Teacher Sarah, a well-known Jewish parent-child education expert, shared a classic parenting story: "Children want everything, how to teach?" ”
She is a mother of three children, after divorcing her ex-husband, her two sons followed herself, her daughter followed her ex-husband, she came to Shanghai, China to develop, her daughter followed her ex-husband in the local area, at that time she added a bonus subsidy of $6,000 a month.
When her daughter was 16 years old, she came to Shanghai for the summer vacation at the instigation of her ex-husband. Among them, there are many calculations of his ex-husband, such as only buying a one-way ticket for his daughter, and the ticket back needs to be borne by her, in fact, buying it together together will be hundreds of dollars cheaper than buying them separately.
女儿满怀期待来到上海
Her daughter is also looking forward to it, and she hopes to get more attention and expenses from her mother during her summer trip in Shanghai. The day they met was her 16th birthday, they sat down at a Chinese restaurant, Sarah knew the psychology of her ex-husband and daughter, she wrapped her daughter a 1600 yuan red envelope, and then wrote her a family letter.
The daughter touched the thickness of the red envelope, knowing that it was RMB, she felt very thin, she became disappointed, and began to keep asking her mother's income and so on, and asking why it was given in RMB instead of US dollars, Teacher Sala tried to change the topic, but her daughter would ask about money every time.
Finally, Mr. Sala said, this red envelope is a piece of your mother's heart, you are 16 years old, 1600 is a love for one hundred or 16 years a year, and today you can order your favorite food.
女儿发火想离开走掉
The daughter ordered a bundle of orange water, a bundle of mango water, a bowl of dumplings, a bowl of noodles, and gave it to her after ordering, she crossed out the others at once, leaving 2 bowls of noodles, and this time the daughter got up angry and left.
She gently stopped her daughter who was about to leave: "Sister, come here, I didn't give you a gift, there is also a letter here, you take them away together, and then walk slowly." ”
She also did not shout loudly, you go, after you leave, never come back. She rationally reminded the child to take the things she sent, and the daughter came back after walking two steps, saying: "Forget it, you eat two bowls of noodles alone, it is also a waste." Then he sat down.
At this time, Teacher Shara did not mock her daughter, saying that she still came back and sat down, and she had the ability not to sit down. This will make the child very embarrassed, whether it is walking or not.
再次回到座位上的女儿
After the daughter sat down, she said: "Thank you sister for understanding me, in fact, I can give you everything you want to drink, but if you want something, I will give it to you, when you go to the society, you go to a unit, do you think this organization, this team will give you what you want, if one day you think of a position, the boss did not give you, gave it to others, did you leave?" Or do it? I give you a frustration education today, a delayed gratification, I punched you, I don't want to knock you down, but to make you feel that there are obstacles everywhere on the road of life, you can't get what you want, you can't do whatever you want. ”
The daughter was on the way to separate from her, she turned around, Teacher Sarah did not take the initiative to hug her, the daughter took the initiative to hug her. Then thank her mom for giving her a special birthday.
Her 18-year-old daughter went to the army, and after that, she said she thanked her mother for the frustration education she gave when she was 16 and the family letters along the way.
Finally, what I want to say
Through her story, let us understand that first of all, we cannot blindly meet the needs of children, learn to refuse and guide, and cannot let them be proud before they get rich. At the same time, in the process of educating children, also give respect and tell the truth and reason, do not scold or sneer.