#这样做父母不焦虑 #
Dear child,
Recently, my mother read this book "Attitude", which is a family letter written by Uncle Wu to his daughter, which tells six themes: philosophy of life, insight into the world, treatment of money, interpersonal relationships, effective learning, and doing things.
This is a father's patient and sincere education of his daughter, very practical but without losing wisdom. This arouses the desire of mom to want to share it with you.
Uncle Wu's words are well said:
No matter what you do, attitude is important, without a correct attitude, nothing will be successful.
Uncle Wu's book "Attitude", there is a chapter on the theme of "God likes stupid people", I think it is very suitable for your current learning attitude, it is necessary to talk to you as well.
He said: Mengxin (daughter) also likes to be lazy when doing math homework, writing messy, skipping steps, and not liking to think, which is a bad habit.
The fundamental reasons are: first, I did not understand some basic concepts thoroughly, and second, there is a problem with the method of doing the questions, and I like to skip steps, so it is easy to make mistakes, so the exam is not good.
The best way is to do things step by step, that is, the steps to do things are to do it step by step, step by step to make results, never opportunistic.
Because God likes stupid people and does not like people who are smarter than himself.
Why do you say that?
If you feel smarter than God, you will overestimate your abilities so much that you keep making mistakes, and the result of your mistakes is all kinds of punishment, including poor grades.
Conversely, if you admit that God is smarter than you, you will be diligent in doing things, conscientiously within God's scope, and specific to the exam, you will honestly write the steps, on the one hand, not only can avoid many accidents, but also find mistakes to correct, and finally get good grades.
Through this incident, I thought that it was very similar to your current attitude to learning.
I find that you often find that you do things quickly, feel that there are some processes that you can fully master, will directly think that you can omit steps, and then as soon as your mother says about you, you will become irritable, resulting in tension in our relationship.
This is mainly reflected in these things:
Last week, your art teacher privately chatted with me and said: Coco mother, Coco's recent painting has regressed, her baby is actually quite smart, just troublesome, a little in distress and retreat mentality, this week I even coaxed to teach, the effect of painting is very different.
Wow, a comparison, you can indeed see whether there is a heart to paint.
In this regard, my mother is also very grateful to the teacher's patient teaching, and my mother will guide you to overcome it slowly.
Actually, I don't need to say it to the teacher, I also know that sometimes you are more impatient.
For example, if you are too lazy to clean up every day, you will throw things here and there, and when you want to use them, you will shout everywhere: Mom, where are my things.
The teacher assigns homework every day, writes as much as there is, never writes more than half a word or turns more than half a page of the book, for me to additionally assign her to listen to English several times a day or read the text several times, crying to fight, the writing is too poor, forcing you to rewrite you cry too.
When you dictate or silently write randomly, you always make mistakes, and then you will obediently calm down to make up for your homework (reluctantly).
But this kind of persecution is not what we like, because chickens flying dogs jump is unavoidable.
But many times to guide you to overcome, you still make great progress. Mom is really super happy to see your current words, so I want to praise you hard and let you float, haha ~~
So in this world, there is never a shortage of smart people. But many times, smart people don't necessarily do things too stupid.
You may not understand it now, but you have to remember that God loves stupid people, and you will learn it later.
Love Your Mom 3/25/2023