Love has a triple realm.
The first realm: I love you, then I will do my best to make you happy, even if I sacrifice myself I want you to be happy. This is the highest level of love, and in real life, this kind of love is rare.
The second realm: you are very good, worthy of my possession, and I can get a lot of benefits from having you. This is inferior love, and there are many such loves in real life.
The third realm: If I think you are useful, you have to be used by me; if you cannot be used by me, then I have to destroy you. This kind of feeling cannot be called love, this is the paranoid who carries out the banner of love and commits wanton murder. This is naked possession.
You Sanjie is the third realm for Liu Xianglian, and You Sanjie has never actually loved Liu Xianglian.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="7" > Liu Xianglian is actually a ruthless little bastard</h1>
Readers think that Liu Xianglian is a big handsome guy who understands the importance of feelings and righteousness. That's the illusion of the reader.
There are few good people in "Dream of the Red Chamber", they are especially good at talking because of their interests, if you do not seriously analyze and think, you will think that they are sincerely praising people.
For example, Wang Xifeng exaggerated Tanchun as a rose, because at that time, those who were sisters-in-law had to beg their sister-in-law.
Wang Xifeng and Ping'er curry favor with Tanchun everywhere, often serving her like the empress dowager, but Tanchun never gave them face, and whenever he had anger in his heart, he would use Wang Xifeng and Ping'er as a pump.
Wang Xifeng and Ping'er are not fools without self-esteem, they are also shrewd people who are one of the best in a hundred, and they hate Tanchun from the bottom of their hearts; but forced by the situation, they must also say that she is good.
Why would Jia Lian praise Liu Xianglian? That's because he and Second Sister You want to marry Third Sister You quickly.
However, as the only man in the family, Jia Lian was still afraid of being criticized, and he directly told Second Sister You that Liu Xianglian was cold-hearted and ruthless, and that she had escaped from trouble and had not been home for many years.
A normal sister would say: We don't marry this kind of man when we are an old girl at home. But Second Sister You said:
"What these three of us say and do, what he says, just according to him."
It means to leave her alone and live and die with her.
Just like in "Snail Residence", when Su Chun expressed concern for seaweed, Guo Haiping taught Su Chun:
"That seaweed thing, I haven't asked it when my sister is there, what do you have to say?" I tell you, in the future, you will take care of our family's affairs less. ”
The sisters are so cold, the brother-in-law does not have to be a good person anymore, after all, the sister-in-law is going to fall, and the brother-in-law can still get many benefits.
Liu Xianglian is actually a ruthless little, if You ErJie is really good for her sister, she will not force You Third Sister to marry.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="20" > because of two nice words, You Sanjie liked Jia Baoyu</h1>
Third Sister You told Second Sister You that the two words spoken by Jia Baoyu particularly touched her heart.
One is that he blocked the smell of the monk's body for her (as if the smell could be blocked by a person standing there); the other, when You Erjie wanted to drink tea, Jia Baoyu instructed the old mother to "wash the cup and bring it again" (just open her mouth, in fact, she can say it herself).
When Second Sister You heard Third Sister You say this, she smiled and said, "According to you, the two of you are already in love." Wouldn't it be nice to have you promised him? ”
Unexpectedly, Xing'er said that Jia Baoyu already had it, and it would be set by Aunt Lin in the future.
Lin Daiyu is the only granddaughter of Jia Mu, the ancestor of Jia Province, and is the cousin of Jia Baoyu, who was born in a rich mansion, not to mention beautiful, but also particularly talented. Most importantly, the two of them have been together for several years, and in the eyes of outsiders, the relationship between the two is particularly good.
But what about yourself? The family's unclear white character is not correct, not to mention, but also rely on the eldest sister Youshi, who is not the same father and mother; in addition to the spicy personality and the talent of casual flirting with men, what virtuousness, elegance, and knowledgeable Dali have nothing to do with her.
You Sanjie only has one plus for looking good, but what is the use of that? Lin Daiyu looked very similar to her, and her face and body were almost the same as hers.
You Sanjie weighed it in her heart for a night, knowing that she was completely out of the game, and she could not defeat Lin Daiyu only by virtue of her outstanding appearance. Therefore, You Sanjie stopped and suppressed the words "I have a crush on Jia Baoyu" back into her stomach.
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<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="30" > the real reason why You Sanjie chose Liu Xianglian is very heartfelt</h1>
In that era, girls' marriages were the words of their parents, and they had never heard of girls choosing their own sons-in-law. However, You Sanjie had to choose her own husband, but her mother and sister let her fool around.
You Sanjie is very sober, and no serious man is willing to marry a remnant flower, otherwise, a beautiful and famous woman like her would have already come to the door to ask for affection.
You Sanjie knew that during the time she lived in Ning Province, she had already become infamous.
You Sanjie knew that it was difficult to marry, so she thought of the little bastard Liu Xianglian who came and went without a trace and saw the head and tail of the dragon.
A young girl, five years ago, because of a play to a drama has a little affection, five years later, those inexplicable feelings have long been stirred by the wild bees and butterflies around them.
The reasons why You Sanjie chose Liu Xianglian were: First, Liu Xianglian was inferior enough, and she was very compatible with You Sanjie's bandit and hooliganism. Second, Liu Xianglian does not go home, she can not have to face him, can continue to be a single queen. The most important thing is that You Sanjie wants to test her mother and sister: if she wants to marry such a little, they don't stop it, it means that she is already cold in their hearts, and it is time to say goodbye to them.
Friends, imagine, which normal woman is willing to marry a cold-faced and cold-hearted person who does not go home every day? What normal woman doesn't want her husband to be able to spend more time with her at home after marriage?
Therefore, the purpose of You Sanjie marrying Liu Xianglian is to find a burial place for herself.
If Old Lady You and Sister You really love Third Sister You, and see third sister You in a daze all day long against a cold sword, they will secretly throw it away while she goes to the toilet; however, these two inhuman women regard that ominous thing as a treasure that can solve their troubles.
You Sanjie did not commit suicide because of love and shame, she was because, in the past, there was no man to take over, and after that, the mother's family could not tolerate her (in fact, where did she have a mother's family?). ）。
If You Sanjie really loved Liu Xianglian, she would not choose to marry him, because she could not bear to defile him, and she could not bear to make him unhappy because of herself.
If You Sanjie really loved Liu Xianglian, even if Liu Xianglian did not marry her, she would live well for the love in her heart, eating and praying to the Buddha every day to pray for his health and peace.
The reason why You Sanjie would drink the sword in front of Liu Xianglian and kill herself was precisely because she did not love. Because she didn't love, she would condemn him, she would kidnap him, and she would let him live the rest of his life worse than death; after all, the resentment and evil anger in her heart that had nowhere to vent could not be directly vented to the mother and sister who had raised her.
Readers and friends must know that in that era, many people did not have the ability to love their lovers and love themselves, and the red scholars interpreted the story of You Sanjie and Liu Xianglian as a love that could be sung and wept, and Cao Weng wrote "Love Little Sister Returns to the House of Shame leng Erlang cold into the empty door" once, just to express the bitch's ruthless drama and injustice, just to express that relatives are not close.
"Fake is true when it is true", "Ping'an Prefecture is not peaceful", Cao Weng left readers with these keys to interpret "Dream of the Red Chamber", can you think of its opposite through the positive content of the Fengyue Treasure Book? If not, the magnificent "Dream of the Red Chamber" only let you watch a false hilarity and read a lonely.
Don't just listen to what others say, listen to what others don't say; don't believe what you see, think about what you don't see. Because, "Dream of the Red Chamber" is an expression of non-existence with the expression of existence.
Whether Jia Mu loved Lin Daiyu or not, Cao Xueqin had already clearly told you as early as the third time
The fifth time in "Dream of the Red Chamber", Cao Xueqin made four foreshadowings to tell the reader that Jia Baoyu did not love Lin Daiyu
Qiong Yao's "Outside the Window" tells everyone that the cause of the tragedy is that there is no able-bodied person around