Zhang Jike's various unbearable actions, under the deep pickpocket of the media and the majority of enthusiastic netizens, are being revealed little by little, his past glorious image has long been shattered, scumbags, gambling, lying is becoming the new label of the former Chinese table tennis grand slam king. In addition to eating melons frantically, we might as well think about what we can learn in this "hand-torn" scumbag incident in which the whole people participated? Today the author will help you analyze it.
In love, you must be prepared to look at your character
Today's people's hearts are too impetuous, everyone seems to always like to treat falling in love as a child's game, often choose to hold hands because of impulse, but neglect to determine the most important work before determining a relationship: visit and investigate.
Just as we decide to do a background check first when we decide to work on a project, the same is true for falling in love, and visiting the survey does not mean that you have to get all the details of the other person, but to determine the character of the other party.
Actress Jing Tian planted a big heel in this matter.
Although Zhang Jike pretends to be five people and six people in front of people, his hobby of gambling has long been no secret. The scandal about his gambling appeared in the newspapers as early as 2004, and it is estimated that everyone in the sports circle has long been known, and Zhang Jike borrowed money from his ex-girlfriend Yuan Shanshan in order to pay off gambling debts, and still did not pay it back, and finally Yang Mi came forward to settle the matter.
It can be said that Jing Tian only needs to visit Zhang Jike's side of people a little before falling in love, or ask someone to inquire, you can understand his temperament, but unfortunately, Jing Tian, who was carried away by love, did not realize this and accidentally let himself step into the abyss.
And actress Jin Chen has done a good job at this point. When participating in the star romance show "Let's Fall in Love", she and Zhang Jike were a couple, it is estimated that Zhang Jike was investigated in advance, and she would show so indifferent in the show, did not give the other party an opportunity, and finally saved herself.
In fact, in real life, we all make such mistakes, people are originally emotional animals, and emotions forget everything as soon as they come up. But after all, love is a matter of two souls compatible, I believe that everyone is not willing to find a dirty soul to defile themselves, and do not need to spend too much time and energy, why not do a visit in advance to prevent trouble?
In love, we must have a sense of self-prevention
Protecting oneself means protecting one's own privacy, to put it bluntly, physical privacy.
Man is a sensual animal, and reason will always be devoured in the depths of emotion, so that we can do things that we may regret for the rest of our lives.
Actress Jing Tian was the same at the beginning, the little woman trapped in love, even the most basic sense of protection, in the face of the dark lens, actually agreed in vague, so that she fell into the current embarrassing situation. Coincidentally, the sensational "Yan Z Gate" incident was also like this, under the rhetoric of Guan Xi Ge and driven by love, Cecilia Cheung and Gillian took the initiative to show themselves in front of the camera, and the result was almost ruined.
In this kind of thing, women are always on the weak side, so it is more necessary to do a good job of prevention, no matter how much you love each other, the bottom line problem must not deviate, if the other party because of your refusal and play a tantrum, then I advise you to break up as soon as possible, because he must not love you!
In love, you must have the courage to make a judgment
There is a term in economics called sunk cost, which refers to the cost that has been paid and cannot be recovered, from which the sunk cost effect is derived, which can be explained by applying it to love:
Because one of the parties in the relationship focuses on the cost of loss, he thinks about the loss, such as the time, energy, money, effort, etc. that has been paid, and every time he thinks of it, his heart becomes heavier, so he clings to the past when deciding on the future, which eventually leads to the danger of sunk cost fallacy.
Actress Jing Tian may have also fallen into the sunk cost effect.
How much does Jing Tian love Zhang Jike? After the official announcement, Jing Tian's focus during that time seemed to become a lover, revolving around him whenever he was free, taking him home to meet his parents after only one month of love, and in the face of her boyfriend's request for money, she was also responsive, according to rumors, during the relationship, Jing Tian had lent Zhang Jike tens of millions of yuan. It can be seen how deeply she is invested in this relationship.
But after getting along for so long, did he really not notice the bad deeds of his boyfriend? I think not. Because she has always known Zhang Jike's itinerary, she knows that his favorite place to go is Phnom Penh in Cambodia Village, and this place is precisely the favorite place of gamblers... But because of love, she chose to turn a blind eye, and for fear of losing, she chose tolerance. I think she must have persuaded her boyfriend to quit gambling in private, she thought that Zhang Jike would change his evil ways under the influence of love...
It wasn't until the creditor came to the door and took out the private video that Jing Tian understood how stupid he was, so he had no choice but to let go. She once said on a variety show that 2019 is the darkest moment in her life, and now that she thinks about it, she understands what her suffering is: gambling everything in love, but losing nothing.
If she could have the courage to make a decision and withdraw from this relationship in time after discovering that her boyfriend had gambled repeatedly, she might not be hurt by this relationship, and she would not let herself fall into such an embarrassing situation today.
Unfortunately, everything didn't happen.
Everyone must take caution in love, if you find that you meet a non-good person, no matter how painful it is, you must also break up ruthlessly, stop the loss in time, if you still insist on staying in this already broken relationship, there may be only one final outcome: lose nothing.
After chatting so much, my heart was extremely heavy, because I found that Jing Tian was really a perfect ex, and he was hurt so deeply by the scumbag, and he didn't say a bad word about the other party after breaking up. Is it because of love? Or is it because today's public opinion environment does not allow her to speak, afraid that those three lows will slut and humiliate her? If it is because of the latter, it is called the sadness of this era, and the victims have to bear the condemnation of public opinion, what is this called!
To get back to the point, we are in an era of impetuous hearts, even the sacred thing of love is much more casual than before, the author does not want to attack this value, but the exposure of the Zhang Jike incident has indeed reminded all couples: love, in the final analysis, is the fit and fusion of two souls, will you be willing to find a dirty and despicable soul?