Caring for children every day will only manage a waste, and managing yourself is king.
Tsinghua Xiaoqing teacher, Tsinghua master of psychology, national second-level psychological counselor.
Parents who manage their children every day will only raise a waste. Letting children manage themselves is king. I have been in charge of myself since I was a child, and I decide whether to watch TV first or write homework when I go home, when I go to bed and when I get up, and how to arrange winter vacation. So I have always been very independent and went all the way to Tsinghua.
My daughter is now her age, and I have never packed her bag, checked her homework, and attended the hobby class on her own terms. She signed up for many classes, and I can never remember which class and what time it was on a given day. I took her to Furniture City after school the other day to help me choose a new bed. When it was almost 6 o'clock, she started urging me, and I said I'll take another look, I haven't decided yet. She said I was dying, I had calligraphy class at 6 o'clock, and I said it was too late. My daughter quickly helped me make a decision, destroying my home along the way.
If you also want to raise an independent child to manage yourself, I will share it with you. The following 4 steps, as long as you listen and do, your child will no longer need you to worry.
First, cultivate children's emotional management skills. You have to know that children are often in mood swings, and it is difficult to control themselves when they cry and make a fuss. Therefore, only when the mood is stable can the child's self-discipline ability be further cultivated. I am the ceiling to improve children's emotional management ability, and I welcome you to learn every day in my live broadcast room.
Second, let children learn to make plans. You can guide your child to make a list of tasks to complete each day, week, or month, and let your child schedule his or her own time and progress. In this way, children will realize the importance of tasks, and also improve time management and planning skills.
Third, give the child some autonomy. You have to know that there is no initiative without a sense of autonomy, let the child decide what tasks to do, how to do it and complete the time, so that the child will have more enthusiasm and responsibility, and can better exercise the child's self-management ability.
Finally, give the child appropriate rewards and encouragement. When the child can complete the task on time, you can give some small rewards or praise, so that the child will feel affirmed and encouraged and can learn and grow more happily. When children are able to manage themselves, you will find that life has really become too easy, and you no longer need to spend a lot of time and energy to urge children.
And when children's self-discipline and sense of responsibility are cultivated, their performance in learning and life will definitely be better, their grades will be improved, and their self-confidence will increase.
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