In the endless expired sugar, there is Yi Nengjing's bitter first half of his life

The entertainment industry can't do without Ms. Yi Nengjing, it used to be so, and even more so now, otherwise, how can the bits and pieces of the ancient romance of the last century become the headline material of the entertainment version in 2023?

In the past few days, "Yi Nengjing Yu Chengqing", "Qin Hao and Yu Chengqing fell in love with Yi Nengjing on the same day" and "Qin Hao love brain" have successively become hot search terms. I don't know that I thought that it was a middle-aged and elderly love triangle that broke the silence of life, and when I opened it, I looked at it, but I dug up those old past stories, and then I couldn't finish it.

The three protagonists who add up to more than 160 years old probably did not expect that one day, their emotional old things would be spread on the table for everyone to chew and taste.

But Yi Nengjing should not be too bothered by this, as a veteran artist, she has such a strong desire to express, maybe she is quite happy to see it; Qin Hao is also okay, after all, he has long said to his beloved wife that other people's worlds may have us, but our world does not need others. Don't care！

Yu Chengqing, who has never liked to talk about private matters and thinks that he has already turned over a lot of things, may have a trace of embarrassment, because he is the number one male protagonist in this expired candy, and his mother also plays the negative role of beating Mandarin ducks to a certain extent.

Yes, the reason why this expired candy is good is not because of the high sweetness of the whole process, but more: the plot is specific and tortuous, the protagonist is plump but not perfect, love and pain accompany, right and wrong are difficult to understand, sweet and sadistic, sticky sugar mixed with a lot of thin glass slag.

Loved, but...

In the year of fate, Yi Nengjing was 19 years old and Yu Chengqing was 27 years old.

Young love is simple and sincere. It was early in the morning when she finished work and was ready to go home, and the moment she dragged her tired body off the taxi, she saw Yu Chengqing waving at her at the door.

At that time, they were not really together, and the status of the two was quite different, the woman was just starting out, and the man was already a popular idol, but he was willing to wait silently for a long time, and stepped forward to help her move things without saying a word, and Yi Nengjing next to him was moved to tears by this sudden wordless effort.

Yu Chengqing's carefulness is reflected in the time and place. Yi Nengjing's radio is broken, he will take the initiative to fix it, but he never overdoes it, and he leaves directly after each repair, very gentleman and very restrained.

He didn't like her drinking, but if she drank too much, he was also the one who would be by his side and take care of her. Go back to spit out the garbage can, he takes the left and she spits the right, he takes the right and she spits the left, he said helplessly and lovingly: You are really rebellious.

Yi Nengjing was hospitalized for uterine fibroids and faced the possibility of her uterus being removed. Before the operation, Yu Chengqing promised in front of the hospital bed, whether you can have children or not, I will marry you.

Later, Yi Nengjing was still successfully pregnant with Harry, and Yu Chengqing accompanied him in the delivery room during childbirth, and sang "Love Must Come" to his wife after the doctor's consent. According to Yi Nengjing, Yu Chengqing has since kept disposable hats, masks, and overgowns during childbirth.

The above, with the narrator's rendering, and the melon-eater's self-substitution, may not be a 100% fact, but it is enough to see that this love that eventually parted ways once had too many dense and delicate moments of warmth.

However, warmth and sincerity alone are not enough to support two people to grow old together.

The marriage was married, but that was 14 years after the two fell in love. This is a rare and dangerous time. As we all know, a relationship has not reached marriage for five years, and if it is not for the firm desire of the two not to marry, then it will be difficult to conclude this marriage after that.

If you love each other so much, why did it take so long to get married?

Because the woman is a high marriage, her poor background and "drama" profession determine that she is not the kind of standard daughter-in-law expected by the big family behind Yu Chengqing. Even if Yu Chengqing struggled to support within his own ability, did not empathize with each other, and did not give up halfway, it was still not enough to eliminate the family's stereotypes of disdain and suppression of Yi Nengjing.

If you want to marry, it is not so easy, to test, not afraid of fire is real gold; Can't move? Then let her retreat.

Even marrying doesn't mean peace of mind. It may be a hard request from the parents, after marriage, the little couple did not move out.

Ms. Yi Nengjing, a master of young composition, once described her married life as follows:

"I am in your house, with your family, the TV is constantly turned on at regular times, cartoons are shown to your sister's children at five o'clock, entertainment news at six o'clock is your mother's concern for your work, and at seven o'clock your mother-in-law in her nineties listens to the news will be particularly loud."

A flat and straightforward paragraph, but full of depression and grievances.

Tiptoeing all the way, she didn't get enough attention and care in this home, but she had to face too much ignorance and interruption, no one cared about her who didn't like to watch TV, and no one specifically asked her if she needed to turn her voice down.

Her needs and voices were drowned out by the noise of the television. Or, although people are at home, the noise of the TV is like an invisible barrier, always dividing the inside and outside, you and me, and blocking the extra from the outside.

It is said that marrying a person is marrying an entire family behind him, and this is really true on Yi Nengjing.

What's more, the seemingly flawless Yu Chengqing himself is not a perfect fit for her.

It's not just the family who loves to watch TV, Harlem himself loves to watch it. Married to a literary and artistic young woman who loves to write, but he likes to play music, but he prefers the restlessness of sound. Although the man is considerate and the woman is gentle, in many subtleties of life, they are difficult to get along.

Regarding this point, Yi Nengjing also summed it up in exquisite language: "You don't read my words, you don't watch my performance, you don't care about my glory, you just love me, but you don't care about the exit of my soul." ”

I am absent-minded about your love; About my likes, you turn a deaf ear. That's probably the case.

Meticulous care, countless high-sweet moments, can not fill the gap between two souls, can not share without scruples, can not carry out deepening spiritual communication, even two people who have known each other for a long time, may become more and more strange.

The difference in temperament is, of course, only part of the story. As we all know, Yi Nengjing's native family has brought her a lot of pain and shadows - the debasement of her mother and the lack of her father's love are all together.

She entered the entertainment industry to work at the age of 16, completely forced, in order to pay off debts, to survive, and to escape from the family that could not give her warmth, like a rootless weed, like an outlaw.

Out of society and stardom, she does not seek to achieve any great self, chase any colorful dreams, those are all higher things, what she needs most is a comfort nest and safe haven that can contain her occasional frustration and exhaustion, instead of as if there is always a whip hanging over her head, and there is nowhere to retreat if she does not run forward.

It's cool to go out and work as a teenager, but if you were to push out your teenage children, would you bear it? You should be worried that she can't eat it, right?

At that time, the young Yi Nengjing may not like or adapt, but she just carried it hard. But carrying it down does not mean that the desire of the heart is gone.

In an interview in the early years, she said that when she complained about being lazy at work, Yu Chengqing would ask her not to escape.

"Don't run away." This is exactly like the words of a gifted, successful and unburdened young man (or a Leo who refuses to admit defeat). In Yu Chengqing's cognitive system, life is so beautiful, how powerful he is, and withdrawal and negativity are incomprehensible and even unreasonable.

But Yi Nengjing, who has experienced ups and downs and is full of exhaustion, will have such a thought!

I guess she doesn't really want to lie flat, but only occasionally coquettish, hoping to get a sense of "lying on her back and someone behind her" steadiness and comfort. But such an emotional value, Yu Chengqing just can't give it.

New sugar is the sweetest

Everyone knows the story later, and the 22-year love ended ungracefully with the bloody "holding hands door".

Yi Nengjing's explanation is even more serious for the sadomasochistic index of expired sugar: in fact, it is a real hand-holding, fake cheating. At that time, the two had been separated for a long time, and they were originally walking with their friends, but when they saw a reporter shooting, they held hands and forced Haring to divorce.

In order to free each other, I am willing to recite a lifetime of insults, and there is a sadistic little talk ~~

Anyway, it was holding hands again, and singing a typo was ridiculed by the group, Yi Nengjing in those years was a frequent visitor to negative news, far less proud than today's spring breeze. It is probably in response to the saying "bad feelings can bring you down, but the right partner can bring good luck".

After four years of empty window life, Yi Nengjing met her "Mr. Right".

The more fierce the expired sugar is sucked, the more the "Qin Hao faction" is not to be outdone, it doesn't matter if it is not picked, it is shocked, Qin Hao is actually a love brain.

In the past, some people always said that Yi Nengjing found Qin Hao to hit great luck, but in fact, Qin Hao married Yi Nengjing and got what he wanted.

Yi Nengjing, who debuted as a jade girl, is Qin Hao's childhood idol, and the first cassettes he bought at the age of nine were from Ms. Yi Nengjing, his future wife.

Qin Hao, who returned from his idol many years later, also said: I think the most right thing to do in this life is to choose an actor to be my lifelong career, if I didn't become an actor, I wouldn't marry my childhood idol as a wife, and I couldn't live such a happy life.

Gee, don't demote people because of their late appearance, Mr. Qin is just a belated male protagonist.

Qin Hao also said that what he particularly admires and admires about Yi Nengjing is that she has begun to support her own family since she debuted at the age of 16, which is something she has done and has never done in her life.

Everyone found out no, the other way around!

With Yu Chengqing, Yi Nengjing is a little girl who adores each other. But after meeting Qin Hao, she became the big heroine who was worshipped, and she not only gained a partner, but also a lost brother.

The adoring gaze inevitably illuminates many of the insignificant things she once thought were insignificant, and also dilutes many parts of her self-doubt, allowing her to face the world with more confidence without always having to review whether she has not done enough.

Not only that, this fan brother can also carry things. Yi Nengjing cried aggrievedly about the lack of money and the tension of life in her heart, saying that even if her family spent money on her, she did not dare to enjoy it.

Qin Hao on the side touched his head with distress, and calmly comforted: Believe me, after our family, whether it is me, my mother, Harry, all of us, we will not worry about the word money for the rest of our lives. This is my faith, the faith I give you after we live together.

The contrast is again: in the past, he always blamed you for not being strong enough and only knew how to escape, but now he promises that I can support you for a lifetime, just to exchange your peace of mind and avoid your anxiety.

Compared with the "seniors", Qin Hao always gave the answer of the "opposite", but it also happened to be what Yi Nengjing really needed.

Of course, Qin Hao is also considerate and careful, she said that it is a pity that she has not been proposed, and a straight man who does not understand romance can remember it in his heart to make up for her.

But at the same time, Qin Hao is also an "anti-correctional master".

Yi Nengjing said that when he was with Yu Chengqing, the other party was always the one who apologized,

I guess Yu Chengqing's apology is a "one-size-fits-all" "one-size-fits-all" after seeing his partner lose his temper - "anyway, so you can stop immediately."

Short-lived, but does not solve the underlying problem.

Qin Hao will be angry.

Or a small essay from Ms. Yi Nengjing, she said that when she first started dating, she was always very afraid and insecure about love, and whenever the dark side attacked, she used escape to protect herself, lined up her work, and deliberately separated the two places to avoid hurting herself.

Mr. Qin told her very seriously: No one should pay for your insecurities, you have to bear your own life, and you have to learn to let go of those injuries and let go of yourself. I don't like your problems, I want people who live their lives, not people who torture each other with growth, personality, and distrust. Don't feel pitiful casually, if you sympathize with yourself too much, you will never be strong. You underestimate yourself.

For a person with unfortunate native family, this passage is too powerful and worthy of repeated recitation by everyone who has been complaining that "the original family is a scourge".

People are like this, once they get used to misfortune, they will automatically play the unfortunate person in the world anytime and anywhere, focusing on those negative things, and even interpreting friendliness and luck as negative.

So the care and care of others is not enough, the key is to reverse your own perspective, don't feel that you are the worst, don't feel that God threw all misfortune on your head, God is not so idle, no one deserves such special attention from his old man.

Who the suffering falls on is a probability event, but since it hits you, accept, repair, change, and be born again, this is what a strong life should look like, and you have this ability.

This is called "salvation can only be achieved by self-help".

Once a person's energy is stimulated, he does not need to be carefully cared for by others all the time, because he feels that he is not weak and does not need so much "special treatment".

It is also thanks to Qin Hao's healing that Yi Nengjing, who has always been hypocritical and always self-pitying, can write the following sentence with strength in calm in 2023:

"Heaven and earth are not benevolent" does not mean that heaven and earth are not benevolent, but that heaven and earth regard all things as equal, there is no good or bad, everything develops naturally, no matter what everything is, it is the choice of all things themselves.

Finally, the family behind the spouse is naturally the other way around: the previous in-laws were all kinds of unacceptance, all kinds of disdain, later she was old and married for the second time, the father-in-law was open-minded and open-minded, not only did not obstruct, did not dislike her for giving birth to a daughter, but also treated her as a biological daughter.

Seeing her busy making movies, her father-in-law slapped the table - "Let's stop working, how much money will be lost." ”

Due to the huge amount, the father-in-law's suggestion could not be implemented, but such an attitude must have warmed Yi Nengjing's heart. After the devastation and exclusion of two families, in her forties, she finally chose a perfect family for herself.

Stepping back, there is support; Moving forward, there is momentum; Even Zuo had just the right response; The delicate and vivid small composition no longer means that the family ugliness is public, but can become a strong assist for her husband's film career.

epilogue

So, where is this a simple love story, this is a story about metamorphosis, but also a story about searching, a woman, breaking free from the shackles of the old script, found a more relaxed self and a more open life.

Sugar must be mixed with glass slag, otherwise how to "say goodbye to the wrong and embrace the right"?

Life, this bumpy road of growth, this eternal progress, the song "Spring Mud" she wrote twenty years ago had a long prophecy: "Those painful memories, falling in the spring soil, nourished the earth, and bloomed the next flower season." ”

Stop it, toast to this fluid, surprising life!

Author: Miss Bovary

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