Zhang Jike incident rushed to the hot search, why did people come to the spirit as soon as they talked about gossip?

The gossip news in the entertainment industry is always jaw-dropping.

In the past few days, Zhang Jike has been on the top of the hot search because of rumors such as gambling, debt, and sending the private video of his then girlfriend Jing Tian to debt collectors.

When things were confusing, a long article by well-known journalist Li Weiao exposed more details of the incident. To summarize simply, Zhang Jike owed Mr. S money, and when he was collected, he gave Mr. S several private videos of Jing Tian. Mr. S turned to Jing Tian for money...

"How much pressure Jing Tian was under at that time, compared to Big S, she is really decent, she didn't mention a word when she broke up, I don't know how she survived during that time!" The friends in the office started talking early in the morning.

Immediately talked about the serial drama that the big S family continued to play for a year: "Wang Xiaofei went to Taiwan, met S mother 'politely', and finally ran into children. Although everyone complained that his family's story was smelly and long like a shroud, they were gossipy and tasteful.

And I also enthusiastically participated in the chat, some friends said, our mothers must not know that you love gossip so much, be careful to filter the ground.

No, I have never shunned the fact that I love to talk about gossip, and I want to dispel everyone's doubts, love to talk about gossip is actually not low at all! From an economic point of view, gossip is a very important productivity!

Today I invited my friend Dad Xiaoxiang (he is a well-known economics columnist in the industry and has published several best-selling economics books) to talk to you about gossip from a sociological perspective! Why do people come to the spirit as soon as they talk about gossip? Why is talking about gossip not a waste of time at all...

Text/Papa Elephant

Women love to talk about gossip, the truth is actually ...

We have the impression that only women are particularly fond of gossip, and if it's a big open office, you always seem to see a group of women chatting mysteriously in a corner.

No wonder there is a term in Hong Kong films to describe a woman who loves gossip - bagu, and this word is often preceded by a dead word to show disgust - dead gossip.

In fact, this is outright bias.

Men also love gossip. Men love gossip even more.

But the content of gossip for men and women is different.

Women love to gossip about others. Like this: You know what? Wang Xiaofei shouted and let Big S burn the mattress. Burned, why? This mattress costs more than four million. Why does a mattress cost four million? Wait, what is the situation with the electricity bill...

Men are different, men like to talk about their gossip.

Men love to say this (braging): The girl at the company headquarters downstairs is interesting to me... Haha, I think she's in good shape, but a little brainless... Don't tell my girlfriend, she's a vinegar jar... You said that female doctor, we turned the page earlier, she has no interest...

In the novel "Siege of the City", Sun Roujia said: I saw through it, it was all bragging, all - yes - bragging - bull. You said how she loved you in the past and wanted to marry you, but today she is obviously on good terms with Zhao Xinfei, and she didn't look at you squarely. You didn't chase her after her! Men all blow like this.

Miss Sun is right about one thing: men brag like this. The truth is that the girl at the main desk has never looked at him squarely.

Why is there such a difference between men and women, gossip about others being advanced, or gossip about one's own seniority?

Dunbar, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Oxford, believes that this is due to the different social division of labor.

Women are taking care of their children and need help, so seek alliances. Men, on the other hand, face competition, so stand out.

Woman: When that woman was in high school, I could see that she was a vixen, haha, you think so too... (We have the same three views, we can be good girlfriends)

Man: In that football game, three defenders came up together to grab the ball, and a big man of one meter nine tried to tackle me, and I made a feint, and it was easy... (I'm strong, don't try to rob me of my resources)

Is talking about gossip a waste of time?

As a self-motivated you, after chatting for half a day of gossip, maybe you feel a little guilty and waste your time.

What does Kim Kardashian and Kanye divorce have to do with me?

So is talking about gossip a waste of time?

We may have some misunderstanding about gossip. Studies have shown that only about 3 to 4 percent of all gossip is genuinely malicious. Most gossip can bring us useful information, after all, the earliest gossip of our ancestors began with "there is a man-eating crocodile by the river".

Gossip can greatly increase productivity. Or we can go a step further and say that gossip is productivity.

Gossip can solve the problem. If you solve a puzzle alone, you may never solve it.

But if you talk about this difficult problem as gossip and tell unhappy things to make everyone happy, it may turn out completely differently. For example, there is a customer who is difficult to engage in, you gossip with colleagues in the pantry, and such and such a customer is a pervert. At this time, some will nod to comfort you, and some will provide you with information, his wife happens to be my classmate, do you want me to help you think of a way? Or someone gives you direct advice: I tell you, I have the most experience and the best way to deal with this perversion is ...

Gossip can improve leadership and increase small group cohesion. If you're a leader and share some gossip with your subordinates appropriately, your subordinates will think, wow, this leader is so approachable... The leader seems to be very intimate with me, and it turns out that the leader has been paying attention to me...

If a group shares gossip with each other, everyone has a common little secret and a common meme, and the cohesion will be greatly improved.

Gossip can also help us improve ourselves. Listening to gossip is an effective way to self-assess. Positive gossip, which will get positive motivation, turns out to be popular. Hearing negative gossip can also make people self-reflect after listening - am I such a person?

Life is incomplete without gossip

One company moved to a new office, the same people, the same processes, but the boss found that the work efficiency was not as good as before. After some research and inquiry, the boss finally found that the problem appeared that the office canceled the pantry.

It turns out that during lunch breaks or coffee breaks, everyone will gather to chat about some gossip, which is an indispensable "lubricant" among team members.

Even more energizing than tea and coffee is gossip.

Without gossip, everyone is like being on an island, not knowing what others are thinking, more suspicion, inevitably despondent, inefficient.

Humans can't do without gossip. When our ancestors were hominids, gossip appeared while they groomed each other and caught lice (who divided their prey unfairly).

These ancient gossip not only promote the formation of language, but also help to build stable social networks.

Okay, now there's one last question.

Why people are always interested in that thing. Simply put, it's who is good (bad) with whom.

Like to inquire about this, definitely not because you are low in taste, this is an instinct written in our genes.

Yay, which top male star is this?

All gossip, in the final analysis, is to understand what social values expect us to do, and the essence of gossip is to learn, learn how to survive in this world.

For men, the most important thing in the world is to get the opportunity to reproduce and pass on their genes.

For women, the main concern is that their children are better cared for.

So back to the original conversation, about gossip, men care about "what is this guy's ability to deceive so many girls, how can I do to arouse the favor of that beautiful woman", while the woman is concerned about "how did she meet the scumbag, it turns out that the scumbag has this characteristic, and what is the good man"...