Many children with poor grades have similarities, such as when they come home from school and do not seriously complete homework, but play crazy; or they are procrastinating and not working hard when reading and studying; and they have never established a reading study plan.
Parents do not restrain their children's learning behaviors and habits from an early age, and their children's attitude to life will be undisciplined and rigorous, and they will not think of making progress and have a dissipated attitude in learning.
Parents do not have a scientific method to guide them, and will only preach and nag. Some parents blindly only pay attention to academic performance, let children do problems all day, go to cram classes... do not give children a moment of respite, children will naturally reject learning emotionally.
Parents as primary school students should promptly change their children's bad habits in learning and guide their children to establish a self-disciplined learning attitude.
The following shallow knowledge and humble views are provided for parents in anxiety to learn from.
01. Cultivate children's enthusiasm and stimulate children's internal driving force
Help your child find points of interest in their lives
Use spare time to bring children into nature, let children visit the mountains and rivers of the motherland, observe the form and behavior of small animals in the zoo, etc., so that they can broaden their horizons, increase their insights, and learn more, stimulate children's interest in observing things, cultivate good observation habits, make children slowly pay attention to the surrounding character landscape, and gradually change the negative state of children who are careless and blind to everything.
Parents gradually guide children to write observation diaries, record what he sees and wants, exercise children's expression and writing skills, improve children's interest in reading and writing, and increase motivation to learn.
Pay attention to guiding children to improve their memory
Parents begin to guide their children to read some interesting and meaningful reading materials, and then let the children repeat the interesting stories in the books to parents, and then gradually increase the amount of reading. In this way, it can stimulate memory by repeatedly stimulating the cerebral cortex.
Parents can also enhance their children's memory by allowing them to remember to observe things, the details of the environment, and interesting plots.
Cultivate children's rich imagination and thinking skills
Without imagination, there is no creativity. Psychological research proves that the average person only uses 50% of the imagination function, and childhood is the best time for the development of an individual's imagination. Children often have some imaginative and unrealistic imagination, at this time parents do not satirize or criticize, but give affirmation and praise, children will build a rich imagination, and gradually have the ability to think independently.
Whether a person is smart or not, whether he has wisdom or not, mainly depends on whether his thinking ability is strong or not, and his thinking ability is the core of his learning ability. To improve thinking ability, it is necessary to maintain the curiosity that children should have, and strengthen the independence of learning; guide children to enhance their awareness of problems, and be good at finding problems, asking problems and finding solutions to problems in learning.
Through the above methods, find the child's interest, guide the child to experience the joy of learning, improve the learning ability, and promote the child's positive learning action.
02. Develop self-disciplined learning habits
The best growth is self-growth, and the best control is self-control.
The main role of parents is to guide children to learn to think independently, make independent decisions, cultivate good behaviors, etc., and help children become a self-driven self-discipliner.
After investigation, the vast majority of children with excellent grades are very self-disciplined, and self-disciplined children have a very strong sense of time. They make good use of their time, will consciously and reasonably arrange their life and study, and have good study habits. For example, after returning home, I will take the initiative to complete homework, consolidate my studies, read books, etc., not addicted to playing games and watching TV as soon as I get home.
Help your child manage their time
The time for establishing self-disciplined living habits is usually divided into three types and corresponds to the corresponding matters: · Fixed point in time = habitual matters (work and rest); ·
Fixed time period = task item (assignment); ·
Child's Free Time - Matters of Autonomy (Freedom)
Help set the child's work and rest time, ensure that the child has a reasonable sleep time, combined with the school class, guide the child to develop a reasonable schedule of work and rest, including setting a reasonable sleep time, wake up time, sleep time, determine the child's homework, reading and learning time, exercise time, etc. thereinto
Communicate with your child to emphasize rules and execution, so that the child knows that he will act strictly and continuously according to the content set by the schedule.
Parents should have a firm attitude in the process of helping their children form habits, and they cannot easily reduce their requirements because of their children's crying and soft grinding.
Any habit has to be adhered to for a long time, and once the habit is interrupted, it is difficult to form. Therefore, parents must do continuous supervision until the child's habit becomes natural, and can be consciously observed without parental requirements, then this habit is really formed.
Help your child develop good study habits
Good study habits are not cultivated overnight, and they need to be persistent to achieve results.
The formation of good habits needs to go through 3 stages:
Institutional constraints: Children lack initiative in learning, such as some children do not check after writing homework, and always let parents remind them to check.
At this time, the child needs behavior constraints, parents and children together to establish a learning system and learning plan, you can first establish a small goal learning plan, list the need for children to consciously complete the small tasks, parents should remind the child to seriously implement. For example, children are required to prepare homework, complete homework independently, etc., and if they do not finish, they cannot play, and slowly let children develop good habits.
Conscious behavior: This is a critical period for habit formation. Whenever the homework is completed, the child will ask himself: Did I check the homework? By this time, the child has turned the act of dependence into self-supervision. Good habits are further enhanced. At this time, parents should encourage praise in a timely manner, so that children can build confidence and persevere.
Automatic behavior: This stage is the period when habitual behavior is automated and inertial thinking is formed. If the child completes the homework without checking, he will feel that he has not done the work, must be checked before the heart is comfortable, good learning habits are really formed. Good study habits can help children learn to strictly manage time, complete homework independently, and study hard.
