On March 11, 2023, Nicholas Tse and Faye Wong held hands at the airport and took photos.
In the photo, the two generously hold hands and walk at the same pace, just as sweet as the hand-holding photos exposed 23 years ago.
The relationship between Nicholas Tse and Faye Wong is really a twist and turn: in 2000, the relationship was first announced in a high-profile manner, and then they were separated twice in the next 3 years, and then they got married and had children, and they have been strangers ever since.
I thought that this was the end of Feng Fei's love: young missed, each of them is fine.
No one expected that this relationship would lead to a turnaround in 2014.
That year, Nicholas Tse and Faye Wong, who had resumed their singleness one after another, got back together in a high-profile manner and picked up the love they missed when they were young.
Everyone sighed at the sweet love between the two, but also some doubts: Why after so many years, Nicholas Tse still has a love for Faye Wong?
In terms of youth and beauty, Faye Wong is 11 years older than Nicholas Tse, and has reached the age of knowing the destiny of heaven, Nicholas Tse can find a younger and more beautiful one; In terms of wealth status, although Faye Wong is very good, Nicholas Tse is not inferior.
Nicholas Tse figured Faye Wong, what? When I really entered Nicholas Tse's life, I found that he would fall in love with Faye Wong, which was destined as early as childhood.
1. The strength of his mother in his childhood life laid the groundwork for Nicholas Tse's preference for choosing a mate
Speaking of Nicholas Tse's childhood, we have to mention his mother Debra.
Deborah was abandoned by her parents when she was born, and although she was adopted, her adoptive parents preferred sons to daughters.
Such a beginning in life was undoubtedly signed, but Deborah did not fall for himself. With her own efforts, she abruptly played a bad hand into a king bomb:
At the age of 22, he won the Miss Asia election, turned to the film and television industry to become an actor, and after gaining a foothold in the entertainment industry step by step, he married the popular star Xie Xian in a beautiful way, giving birth to a pair of children of Nicholas Tse and Xie Tingting.
From Debra's life trajectory, it can be seen that she has a strong sense of purpose and control over life. Such a character is destined to become the backbone of the entire family after marriage. Reflected in the education of her children, she became a strict mother.
Nicholas Tse was naughty as a child. Every time he made trouble, Debra would punish him with a ruler, and a dozen was more than 200 times, until Nicholas Tse bowed his head and admitted his mistake.
Once, Debra was so angry that he directly threw Nicholas Tse, who was beaten and injured, out of the house and let him stand naked outside the door.
As a mother, Debra, who was too tough and decisive, was clearly not perfect. But this kind of toughness and decisiveness allowed Deborah to hold up the sky at the most dangerous moment for the Xie family.
In 1985, Xie Xian was addicted to gambling and owed a huge gambling amount of 16 million yuan in the gambling king Stanley Ho's field.
The Xie family's life suddenly fell from heaven to hell. When Xie Xian was in a big mess, Deborah stood up.
She changed into a dance costume and dressed up elaborately, late at night. Went to Stanley Ho's home alone, and with the friendship of dancing with the gambling king back then, in exchange for a little grace opportunity, the Xie family successfully escaped.
Not only is he strong and courageous in dealing with people in the world, but also Deborah has always been decisive and never procrastinating.
At the beginning, when she and Xie Xian fell in love, countless friends advised her: "Xie Xian is a prodigal son in love, and he will never be a good husband." I heard that he is infertile, and you will not end well if you marry him. ”
Debra didn't care, and said publicly: "Whether Xie Xian is fertile or not, I know best." Not only will I marry him, but I will also give him a big fat boy. ”
In this way, Deborah withstood criticism and married Xie Xian in a beautiful way, and gave birth to Nicholas Tse and Xie Tingting to break the rumors.
It is a pity that this marriage, which withstood criticism and survived the storm, eventually lost to the triviality of life.
Deborah has a strong personality and has to manage everything, while Xie Xian is free-spirited by nature, playful and disobedient. The conflict between the two intensified, and in the last years of their marriage, they almost quarreled when they met.
Later, Deborah fell in love with the pilot Jiang Yaocheng, and she did not hide it, but directly pointed out to Xie Xian: "I like someone else." ”
Xie Xian was also neat, and replied cheerfully: "Since this is the case, let's separate." ”
So, the two rushed to the Civil Affairs Bureau and divorced three times and five by two.
On the day they received the divorce certificate, they stood at the gate of the Civil Affairs Bureau and hugged each other, wishing each other good people.
After the divorce, Deborah married Jiang Yaocheng, lived happily, and has always maintained friends with Xie Xian.
After Xie Xian broke up with her little girlfriend, in order not to let this ex-husband in her 80s be lonely, she often took her husband and ex-husband out on the street together, and was laughed at by the Hong Kong media as "three in-laws".
There is a saying in psychology that the role played by parents in the growth of children will directly affect the choice of children's future partner types.
This is because adults in intimate relationships will always subconsciously look for and love the "ideal parents" when they are young.
In other words, when looking for a significant other, the woman will instinctively "find the father" in love, and the man instinctively "find the mother" in love.
Deborah was a man with a high sense of self. In dealing with others, she is tough and decisive, and emotionally, she is free, loves together, separates if she does not love, and always maintains a strong self and self-esteem.
Under Debra's influence, Nicholas Tse undoubtedly grew into an "admirer" and "dependent". He admired Deborah's strength, free-spiritedness, and self-confidence, and had always relied heavily on his mother, which laid the groundwork for his emotional choices.
2. All three relationships fail, and the relationship under the halo effect is difficult to last
As an "admirer" and "dependent" in his relationship, Nicholas Tse always tends to be older than himself in love.
Nicholas Tse's first love was Dai Xinwei, the daughter of Hong Kong music godfather Dai Sicong.
Dai Xinwei is 4 years older than Nicholas Tse, and Nicholas Tse appreciates Dai Xinwei's free personality, and the two soon start a sibling relationship.
But the young first love is difficult to last, and after bidding farewell to Dai Xinwei, Nicholas Tse met Zhao Xueer, who was 8 years older than him.
When the two met, Nicholas Tse had just debuted.
Nicholas Tse, who was born in the second generation of stars, did not enjoy the dividends of his father Xie Xian, but was strongly resisted by the audience.
Every time Nicholas Tse takes the stage to perform, the fans in the audience will collectively applaud: "Go down!" Let's not listen to the second generation of stars singing, Nicholas Tse get out of the stage! ”
The most egregious time, Nicholas Tse sang on stage, and the audience directly smashed the glow stick on his head in protest.
During that time, the voice of doubt overwhelmed Nicholas Tse, and when he needed spiritual comfort the most, the mature and charming Zhao Xue came into his field of vision.
Zhao Xueer, like Debra, came from a poor background, and both of them had similar vigor and hard work.
As a sister in the music industry at that time, Zhao Xueer gave Nicholas Tse a lot of advice, and cared for the much-criticized Nicholas Tse like a big sister.
Perhaps seeing Deborah's shadow in Zhao Xueer, Nicholas Tse soon began to pursue Zhao Xueer and opened a second sibling love.
During the four years of their love, Nicholas Tse's career turned around: first the music album released won the Taiwan record chart, and then he was invited to sing on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala.
When the career was booming, there were inevitably cracks in this relationship.
At that time, Zhao Xueer was in a downturn in her popularity, and she hoped to settle down as she grew older, and hoped that her boyfriend could spend more time with her.
But Nicholas Tse is at the peak of his career and can't take care of his girlfriend at all, and this relationship has finally come to an end.
After that, Nicholas Tse met two women successively, known as Faye Wong and Cecilia Cheung.
In 1999, at a banquet held by Anita Mui, Nicholas Tse met Faye Wong, who was 11 years older than himself. In the same year, on the set of the animated film "Old Master" produced by Tsui Hark, Nicholas Tse met Cecilia Cheung, who was 3 months older than himself.
At this point, the fates of the three people are entangled.
At that time, Nicholas Tse always declared to the outside world: Faye Wong is a goddess and true love; And with Cecilia Cheung, it's just brother and sister love.
But strangely, after three points and three points with Faye Wong, Nicholas Tse finally married Cecilia Cheung.
Years later, in an interview, the host asked Nicholas Tse why he married Cecilia Cheung, and he joked:
"I liked Wing Chun very much, and once I said to her, if you can pass my 3rd level, I will marry, and she immediately put down her backpack and fought me."
Although it is a joke, it is enough to see that Nicholas Tse does not love Cecilia Cheung so much.
At that time, Cecilia Cheung became popular with many movies such as "Star Wish" and "The King of Comedy", and her career was in the take-off period, but she was willing to be a small follower behind Nicholas Tse, handing him towels and water during filming.
After the "Top Baomen" incident in 2003, Nicholas Tse and Faye Wong broke up completely, and also announced their temporary retirement from the entertainment industry. Career and feelings are disappointed, only Cecilia Cheung has always been by Nicholas Tse's side. Nicholas Tse, who was at a low point, regarded Cecilia Cheung as a lifesaver and once sighed:
"At that time, I felt that when I died, if anyone would still be by my side, I think it would be Baizhi."
In this marriage, Cecilia Cheung loves Nicholas Tse, and Nicholas Tse is more moved and needed by Cecilia Cheung.
After the two got married, Cecilia Cheung directly withdrew from the circle, focused on the family, and wholeheartedly became Nicholas Tse's wife.
After experiencing so many things, Nicholas Tse also slowly became mature and became a model husband after marriage.
In 2008, Cecilia Cheung's photo scandal occurred.
When everyone criticized her, Nicholas Tse firmly stood on his wife's side and said to her: "Don't be afraid, there is a husband!" ”
Nicholas Tse's approach moved countless people, and when everyone thought that the two would grow old at this point, the two divorced, and the reason for breaking up was "incompatible personalities".
Looking back at Nicholas Tse's several romances, it is not difficult to find that Nicholas Tse is not so much looking for his girlfriend, but that he has been "looking for his mother".
Dai Xinwei's personality and free-spiritedness, Zhao Xueer's maturity and daring to fight, and Cecilia Cheung's willingness to give, these characteristics are all Deborah's qualities.
All three of them have Deborah's shadow on them, so Nicholas Tse will fall in love with them without hesitation.
However, Cheng Ye Xiao Xiao is also Xiao He.
There is a word in psychology called "halo effect", that is, when we have a good first impression of a person, we subconsciously think that all their characteristics are good.
This effect is put in Nicholas Tse's romantic relationship, and it becomes: when he sees a certain characteristic in his other half like Debra, he believes that all the characteristics of the other party will be the same as Debra.
As the relationship deepened, when it was found that the difference between the other half and Deborah became more and more obvious, the relationship slowly dissipated.
At the beginning of Nicholas Tse and Zhao Xueer's acquaintance, Zhao Xueer, like Debra, was on the emotional supply side: she comforted Nicholas Tse and cared for his wounded heart. But in the later stage of their relationship, the status of the two was reversed, and Zhao Xue, who was at the trough of his career, in turn, needed Nicholas Tse's care and care.
Nicholas Tse, who is accustomed to being an "admirer" and "dependent", cannot respond to his girlfriend's dependence, and no longer worships such Zhao Xueer, and this relationship has come to an end.
In the relationship with Cecilia Cheung, Nicholas Tse initially saw her dedication and strength, and it was not until after marriage that she gradually realized Cecilia Cheung's vulnerability and helplessness.
In fact, Cecilia Cheung is an extremely loveless person. Growing up in a single-parent family, she felt extremely insecure inside.
When the two are in love, once they can't find Nicholas Tse, Cecilia Cheung will kill a serial CALL and hit herself until she collapses. Even if she knew that Nicholas Tse was filming, her inner insecurity would prompt her to make this move.
After getting married, Cecilia Cheung often scolded Nicholas Tse for some trivial things.
Because of love, Nicholas Tse has also changed from an "admirer" and "dependent" to a "guardian" and "giver", but this transformation is difficult to last.
Because Nicholas Tse has always been in a weak and protected position in the mother-son relationship in childhood, he cannot assume the role of guardian and giver. He needs an emotional, free-spirited woman to save him.
And this person is Faye Wong.
3, and Faye Wong missed their marriage when they were young, and went around in circles and eventually got back together: adults can't find parents in relationships
In her childhood, Faye Wong's parents were busy with work and had no time to take care of their young daughter, and she was fostered in a neighbor's or relative's house all year round. In such an environment, Faye Wong has developed an independent and unafraid character of worldly eyes.
In the world, Faye Wong never cares too much about other people's opinions.
While other actresses are racking their brains to cater to the market, Faye Wong has gone the wrong way.
Whether it's an album or a concert, her look is always quirky.
Dark eye makeup, sunburn makeup, eye frame makeup, these makeup that other actresses avoid, but under her leadership, have become a trend.
This personality that is not afraid of worldly eyes also carries over to her handling of feelings.
In order to be with Dou Wei, she did not hesitate to put down her star aura and lived with her husband in a hutong in Beijing, going to public toilets and pouring urine basins.
Who knows, she really mispaid after all. Not long after marriage, Dou Wei fell in love with Faye Wong's royal photographer Gao Yuan, and publicly announced to the media: "Gao Yuan is my lover." ”
As a wife, Faye Wong was instantly pushed to the cusp and became a marriage loser in the mouth of the media.
Faye Wong did not label herself as a weakling, nor did she take the opportunity to criticize Dou Wei, and the two divorced silently, one by one.
Whenever a good reporter asked about this past, she directly replied: "It's none of your business." ”
In 2006, when she fell in love with Nicholas Tse, who was 11 years younger, Faye Wong did not hide it.
Facing the media camera, she generously took Nicholas Tse's hand and sat down on this long-lasting sibling love.
This sibling love lasted for 3 years, and eventually, Faye Wong married Li Yapeng.
After marrying Li Yapeng, Faye Wong did not completely retire to the family, she still went her own way and was at ease.
But the marriage was still in its 8th year.
At that time, Li Yapeng was addicted to the business world, failed to invest several times, and even did not hesitate to pull Faye Wong to create momentum for his products.
Faye Wong was completely disheartened with Li Yapeng, decisively chose to divorce, and withdrew from this relationship in time.
It can be said that whether in the world or in emotional processing, Faye Wong and Deborah are the same kind of people.
They dare to love and hate, and they can go to the soup for love, but they will also dash away when they are not in love.
Therefore, from the beginning, Faye Wong was Nicholas Tse's fate.
At the age of 14, Nicholas Tse regarded Faye Wong as an idol. His room was full of posters of Faye Wong, and when the family watched TV in the living room, as long as Faye Wong's figure appeared, he would not allow others to change the station.
Going to see Faye Wong's concert with friends, Nicholas Tse once pointed to Faye Wong on the stage and released a wild saying: "When I debut, I will definitely chase her as a girlfriend!" ”
Later, the two began to dating, and a reporter ridiculed Nicholas Tse: "Do you like Faye Wong?" ”
He replied seriously, "It's not like, it's love." ”
Unfortunately, Faye Wong is Nicholas Tse's favorite look, but Nicholas Tse at that time was not Faye Wong's favorite look. Although Faye Wong is strong and self-reliant in her heart, she has just experienced a failed marriage and hopes to have a mature and stable boyfriend, which is why she finally chose Li Yapeng.
A 19-year-old boy does not understand the responsibility and dedication in his feelings.
Nicholas Tse relies on instinct to fall in love with Faye Wong and gets along with Faye Wong as an "admirer" and "dependent", hoping to constantly ask for love and care from Faye Wong.
But feelings are like banks, men and women must continue to deposit things in the bank, rather than blindly asking, because no matter how deep the feelings, excessive overdraft will eventually face "bankruptcy".
In 2003, after the "top bag door" happened, Nicholas Tse chose to escape, he did not dare to face the media camera, hiding behind his parents to hide his ears.
This immature way of doing things became the last straw that crushed the relationship between the two, and they eventually parted ways.
After marrying Cecilia Cheung, Nicholas Tse gradually understood what responsibility is in the forced role change, and also grew into a mature man.
In order to act well, he insisted on not using a stand-in, and all the scenes were played by himself, crazy to take over the play, and polished his acting skills over and over again.
After more than ten years, almost no place in the whole body is intact: broken fingers, spinal nerves damaged, arms can no longer be straightened...
With this hard work, Nicholas Tse has won many awards and has become a well-deserved strength in the entertainment industry.
Facing the photo door, he supported his wife. But after finding that he could not appease Cecilia Cheung's inner insecurity, he decisively chose to divorce and never spoke ill of his ex-wife. After the divorce, Nicholas Tse tried cooking, and he began to chat with relatives and friends.
Deborah said: "He became gentle, became talkative, and enjoyed talking to his family. They would ask Dad to eat, and they would call a group of friends to share the food. ”
After getting back together with Faye Wong, Nicholas Tse, who was once complained by Cecilia Cheung that he only knew how to play games when he went home, became his 24-filial boyfriend, and the most important thing every day became to make breakfast for Faye Wong.
Nicholas Tse no longer forces himself to "fight" for filming, he has turned his interest in cooking into a career, while running a number of companies worth hundreds of millions.
When giving a speech at Tsinghua University, Nicholas Tse, who was once invincible, said: "In terms of academic qualifications, I am too far behind you, so what qualifications do I have to give you a speech?" ”
After the baptism of time, Nicholas Tse has become low-key, humble and full of strength. Xiao Xie, a former rebellious young man, was reborn and became a mature man, and also became what Faye Wong liked. In this way, he naturally walked back to Faye Wong's side.
Truly mature people should not look for parents in their relationships, let alone blindly ask for love and care from their other half.
In a good intimate relationship, both parties should be on an equal footing, giving to each other and loving each other, rather than one party unilaterally giving and giving.
Nicholas Tse did not understand this truth, so he instinctively asked and wanted. And now, he has learned to give, he has learned to give, and naturally he has regained the true love that he missed because of less things.
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