Only what you can't think of, nothing she can't do.
A deafblind man who became the first deafblind person at Harvard Law School and eventually became a lawyer, writer, and speaker. He was awarded the title of "White House Change Leader" by Obama and received the "Helen Keller Achievement Award".
What kind of woman is she who can actually change her life?
If you see the title of the book, I Am My Light, you know how she lived herself as a ray of light.
One. You are the master of your life
If you lose the key to open the door, try the window, try the side door, there will always be a way.
Harben wanted to leave his parents and go out of town to participate in a project to build a school, which made his already uneasy parents decisively refuse.
Her parents' fears locked her like chains. But Harben did not roar, resist, nor self-denial, frustration,
She told herself:
"My life belongs to me and I will not succumb to the feeling of being bound."
It was this belief that drove Harbon to think only about how to convince her parents.
She explained to her parents from different angles that she could take care of herself. He also invited his teacher, Abby, and with Abby's help, his parents began to believe that Harben was safe and could be taken care of.
Although this is not a simple matter, Harben believes that this choice will free her from her parents' doting and make her dare to face her fears.
Harburn always knew what she really wanted, and she knew that she had to fight for it all on her own.
When parents asked Harben:
"Are you sure you want to do this?"
"Yes, I'm pretty sure."
That's right, when you're steadfast and steadfast, nothing can stop you.
Two. The only thing that can define your life is yourself
No one can define your life, you are your own hope and light.
One such story is told in this book.
A blind beggar asks a rich man for a dollar, but the other party refuses. But the beggar did not give up, and in desperation, the rich man gave him a dollar.
But the beggar thought that this rich man must have more money, so he told the other party the story of his blindness in a factory explosion, hoping to win the sympathy of the other party with the tragic experience. However, the rich man said he was also at the scene of the explosion.
The frustrated beggar began to look anxiously, saying that he was now blind and had to live a life of begging. But the other party said that he couldn't see either.
What a sad thing it is that those blind people have become beggars! But also with a hateful taste, they blame the helplessness and misery of life on physical defects, not on themselves.
But for Haben, blindness is nothing more than a lack of vision. Without vision, you can find other tools instead.
Where there's a will there's a way.
When Haben was going to school in Mali, she didn't want to limit her life because she was deaf and blind, let alone live her life under the protection of her parents.
In order to be self-reliant, she spent one summer completing an intensive training program for the blind.
Harben's story also tells us that no one can give you the life you want but yourself.
3. The world kisses me bitterly, and I still want to return with a smile
The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, and must be felt with the heart.
She thought she would get a great job during the summer of her sophomore year, but finally heard the phrase, "We really shouldn't hire you." "It's a cruel criticism of her, but also an insult and denial of her.
She was willing to do anything to find a job, but was eventually rejected. She may well be a loser who will never find a job.
At this moment, she fell into grief and began to doubt herself, how tragic it was that studying hard, learning to live independently, and excellent college grades could not change the real society's perception of disabled people!
Later, with the help of a friend, Harbon got a part-time job at the gym, which she did very well.
One day a guest is in trouble, Harbon walks to the machine and tries to press the button, but the machine does not respond. Then she fumbled from top to bottom with both hands, found a switch at the bottom of the machine, and after turning it back on, the machine returned to normal.
This experience gave Habon renewed hope and strengthened his determination that even people with disabilities can contribute in any way.
Even if there is no vision, there is still a sense of touch. At least Harben still has a heart that loves life, and it will always be indestructible.
Therefore, do not complain when encountering difficulties, and do not give up. It is to live with your heart, do everything in the moment, and believe that a good life will give back to you with a better and healing gift.
At last:
We always put random sticky notes on our lives and lock ourselves in a cage with our own hands. But Harben bravely broke all this, overcame all difficulties, to do what she wanted to do, she wanted to control her life,
Life and life are yours, even if the people around you do not give you a chance to live, but you have to give yourself this opportunity and be responsible for your life.
Because only you can sustain your life.