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The influx of Western culture and the popularization of entertainment have made Chinese women's clothing varied.
The older generation faced the women of the new era, looking at their revealing clothing, exaggerated makeup, and their faces were full of puzzlement. Because based on their life experience over the past few decades, these women dress more like some kind of special profession. And young people are used to it, and then, this kind of dress is called sexy.
Sexy is not raucous. In the process of human evolution, in addition to learning to use tools, what is more important is that there is civilization. In the understanding of civilization in China and the West, women's chastity is still a very important and even sacred thing from ancient times to the present.
In order to ensure the chastity of women, the profession of eunuch appeared in China's pre-Qin period, and eunuchs became the best candidates to serve the imperial harem concubines. Even an emperor with three thousand beautiful qualities would still be sentenced to death if his concubines lost their virginity.
Because in the past, in a society dominated by male power, women's chastity represented the dignity of men.
In Africa and other places, there is a custom that has survived to this day, called "circumcision". This custom helps women prove their chastity, and also allows men not to worry about cuckolding.
This seems like a good custom, otherwise it would not have been passed down for thousands of years. If anyone thinks so, they are very wrong!
No normal man would want to be a eunuch, because that would be extremely cruel to a man. And for a normal contemporary woman, "circumcision" is also a very difficult vice to accept!
Why add a "contemporary" in front of women, because in the past, women of low status, in their consciousness, "circumcision" was a painful but natural thing.
So, what exactly is circumcision? If it is a cruel vice, why is it considered a matter of course? Is it still going on?
Female circumcision
Female circumcision, also known as female genital mutilation, is the removal of the peripheral part of a girl's genital organs when she is young, followed by a simple suture treatment, leaving only a small hole for urine and menstrual excretion in daily life.
The whole process, most of the time, the operating environment is extremely poor, not carried out in a sterile operating room, the tools are even more rudimentary and terrible, a small knife, some needles and thread is all, four or five-year-old girls are circumcised in this way.
It is an ancient ritual that originated in the time of the Egyptian pharaohs. Its role is to prove a woman's chastity, so that the husband can confirm whether his wife is faithful after marriage.
Women who have been circumcised are only allowed to have sex on their wedding night. It is not a happy thing for a woman who is about to get married, because sexual intercourse can only take place when the stitches of the circumcision are cut at the time of marriage, and the process is carried out by the groom with his bare hands, and the extent of the injury can be seen.
Because after the completion of the female circumcision ceremony, it will restrict women's sexual rights and lose the opportunity to enjoy the orgasmic pleasure of biological nature, relying on this very inhuman way to ensure that women cannot have premarital sex and are still complete before marriage.
However, this cruel operation will cause great and irreparable harm to women's bodies and psychology.
Desert flowers
There is a movie with a score of 8.7 on Douban, adapted from the autobiography "Desert Flower" by a black supermodel Wallis Diary, the movie has the same name as the book, using her own real experience to show the world the pain of women undergoing circumcision.
"I saw between my legs that the gypsy woman was preparing... From an old travel bag, she finds a broken razor... I couldn't see the details of the knife, however, I could see the dried blood on the jagged edge of the broken knife. She spat on the knife and wiped it with her clothes ... Then I felt the flesh on my body, my genitals being cut off. I heard the sound of that blunt knife sawing past my skin..."
This is Wallis. Diri's memories are her nightmarish reality.
Born in a backward feudal country with constant wars and disputes, young Wallis. Diri couldn't escape circumcision, and years later, she became a new favorite of fashion, and she spoke frankly about this experience in an interview with the women's magazine "Beautiful Beauty".
She was fortunate to be discovered by top photographer Terence Donovan from a McDonald's restaurant in London, and under the careful construction of Terence Donovan, with her proud body, she stepped onto the world stage from that barren desert.
It's hard to blossom in the desert, and the movie "Desert Flower" is very touching and inspiring, Wallis. Since experiencing that "sacred" ceremony, Diri has seriously told himself in his heart that he must take his mother and sister to leave the land that has gone crazy, and let his daughter have a normal female life!
Wallisse. Diri is only one in 100 million of that huge number of vulnerable people, this group is still suffering from that damn suffering, and the vast majority of people, without Wallis. With such good luck in Diri, they may not be able to get out of the desert or blossom for the rest of their lives.
We living in China may not be able to imagine this cruel custom, but it still occurs thousands of kilometers away, and the number is counted in "billions".
Female circumcision is not a dust lost in history, but something that still happens all the time in the present day.
Twenty-four hours a day, every minute four young girls complete female circumcision, every hour two hundred and fifty women lose their reproductive rights, and every day 6,000 innocent women suffer!
Behind the shocking figures is a river of blood that has flowed alone for thousands of years, full of the remains of female genital organs and the silk threads that have been sutured again and again.
Wallisse. Diri was well aware of this fact, and with her wealth and status, she did not covet the intoxicating material life, but devoted herself to using her influence to give voice to the women who were still being circumcised at this moment, and to help them gain hope of freedom.
It is extremely difficult to change a bad habit that has been around for thousands of years, Wallis. In addition to publishing his autobiography, "Desert Flower", Deary personally served as the United Nations Goodwill Ambassador for the Abolition of Female Circumcision, because it is a task that requires the world's joint efforts to complete!
Abolition of circumcision is fraught with difficulties
December 29, 2015, Wallis. Diri arrives in the town of Oloitoktok, on the Kenyan-Tanzanian border, where a group of young girls have been placed in a local rescue center to escape female circumcision.
One of the girls, Leia, had the courage to flee the night before the circumcision, leaving her village and staying in the rescue center for two years.
Young Leia misses her family very much, but she is afraid that she will continue to complete the circumcision ceremony when she returns. Wallisse. One of Diri's missions was to help Leia return home and reunite with her family.
However, when Leia got out of the car to see her mother excitedly, Léa's mother looked indifferent, not a little excited about the return of her own daughter, and was happy to accompany Wallis. Diri just said a polite greeting and continued to go about his business.
The lost Leia walked into the former courtyard and saw her former relatives and friends, everyone was the same as Léya's mother, with a very cold attitude.
Wallisse. Di Li and his group, after in-depth understanding, figured out the reason for this indifferent attitude.
It turned out that Leia fled the town when her father took her to buy wedding clothes, and according to local Kenyan law, it is illegal to force underage women to marry, so after Leia left, her father was wanted by the police, and in order to avoid arrest, Léa's father did not return home for a long time.
Laya's mother has no choice, she shoulders the burden of family life alone, so Leya's return does not greet her with the surprised smiling faces of her relatives.
Wallisse. Diri sighed heavily, a tragedy stemming from the violent conflict between the cruel old rituals of the nation and the modern way of society.
Leia's family belongs to a semi-nomadic people in Kenya, which has millions of people, and circumcision is a tradition of this ethnic group, and if the women in the group do not complete the circumcision, they will be despised by the tribe, and the men of the ethnic group will not want to marry a girl like Leya.
On the one hand, the traditions of the ethnic group, on the other hand, the laws of Kenya, from the perspective of a third party, the former is extremely evil, the latter is the right choice, but in the face of a large group of their own lives, to change this concept, to say no to female circumcision, Leia has paid the price, and there are a large number of young women, in silence, dare not resist.
In this tribe, the girls here can still see the shadow of normal female life, and in some African countries, it is the whole country that continues to prevail this bad custom, those countries are poor and backward, and in the understanding of young girls in those countries, it seems that girls all over the world have been female circumcision, which is a normal tradition!
China also has its own traditions, in addition to the Qing Dynasty's foot-bound women, braided men, as well as heavenly burial, spiritualism and other old habits, some of which we still still have, in our own place of life, we can see the continuation of the tradition, both good and bad.
Qingming tomb sweeping, Mid-Autumn Festival moon viewing, Chinese New Year's Eve eating dumplings, we gladly accept and are willing to continue to pass on, but buying a house to see feng shui, getting married to see the yellow calendar, and in recent years frequently on the hot search of wedding troubles and other old habits, have not ended.
From this, we can probably get with Wallis. Diary empathizes that it's not hard to continue a good tradition, but it's very difficult to end a bad habit.
This is not a simple question of positive and negative, and there is a long way to go to completely solve it. Although the United Nations has taken the lead in declaring the abolition of female circumcision and issuing laws in various countries, not everyone in government, even in parliamentarians, supports the measure.
Don't point fingers at a tradition that has lasted for thousands of years, what we don't see in our eyes is actually the natural righteousness of those people.
This is one of the reasons why many people do not support.
Even former German Chancellor Angela Merkel has made similar remarks, which shows how stubborn the forces that refuse to abolish female circumcision are.
In the past, female circumcision also had the advantage of helping the leader control the reproduction of the group, and then ensure his rights and status in the group.
I don't know what the mentality of those who oppose abolition now holds, if it is a conspiracy for political purposes, sacrificing the reproductive freedom of hundreds of millions of young women in exchange for rights and status, then the intentions are sinister.
They must not have experienced such a nightmare to say it so lightly, and the blood-dripping merciless words to fuel the flame of female circumcision.
Can't give up!
Wallisse. When Diri told the world about her past, she made up her mind that even if it was a thousand difficulties, she could not give up, and she would use the second half of her life to awaken more companions and end the continuation of female circumcision together.
Because of Wallis. With the efforts of Diri and others, various countries have slowly increased the corrective measures for female circumcision.
There is a tribe in Africa called Marseille, and they are the tribes that still practice female circumcision to this day. Maasai girls who depend on cattle and sheep for their livelihood are less than ten years old, and they are circumcised and then used as commodities by their parents in exchange for a few cows and sheep, even if they are an old man who already has many wives. Because their parents value the cattle and sheep that are about to be harvested more than their biological daughters, whose fate is unpredictable.
However, it is such a tribe that gradually began to express opposition to female circumcision.
In addition, in 2020, Sudan, a country where female circumcision is legalized, finally issued a decree prohibiting female circumcision, and those who perform circumcision will be sentenced to three years in prison or high fines.
The incidence of female circumcision is slowly decreasing with the efforts of all parties. We have seen the light of day to end it completely, but there are still a large number of women around the world who have not been able to get rid of its entanglement, and many young African women studying in Asia and Europe have to go back to complete the circumcision ceremony, which is a choice after they have already received higher education.
Therefore, to change the bad habits that have prevailed in more than 30 countries in the world so far, there is a long way to go, as long as we do not give up, we can make the desert one day full of Hualies. Diri the same flower.