their children the bottom line that they should follow, especially for minors, telling children what not to do and why they cannot do can help children develop an upright character.

On the other hand, if they see something that is not so good, parents can encourage their children to do what they think is right instead of focusing on other people.

In fact, whether or not the rules are strictly observed, as long as the child's heart can be self-consistent, not jealous because of the achievements of others, and not self-pity because of his own obedience, then the child can live an open-minded and comfortable life.

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The Russian writer Chekhov has a widely known novel, "The Man in the Sleeve", about a conformist, rigid and stubborn Greek teacher Belikov.

He wrote: "Belikov tried his best to hide his thoughts in a condom. Anything that violates the law, deviates from convention, and does not comply with the rules, although it seems to have nothing to do with him, makes him sullen. ”

In our society, rules are not only set to punish those who violate them, but also to tell people what is right to do in order to achieve a better life.

If you regard the rules as the only rule of your life, like the "set of people", then the child's future path must be limited everywhere and cannot obtain true freedom.

Only by learning to live with the rules, understanding the bottom line, and knowing how to be flexible can we reap the benefits of a comfortable life.