At Wang Yuan's concert, she became a slut who was surrounded and suppressed

During this time, her sister's backstage was urging the same thing -

The girls who wore wedding dresses to idol concerts were scolded.

To be honest, when she first saw this hot search, her sister didn't have the idea to write.

Because I always feel that we have discussed this kind of problem too many times.

Girls spend their own money, buy their own wedding dresses, go to a concert of their own idols, why is it worth such a wide discussion? Why do you need to be endlessly scrutinized and criticized by others?

Why is it that every once in a while, such a witch hunt is born on the Internet, and women are rounded up and humiliated over and over again?

This time and again, there were attacks like ghosts hitting the wall for no reason, which made her sister a little tired.

But seeing that this turmoil has intensified, some people have begun to pour monstrous dirty water on the girls with rumors and anti-strings.

So, it's time to talk.

"Am I wrong to wear a wedding dress to a concert?"

Who did they offend when they wore wedding dresses?

It started with a concert.

At the end of May, Wang Yuan held two concerts in Chongqing as the end of this year's tour.

Chongqing is his hometown and the place where he became famous. Therefore, it is a landmark of great significance, both for Wang Yuan himself and for fans who have liked him for many years.

On the night of the concert, many girls wore wedding dresses and rushed to the venue to "marry their youth".

They dressed up beautifully, went in both directions with the idols who grew up together, and completed a grand date at the venue of 10,000 people. This was originally a very romantic story.

But as some girls posted related videos, many men poured into the comment area to point out, and the direction of this matter gradually changed.

Someone indignantly pointed out the meaning of the wedding dress, saying: How sacred is the wedding dress, how can you wear it to other men?

Some people came out with the bride price and said something: Since you are married to youth, you can no longer ask for a bride price.

It even rises to the distorted moral decline of human nature, putting the identity of being a wife, fiancée, and girlfriend before the individual.

The girls just wore a wedding dress, but they had already made up a green hat drama in their minds, and they felt that they had suffered a big loss.

What's more, he began an unfounded personal attack on the girl in the wedding dress and Wang Yuan himself:

While mocking the girls' looks and weight, he took out the terrier that Wang Yuan smoked several years ago to play, and the appearance attack and personality insult flew up, for fear that others would not feel their viciousness.

The plot has come here is already extremely outrageous, but unexpectedly, the next rumors are even more jaw-dropping.

First, a group of people went to the second-hand platform to hang out their wedding dresses, saying that they were girls who wore wedding dresses to concerts, and deliberately humiliated with text:

"A little fairy of 400 pounds, don't shoot less than 400 pounds, anyway, the bride price is not a point less."

Such an obvious anti-string is really pitiful and ridiculous.

Later, the famous dung pit "Sun Xiaochuan Bar" suddenly popped up a post: "Girlfriend against the sky wears a wedding dress to watch a concert." ”

In the post, the landlord posted a chat record between himself and his "girlfriend", saying that his girlfriend wore a wedding dress to see Wang Yuan and spent 900 yuan. (If you've been to a concert a few times, you won't make up such a low price...) ）

There was a persuasion at the bottom, and by the way, the girl was also insulted, and the yellow rumors came one after another, opening their mouths and scolding nearly 10,000 times.

It wasn't until the girl in the wedding dress herself found the photo and came forward to testify that this dirty ended.

She was only sixteen when this set of photographs was taken;

She wore a wedding dress to take a set of birthday photos for herself;

She didn't know the poster at all, and all chat logs were made up;

Even, she is not a fan of Wang Yuan.

The development of things to this point has obviously evolved from a small-scale rice circle incident to a vicious rumor-mongering.

It's really a picture at the beginning, and the story is all about making up.

Seeing this, you may wonder: How did this Internet siege get to this point?

We may not understand, but the men who break the defense have their own logic.

One netizen summed it up well:

"There are always men who are angry that strange women don't keep the rules for him."

For them, all women are potential possessions, future sexual resources, and there is no room for a little "tarnishing".

"You've put on wedding dresses for others, how can you be my girlfriend?"

That's why there are clamoring for the girls' names to be published, so that they can implement the "exclusion method" and avoid "losses" in the future.

All kinds of remarks directly put himself in the high position of the selector, as if all the girls were lining up for him to be lucky, his "major decisions" can make the girls sleep hard, and the phrase "can't get married" is the most vicious curse.

Really, I really want to learn their self-confidence, how do they manage to take themselves so seriously?

Extending this logic, their defense breaking will also have traces to follow.

Since women are their own future resources, of course, women have to give themselves the first time.

To kiss for the first time, to have the first night, to wear a wedding dress for the first time, to hold hands for the first time and hug for the first time...

It is best to be a complete blank piece of paper, everything is shaped by yourself, and it must be stamped and labeled, becoming the purest accessory around a man.

If you can't marry such a woman, then you would rather marry a good girl.

After all, their two major hobbies: Laliang's family went into the water and persuaded prostitutes to follow the water. Isn't this just strung together?

A wedding dress has inexplicably become a woman's chastity archway, which not only needs to be shelved and disappeared, but also everyone can step on it.

What, you dare to wear a wedding dress at a concert, don't get married?

Men who value first-time men should wake up

The reason for the men's defense was found, but their revelry was far from over.

Following their underlying logic, we can easily see that many similar trials are being played out repeatedly.

Last time, they said: a woman must be a virgin, and a woman with a broken hymen is not pure.

This time, they said: women cannot wear wedding dresses casually, and wedding dresses worn only once represent fidelity to marriage.

And what about next time?

Next time, is it a suspender, a short skirt, socializing with the opposite sex, going to a concert... Can it be used as evidence of infidelity?

In the name of chastity, countless frames are set for women, and then women are forced to work hard to fit this framework, and wedding dresses must be taken off, but the cloak of morality is more and more traversed.

Mr. Lu Xun said: "When I see short sleeves, I immediately think of white arms, I immediately think of total nudity, I immediately think of genitals, I immediately think of sexual intercourse, I immediately think of hybridization, I immediately think of illegitimate children. Chinese imagination can only make such a leap forward at this level. ”

This logic works in some men:

As soon as I see a woman wearing a wedding dress, I immediately think of marriage, I immediately think of whether it is a virgin, I immediately think of green hats, I immediately think of honest people.

They also clamored for the meaning of wedding dresses, saying that wedding dresses are not designed for women, but for weddings. Behind the didactic tone, there is no logic and no basis.

Because women cannot be blatantly insulted, there are all kinds of rules and regulations to force women to shut up.

Because he couldn't face his own feudalism and couldn't tolerate the escape of any woman, he had to build a patriarchal coffin with yellow rumors and slander, lie down and sit in the well to watch the sky, and he had to scold the birds flying through the sky for not understanding the good of the bottom of the well.

After all, "it's much easier to point out what a woman is not like to justify a man." ”

On the other hand, compared to some men, who are still stuck in the sexual brain and chastity concept, the girls in wedding dresses have completed a romantic escape from the feudal narrative.

Search for wedding photos on social platforms, and the first correlation that comes out is wedding photo personal photos.

Someone dressed in a wedding dress and took a set of photos of the bride who ran away: flowers can be bought for themselves, and the sea can be seen by itself.

Running forward like the wind alone is the highest level of romance.

Someone took a set of wedding photos of himself at the age of eighteen, fulfilling his girlhood dream, and made a wish to take a set of photos every year as a souvenir.

There are also girls who choose to take a set of wedding photos with their girlfriends, and the precious friendship between the two girls may be deeper than love.

Turning back the clock many years ago, a wedding dress is not a beautiful torture device in a single scene.

In 2003, Anita Mui wore a wedding dress at her last concert and "married herself to music to fans", ending her music career with a confession.

In 1985, when Leslie Cheung launched "Love for You", he held a lottery to take wedding photos with female fans.

For girls, a white lace wedding dress is like a sparkling dream in a shop window, defining everything related to beauty. And marriage is not the only beauty.

Under the discussion related to the concert wedding dress, some netizens posted a comment:

"I've always felt that traditional wedding dresses are scary. A girl in a wedding dress seems to have necessarily belonged to her husband, and after taking off the wedding dress, she is a wife, a doomed mother, a husband, a child, a family, but only she has diluted herself. I had a sense of resistance to the wedding dress, which was like a prison robe that told the woman about her right to use sex later. I understand that this is an objectified thought, but I can only make such associations under the list of failed marriages. But now seeing them wearing wedding dresses to concerts, I suddenly understand the beauty of wedding dresses, and the wedding dress in the concert is no longer a symbol of marriage, but just passionate love."

In these contexts, girls and idols jointly broaden the meaning of wedding dresses, not only in weddings and marriages, but as a symbol of beauty and freedom, just to passionately rush to their love.

The love here can be the idol of youth, the dream of the next stage of life, the girlfriend's relatives, or the better self.

Seeing the men here, maybe it's time to wake up.

The era of women's recyclization is long gone, and you cannot, and should not, drag them into the feudal twilight again.

Their love, too dangerous

In addition to the resource of women, behind such a crazy witch hunt, there is actually another layer of narrative logic that is easily ignored.

Discipline in the name of love.

A large part of the men who criticize wearing wedding dresses to concerts are in the name of love.

"It doesn't matter if you don't have a boyfriend, you can't have a boyfriend."

"It's a question of who has a more special status in your heart than boyfriend and male celebrity!"

"I love you so much, but you're going to wear a wedding dress to meet another man?"

A set of combination punches seems to be sincerely giving advice to women: "I care about you because I love you." ”

Do these pieces of advice sound familiar?

Don't wear a short skirt when you go out, because you can only wear it to me, because I love you.

Don't get too close to the opposite sex, because they don't have good intentions, because only I love you the most.

Don't spend money indiscriminately, because being a good wife and mother is the best way to get my love.

There is also the phrase that has been carved into the shadow of countless people's childhood: Don't talk to strangers.

In this logical chain, too much control and possessiveness are the manifestations of love, imprisonment and bondage are the cornerstones of emotional relationships, and the more strict I am with you, the more I love you.

Their so-called love has become a heavy prop to consolidate the status of female vassals.

In the past, there were really many girls who fell silly into this narrative trap, and it seems that only by doing this can they be liked more.

There are also many emotional bloggers who have summarized various "love tips", teaching girls to show weakness, teaching girls to be single-minded and sensible, and teaching girls to know how to be measured and know how to advance and retreat.

Under this set of standards full of objectification, girls must cut themselves in order to become a good girl who meets the standards of love and deserves to be loved.

The reason why girls in wedding dresses are scolded is precisely because they violate their set of love standards.

But does love really mean possession and jealousy?

In this incident, a male netizen posted a video of his girlfriend wearing a wedding dress to a concert, saying: "Don't take possessiveness and machismo as love." ”

Before becoming a girlfriend, becoming a wife, becoming a mother, she is first and foremost herself.

There are also more and more girls who have seen through this trap and put on wedding dresses to give meaning to their lives.

This is also what her sister feels gratified by this incident.

In the past, girls' struggles were always "why".

Why can only white and thin be liked?

Why do you have to show weakness in order to be loved?

Why can't I wear beautiful clothes?

But today, girls have moved away from the template they want to frame.

They said: I don't care.

You don't like it, it's okay, it doesn't matter.

Girls who wear wedding dresses to concerts are criticized, saying, "You don't care about my appearance and dress, because I'm not your future wife."

Some bloggers shared a hundred tips for being liked by men, and they commented: I don't care what he likes, it doesn't matter.

After breaking free from the admonition of the relationship between the sexes, women's narratives begin to be only relevant to themselves, no longer arguing, no longer explaining, no longer seeking recognition from the outside, but only firmly opening up their own world.

At the end of this article, to paraphrase the words that the idol once wrote to girls:

Born free, loving and fearless.

Whether it's a wedding dress or a princess dress, you who carry the hem of your skirt to love and courage are really beautiful.