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The skillful "mastery of husbandry" of the first eldest woman in the Beijing circle was all filmed into a bad drama by her husband

Feng Xiaogang's third drama "Echo" was ridiculed again.

The slots are mainly focused on hanging sheep's heads and selling dog meat, turning a suspenseful detective drama into a marriage ethics drama.

The female policeman Ran Dongdong (played by Song Jia) is strong and neurotic, suspecting that her husband Mu Dafu (played by Wang Yang) is cheating and loves interrogation, and even the cases he handled have cheating cases;

And Mudav is a writer, straight and floating.

This setting is like the accusation of Xu Fan to Feng Xiaogang, the planner of this play.

Image source | On "Echo", under "Film and Television", the character setting is really similar

Of course, there is also Feng vs. Xu here.

Image source | "Echo"

In fact, Feng has been immersed in writing himself in recent years, and "Old Cannon" and "Only Yun Knows" are also personal memoirs.

Although it is an accusation, but found that no, in recent years, Xu Fan's traces in reality in Feng Xiaogang's works have become more and more obvious, and sure enough, the old husband and wife will let the other party subtly trace.

Just talk about this drama about the marriage of Feng Xiaogang and Xu Fan.

Gone with the wind has always had a feeling.

It is not so much that Feng Xiaogang has PUA Xu Fan, but that these two have an inexplicable fate.

These two people actually have a side that secretly matches the public's impression.

Let's start with Xu Fan.

Is Xu Fan in love with brain? Much like it indeed.

In the play, Ran Dongdong is honest and paranoid about men, and after checking the diary, he found that her husband's 11 sexual relations with his ex-girlfriend were true, and he happily made a candlelight dinner to celebrate with him.

Not jealous of the lingering itself, but exaggerating the meaning of the so-called "honesty", not freely, but pathologically enclosure self-sproute.

Image source | "Echo"

And Xu Fan's response to Feng Xiaogang's lace news "They flutter, anyway, our men, don't suffer losses", belongs to a logic:

It was possible to play, but as soon as he came home, I didn't lose.

The victim of the murder in the play is a junior of the boss. The three views of the boss's wife are Xu Fan's plus version.

It is the foolishness of the ancient middle woman.

I don't dare to look at the full picture of this man, I only dare to capture a little, and I deceive myself that he still has part of his loyalty.

Xu Fan is suspected of being in love with the brain and has obvious manifestations:

When I go out to travel, I always call and Feng Xiaogang is tired and crooked, one brother at a time, and speaks softly. Even shouted the nickname "just", causing others to fall through their glasses.

The skillful "mastery of husbandry" of the first eldest woman in the Beijing circle was all filmed into a bad drama by her husband

Image source | "Sister Fancy"

In fact, Xu Fan is not as submissive as he seems.

In "Sister Fancy", she is the kind that will fight with other sisters.

Gentleness is not her nature, in some ways her "means".

Xu Fan is very fascinated by the concept of home, and you will find that even when it comes to the most marriage-affecting topics such as cheating, her words are still "the one in our family".

It is said that when she was in college, she chased her teacher Wang Zhiwen and washed her hands and made soup, but she was thrown out of the house when she broke up.

Later, Feng Xiaogang satisfied her hope of "home", so she expressed this meaning many times:

Feng Xiaogang took her in.

It's a bit like the sister-in-law in "Crazy" that Piao analyzed before. In Yu Qiang, Gao Qiqiang is her love, rather than her tool to fill the male role in the perfect family.

Xu Fan is the same, to some extent, Feng Xiaogang is the tool of her "family".

Image source | "Sister Fancy"

In the autobiographical style "Only Yun Knows", the landlady played by the heroine Xu Fan is emphasizing the concept of security and home.

From this level, she is not only not a love brain, but also quite purposeful.

And Feng Xiaogang, who is full of lace news, is a standard scumbag in the public impression.

He once publicly said on Weibo that his wife looked at her husband's mobile phone to make herself bored, the implication is that I steal food, you are uncomfortable to watch, or don't look at it, after all, you can't control me, I won't change.

The image of scumbags is deeply rooted in the hearts of the people.

And in the play, the cheating boss is also a standard scumbag.

Image source | "Echo"

Isn't this remark translated as "Did I make the mistakes that all men in the world make?" ”

This straight and scummy man, is he ruthless and unrighteous?

One-sided, Feng Xiaogang did have the affectionate side of hitting Xu Fan.

In the play, when the policewoman's husband was asked about the trajectory of his actions at a certain time, even the audience suspected that he was cheating, not to mention his wife. As a result, it was the father-in-law who was cheated out of money, and he helped to deal with it and conceal it - even if he was misunderstood.

Feng Xiaogang also has this side.

He arranged for his daughter to study Tsing Yi for a few days, just to surprise Xu Fan, who had been playing since elementary school.

He is very delicate in this matter.

He didn't engage in brainless flower delivery, but directly hit what Xu Fan really cared about.

Speaking of the significance of drama to Xu Fan, Feng Xiaogang even choked with emotion.

Sure enough, Feng Xiaogang touched himself badly, and Xu Fan was even more touched and broken.

But.

The contrast between "Xu Fan's selfishness" and "Feng Xiaogang's affectionateness" is still not exactly them in the true sense.

In the play, the wife of the flower heart boss always puts on a big mother-in-law in the face of female police interrogation.

Counting what her husband once was, now he is obedient and impeccable - except for cheating.

The skillful "mastery of husbandry" of the first eldest woman in the Beijing circle was all filmed into a bad drama by her husband

Image source | "Echo"

But it doesn't matter, adhering to the principle of "I always matter most, he will go home when he has had enough", and there is even a bit of pride in his eyebrows.

At first glance, it seems to be really a good deal.

Just give in to the matter of cheating, you can reap a superior material life and a "perfect" husband.

This is also very similar to Xu Fan's logic.

But this reminds me of Ban Zhao's "Female Commandments".

"The Female Commandment" is actually a will written by Ban Zhao to his unmarried daughters, the purpose of which is not to let the daughters learn to dedicate, "to help the body" to expose its ultimate goal, self-interest. The purpose of creating a perfect image is to make it difficult for the husband's family to find no reason.

This is a move to advance with retreat and overcome rigidity with softness.

Xu Fan often exudes similar strategic thinking.

Image source | "Amazing Sister"

Even when it comes to the small things in life, she is happy to apply.

For example, when Feng Xiaogang was refused to wash her hair, she proposed:

Just put your head down, I'll wash it.

It seems that I suffered a loss, but I achieved my goal, which is to advance by retreating.

She was proud to be able to skillfully use this method to "control" Feng Xiaogang in a sense.

But why do we always feel twisted when we look at it? Because the so-called "retreat to advance" is just the helplessness of ancient women under the huge force majeure social atmosphere.

The Great Qing is dead, so Xu Fan's happiness, we can't appreciate it.

Let's talk about Feng Xiaogang.

To be honest, this drama is really old and pretentious.

The aunt of the landlord of the murdered girl in the homicide case made small remarks when questioned by the police:

Image source | "Echo"

Such a narration, there are more than one lines.

Image source | "Echo"

It can only be said that not a second of Feng Primary School's Chinese class is wasted, just a little unrealistic, too many word games, really greasy.

Greasy, out of "self-righteous" affection.

In the play, the cheating boss emphasizes his responsibility while cheating:

Promise the wife and children the same will do it; For my wife and children, the company, when I faced temptation, I once explicitly refused, and I was an irreparable Yanagita Megumi...

Image source | "Echo"

Feng Xiaogang was also pretentious.

His deep affection for Xu Fan is set against the background of his lace news.

This so-called affection can even be traced back to him and his ex-wife.

His ex-wife is his wife before he goes out, and when he is working outside, his ex-wife takes care of the elderly for him, but in exchange for him to chase Xu Fan as a married.

Image source | The soul questioning in the play "Echoes"

Feng Xiaogang publicly expressed his guilt for his ex-wife, and also left enough material security for his ex-wife's daughter after the divorce.

But don't forget that these friendships are contrasted with other inferior scumbags, the so-called affection, which is also based on infidelity.

Another example: he once "affectionately" reused a certain ice.

In the early stage, "Mobile Phone" used its beauty, and in the later stage, "Pan Jinlian" used its starlight, but after using up, he drew a clear line in public: "People are stars, not actors", which is full of pretentiousness.

His affection is not pure and hard to appreciate.

At this point, these two are completely right with the enthusiastic but also indifferent policewoman in the play, and the affectionate and actual hypocritical policewoman husband.

They are all mixed, and even a little strange in personality.

Let's just talk about two details.

The female police officer will kindly worry for the victim's family, but in the face of unconvicted suspects, even the "mother-in-law" who is a scumbag victim to some extent, and her own husband's interrogation, there is always an unclear smile on her face.

Image source | "Echo"

Solving the case is not for the truth, but for the thrill of poking a lie.

And the policewoman's husband, when his wife killed the criminal, actually stood on the side of netizens and acted as a reasonable guest with high morality, questioning that his wife should not make up the gun after hitting the criminal, and his life and death should be handed over to the judge.

In fact, the criminal had already inserted many knives in the hostages at that time, and even if he moved again, it would be a threat to the hostages.

Just like these two gray characters, in the play, there has been a huge crack in the marriage.

Image source | "Echo"

On the contrary, it is Feng Xiaogang Xu Fan in reality, and his feelings are stable.

Because this couple, there are two pain points in choosing a mate that make them extremely suitable:

First, utilitarian.

Second, satisfy self-esteem.

These two points are enough to make this marriage that others can't understand become fate.

Let's start with utilitarianism.

It is said that why did Wang Zhiwen throw Xu Fan out of the house?

Because he was high, he refused to recommend Xu Fan to the crew. Xu Fan could only find a way out on his own, and when filming Concubine Zhen in "Great Eunuch Li Lianying", he had an affair with director Tian Zhuangzhuang.

It can be seen that Xu Fan's criteria for choosing a mate are not only to have a family, but also to be a man who can help his career.

And Feng Xiaogang fits this point.

Her masterpieces are all related to Feng Xiaogang: "The Great Sajiang", "Forever Lost My Love", "Not Seen, Not Dispersed", "A Sigh", "Tangshan Earthquake".

So she is willing to be a good wife and let him be a big man at home, because it is not easy for him to be outside.

This seems to be a very fair and complementary division of labor.

And Feng Xiaogang is the same.

At the time of "The Great Sajia", Feng Xiaogang was still a screenwriter who only co-wrote the script with Zheng Xiaolong, and Xu Fan was already the heroine.

Compared with the ex-wife of a pure virtuous wife and good mother, he and Xu Fan are of course more able to help his career.

Image source | "Kefan Listen"

Let's talk about self-esteem.

In fact, Xu Fan and Feng Xiaogang are both people who care about self-esteem, and it just so happens that Xu Fan is especially good at taking care of each other's self-esteem.

As we all know, Feng Xiaogang's road to fame was not easy, and he was looked down upon by the big courtyard disciples all the way, but he could only greet him with a smile, and his self-esteem was thwarted several times in his early years.

But Xu Fan used the same specifications as serving the emperor to make Feng Xiaogang feel that he had found dignity.

Feng Xiaogang is extremely useful for this method, and in "Only Yun Knows", there is a very absurd scene.

The male protagonist affectionately summons the heroine to return home after her death, but do you know what the first thing the heroine does when she goes home?

Instead of hugging your lover with tears, you just pick up the ashtray of the male protagonist to clean it, pay attention, without gloves. Then, he hurried to the bedroom to fold the quilt.

The skillful "mastery of husbandry" of the first eldest woman in the Beijing circle was all filmed into a bad drama by her husband

Image source | "Only Yun Knows"

For a short dozen seconds, he was doing housework.

And the male protagonist looks at it with a foolish look, in his perspective, this is not housework, but a manifestation of love!

While Xu Fan maintained Feng Xiaogang's dignity, he consciously safeguarded his own dignity.

Xu Fan once said that Feng Xiaogang was a dog temper, but when asked again, she gave an absolutely decent answer: it was just a small joke between husband and wife, and her husband's temper was okay.

The skillful "mastery of husbandry" of the first eldest woman in the Beijing circle was all filmed into a bad drama by her husband

Image source | "Film and Television Billboard"

Including her seemingly proud mother-in-law's remarks, how proud can it be? It's just stubbornness.

Watch her response to the lace news:

Image source | "Film and Television Billboard"

She doesn't get angry, she doesn't seem to be hurt so much, she wants it, but a decent one.

Moreover, Xu Fan had love for Feng Xiaogang.

When she first got married, she was so happy that she felt that people on the street were smiling and gained 5 pounds a month.

The later mother-in-law theory is just a self-consistent and decent rhetoric after love disappoints people.

But these two points are enough to generate the toughest chain of their marriage.

Xu Fan's attitude towards Feng Xiaogang later was: too lazy to care.

In fact, in terms of the couple's successful history, Feng Xiaogang and Xu Fan are really very similar to the founding emperor and empress.

Now, the emperor is late, Feng Xiaogang's situation in internal entertainment is not as good as before, and he has the tendency to exhaust his talents by repeatedly writing himself.

Two works, the same set of lines.

Image source | On "Only Yun Knows", under "Echo"

Feng Xiaogang is no longer the super director who dares to scold the audience for garbage and still makes people flock to it.

Since the beginning of "North and South", he has wanted to please female audiences, but he accidentally shows his father's taste, even awkward.

Just like this drama, using the female perspective of a policewoman to interpret the world, but still talking in disguise, what he appreciates the most, Xu Fan's sense of dedication of old-fashioned women.

Nowadays, the audience is not paying for it.

But it doesn't matter, Xu Fan still pays.

In reality, it was Feng Xiaogang, who was unknown at the time, who fell in love with Xu Fan at first sight, but in "Only Yun Knows", it became Xu Fan's love at first sight with her husband.

The skillful "mastery of husbandry" of the first eldest woman in the Beijing circle was all filmed into a bad drama by her husband

Image source | "Only Yun Knows"

Feng Xiaogang's narcissism is still escalating.

The situation changes, but the pattern within their marriage does not change.

Still, the king and his queen.

Xu Fan still accurately satisfied Feng Xiaogang's fantasies about women, so he also controlled Feng to some extent. And Feng Xiaogang can still get the pleasure of a "big man" from inside the marriage, even if he can't get ahead of the storm outside.

Xu Fan recalled that Feng Xiaogang chased her, asked her out to dinner, and then drunk himself.

Image source | "The Venus Show"

Yes, drunk.

Passionate and long-term love, fierce and bloody breakdown, after all, is a minority. Adult marriages are too chaotic, ambiguous, entangled, private, and dark to say.

Many people's marital status is to stay half sober and half drunk.

In fact, one muddles through, one is self-paralyzed, don't they know it? They know too well.

Although Xu Fan helped Feng Xiaogangyuan, he himself laughed at his temper in "Old Cannon", borrowing the mouth of Xu Qing's character.

Dog face

Change is change

The skillful "mastery of husbandry" of the first eldest woman in the Beijing circle was all filmed into a bad drama by her husband

Image source | "Old Cannon"

Xu Fan also said frankly that husband and wife are just legitimate enemies, and sometimes they really hate each other, but she doesn't want to care.

Image source | "Amazing Sister"

If the difficulty of loving the world is ten, there must be eight levels of matching.

Marriage is actually not so dreamy, and in the treacherous Vanity Fair, it is not easy to keep a stable relationship.

Even if feelings end up giving way completely to the exchange of benefits.

But being able to give value to each other, rather than torturing each other, is rare for old husbands and wives.

Plainly.

In the end of marriage, what is left is often not love, but a balance of needs and the bottom line.

The absurdity of what others see may be irrelevant to them in a drunken dream of life and death.

Image source | "Amazing Sister"

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