Sister Lang 4 has only aired two episodes, and Xu Huaiyu, who was originally entrusted with becoming the "next Wang Xinling", not only did not copy last year's Wang Xinling's explosive phenomenon, but even became the target of the recent group crusade on the Internet, and the emotional filter was almost broken.
Stage paddling, eyes wandering, singing skills regressing, can't remember movements... While the business ability has obviously declined, the mental state is also poor. When performing on stage, I kept my eyes dodging and couldn't remember the action at all, as if I had lost my soul.
Obviously, she has also been popular, but when she introduced herself, she was cautious, looking left and right, humble like a newcomer who had just debuted.
The female member of the same team asked Xu Huaiyu to take them, and she just hurriedly rummaged through her bag and said, "I sang badly yesterday." ”
In addition to being angry with Xu Huaiyu, everyone is more of a "angry and indisputable" mentality.
Although Sister Lang is not as good as the year, it is still Mango's S+ project, and it is the platform for sisters who fade out of the public eye to show themselves the most. The selection criteria are also very strict, so many sisters who want to come can't come, can you come you still don't cherish it? She prefers to take on commercial performances.
She seems to just treat Sister Lang as an ordinary commercial performance, does not care whether her performance is perfect enough, and does not expect to get anything from this show, and clocks in to work with a "rotten" mentality.
Such a mentality is put in personal work, no one can blame, good or bad are their own responsibility. But it just so happens that Sister Lang is a teamwork work, and your attitude can affect the performance of others, and even decide whether others stay. Yigong eliminated Wang Jiayu on the same team because of Xu Huaiyu's personal performance.
The most unhappy with Xu Huaiyu is the captain Jia Jingwen.
In the interview, she said that she was "not satisfied" with the performance. Although I am trying to maintain my smile, I can't hide the unhappy emotions in my heart.
Although the show cut the connotation of Jia Jingwen's "no time to train" to Xu Huaiyu, some clues can still be seen in the previous trailer.
After being criticized by the dance director, Xu Huaiyu was in tears, and Jia Jingwen helplessly said to everyone, "We can't sing or dance, can we try to be neat." Later, the two even choked each other on Weibo.
No wonder Jia Jingwen is upset.
If Xu Huaiyu's attitude to life is rotten, Jia Jingwen has always been the opposite. She said that she "sings like a duck, incomplete five notes, and can't dance", but for the stage or train hard, online lessons, dance practice, the final performance can not be said to be perfect, but her natural sense of camera and expression management won, a proper girl group façade.
Although the two people had the same tragic experience, the original family was unfortunate and dragged into the abyss by life, and their lives were once derailed. But with the same two bad decks of cards, the two of them played two extremes:
The former is our favorite inspirational story of the big heroine, we must do our best in everything, be decent, have a good posture, and must turn over in adversity, pay attention to a bottoming out; The latter is more like a realistic movie, allowing pain to wear down the will, indulging in the past unsatisfactory, and perhaps on the road to self-reconciliation all his life.
In fact, looking back at Xu Huaiyu's life, it is not surprising that she has become what she is today, because she is easy to make a mess of things. Whether you are not serious in paddling or not confident, these are not the point.
Her biggest problem is that her life has always been in a state of "out of control".
Around 2001 — when Xu Huaiyu was still a popular female star — an old man suddenly approached the media and tearfully accused his granddaughter of filial piety.
This granddaughter is Xu Huaiyu.
At that time, the social environment was still relatively conservative, and in the face of huge public opinion pressure, Xu Huaiyu had to take his mother to a press conference together. We learned that Xu Huaiyu's childhood was so miserable: Grandpa seemed to be a feudal patriarch, treating his children like cattle and horses, and selling his own daughter to the call station. In Xu Huaiyu's house, not only often abused Xu Huaiyu and her mother, but even asked Xu Huaiyu's father to sell drugs and take drugs, forcing his father to commit suicide by jumping off the building.
Looking back now, I still feel sorry for what happened to her at that time. Grandpa liked to drink, he beat her as soon as he got drunk, and he beat her when he ran out of money. Coupled with difficult family conditions, she began working in restaurants at the age of 13 to supplement the family, and grew up in poverty and fear throughout her childhood.
Her debut story also has some "Cinderella" color. With a naturally good voice, he was excavated by producer Weng Xiaoliang when singing on the balcony, and became popular overnight.
It is reported that when Xu Huaiyu was the most popular, the announcement row was full, and there was no time to rest at all; One person feeds half of Rolling Stone Records; Stephen Chow originally asked her to shoot "The King of Comedy", but she didn't have time to find Cecilia Cheung because she was too popular.
She has also filmed in the mainland, and "The Legend of Heaven and Earth: Fish Beauty" is a childhood classic, and it can be said that the childhood filter is quite thick.
But the environment in which she grew up made her sensitive, suspicious, insecure, and difficult to trust others' personalities, and even suffered from depression for a while.
Some staff complained, Xu Huaiyu was suspicious, and always felt that others wanted to cheat her out of money. Eating with her girlfriend was secretly photographed by the paparazzi, she suspected that the paparazzi was called by her girlfriend, and the girlfriend had to stop interacting with her.
This kind of character dooms her acting road to be very bumpy. The sensitivity from her native family makes her unable to handle things well and her relationships with others. Once something goes wrong, it's easy to fall down and everyone pushes it.
Sure enough, after only two or three years, all kinds of negative news came.
was scolded for "playing big names". Agent Yao Fengqun once accused her of "refusing to go on stage because she was not satisfied with a dress"; Mainland television accused her of "several times when she had to revise the script or even disappear before going on stage," so she was banned by several mainland TV stations.
In short, it is difficult, uncooperative, and demanding.
And brokerage companies also fell out. The reason was that the brokerage company arranged for her to accompany her to drink, and she fled back to Taiwan overnight for fear. The company reprimanded her for playing big and hiding her on the grounds of breach of contract. The lawsuit finally ruled that she had to pay 2 million yuan to the brokerage company, and her house and car were also falsely seized, but there was still one and a half years left in the contract.
At that time, Xu Huaiyu, who was desperate, had no money to hire a lawyer, so he had to go to a lawyer company to work as an assistant to learn law on his own to solve contract problems for himself, and his life was once very poor.
The staff had a lot of opinions about her, and the comments of the surrounding colleagues were not very good.
For many years since his debut, Xu Huaiyu has no friends in the circle. When colleagues mention her, their first reaction is also the same: playing big names, stinky faces, and difficult to do.
Wu Peici said that she often said bad things about Xu Huaiyu with Li Xinjie and Chen Qizhen back then, because she always ignored people; Taiwanese actor He Jiawen, who filmed "Fish Beauty" with Xu Huaiyu, broke the news that Xu Huaiyu said that "her friends should be high-level" after becoming popular, which is suspected to mean that she is not worthy of being a friend.
Wu Zongxian's understanding of Xu Huaiyu is the most accurate——
Because she debuted too early and did not believe in human nature. Wu Zongxian once advised her to believe that she could make friends in the entertainment industry, but the other party's answer was: impossible. Therefore, Wu Zongxian believes that the other party should be really traumatic.
Xu Huaiyu has a title called "Comeback Diva", and has been watching her repeatedly come back and disappear for several years. She is not without opportunities, after all, she still has a lot of commercial value, but the anxiety and fear in her bones make her always mess everything up when the opportunity comes.
sued the boss for sexual harassment, but lost the lawsuit and lost 2 million yuan to the boss; When recording competitive programs, the camera phobia stopped recording for a while, and was quickly eliminated; When it is most embarrassing, he can only live by borrowing money from fans; Later, I finally signed a new company and prepared to start again, but suddenly disappeared for no reason because of the problem of entertainment, and was sued by the new owner.
The court ordered Xu Huaiyu to terminate the contract after compensating the company for 400,000 yuan, on the grounds that as a 33-year-old adult, he had the ability to refuse entertainment and should not breach the contract without reason. This termination fee also led to the reason why Xu Huaiyu completely disappeared from the public eye and frequently went to commercial performances to make money.
There are several opportunities in life for people to squander, and when Xu Huaiyu comes back again, there is no place for her in the market.
In fact, it can't be said that Xu Huaiyu did something wrong. She is uncompromising, unwilling to bow to the rules, and we can't blame her, it's the unspoken rules themselves that are wrong.
It's just that as an adult, she doesn't seem to be in control of her life.
Many people can refuse in a smoother and softer way when facing unspoken rules, which can both preserve themselves and achieve their goals; Or find a way to make yourself stronger, have more right to speak, and have the confidence to reject directly; You can even find a lawyer to talk openly and honestly with the company about terminating the contract.
But Xu Huaiyu couldn't do it, she only had fear in her emotions, only ran away in action, did not think about the consequences and solutions, and did not have the ability to bear subsequent risks.
She seems to live forever in fear, and when referring to rumors of company escort, she uses more serious words "feel controlled, personal safety threatened."
This overly fearful, sensitive and suspicious personality is actually very unsuitable for the entertainment industry. But she debuted too early and couldn't do other work, so she had to struggle in the circle all the time. While being afraid of the unspoken rules in the circle, while being restricted by the rules to hit the wall everywhere, the fear is deepened; The lack of material things since childhood made her extremely eager to make money, but she also lacked long-term planning, and it was easier to fall into material difficulties... So for so many years there has been a vicious circle of pain.
All her spirit seemed to have been exhausted at the age of twenty, and now she came out full of exhaustion.
When she came back a few days ago, she said that if she came again, she would not choose to be a singer because it was too hard.
Her face has completely lost the aura and enthusiasm of the girl who sang "I am a girl", and her attitude now is more: singing is to eat mixed food, and she doesn't expect to become popular, it doesn't matter. The repeated comeback made her lose her ability to be an artist, and even lost her confidence in "starting over".
Many people think that her mental state is not good, and the psychological problems are very large, in fact, it is because of the sense of loss of control superimposed by the double buff of the original family and the acquired experience.
In contrast, although Alyssa Jia's life is completely the opposite of her: she is more like the person at the helm.
Jia Jingwen's cards are not much better, the family is in the middle, paying off her father's debts, marrying into a wealthy family but there is no return... The first half was a roller coaster. But she's powerful – no matter how far her life deviates, she has the ability to correct mistakes.
Jia Jingwen has a good family since she was a child, and she does not worry about food and clothing, and she was originally a carefree little princess. Because of her father's work, she followed him to live in Beijing. Many people may not know, in fact, Jia Jingwen was also admitted to Nortel that year, and became a classmate with Xu Jinglei. But in her freshman year, because her father's investment failed, the family went bankrupt, and her father owed a bunch of debts, Jia Jingwen had to drop out of Nortel and return to Taiwan to take on the heavy responsibility of supporting her family.
Jia Jingwen was only 19 years old that year, and what awaited her was huge debt, her father's hospital expenses and the family's livelihood. There is simply no time to complain, you can only plunge headlong into the entertainment industry, filming, advertising, hosting, what can make money and what to do.
There are many examples of paying off debts for their fathers in the entertainment industry, but why do you always feel that Jia Jingwen is more "ruthless" than others? Because she was the one who could make up her mind to unplug her father's oxygen tube.
His father was terminally ill, and on the one hand, he was investing a huge amount of medical expenses, and on the other hand, his father, who was unable to return to heaven. As the person in the family, 20-year-old Jia Jingwen was determined to unplug her father's oxygen tank, leaving her father with the last dignity and decency.
This kind of decision is not everyone dares to make, not only carrying external moral pressure, but more importantly, passing the threshold in their hearts. What's more, at that time, Jia Jingwen was only 20 years old, not only had to assume the responsibility for the survival of the entire family, but also became the person who controlled the fate of the family.
Under such long-term high pressure, Jia Jingwen is extremely eager to have an object to rely on. She desperately needed someone who could help her share all this, so she had that marriage with Sun Zhihao.
The result of her rush to enter this marriage was that her life almost "got out of control".
Sun Zhihao's heart, alcoholism, and domestic violence have repeatedly made gossip headlines, and Jia Jingwen will speak for him at the beginning for the sake of decency. Later, I finally couldn't bear to file for divorce and began the bloody "Girl War".
Sun Zhihao took advantage of Jia Jingwen's care for her sick mother to secretly take her daughter Wutong Mei away. Jia Jingwen failed to find her daughter, so she had no choice but to make the family scandal public, shouting in front of the media to Sun Zhihao to return her daughter to herself.
I think if she hadn't reached the end of the road at that time, she probably wouldn't have chosen this way of breaking the cauldron.
After all, Jia Jingwen is a person who pays attention to decency, she can speak, has high emotional intelligence, and is very good at playing rounds. Yao Fengqun, the agent who discovered Xu Huaiyu, once also brought Jia Jingwen. He once said that Xu Huaiyu was difficult, saying, "I know her way of doing things too well, happy to call godfather, and turn her face when she is not satisfied." But although he and Jia Jingwen also had conflicts, he never said anything bad about Jia Jingwen, and even terminated the contract and the two have always maintained friendly relations.
It is a pity that in this case, no matter how high and decent people with high emotional intelligence are, they have to tear their faces.
The result of this wealthy marriage ended with Jia Jingwen's blood without return-
In order to fight for the custody of her daughter, Jia Jingwen agreed to divide 26 million to Sun Zhihao. And signed a divorce agreement, which stipulates that not only will the two parties jointly raise the child, but Jia Jingwen will also promise that she cannot leave her daughter for more than five days.
At that time, Jia Jingwen was over 35 years old and could not leave her daughter to film, which was almost a death sentence for an actress. Everyone thought that Jia Jingwen was so "ruined" in this life, but she just got up from the quagmire.
not only met Xiu Jiekai, but also started a happy life again; In her career, she also broke through the dilemma of actresses, and "Our Distance from Evil" allowed her to win the Golden Bell Award in one fell swoop.
He can even laugh ⬇️ at his ex-husband
She doesn't seem to have any hurdles she can't get by. Problems and problems are solved, and you will not allow yourself to indulge in the emotions of past failures and focus only on the immediate situation.
Yishu once said: "The most important thing to be a person is to have a good posture", and she is probably the practitioner of this theory. It's okay to lose love, get married, or lose money, but you just won't lose yourself. It is necessary to turn over beautifully in the mud. If no one can pull her out of the abyss, she will be that person herself.
In fact, there are many female stars in the entertainment industry's original families. Li Caihua and Qiu Cera-xuan, one pays off his father's debts, and the other has been patriarchal since childhood; Cai Shaofen's mother gambled and went into debt, and even gave her daughter to a wealthy businessman; Zhang Shaohan also encountered a mother-daughter disagreement, was swept away by his mother's property, and was attacked by a group because of unfilial piety. But in the end, they all managed to change their lives against the sky, hit the bottom and rebounded, and the control of their lives returned to their own hands.
I often wonder if we have seen too much of Jia Jingwen's big heroine narrative, but in reality, it is more Xu Huaiyu, who has neither the ability to turn over against the wind, nor the spiritual qi born of the sun, where he falls, he simply lies down.
Of course, Xu Huaiyu's native family is more complicated than others. She has lived in fear since she was a child, and she has been suspicious for a long time, and it is inevitable that she will have a stress reaction when encountering some things, so it is easy to "escape" or "lose control", which is also understandable. It's just that after so many years, since you have missed so many opportunities because of this character, and even tasted the taste of falling to the bottom, you should know that opportunities are not often, and you should always make a desperate bet and give it a go.
The core idea of the Sister Lang show is to "ride the wind and waves", how women break through themselves, how to break the definition of age and gender, and let the audience see the female power of 30+ sisters "I admire the world and the world is wide, and the flower language is sonorous", and thus can let the sisters gain greater exposure and commercial value.
——This was originally a show suitable for Xu Huaiyu.
Almost every season, when selecting guests, many people mention Xu Huaiyu's name. After all, she has so many classic works, "I am a girl", "Treading Waves" and "Flying Apart" any song is a memory kill, but anyone who can sell feelings like Wang Xinling has many people buy it. Coupled with her tragic experience in the past and years of disappearance, not only perfectly meets the inspirational story that Sister Lang needs, but also comes with a love filter, whether she is a fan or not, she is extremely looking forward to her jumping out of the abyss to get the opportunity for her career to take off again and the redemption of life again.
But since they all came to compete, why didn't they know to cherish this opportunity? She said that she "has the memory of goldfish, is old, and has a bad brain", but she still went to pick up the commercial performance on the way to Sister Lang. Perhaps for her, who has experienced too many ups and downs, she doesn't believe in the cake drawn by others at all, and the things in front of her can be grasped a little.
But she is already in her forties, and Sister Lang may only have such a chance once. Breaking the jar is refreshing, but there is a price. Now the audience's dissatisfaction and backlash is the price, if the childhood filter is broken, it means that she can't sell her feelings in the future.
Xu Huaiyu once told fortunes when she first debuted, and the fortune teller said that her stepping into the star path is the beginning of bad luck and will decline for ten years.
But now ten years have passed, but Xu Huaiyu has not cheered up. ——Perhaps this person, who has never controlled his own life, is now over forty years old and has completely forgotten that his destiny can be in his own hands.
Presumably for sensitive people, indulging in negative emotions may be more secure. By admitting that you are a failure, you don't have to take responsibility for a bad life.
But how can a person who is always dwelling in the pain of the past get the future?