What's wrong with society now? The child can't manage, can only get used to it, the child can't scold, can only coax, the child can't beat, can only offer, really can't control it, he persuaded his current children to do this. I also often reflect on whether I have done a good job, do not use the identity of parents to suppress children, but be friends with children and carry out appreciation education. Regard yourself as a "sinful person" and interpret "my three provinces and my body" to the fullest!
Some parents say: "Children don't have to care, it's all based on a sense of virtue." There is also a certain truth, the key is whether the parents' virtues are enough? How children can be aligned with their parents.
First of all, where are the virtues of parents? Let's start with who has the most status in a family? Not the elders, not the parents, but the little emperors and princesses of the family. Whether it is food and clothing, or temper, it is the first in the family. Others are very consciously backward, willingly giving up their status, offering like ancestors, for fear that a single seedling who accidentally offends the family, the measures taken are to be able to coax and respond. I am afraid that one will not be satisfied and let the child be wronged.
Secondly, the child is also quite cooperative, the family status is absolutely dead, there is no intention to give way, I care who you are, who you love, and do not give others room to speak. What is right and wrong, black and white, good and evil, cover your ears, and come to a "don't listen, don't listen, Wang Ba chanting"! The patriarchal ruthlessness, gritted his teeth, stomped his foot, raised his hand to slap him, saw that the child's contemptuous eyes seemed to show a "you hit", to experience this silent challenge and ridicule words. It doesn't matter how many meanings you mean, whether you are pure to scare people, or really want to exercise the rights of parents, the child simply disdains and lets you go crazy. Helpless, you can only slowly put down your raised hand and grit your teeth in silence: "Don't be angry, don't be angry, biological, biological"!
It's good to be angry with you, I'm afraid that people don't even want to leave you the opportunity to "anger you", and I can't move to run away from home, say that I'm depressed, suffocated, I can't feel the love from the family, throw away my school bag, carry my bag, take a trip that I can go, the world is so big, I want to go out and see.
Just such a child, what did he think? Completely ignoring the feelings of his parents, ignoring the darkness of society, not understanding the sinister of people's hearts, thinking that the family is the cage that binds him and destroys him, what he wants to do is to escape, escape from the family, escape from school, escape from all those who really love him, nothing more than wanting to completely release himself, how to be happy. It's just that the outside world is very exciting, but I don't know that the outside world is also helpless. Who will be accustomed to ignorant people, who are not well educated at home, society will educate you for you, a big slap in the face, ensure that the ears are buzzing, and the eyes are straight to Venus, absolutely so that you cannot find your way home. Who raised such a bear child, this is the so-called appreciation education, who should bear the consequences of appreciation education?
Pet children are called pets, and older children can become characters. Children are not blindly and have no bottom line to pet and coax. Don't let him suffer a little setback, don't let him suffer a little grievance, desperately want to create good conditions for him, create a happy atmosphere for him, is he really happy?
Since childhood, he just knows to take, then he will ask for it all his life, and will only become a member of the old clan, when you are still young, it is called nibbling blue; When you are old, it is called gnawing old. There is a long way to go, how to educate is the top priority, to recognize the reality, it is necessary to re-plan the plan.
In this world, only loved ones will really want to make you happy, others want to make you happy just talk, don't be so naïve to believe, few people really want to make you happy, although not completely, but the vast majority of people are like this. I prefer to see a fire in other people's backyards, and other people's children are not as good as their own children, this is naked human nature. Do you believe it or not? Faith means that you have experienced and witnessed. If you don't believe it, it means that you haven't seen it through, and you are hilarious like a leaf. If you really want the child to be able to "become an adult" and "become a talent" in the future, we must let him learn to shed tears and learn to sweat, so that he can not be afraid of setbacks and difficulties, know how to be grateful, learn to be content, and be able to give and dedicate.
Have you seen this phenomenon? Still haven't seen it? Or is it on the way to see?