Friends are friendly, I am Miao Baoping, a psychological counselor, and the name of the network is like dust.
Today we continue to read Dr. Yue Xiaodong's book "The Feeling of Ascending to Heaven: I Did Psychological Counseling at Harvard University": "Chapter 2 I have a deep guilt for my sister".
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Since then, Monica and I have met twice, and we have only talked about some specific study tips
title. In this regard, Monica has a high level of understanding and can adjust herself very well. At the end of the day, her learning difficulties are just an illusion, and her guilt towards Caroline is the essence of the problem.
The last time we met, Monica gave me a thank-you card with only one sentence written on it: Thank you for your understand- ing.
Reading her card, I understood that this sentence contained everything Monica wanted to say to me.
I said to Monica, "I don't think I understand you enough."
"At first it was like this," she replied with a smile, "but then you did a very good job." I am especially grateful that you no longer take the initiative to ask me about Harvard to stay in questions, everything is up to me. Most importantly, you know how to inspire me to figure out for myself the root cause of my initial transfer from Harvard. I am especially grateful that your consultation has enabled my sister and me to communicate with each other and share each other's pain
Suffering, too, also achieves a psychological balance together. The time you talk to me about the past is actually helping me make up my mind to do that heart-to-heart conversation with Caroline. ”
"Really?" I didn't believe that my "no strategy" had made Monica determined to stay, so I joked, "Then didn't I become a magician?"
"You really are like this." Monica said with a serious face.
Later, I took the thank-you card to the supervisor and talked about Monica's comment that I had become a magician.
The supervisor laughed after listening to it, and praised me for handling it well afterwards.
I said to him, "In our Chinese culture, there is a lot of emphasis on the balance of yin and yang. I found that in psychological counseling, there is also this phenomenon of yin and yang balance. When you insist on a person to do something, he may not really do it. And when you stop putting pressure on him, he's probably going to do that thing. Therefore, psychological counseling is to promote 'movement' with 'stillness' and 'doing nothing' to bring 'doing'. ”
The supervisor said, "Yes, your observation is very reasonable. In fact, I have read Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching before. Now that I think about it, this mutual transformation of 'doing nothing' and 'doing something' is not just magic!"
Doing psychological counseling is also like playing the magic of yin and yang balance. This summary is so wonderful!
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The success of Dr. Yue Xiaodong's consultation and Monica's relief of guilt made me think of an idiom: bitter and sweet. The interpretation is that the hard days are over and the good days are coming. From the fourth fold of Guan Hanqing's "Butterfly Dream" of the Yuan Dynasty: "I have suffered a prison disaster; now I am bitter and happy." ”
Dr. Yue Xiaodong, because of his understanding from the previous consultation setbacks, adopted the correct consulting ideas to guide the visitors to wake up and suddenly be cheerful. Monica got the forgiveness and support of her sister, came out of the shadow of guilt, it should be said that the tension with her father disappeared and embarked on a new path in life, which was really a happy ending for everyone. Rather than saying, "Doing psychological counseling is also like playing the magic of yin and yang balance." This summary is really wonderful!" Rather, this is another feeling of ascending to the heavens.
This chapter deals with the dialectical relationship between inaction and action, and let's take a look at the philosophy of inaction and doing.
Inaction is an important concept in the Tao Te Ching. Doing nothing and doing something is a pair of categories of Chinese philosophy. Lao Tzu was the first to put forward the proposition of "doing nothing and doing nothing" to illustrate the dialectical relationship between nature and man. He said that "the Tao always does nothing and does nothing", and believes that the Tao, as the essence of the universe, naturally generates all things in heaven and earth, and in terms of its naturalness, it is called "nothing"; in terms of its generation of all things, it is also called "nothing". Lao Tzu's inaction is mainly to dissolve the excessive control and interference of the rulers over the people, to give the people more living space, so that society can restore and maintain harmony and order. From the perspective of psychological counseling, it is to warn the counselor not to use his own views or so-called experience to impose on the client's transformation, when it comes to the point of view, there is no need to teach the client by hand, and not to argue about the client's taboo things and taboo words. Of course, to achieve this, it also needs the psychological counselor's long-term individual case and time cultivation.
In fact, in life, we are the same, in interpersonal communication, do not inquire too much, to interfere in the private life of others, let alone "fall into the well". Sometimes the silence we have is a kind of achievement.
Today's reading content, short and concise, is also delicious to read! The long content of the previous few days also made everyone tired!
October 24, 2021 #Counselor said #