Text | Rice grain mother
Have the sisters watched the recently popular TV series "Long Season"?
Strong Amway, it's so good-looking!
Regardless of the protagonist and supporting role, all of them have online acting skills, and several old drama bones who pick big beams are even more crazy acting, bringing the little people of that era to life.
And there is no trace of performance, giving people the feeling that they have returned to that era, and it is so daily to push the door and walk into a house.
I originally thought it was a thrilling suspense drama, but I didn't expect it to be a comedy full of life, and the laughter in the first half was many and dense, and I often laughed until I beat the bed.
But as the plot progresses, this drama slowly reveals a sad undertone. Perhaps the origin of all tragedies began on the day Silent was adopted.
▲ "Long Season Stills"
Watching the drama is heart-wrenching enough, but I didn't expect that the plot in the play happened so nakedly in reality, and this matter on the hot search directly broke my defense.
A beauty blogger with millions of followers posted a long Weibo, accusing him of being molested many times by his stepfather when he was a child, and even almost sexually assaulted.
When her mother found out, she not only did not help her as the master, but threatened her daughter not to call the police.
Her collapse and helplessness can be felt between the lines of the long blog post.
Before this, she has always been cheerful, outgoing and lively image, people who have watched the video will think that she is very optimistic and healing, no one could have imagined that such a confident and happy girl had such a tragic childhood.
Her nightmare began when her stepfather moved into the house in the third grade.
The stepfather would violate her when there was no one at home, would take off her clothes while she was asleep to take pictures, and pretend to play games with her, tying the young her to a chair and taking the opportunity to get her hands on and off.
Mother Migrain was so angry that her hands trembled even repeating it, and she endured these unscrupulous molestations for more than three years.
Bloggers have also bravely resisted.
She struggled desperately to break free of her stepfather and ran out the door to ask her mother for help.
And her mother, after knowing what happened to her daughter, only responded faintly: "It's just a joke." ”
The blogger made a lot of trouble, and her mother would punish her even harder.
She said: "As long as I fight and resist, my mother will beat me. She would slap me, she would whip me with bamboo sticks, she would grab my hair and bang my head against the wall. ”
He also threatened her not to call the police, saying that if her stepfather divorced herself because of her resistance, he would "kill me and make me peel my skin." ”
It's hard to imagine how a biological mother reacts to her young daughter after she is assaulted.
Changed to any parent with a daughter, I am afraid that they will hate it to go crazy.
And this mother not only did not fight to the death to maintain, but added fists and feet to her daughter, and sacrificed her daughter to animals for her so-called "happiness".
After such a bad childhood, this kind girl still thrives, she works hard to earn money and then moves out to live alone, does not dwell on the past, concentrates on healing herself, and even tries to reconcile with her mother.
She gave her mother tens of thousands of yuan a month in living expenses, and also took her to travel to Europe, even her mother secretly transferred 100,000 yuan when she was in a hurry to use the money, as a daughter, she has done her best.
The only requirement was to stop seeing the animal-like stepfather.
In order to get a little so-called "maternal love and affection", she took out her heart and lungs to be good to her mother, but I didn't expect that her understanding and filial piety were exchanged for her mother's sense of boundary.
Last time, the game blogger Super Xiaoji who wrote by Mi Grain's mother also experienced this kind of thing that was pitted by his own mother, and the article poked this "The world record of well-known anchors was cleared to zero, but this time what I want to complain about most is not the bear child".
The girl's mother is the same, she does not care about the nightmares and pains of the girl's childhood, and does not care about her bottom line and dignity, and directly takes her stepfather to swagger into the girl's house to move things.
The reappearance of the stepfather made the dusty memories in the girl's mind surge again, like a person who fell into the water and struggled in the water, finally having a chance to breathe, but was flooded again by a large wave head-on.
Suffocation, desperate suffocation.
Presumably, after a fierce struggle, she finally made up her mind, chose jade and stone, and decided to break with her mother and stepfather, which is really brave!
She called the police, released a video, confessed her pain in front of the public, said goodbye to her past self with this gesture, and told all women: "If you are being violated, even if someone threatens you, you must do everything you can to call the police, and you must call the police now." ”
Data show that more than 70% of sexual assault occurs between acquaintances, and on minors, this proportion is as high as 88%!
Like the girls mentioned above, in some reorganized families, children who are forced to spend time with their stepfathers have a hard time escaping this abuse once they encounter misfortune, sometimes for years, resulting in psychological and physical suffering.
There is a concept in psychology called the "Cinderella effect," and one of its interpretations refers to the rate at which stepsons are beaten, sexually abused, neglected, murdered, and otherwise abused by their stepparents, significantly higher than those raised by their biological parents.
Canadian psychologists Marg Wilson and Martin Daly have found that children living with stepparents are 40 to 100 times more likely to be murdered or seriously injured than children living with their biological parents, with stepfathers being more serious.
The most annoying thing is that this is not an isolated case, and this happens in every country.
Remember the rice grain mother wrote about the GUCCI family that gave birth to their family's luxury brand?
The founder's great-granddaughter Alexandra revealed that her stepfather began to sexually assault and abuse her at the age of 6, and this assault, with the tacit consent of her mother and grandmother, lasted for 16 years.
When she was a child, when she woke up from nightmares, she would run to her mother's bed to sleep, but when she woke up the next day, she found her stepfather touching her body.
When she and her sister were bathing, her stepfather would suddenly break in and take pictures of the sisters.
Alexandra said that every time she heard ice clanging in her stepfather's wine glass, she knew abuse was coming as he would "stumble down the hallway" and into her bedroom.
When her mother found out, she not only did not stop her stepfather, but also beat her in anger.
▲Alexandra (left) with mother (top right) and stepfather (bottom right)
Several times, her mother almost strangled her, at which time the stepfather would play the role of "savior", using the excuse of preventing her mother from committing violence, taking the opportunity to attack her, and even after stopping her mother, he would continue to violate her...
At the age of 16, Alexandra's grandmother noticed the abnormality and asked if she had been molested by her stepfather.
Alexandra tearfully told her grandmother all about her experience, thinking that her grandmother would seek justice for herself, but unexpectedly, her grandmother asked her to "keep it secret and not tell anyone" for the sake of the so-called "family reputation".
Mother Migrain laughed angrily when she wrote this, obviously Gucci has been torn to the point of ruined by Alexandra's fathers, and the pot has to be carried by a young daughter who has been humiliated?
▲Gucci family
Outrageous to home.
Fortunately, Alexandra finally had the ability to escape the clutches of the devil, but the shadow of all these years has been haunting her, and when she gave birth to her daughter, she was eager to do something for the girls.
After a long time and insufficient evidence, she still chose to tear open her scars and took her stepfather, mother and grandmother to court.
It's not that it doesn't hurt, it's just that she wants to draw attention to child sexual abuse because "it's not just something that happens in other families, other communities, or other countries." It's everywhere. ”
In such incidents, behind every injured girl stands an inactive mother.
Whether they are weak or in love, they are afraid of facing the storms of life alone, afraid of losing the concealment of men, so they are silent and indulgent.
Even some mothers are afraid that their daughters will "break their reputation" and do everything possible to help cover up the crimes of scumbags.
But as everyone knows, their repeated concessions have been exchanged for more harm to their daughters.
What they do is not worthy of being a mother.
As everyone says, she is an accomplice and an accomplice, and should also be punished by law.
And like this beauty blogger and Alexandra, who can stand up without hesitation and give strength to more girls who have been violated, Mother Migrain feels sorry for their "coming people" and sincerely admires their bravery!
Just like the girls who were harassed by a well-known screenwriter Shi Mouhang a few days ago, they are no longer silent, but twisted into a rope and gathered into an umbrella to jointly resist the storm of public opinion and protect more girls from infringement.
As suggested by several parties, if you are unfortunately violated, whether threatened or not, do not be afraid, be sure to call the police as soon as possible, fix evidence in time, and avoid more infringement.
The victim is not guilty, does not have to be "perfect", and should not be stigmatized.
The nightmarish encounter is not the victim's fault, let alone what they wear, where they walk, or what time they come home.
Do not be afraid of the aggressor, they should be punished by law and morally judged!
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