#记录童愿成真时刻 #
I accidentally brushed the news that a private school in our city could not go straight up, and my heart ached. At this moment, I also understand the helplessness and powerlessness of those parents, because I have also experienced it.
What is a direct lift? Simply put, after graduating from elementary school, you can go directly to the junior high school of your school. In our area, there are only two private schools that have this qualification, and two of them are popular schools.
In this third-tier town, parents are scrambling to attend private junior high schools. Indeed, in terms of teaching performance, the quality of private is far better than that of public institutions. So that in order to get a direct promotion quota, parents even choose primary school early and spend a lot of money to let their children go to private schools.
The sudden cancellation of the direct promotion means that parents spend a dozen ws in vain. They still face a situation where they don't know where to go in junior high school.
I know they're unwilling. Some are also ordinary families, just for the sake of their children, they save money so that they don't have to worry about where to go to junior high school. I always think everything is stable, but everything is changing.
Let's talk about the difficult days when my daughter was young
When my daughter entered junior high school, it was the second year of entering the lottery. With the possibility that two or three rounds can always shake, we are looking forward to one round after another of surprises. But sometimes fate is so tricky, the reality is also cruel, the daughter has not shaken a school, can only go to the school in the area.
Early on, we are also mentally prepared. Because the precinct school is not ideal, if there is a school to choose from, it can be said that parents will not choose to go 100%. In fact, there were more than 10 classmates in her daughter's class who did not shake, and only 3 of them went to the precinct school.
We also looked for a school for our daughter early, which was not too smooth. Since the lottery, it is not easy for private schools to find another channel to enter. Slightly better public schools have stricter hukou cards, and they don't work.
It happened that my relatives were at the education department in my hometown and asked me if I would like to go back to study. In recent years, the results of junior high schools in my hometown city have been gratifying, and key high schools have Qingbei every year. Coupled with a relative's remark that "the education in our hometown will not be worse than yours", I was moved.
My daughter's primary school grades are quite good, and if junior high school can maintain that learning momentum, it is not a big problem to take a key high school. Secondly, even if it is not high, Shangpugao is a little easier than our small city.
It's just that we have to face cross-city school choice, I have to accompany the study, and the family has to be separated; We have to start our lives again in a rather strange city; The child does not know whether he will adapt; Could it be a wrong choice...
I lived every day in entanglement and conflict, and I often lost sleep about it during that time. However, there is no better way, such as you can stay, the school is good, you can have the best of both worlds... Difficult!
I blame myself for not being strong enough; I was worried that my daughter's protest against going back to her hometown to read would delay her... And what can be done? After doing a lot of her daughter's ideological work, I weighed it again and again, and I still chose to choose a school across the city.
When choosing a school, we must respect the child's wishes
We adults think it's perfect, but our children don't necessarily agree. Before I came back, when I talked to my daughter again, she was not so repulsive and showed her longing for a new life in a new school.
When I thought I would accompany her to study and she could devote herself to junior high school, all kinds of discomfort followed. The pressure of studying, getting along with teachers and classmates, seems to be all kinds of unsatisfactory, and she can be in a state of collapse in minutes.
When she repeatedly asked, "I don't want to read here, I'm going to go back and read it," I was distressed and helpless. I understood that it was a protest in her heart, an ununtied knot that had been accumulated in her heart.
When she couldn't calm down and study, her grades went up and down. The diary is full of memories of the original life, and the spit of dissatisfaction with the existing life.
After countless reflections, I realized that choosing a school across the city is really a bit selfish. Therefore, I want to tell all parents of children facing further education that it is wise to respect the wishes of their children and discuss and make decisions with their children.
Write on the back:
The beginning of a child's new journey is the beginning of a child's new journey. In this special stage of adolescence, parents should learn to treat their children as friends, respect and accept their children, and let them be themselves.