Lead:
After retirement, if you can get a pension of 9,000 yuan a month, such an income, even if you live in a first-tier city, you can live very well. If a person retires and can get a pension of nine thousand yuan, such a day can be called happy like a fairy.
Sixty-five-year-old Uncle Yan is living such a life now. He received a retirement salary of more than 9,000 yuan a month and lived in a city in the north. The house price there, as long as four or five thousand yuan a flat, Uncle Yan's retirement salary of more than nine thousand yuan is enough for him to live a carefree retirement life.
However, although Uncle Yan received such a high retirement salary, he was not happy at all, saying that he lived in anxiety every day and did not know how to be good. What's going on here? Listen to what Uncle Yan has to say.
Uncle Yan:
I am sixty-five years old and my wife is sixty years old. My monthly pension is more than 9,000 yuan, and although my wife's pension is not as high as mine, I also have 5 or 6,000 yuan a month. Our combined pensions are fifteen thousand yuan a month.
Many people say that my wife and I have such a high retirement salary, which is too enviable. In this northern city where we live, the per capita income is generally around three or four thousand yuan, and the retirement salary of my wife and I is definitely a high salary.
Because my wife and I have a high income, we have never worried about money in our lives. We have worked hard for most of our lives, and now, we have two properties and millions of dollars in savings.
According to common sense, we have so many assets, life should be very easy and happy. However, my wife and I were not happy at all. We frown every day, and no amount of money can alleviate our troubles.
The source of our troubles all comes from our son. His son, Chinese New Year's Eve six, currently works in Shanghai. His son's income in Shanghai is 16,000 yuan a month, which is not high for the metropolis of Shanghai, but he has no problem supporting himself.
The son had excellent grades from an early age and graduated from a 985 high school. After my son graduated, we arranged my son to work in a public institution through our own connections.
This is a job that can be elderly, as long as the son is at work and there are no major mistakes, he can take a high salary and work leisurely in this institution until he is old.
However, my son gave up such a good job, concealed my wife and me, and secretly came to Shanghai alone to find an IT job there.
After he settled in Shanghai, he called us and told us about it. Our city is separated from Shanghai by more than 2,000 kilometers, and such a distance completely separates us from our son.
We worked hard to raise our son so that he could complete his higher education. We originally thought that in the second half of our lives, we could fully enjoy the happiness of nature, and we even prepared our son's marriage room for him early, only after he got married, we could live a pension life with our grandchildren.
However, the ideal is beautiful, but the reality is very skinny. My son's insistence on going our own way made our expectations all disappointed, and for a long time, my wife and I were depressed and did not know what to do.
We also used to visit our son in Shanghai, and every time we went to see my son in Shanghai, he was very unhappy. He said he was doing well here and didn't need us to travel that far to see him.
The son is still too young to understand our heart as parents. We have only given birth to such a child as him in our lives, and now our only child is thousands of miles away from us, where can we rest assured? Only when we see and touch our son with our own eyes will our hearts be steady.
My son rented a two-bedroom, one-room house in Shanghai, located in the most prosperous area, and the monthly rent cost 8,000 yuan. Half of my son's income is paid rent, which makes us feel very worthless.
Every time we go to Shanghai to visit our son, we will bitterly persuade my son to follow us home, the consumption level in our hometown is low, even if the salary is not as high as Shanghai, but the quality of life is much higher than Shanghai.
My son didn't want to follow us home, he said he liked Shanghai, liked to live alone, didn't want to live with us, and listened to us nagging every day.
My son didn't want to go home, and we didn't recruit him, so we had to visit him in Shanghai frequently. Fortunately, we have retired, and the pension is high enough, even if we go to Shanghai once a month, there is no problem.
In recent years, as my wife and I have gotten older, we have become less and less comfortable with such a busy life. Every time we go to Shanghai, after returning home, we have to slow down for many days before our bodies can slow down.
Seeing our peers become grandparents or grandparents, watching them happily enjoy the happiness of family, my wife and I can't help but envy.
We thought to ourselves, if our son gets married and has children, my wife and I can take our grandson to our side to take care of us, and we will have sustenance in our later life. Having our grandchildren with us can also offset some of our thoughts about our sons.
With this in mind, we began to urge our son to marry. For a long time, we called our son almost every day, urging him to fall in love and get married, so that we could hold our big fat grandson as soon as possible.
We promised our son that as soon as he got married, we would take all our savings and buy him a house in Shanghai. The son especially wants to own a house of his own in Shanghai, but he is a moonshiner and has no strength to buy a house in Shanghai.
Houses in Shanghai are so expensive, without our sponsorship, my son would never have wanted to buy a house there in his life. Although we knew that my son would love to own a house in Shanghai, we never offered to sponsor him to buy a house.
We hope to force our son to go home in this way. We believe that if our son does not have his own house in Shanghai, he will not have a sense of belonging, and since he does not have a sense of belonging, then he will one day return to his hometown and return to us.
However, my son is 36 years old this year, and he has been adrift in Shanghai for more than ten years, and he has no intention of returning home, which makes my wife and I completely die.
Since my son has no intention of returning home, we can only support him, support him to start a family in Shanghai, have a child, and complete his life's work.
However, even such a small wish, my son is not willing to fulfill us. He said that he had never considered marrying a wife and having children, and he was very happy living alone, so why should he marry a wife and have children to burden himself?
My son's "deviance" is far beyond my wife's imagination. Before, we had never talked to our son about marriage, and we thought that when our son reached a certain age, getting married and having children was a natural thing.
Now, when we hear the news from our son's mouth that he does not want to get married in his life, we suddenly feel five thunders. Aren't we working so hard to pass on so many family businesses to pass them on from generation to generation? If there are no descendants to inherit the family business, what is the point of our hard work?
If the son does not want to get married, we will not be able to hold the grandson. If we can't hold our grandchildren, life won't be meaningful. The most critical question is, if the son does not have children, how to solve the problem of his pension?
A few years ago, a lonely old man, with four million sales money, lived in a top nursing home, the facilities in this nursing home are very luxurious, he carefully selected, only decided to die in this nursing home. However, without the care of his relatives, even with a huge amount of money, he did not receive the kind treatment he deserved, and after only more than two months, he died in the nursing home of his choice.
At that time, when my wife and I saw this news report, we couldn't help but sigh. We are glad that we have a son, and we are glad that we have a son to give us pension. But now, when we learned that our son had no intention of getting married in his life, we immediately fell into a bleak cloud.
For the sake of our son's lifelong happiness, my wife and I decided that we must overcome all difficulties and find ways to make a home for our son. When my son has a real home, we can live a good old age steadily.
However, this is easy to say, but it is very difficult to do. If my son lives in a city with us, it is very easy to find a good girl for my son to marry with my wife.
However, nowadays, my son is thousands of miles away, and even if we want to help him introduce a girlfriend, we can't help it. Since external causes cannot be utilized, we can only work hard from internal causes.
In order to persuade my son to fall in love and get married, my wife and I traveled a long way to our son's city, despite our old age and infirmity. In the past, when my wife and I went to Shanghai to visit our son, he would arrange for us to live in his rental house.
But this time, my son picked us up from the airport and took us directly to the hotel. My son said that he knew our intentions and that in order to avoid enduring our nagging about marriage, he had to keep a safe distance from us so as not to disturb his normal life.
We never imagined that we would travel a long way here and our son would put us in the hotel. Although we were unhappy, we did not show it in our faces. The son is an adult and we can't interfere too much. Since our son does not want to live with us, we can only accept the fact.
My wife and I lived in Shanghai for fifteen days. During these fifteen days, whenever we had the opportunity, we would meet our son and persuade him to fall in love and get married.
However, no matter how much we persuaded, my son did not change his original intention. He said that he would never get married in his life, that he liked a free life, that he could not stand the shackles of marriage, and that if we forced him to marry, it would only make him more miserable.
We bitterly told our son that if he did not have offspring of his own, when he was too old to move, no one would care about him, and he would suffer greatly in his old age.
Our words were simply not listened to by the son. He said that life is only a few decades, and he must be worthy of himself and live the way he likes. In this life, people must live in the present. He will definitely not kidnap the first half of his life for the sake of retirement, that is really not worth the loss.
The son said that if we kept pushing him to get married, he would consider leaving Shanghai and going to a city farther away so that we could never find him again.
Hearing my son say this, my wife and I no longer dared to urge him to get married. If our son breaks off contact with us because of this incident, then what strength do we have to live?
Many people say that 99% of the world's problems can be solved with money. However, my wife and I have so much property, but we can't solve the problem of our son getting married.
My wife and I look forward to it every day, looking forward to a miracle, how nice it would be if our son suddenly opened his mind and brought us back a daughter-in-law!