Recently, a video of "Mengwa not sleeping at night mother walking her baby late at night" has aroused heated discussions on the Internet. The doubts of some netizens and even child psychologists surprised the video publisher Ms. Li of Xinyang, Henan Province.
Recently, Ms. Li said in an interview with reporters that in the past six months, children have not slept before 10 pm, and when doing child protection, they found that it has affected development, and they have tried many methods before. Although "walking the baby late at night" has worked, it is not recommended that everyone follow suit.
Children's sleep experts also said that ensuring sleep duration is very important for children's development, memory, resistance, etc., and each parent has his own education method, and there is no need to go online for "walking the baby late at night".
Your child's sleep instability has affected development
Ms. Li is a post-90s full-time mother with two children, her daughter is almost 3 years old and her son has just turned 1 year old.
"Defeat magic with magic." On the evening of March 25, Ms. Li posted a video on her Douyin account "Xiaoman Disobedient", telling the process of taking her daughter Xiaoman out to shop until almost 6 o'clock in the morning when she refused to sleep at 2:30 a.m. and "wanted to go out to play". After the video was released, it quickly attracted the attention of netizens, and the video reposted by Weibo self-media alone reached more than 5 million views. Ms. Li said that the number of backstage views on Douyin has reached 40 million, "My fans have increased from dozens to more than 20,000, and I feel terrible." ”
Moe Wa doesn't sleep in the middle of the night and wants to go out to play
The reporter noticed that most netizens regarded this video as another example of "rectifying the doll circle after the 90s" and praised, "This mother knows experiential education." Some netizens believe that the mother did not lose her temper with the child during the whole process, and walked on the street with the child all night, the child's emotions did not cry, and the emotions of both mother and daughter were very stable.
Some netizens believe that the child proposed to go home to sleep in this process but was rejected by the mother, which is a somewhat extreme education method and does not play any educational role.
This case has also attracted the attention of parenting big V and many mother and baby self-media accounts. On March 27, Yan Yijia, a Weibo big V and senior psychological counselor, believed that this practice was "an adult guardian's parenting obligation to be borne by a two- or three-year-old child", which is a competitive education. On March 30, a well-known parenting public account also specially invited child psychology experts to analyze, concluding that "this education method is beyond the child's cognitive range, the child cannot understand the mother's intentions, and naturally does not play the role of education", and the current reading volume has exceeded 100,000+.
Xiaoman's mother, Ms. Li, told reporters that compared with the mixed reviews of comments, "the malice of private messages is much greater than that of the comment area, except for some doubts, including insults and even curses." ”
Ms. Li introduced that her daughter Xiaoman has not slept before 10 p.m. in the past six months, and may have formed a habit of going to bed late. If you go to bed before 10 p.m., you will wake up in the middle of the night, and you will play for about two hours after waking up, "whether it is going to bed late or waking up in the middle of the night, it has been noisy, but the effect is not very ideal." ”
"When I was a child care two months ago, the doctor found that Xiaoman's height was a little substandard, she is now almost 3 years old and 90 cm tall." Ms. Li introduced that the physical examination found that Xiaoman's indicators were normal, that is, her figure was short, "The child protection doctor asked her about her usual work and rest habits, and then suggested that she start with improving her sleep habits." ”
Walking the baby late at night is not emotional for a while, and the effect is good
In response to the question raised by netizens whether the child's outdoor activities are not enough and sleep too much during the day, Ms. Li introduced, "The child's outdoor exercise is also very large, and her skin may not be seen in the video, in fact, it is a little dark, and she is usually playing with children." If you go to bed after 10 o'clock and don't wake up all night, wake up at 7 o'clock in the morning and take a nap for 1 to 2 hours during the day. ”
The mother said that she consciously adjusted her child's sleep schedule.
After the childcare doctor made suggestions to improve sleep two months ago, Ms. Li began to consciously adjust, "Usually after washing at about 8 o'clock at night, I will play with her little brother in bed for a while, and then read a picture book, usually turning off the lights around 9:30 o'clock to let her fall asleep, but she has been in that kind of excitement and excitement, and she does not sleep." ”
"My daughter fell asleep at 10:30 that night and woke up around 12 o'clock. Because I slept with my two children, I hugged her and patted her, then coaxed her by the bed, and then talked about two picture books, but she didn't sleep, and then I asked her what she wanted to do? She said she wanted to go out and play, and I said it was cold and there were no children. She said she just wanted to go out and play, and then she was completely awake. ”
Some netizens asked why the father did not accompany him, Ms. Li said that just a few days the child's father had a flu, in order to fear of infecting the child, let him go out to live, "Before going out, I also communicated with the child's father, saying that I took my daughter out, let her play by herself for a while, and then see how she was, in fact, the child's father did not approve." ”
Ms. Li said that she did not make such a decision in an emotional situation at that time, "It's just a natural decision in that state, I have a lot of comments that I feel sorry for my child, but as a mother, I am also very reluctant and feel sorry for her." Like she told me that I was tired of walking, in fact, I also wanted to hold her, but I felt that since I went out, I should let her move more and let her be more clear about the purpose of bringing her out today. ”
"She came home at 6:03 a.m. that morning, changed her clothes and slept until 11 o'clock, and then didn't let her sleep again during the day." Talking about the effect of "walking the baby late at night", Ms. Li said, "Now I feel much better in the past two days, for example, if I play outdoors, when it is dark, she will remind my mother that it is dark, I said why is it dark, she said that she will go home and sleep after dark." Now I finish washing at 9 o'clock, lie down and sleep, and I don't need to be coaxed for a long time. ”
"The original intention of this matter is just to let the child sleep well", Ms. Li did not feel that she was much wrong in this matter, but she also admitted that "walking the baby late at night" is a "next strategy", "There are also comments and private messages from netizens, saying that their home can also try this method, but I don't mean that I recommend everyone to try it, this method is really no way." ”
Regarding the widely circulated statement on the Internet that "the post-90s rectified the doll circle", Ms. Li said, "I think everyone's concept of educating children is different, it is difficult to comment on others, I just think that maybe the post-90s generation will be more direct with children." ”
Sleep expert: It is not necessary to go online for late night walking
Regarding Ms. Li's approach, the reporter interviewed Jiang Chenggang, director of the Department of Sleep Psychology of the Affiliated Women and Children's Hospital of Chongqing Medical University and Chongqing Maternal and Child Health Care Hospital. He said that sleep is very important for children, like this two-and-a-half-year-old child, sleep at least more than 11 hours, "because the secretion of growth hormone is secreted during deep sleep in sleep, children do not have enough deep sleep, will lead to children's height problems." ”
The child offered to go home to sleep halfway but refused, and some netizens questioned the mother's approach.
"Children's sleep is also closely related to memory, because children's memories during the day are fragmented and fragmented, and the brain will re-encode and integrate the fragmented memories during the day during deep sleep at night, and it will be easier to extract them later." Director Jiang Chenggang said that good sleep can also improve immunity and deal with some negative emotions.
For the "rectification of the doll circle after the 90s", Jiang Chenggang believes that "it is very necessary to establish a bottom line and boundaries for children during education, and I think it is good not to let today's children be overly self-centered, but to establish a sense of awe." ”
For the child's unstable sleep time, Jiang Chenggang also analyzed other situations, "Generally, more than one year old, the child's biological clock is basically the same frequency as the parents, and most of the children over the age of two do not sleep in separate rooms, or sleep with adults." But after some post-90s or post-00s give birth, they will also play late when they bring their babies, get up late in the morning, and the time and rest time are not synchronized with the child, which will slowly affect the child, so that the child's biological clock will also be disordered. ”
"We found that there are many such cases, and we will first ask the caregiver to adjust the work and rest time to basically the same frequency as the child's sleep. If you do not have the same frequency, you must also pay attention to the sound and light at home, such as the sound of mobile phones, lights, etc., which will also inadvertently affect the child's sleep. ”
Jiang Chenggang suggested, "In fact, children wake up in the middle of the night, sometimes it is very normal. For a two-year-old child, do not deliberately satisfy him after waking up, but accompany him in bed, talk to him, and do not escalate this emotion. ”
Speaking about Ms. Li's practice of "walking her baby late at night", Jiang Chenggang said that in fact, for children, it may establish a fear of expressing needs. However, different children react differently to this approach, and perhaps the mother knows her child, and this method is applicable, "We don't have to follow suit, but we don't have to go online." ”
Transferred from | Upstream News
Source: Heilongjiang Traffic Radio