"If it weren't for the children, I would have divorced him a long time ago."
This is a phrase said by countless people who have been hurt in their marriage but still hold on to it painfully.
From this perspective, children seem to be an essential thing to sustain marriage.
"Divorce, our family needs a child."
At the same time, the inability to get a child has become a big excuse for the breakdown of the marriage.
However, there is a group of people in this world who have put aside all the benefits and restrictions that come with children. I thought that such a marriage would be more pure, but in fact, their circumstances for making the same choice were very different.
Feng Yuanzheng: "The child is too capable of making trouble!" Can't want! ”
When it comes to childhood nightmares, then there is definitely one person in everyone's mind, that person is An Jiahe played by Feng Yuanzheng in "Don't Talk to Strangers".
In the play, he is extremely cruel and trembles when he sees his wife's every move, but in real life he is diametrically opposed to the character in the play.
What everyone didn't expect was that Feng Yuanzheng's wife was 8 years older than him. When the two said that they were going to get married, almost no one around was optimistic, after all, "female junior, holding gold bricks", female junior eight I am afraid that there will be contradictions.
But in fact, the two have been married for many years and have always had a good relationship. According to his wife Liang Danni, Feng Yuanzheng in life is a caring and gentle man, although he is so many years younger than himself, but most of his life is Feng Yuanzheng to take care of himself.
Many people regret that the two have not been able to have a child after so many years of marriage, but Feng Yuanzheng and Liang Danni do not care, and it is somewhat interesting to talk about the reasons why the two do not have children.
The two wanted to have a child after marriage, and just when they were actively preparing for pregnancy, a party shattered all their illusions about children.
Since the friends around me have married intermittently and had children, the gathering between friends has a group of little ghosts. At the beginning of seeing the children, Feng Yuanzheng still felt quite cute, thinking that it would be good when he could have one.
But it didn't take long for the children to become familiar with each other, and they shouted around the house and made a crazy noise, so that Feng Yuanzheng could not hear the children clearly.
After a while, the two children had a little conflict and began to fight, so there were all kinds of cries and noises all kinds of noise.
This scene made Feng Yuanzheng stunned, and at this moment he made up his mind: Don't have children!
After returning home, Feng Yuanzheng and his wife said their thoughts, expecting that they would be rejected by the other party. Just when he was thinking about how to persuade his wife, his wife actually said: I think it's very good!
If their marriage has lasted for more than thirty years, because they have no children, there will always be people who feel that their relationship does not have a stable security, but in fact, they have a purer love.
For the matter of Dink, Liang Danni not only did not have any unhappiness in her heart, but even confessed Feng Yuanzheng in public: How can I get your love, and meeting you is the greatest luck in my life, and you have made me get a love that is not mixed with any impurities.
Kang Hui: My parents' last wish is not to see their grandchildren and granddaughters
In 2013, at the scene of "Lu Yu Has an Appointment", Lu Yu read a letter left to him by Kang Hui's mother, and the moment he heard the content of the letter, Kang Hui, who has always been calm and calm, seemed to have some difficulty controlling his emotions.
"Don't be too guilty about the death of your father, he has no regrets in this life, the only thing is that he has not seen his grandson, I hope you can work hard to fulfill our wish as soon as possible."
One sentence not only hit Kang Hui's guilt for his father, but also made him a little doubtful about his choice of "Dink".
Kang Hui and his wife Liu Yajie are alumni, and this top student couple entered CCTV together as soon as they graduated, and their relationship is very stable.
It seems that they are low-key by nature, in short, the love between the two could have been talked about, but they are so low-key that people often ignore the fact that the two are in love.
In 2000, the two decided to get married, and after receiving the marriage license, they did not prepare for the wedding, but simply invited the parents of both parties to a meal.
For them, true affection does not require these cumbersome procedures and rituals. Of course, the most important thing is that these two are workaholics, and they were in the rising stage of their careers at that time, so to speak, they just got married by the way.
It was precisely because they didn't want to be disturbed by work, so the two discussed it and decided not to have children.
Kang Hui, who does not want children, almost naturally put most of his energy into work, and after his efforts, he finally became the host of "News Network", and now he is a famous host known to everyone.
However, "the world is safe and perfect", and the development of the career is bound to ignore the feelings of the family. The wife is okay, the two are in the same unit, and work is their life.
But for parents, the most desirable thing is to be able to hold their grandchildren.
But Kang Hui insisted on "Dink", and they were not good to persuade again.
Later, when his father died, Kang Hui even failed to go back to see his father for the last time because of work, which is why his mother would comfort him in the letter not to feel guilty.
The latter sentence is actually the mother's hope that Kang Hui can let him see his grandson in his lifetime, but unfortunately, Kang Hui's mother did not wait for that day.
In 2018, Kang's mother, who had been fighting uremia for a long time, passed away, and her only regret in this life is probably the same as her husband, not being able to see her grandson.
It wasn't until his mother also left that Kang Hui really realized what kind of harm he had caused his parents, and he wrote emotionally in his autobiography:
My mother rarely mentioned it again, as if she had lost hope for me, but there was a deep regret in this abandonment. If I could do it all over again, I would definitely do what she wanted.
Now Kang Hui still has no children, and at the age of more than half a hundred, he seems to be a little envious of those friends who have children around him, so he and his wife adopted two kittens together and treated them as children.
Ge You: Staunch Dinkism
In 1987, 30-year-old Ge You married He Cong, and before they got married, the two agreed not to have children in this life. Some people may think that Ge You is the same as Kang Hui because he is too busy with work.
But in fact, after the two got married, his wife immediately quit her job, and then followed Ge You to take care of him wholeheartedly.
Having a child in this case is not a problem, but Ge You is a staunch Dinkist, and we can't know where his idea came from, but he does deeply recognize Dink, and even Xie Yuan decided not to have children under his influence.
When he made this decision, Ge You was still an inconspicuous small role in the entertainment industry, but even if he later won the title of "Cannes actor" with "Alive", he still did not change his original intention.
Most importantly, neither the absence of children nor the rise in progress did not affect his feelings for his wife.
In 05, after the death of his friend Fu Biao, Ge You took the initiative to adopt his child Fu Zien, which was also regarded as an accidental harvest of a child.
Ge You is also dedicated to Fu Zien, often asking about children's future plans. At first, Fu Zien wanted to be an actor, but Ge You knew how difficult it was for an actor to get through the game, so he persuaded him to become a director, after all, he could still help him.
Now Fu Zien has become a very good director and shot his own movie "Stop! Don't run".
After years of nurturing, Ge You and He Cong were like his biological parents, so he often took time to visit them. In this way, the old age of Ge You and his wife can be regarded as someone to take care of.
Tony Leung: There are too many people to take care of
There are too many legends in the love story of Carina Lau and Tony Leung, so when these two people said they wanted Dink, everyone's reaction was flat, after all, for their lives, this matter is really not a sensation.
Although the relationship between the two is now stable and dull, they are full of ups and downs along the way.
Carina Lau, as the "big sister" of the Hong Kong entertainment industry, she can be regarded as a model of counterattack success.
For various reasons, she entered the entertainment industry to make a living when she was very young.
At that time, because Cantonese was not good, she couldn't even get into the training class, so she practiced Cantonese desperately and finally reached the opportunity to enter the training class, but her classmates and teachers didn't look up to her very much.
Later, she finally got a role in "The Legend of the Condor Heroes", but there was only one line, and this early experience made her feel deeply emotional now.
Not only does she have a problem with her accent, but even memorizing her lines is a great challenge for her. It is said that the first time I cooperated with Tony Leung was on the filming site of "Luding Ji", and due to nervousness, I couldn't say a word because of nervousness.
"You're not mistaken! I can't remember the lines, what to shoot! So angry that Tony Leung cursed her.
At that time, the atmosphere between the two was extremely awkward, almost to the point of saber rattling.
But as they got to know each other more and more, Carina Lau found that Tony Leung was not a man who couldn't control his emotions, he actually had feelings and righteousness, and the reason why he roared at himself was because he felt that he had delayed the rest time of other staff.
Tony Leung also gradually realized that Carina Lau's difficulty and her insistence on pursuing her dreams were childlike, not only that, but Carina Lau's self-esteem in her bones fascinated Tony Leung deeply.
Although the Hong Kong entertainment industry at that time was full of flowers, it was also chaotic, and many popular actresses would be required to shoot Fengyue films, and if not from that, it would be a series of threats.
It is said that at that time, Carina Liu was slapped several times by the investor in order to refuse, but even in the face of such a strong opponent, she still did not flinch at all.
Such tenacity makes Tony Leung respect and love this woman.
Later, when filming "Flower Heart Big Husband", the two met again, this time they seized the opportunity to come together, and the two agreed not to have children after marriage.
Tony Leung's reason to the outside world is that there are too many people who need to be taken care of in this life, and there is no longer energy to have a child.
Carina Lau is more funny, she feels that having a child to worry about all kinds of learning things is too tedious.
Today, the two are still living happily together, and they have proved with practice that a childless marriage can be strong.
Alan Tam: I'm a Dink, but not quite
There is no need to say how high Alan Tam's status in the music industry is, but some of the actions he made in his marriage are indeed a little puzzling.
Yang Jiewei was not only Alan Tam's lover, but also his nobleman, in order to be able to package Alan Tam, she gave up her great future and devoted all her life learning to Alan Tam.
But after many years of love, Alan Tam never planned to marry her, until she was stimulated by something later to take her into the palace of marriage.
Yang Jiewei became pregnant not long after marriage, and Yang Jiewei was very happy when she learned the news, but Alan Tam's attitude made her a little elusive.
After he was dumbfounded for a while, he actually asked Yang Jiewei to beat the child away.
Seeing Alan Tam trying so hard to persuade herself, Yang Jiewei thought that he was worried about his physical condition, who knew that not long after a woman named Zhu Yongting appeared, and she was also pregnant with Alan Tam's child.
What's even more outrageous is that the man who didn't let himself give birth to the child actually loved the child born to another woman in every way, and this blow made Yang Jiewei's heart die all of a sudden, and finally chose to cut her hair into a nun.
Regarding "Dink", the jury is actually out on whether it is good or not.
The most important thing is the relationship between the two, if the relationship is sincere, no matter what requirements are negotiable, and once the relationship has distractions, no matter what method is used to save it, it is only a mirror in the end.