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There is a saying in "Touching the Dragon Says Empress Dowager Zhao": "The love of parents is far-reaching." ”
The implication is that parents who truly love their children must make long-term plans for his life.
There is no doubt that the first important turning point in the life of young people in today's society is the college entrance examination.
As parents, they all put their children on the tip of their hearts and hope that they can smoothly enter the ivory tower and get a good future from then on.
As a result, many parents are more nervous than their children, but this is counterproductive.
During the college entrance examination, parents must not be nervous and impatient, only need to do the following three things silently, which is already a great help to their children.
◆Psychological preparation: not impatient, stable as Mount Tai
On the eve of the college entrance examination, many parents entered a state of preparation, although they did not enter the examination room, but their hearts had already flown in with their children.
A few days before the college entrance examination, they fidgeted, always reminding themselves to make perfect plans for their children, and they will also give their children many reminders from time to time.
When children enter the examination room, they wait anxiously outside, and although it is only more than 100 minutes, it is a sense of suffering for them.
Watching the child walk out of the examination room, their hearts also boiled, and they prayed that the child could get good results, but they were worried that the child did not play his due strength.
Throughout the examination stage, parents walked on thin ice and were highly concentrated.
Parents love their children, and it's understandable to be nervous or excited, but everyone seems to forget that emotions are contagious.
Your nervousness will show through your expressions or movements, and the child will see it.
Seeing you so nervous, the child will only become more nervous, which is very detrimental to his college entrance examination.
In order not to affect the child's emotions, everyone must control their emotions and try to be as stable as Mount Tai.
On the one hand, don't take it too seriously and treat it as an ordinary exam; On the other hand, don't ask your child about their test results, and don't talk too much or tell too much.
When you act unhurried and don't take it seriously, children can also relax their minds.
◆ Emotional preparation: stabilize the family and shield conflicts
The old man often said, "Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read." ”
We want everyone to have a happy family, but not everyone can get it.
In real life, many families have contradictions, whether it is husband and wife contradictions or mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, which seriously affect their lives and emotions.
And at this point, everyone should pay special attention to no matter how bad your relationship is, you must restrain your emotions during the college entrance examination and try to show a harmonious and happy side, rather than venting wantonly and arguing casually.
During the exam, children's emotions are very volatile because they also care about the college entrance examination and are also nervous.
If the family at this time behaves very discordantly, family members quarrel at will, or even make greater conflicts, then it is a kind of mental destruction for the child.
While worrying about exams and worrying about housework, the results are naturally unsatisfactory.
Based on this, everyone must stabilize their family situation, even if they force themselves to be a harmonious actor, they must not affect the future of their children because of family conflicts.
Even if there is a big contradiction, it will be solved after the college entrance examination, and try not to mention it in the past few days.
◆Volunteer preparation: plan privately and plan ahead
After the college entrance examination, the most important thing candidates face is to volunteer to fill out the report.
What kind of school they choose and what kind of major they study will have a crucial impact on their future development.
Wait until after the college entrance examination to do the planning, it is inevitable that the time is a little rushed, the understanding is not comprehensive enough, and the choice is not appropriate will be regretted for life.
Therefore, parents can make corresponding plans in advance, there are many colleges and universities in the mainland, there are many majors, and everyone must choose carefully according to the strength of their children.
Volunteer preparation is necessary, but parents can only plan in secret, not let their children see, so as not to increase their nervousness.
In the process of choosing a volunteer, there are only two factors that everyone needs to consider the most.
The first factor is the field that the child is good at, and it is easier to improve and break through by attending the major that he is good at.
The second factor is the popular major, and learning a good major is beneficial to future employment and development.
With these two points in mind, learn more and prepare early.
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The college entrance examination is an important turning point in life, it can allow people of the same level to distance themselves in an instant, and it can also light up people living in the dark.
Everyone should pay attention to the college entrance examination, but should not show the nervous mentality.
True attention is a kind of mental preparation, not a helplessness and chaos.
Today's sunshine is very good, may all candidates be as bright as the blue sky tomorrow, and may all parents get what they want!
Zhuang Dixiaomeng/Original creator of the emotional column
May your life be full of surprises and may your happiness come as scheduled.