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preface
"Cramming" education, which now has a popular title, is called "chicken dolls".
It refers to the behavior of parents frantically beating chicken blood for their children, arranging various learning activities and specialty training.
These parents often hope that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes.
I hope that children can achieve a class transition by being admitted to a good university, and become "people on people" from now on.
Some people have calculated how much it takes to raise a child, and the result is 1.5 million yuan.
That's not to mention some hidden problems that children may have as they grow up, such as wearing myopia glasses or orthodontics.
In the current society, where the more "chickens" are more "courageous", 1.5 million is the lower limit, but not the upper limit for "chicken baby" parents.
Then, if the "chicken baby" is half a life, the child returns to the bottom of the worker.
Is it acceptable for parents?
If you don't accept it, you have to accept it, because that's basically a foregone conclusion.
The children you invest in millions of "chicken babies" may still be 996 dozen workers with a monthly salary of 5,000 and repaying their mortgages and car loans.
There is no most "chicken", only more "chicken"
The capital is just different, even the "chicken baby" is one step ahead.
Initially, the trend of "chicken babies" was brought up by mothers in Haidian District.
To what extent are Haidian mothers "chicken babies"?
This is a growth plan made by a mother in Beijing for her child.
Good guys, there are a few of these that I may not be able to achieve in my lifetime.
But under this mother's plan, this is just the amount of tasks before the age of ten.
In order to allow their children to enter Ivy League schools as soon as possible, bilingual early education from the age of 2-3 is also on the agenda of mothers.
More parents, not only plan the amount of tasks for their children every year, but also set up a daily schedule.
Even the shower time is well planned.
And the purpose of Haidian mothers has also been achieved, and the children's achievements are indeed very eye-catching.
This speech of cows, chickens, and frogs is not a farmer talking about how developed his livestock breeding is, but an interview transcript of a Haidian mother.
Translated as:
"Old lady, my chicken baby has worked so hard over the years is not in vain, this kid finally has some results in English and Olympiad under my guidance, but some of the genius children in the class are, people have given Cambridge General English one and two at the age of five or six, or self-taught!" Children who read original English books since childhood are different, and I have to increase my horsepower. ”
After reading this paragraph, I am sure you may be stunned.
Unexpectedly, raising a child, there are so many black words.
That's right, in the Haidian mother circle, a new language system has emerged.
Without a comparison table, it's hard to understand what they're talking about.
And the chat content in this conversation is even more shocking.
Five or six-year-olds taking Cambridge exams? Still got a certificate?
Are the children so powerful now?
In fact, the content of the above dialogue is not an exaggeration, the resumes of children in Beijing are so amazing.
According to last year's Beijing Middle School Entrance Examination, the estimated admission score line results showed.
The scores of NPC High School and Tsinghua High School are 656 and 655 respectively.
The full score of the Beijing Middle School Entrance Examination is 660 points.
There are 109,000 candidates in Beijing's 18 districts.
Of the 1,318 students enrolled in these two schools, Haidian District accounted for 810.
And the real resume of the following elementary school student directly stunned many netizens.
It's hard to imagine that this is the life resume of a teenage elementary school student.
Even richer than many adults.
Not only the comprehensive development of language and mathematics disciplines, but also piano, vocal music, swimming, tennis and other artistic and sports aspects have not fallen behind.
I have participated in various national competitions, not to mention, and I have not lost my certificates.
When I saw this picture, I was really shocked.
Others didn't know what TOEFL IELTS was when they were in the sixth grade, and the sixth-grade elementary school students in Beijing were already ready to issue the certificate.
This is not the best, but the normal ecological environment of primary school students in Haidian District.
And a tutor recruitment information for Beijing primary school students also made netizens drop their jaws.
The number of requirements for Beijing children to find a tutor is no less refined than the talent recruitment regulations of large enterprises.
The requirements of the tutor are also comprehensive, not only to accompany homework, but also to exercise and dance together.
Even parents set short-, medium-, and long-term goals for their children, which is like planning the future development of a company.
And children are also very versatile, from programming to robotics omnipotent, sports and painting in many aspects of development, language and mathematics physics and chemistry students have excellent results.
Even such a "hexagonal warrior" can only be second to last in his class.
It is no wonder that netizens ridicule that the vocabulary of 1500 is more than enough for a 4-year-old child in the United States, but it is far from enough in Haidian.
And if you want to "chicken" this effect, Haidian mothers have not bothered to do so.
According to one mother's self-statement, she began preparing for the Ivy plan for her child when she was pregnant.
The couple also called this the "Climbing Vine Project".
The child was still in her belly, and the mother took classical music and English soundtracks as prenatal repertoire.
And in order to enter the excellent kindergarten in Beijing, this mother had to take her child to roll with her.
Because a good kindergarten in Beijing picks not only children, but also parents.
Not only do children have to take written tests in mathematics and English and interviews with the school, but parents also have foreign language skills.
Both adults and children are eligible to enter the kindergarten after passing the interview.
And every member of the family has their own KPIs.
Nannies must not only be able to master nutrition, but also learn Chinese and Western food, and while making good Chinese food, Western food must also be cooked clearly, because this is paving the way for children to live in foreign countries.
The mother, who is a housewife, is saddled with the task of implementing the phased plan.
What class to apply for, what age to apply for, what books to read, what musical instruments to learn, this mother is fully responsible.
And this mother also has to continue to learn during this process, in order to be able to follow the child's learning progress, and guide and educate her.
This mother also studied Chinese and foreign history and the economic and monetary systems of various countries, so that when her children were involved in this discipline, they could carry out education.
Both parents also have to learn social etiquette and educational psychology to create a healthy family ecological environment for their children, and cultivate their children's elegant speech and aristocratic temperament through ears and eyes.
At the dinner table, the family chatted not about interesting things about life and entertainment anecdotes, but about finance, politics, and social humanities.
It can be said that "chicken babies" and "chickens" are not only children, parents are also "self-chicken".
No, "chicken babies" do not survive
After this atmosphere spread from Haidian, Beijing, the center of education, it soon spread to the whole of Beijing.
And Shanghai, Shenzhen and other first- and second-tier cities are also following suit, walking with Beijing.
This "chicken baby" phenomenon has even gone down to third- and fourth-tier cities.
For a time, it can be described as "the whole people out of the chicken".
Chinese parents are a minority, and in the chicken and baby world, parents are also involved in each other.
If your child goes to a bilingual kindergarten, then my child will have to learn another minor language when he goes home, and he must reach the level of normal communication before primary school.
Your child has been dancing since elementary school, then my child must master the flute, lute, and art and sports will not let you compete.
And the parents' "chicken for all" also exposes the anxiety of Chinese-style parents.
Parents cannot accept that children are born ordinary people and will be ordinary people in the future.
There is a saying that is cruel, but also very realistic, there is a bird that fails to achieve its ideals, so he lays an egg and lets the bird help him fly.
Most of today's Chinese parents are not satisfied with their current state of life, and they always feel that they can live much better than they are now.
Parents who fear that their children will repeat the same mistakes are in a state of anxiety.
Chicken dolls seem to be an effective way to relieve anxiety.
Let yourself and keep your children busy, and you seem to see the hope of life.
However, the "chicken" of first- and second-tier cities such as Beijing and the "chicken" of third- and fourth-tier or even small counties are completely two concepts.
Haidian mothers can be full-time wives, plan a good life path for their children, and only need their husbands to work outside the home to afford a nanny, they are themselves middle-class families.
They don't need a class transition, because they themselves are at a higher level in the social pyramid.
Haidian mothers "chicken baby" is which country the "chicken" child finally goes to live in, which top 500 enterprises to become executives.
Social class
However, small town mothers are also brainwashed by this chicken baby anxiety.
The family itself depends on two people to earn money, and the economy is still a problem that needs to be considered, so I sign up for various training courses for my children.
Often in the end up spending all the money on the child, can not save a month.
Unlike Haidian mothers who have studied educational psychology, small town mothers often release this pressure and anxiety on their children again.
Many "small-town problem makers" live under the pressure of chicken babies, which has also led to problems in the hearts of many children.
The depression rate among mainland teenagers has reached the highest in the world, with a staggering 24.6%.
And even if a happy childhood is missing, these children may not be able to have a happy adulthood.
Let's not talk about the problem of depression, there is no end to chicken dolls.
When small-town parents "chicken" their children to a similar university, their children may not have a bright future.
In the current employment environment, high-quality students who come out to deliver food are also everywhere.
It is too difficult for young people to find work.
This is not the time twenty years ago, when learning could change destiny.
It's not that learning is useless, but the usefulness of learning is too limited.
And not every child is suitable for learning, some children are just gifted in technology, but it is difficult to learn.
But under the chicken dolls of parents, they have no choice but to push the children into their own inner rolls, and roll up others' infinite inner rolls.
A generation has a desperate situation for a generation.
Although the material life of the post-00s and post-10s has improved, they are facing a more demanding environment of the times.
Small-town young people who have been held up by their parents to go to college since they were young are likely to end up ordinary.
Geniuses are a minority after all, and ordinary is the destination.
Children who have been depressed since childhood still have no hope out of society.
And when they wanted to fly, they found that their wings had long been clipped.
Recently, a post-95 girl named Wang Appetite wrote a history of her blood and tears by chicken babies.
And she is also the first generation of chicken dolls in Beijing.
Whether it is school district housing, bilingual schools, foreign exchange students or Antarctic tourism, she has experienced the chicken and baby means of parents.
However, after graduating from college, she still worked as a freelancer, in her own words, unemployed.
And her friends around her are facing a similar situation to her.
The parents have been children for more than 20 years, and the children still have no opportunity to expand the territory, but they still continue to cultivate the original acre and three points of land, without any substantial changes.
Although his ability is stronger than his parents, he still has no surpass in wealth.
The chicken babies have gone to many countries, know a lot of knowledge, are proficient in eighteen martial arts, can do everything up and down the sea, but in the end they can only be sweeping monks at the gate of the temple, spending the rest of their lives, and everything in the past is a floating cloud.
The group portraits of Beijing chicken dolls are still like this, so what about the small town chicken dolls, I am afraid it will only be more sad.
epilogue
Not only can chicken babies not relieve their own anxiety, but will only extend this anxiety to two generations.
In the current social environment, class has long been solidified, and ordinary people simply cannot reach the stepping stone of the upper class.
Education is also not for results, but for the personal development of children.
Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, and a generation has a generation to go.
Parents might as well just let it go, it's not realistic to change their lives against the sky.
The three stages that people need to accept in their lives are: accepting the mediocrity of their parents, accepting their own mediocrity, and accepting the mediocrity of their children.
A happy family is a blessing.