In ancient feudal society, it was a norm for the descendants to be different. The heirs of the descendants can inherit the family business, while the heirs of the concubines are often ill-fated. The son of a famous family, because of his mother's low status, he has been discriminated against since he was a child. He studied hard, and finally passed the Jinshi examination, and his official fortune was prosperous. However, when the mother died, the elders of the family did not allow the mother's coffin to be buried through the main entrance, on the grounds that the mother was only a concubine. This made him so angry that he made an unexpected move that shocked everyone. What did he do, why did he make such a decision, and what is the story behind it?
There is a difference between the concubines and the mothers and sons, and the mothers and sons are discriminated against
Tan Yanmin was born in the Tan family in Changsha, Hunan, with a prominent family background and has been an official for generations. His father, Tan Zhonglin, was an important minister in the court, and he had been an official in the court for more than 30 years and had a very high reputation. However, Tan Yanmin's mother, Li, is just a poor girl who was sold as a maid.
When he was young, the Li family was sold to the Tan family by his impoverished family, and there he became a maid and served the main family. Because of her diligence and ability, and her outstanding appearance, she was soon arranged to serve by Tan Zhonglin's side. Soon, Tan Zhonglin was attracted by her beauty and cleverness, and accepted her as a roommate.
At that time, the status of the girl was extremely humble. They are just the master's concubines, not even a serious concubine. Although the Li family was favored by Tan Zhonglin, he was still a penny girl at home and was spurned by others. Even if she later gave birth to Tan Yanmin's son, her status only rose slightly and became a concubine.
As a concubine and child, Tan Yanmin has been deeply discriminated against and neglected since he was a child. He watched his brothers flattered, while he and his mother could only wait on the sidelines. At every family banquet, the mother Li family could not sit with the other concubines, so she could only serve beside her. At a young age, Tan Yanmin deeply experienced the pain of his concubine.
Faced with cold eyes and white eyes, Tan Yanmin made up his mind that he must rely on his own efforts to change the bad habits of this family and win the respect his mother deserves. Since then, he has given up his childhood games and immersed himself in hard work. He vowed to rely on his own skills to prove that his mother was not inferior and deserved to be respected.
Fame has been added, and the status of mother and son has changed
Since she was a child, Tan Yanmin has made up her mind to rely on her own efforts to change her mother's humble status. He gave up his childhood games and immersed himself in hard work.
At the age of thirteen, Tan Yanmin participated in the local children's examination and won the title of Xiucai in one fell swoop. This made the Tan family look at him with admiration from top to bottom, especially his father Tan Zhonglin, who treated him differently. Since then, Tan Zhonglin's attitude towards his mother Li has also changed, no longer snubbing her as before, but beginning to sympathize with her situation.
Tan Yanmin didn't stop there. He continued to study diligently, and at the age of twenty-two, he took the last imperial examination of the Qing Dynasty. With his extraordinary talent, he not only won the promotion in one fell swoop, but also won the Jinshi with the honor of Huiyuan. This was an unprecedented achievement at that time, and the Tan family was naturally extremely proud.
Tan Yanmin's series of fame finally made a fundamental change in the status of his mother Li in the family. Tan Zhonglin ordered that from now on, the Li family could dine together with the other concubines, and no longer had to wait by the side as before. For Lee, this is simply the respect that can only be dreamed of.
However, at this moment, an unexpected thing happened. Although Tan Yanmin's fame has changed her mother's situation at home, under the rules of the family, she is still just a lowly concubine. When she became seriously ill, the elders of the family refused to let her coffin be taken out of the main entrance, on the grounds that she was only a concubine after all.
This decision is undoubtedly a ruthless blow and insult to Tan Yanmin's efforts over the years. He was so angry that he made an unexpected move - he lay directly on his mother's coffin and shouted "Today I am dead, funeral".
In the face of such a resolute resistance from his son, the family had no choice but to give up and let the coffin of the Li family be funeral from the main entrance. In this way, the corpse of a concubine left the family in a normal way for the first time. This is undoubtedly Tan Yanmin's actions to defend his mother's dignity.
New elements:
Tan Yanmin's wife, Fang Rongqing, has a deep understanding of her husband's knots, and has been doing her best to take care of her in-laws to reduce her husband's burden.
Tan Yanmin hated the marriage system at that time, and vowed not to repeat the mistakes of the past and only marry one wife.
Lee's dying wish was to die in a normal way, instead of being looked down upon like she had in this life.
The mother died, and the family refused to go out of the main door
Tan Yanmin has become famous, although the situation of her mother Li has improved, but under the rules of the family, she is just a lowly concubine after all. In 1916, when Li was seriously ill, the elders of the family still did not allow her coffin to be buried through the main entrance, on the grounds that she was just a concubine.
That year, Tan Yanmin was on official duty in other places, and his wife Fang Rongqing was taking care of the Li family at home. Before her death, Li said to Fang Rongqing that her biggest regret in her life was that she never had the opportunity to be respected like a decent person. As a concubine, she didn't have any ceremony when she married into the Tan family, and she was just a despised girl in the room for the rest of her life. Although her son is now famous, she still can't enter and exit through the main entrance, which makes her feel extremely ashamed.
Fang Rongqing has always been very considerate of Li's situation, and she also knows that her husband has a relationship with her. She immediately wrote a letter to Tan Yanmin and told him Li's last words word for word. After Tan Yanmin learned of his mother's wish, he immediately put down his official duties and rushed back home overnight.
However, when he returned home, his mother had already died. He was devastated, and what made him even more angry was that the elders of the family still refused to let his mother's coffin go out of the main entrance. They said confidently: "This is a rule handed down from the ancestors, and the concubine cannot go out of the funeral through the main gate." ＂
In the face of the stubbornness of the elders, Tan Yanmin argued loudly: "Mother has worked hard all her life to give birth to three sons for our Tan family, but now she can't even get the body out of the main gate, isn't this the biggest insult to her?!"
The elders turned a deaf ear and still insisted on their opinions. Tan Yanmin had no choice but to make an unexpected move - he lay directly on his mother's coffin and shouted loudly: "Today I died, funeral!"
New elements:
Lee's dying wish was to die in a normal way, instead of being looked down upon like she had in this life. She once said this to her daughter-in-law Fang Rongqing.
The Li family worked hard all their lives and gave birth to three sons for the Tan family, but they never had the opportunity to be respected like a decent person. When she married into the Tan family, there was no ceremony, and she was just a girl who was looked down upon.
Fang Rongqing has always been very considerate of Li's situation, and she also knows that her husband has a relationship with her. She told Tan Yanmin Li's last words word for word.
The son rebelled angrily and made a shocking move
When Tan Yanmin rushed home, his mother Li had already passed away. He was devastated, and what made him even more angry was that the elders of the family still refused to let his mother's coffin go out of the main entrance. They said confidently: "This is a rule handed down from the ancestors, and the concubine cannot go out of the funeral through the main gate." ＂
In the face of the stubbornness of the elders, Tan Yanmin argued loudly: "Mother has worked hard all her life to give birth to three sons for our Tan family, but now she can't even get the body out of the main gate, isn't this the biggest insult to her?!"
The elders turned a deaf ear and still insisted on their opinions. Tan Yanmin had no choice but to make an unexpected move - he lay directly on his mother's coffin and shouted loudly: "Today I died, funeral!"
This scene shocked everyone present. Tan Yanmin, as a jinshi and prosperous official, would make such a decisive act, which is incredible. The elders in the family looked at each other and were speechless for a while.
At this moment of stalemate, Tan Yanmin's wife Fang Rongqing stepped forward to dissuade her. She said to her husband, "What the husband did is certainly justified, but the mother is gone, and doing so will only hurt her spirit in heaven." It's better to let her rest in peace, and we will think of other ways to get justice for her later. ＂
Tan Yanmin listened to his wife's advice and finally got down from the coffin. He turned to the elders of the family and said, "Mother has been innocent all her life, but you insult her so much, I really can't stand it. In that case, let her go out through the main entrance!"
Faced with such a resolute decision by his son, the family had no choice but to give up and let the coffin of the Li family be buried from the main entrance. In this way, the corpse of a concubine left the family in a normal way for the first time. This is undoubtedly Tan Yanmin's actions to defend his mother's dignity.
New elements:
Tan Yanmin's wife, Fang Rongqing, came forward to dissuade her husband at a critical moment to avoid further escalation of the situation.
Fang Rongqing persuaded her husband not to hurt his mother's spirit in the sky, hinting that there would be a chance to seek justice for his mother in the future.
In the end, under the persuasion of his wife, Tan Yanmin got down from the coffin, but insisted on letting his mother's coffin go out of the main entrance.
This scene undoubtedly brought great shock and reflection to the family elders. A concubine gave birth to a child, and in order to defend her mother's dignity, she made such a resolute act, which is suffocating. Since then, the Tan family's rules for treating concubines have also changed, and they are no longer as harsh as before.