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On Ms. Xu Fan's 57-year-old beautiful face, we seem to be able to clearly witness the old and wise proverb - "Feng Shui takes turns". Looking back, she was one of the most famous "Four Tsing Yi" in the film and television industry in Chinese mainland, this beautiful and outstanding woman, with her delicate and charming appearance and calm and elegant manners, has won the favor of countless TV crews and received meticulous attention from the media.
At that time, she was dazzling and radiant, with an amazing eternal youthful vitality.
However, when Xu Fan took her daughter Xu Duoduo to visit her husband Feng Xiaogang's crew with great expectations, she encountered an unexpected cold reception.
On the set, many actors and staff stepped forward to extend cordial greetings to the respected "director's wife", but Feng Xiaogang turned a blind eye to the arrival of his wife Xu Fan.
Xu Fan cautiously approached behind her husband and gently stroked the back of his neck, trying to convey the deep feelings of longing in her heart. However, Feng Xiaogang didn't care about this, and didn't even give his wife a glimmer of response.
In the end, Xu Fan could only endure the discomfort in his heart, barely squeezed out an embarrassed smile, and said to her husband awkwardly: "You should be busy first", and then took her daughter's hand and silently stepped aside to wait.
According to the staff at the scene, after they recorded this embarrassing scene and uploaded it to the Internet, it immediately aroused heated discussions and comments among the majority of netizens. Some people ridiculed Director Feng that he might have become accustomed to the prosperous life of the entertainment industry and was tired of his wife Xu Fan, while others were indignant at Xu Fan's "compromise" and lamented the importance of women's self-independence.
However, more netizens pointed the finger directly at Xu Fan's appearance changes. Compared with this, they were more concerned and surprised at why the once radiant "Tsing Yi" had now become so old, haggard and wrinkled, and they could not imagine that she was the wife of the noble and rich man.
It is really embarrassing that a star who used to be in the entertainment industry has now fallen into such a situation, and I can't help but want to explore the reason.
If you want to have an in-depth insight into the reasons for Xu Fan's current situation, you need to get a glimpse of the hardships he has experienced and the road of courage and perseverance. In her youth, Xu Fan was the beloved of her mentor Wang Zhiwen, and this deep friendship made her a "sufferer" who was persevering in the face of great pressure.
At that time, Xu Fan lived in a cramped rental house every day, serving the "distinguished guest" - Wang Zhiwen wholeheartedly, taking care of the housework for him and taking care of the trivial matters of life. However, in the face of Xu Fan's dedication and loyalty, Wang Zhiwen turned a blind eye and turned a deaf ear to her hard work.
What's even more distressing is that when Xu Fan begged Wang Zhiwen to match her in the entertainment industry and provide some valuable job opportunities after she graduated, Wang Zhiwen not only did not help, but ruthlessly hurt Xu Fan's dignity and completely denied her talent, making Xu Fan cry sadly.
In the face of such indifferent and ruthless treatment, Xu Fan could only wipe away his tears, strengthen his determination, and rely on his own efforts to seek a breakthrough in this competitive circle. Lady luck finally favored Xu Fan, and director Tian Zhuangzhuang had a discerning eye and invited her to participate in the movie "The Great Eunuch Li Lianying".
Xu Fan is like a new life, caring for Tian Dao, and going all out to devote himself to his work. However, just when her career was just starting, Wang Zhiwen was furious, threw away all Xu Fan's personal belongings, and expelled her from the house mercilessly. What's even more unfortunate is that in order to avoid gossip, Tian Zhuangzhuang, who has a close relationship with Xu Fan, also cut off contact with her.
Just when Xu Fan was at the lowest point in her life, she became famous with the movie "The Great Satan" and met Feng Xiaogang, a hot director at the time. Despite the notoriety of the "third party", the desperate Xu Fan still clung to this life-saving straw, and after seven years of unremitting pursuit, he finally successfully married into a wealthy family and became Feng Xiaogang's wife.
Although Xu Fan married into a wealthy family as he wished, he soon discovered that her husband Feng Xiaogang was really a wanderer and could be called the "number one scumbag" in the entertainment industry.
What is shocking is that in 2009, the emotional turmoil of the famous director Feng Xiaogang was ruthlessly exposed by a group of crazy media paparazzi, and the relationship between Director Feng and Shen Xing, a beautiful anchor who was popular at the time, was also known to everyone. However, when this incident caused a sensation across the country, Xu Fan, a rare woman, got up to defend her husband and publicly criticized Shen Xing as a "moth to a fire", which was destined to end in regret.
With the help of this "Huairou Policy", Feng Xiaogang was able to return to his family and continue his career as a director.
However, a few years later, the same thing happened during the filming of his new work, the action blockbuster "Lao Paoer". Feng Xiaogang had a strong interest in the heroine Xu Qing, and in order to cooperate with her, he signed this drama without hesitation.
During the filming, Feng Xiaogang cared for Xu Qing very much, and even after winning the Golden Horse Best Actor, he actually expressed his love to Xu Qing in public, calling her "dream lover", which surprised everyone.
In 2017, in order to choose the heroine of the movie "Fanghua", Feng Xiaogang did everything he could, inviting more than 50 young and beautiful dancers to his private villa for interviews.
On set, he even forced one of the young actresses to dance in front of everyone, which eventually angered the actress's father, Chen Daoming.
Faced with a series of scandals and blatant cheating by her husband, Xu Fan never stopped it, but chose to endure it silently and avoid talking about it. In an interview, she even referred to herself as "Mrs. Feng Xiaogang", a title that made her feel at ease, as if she had a solid support.
Exploring the reasons behind it, the reason why Xu Fan is willing to be so aggrieved and self-objectify is entirely to maintain this marriage from breakdown. In fact, before entering this marriage, she had already made a cruel and painful decision - to completely entrust herself to Feng Xiaogang.
On the one hand, Xu Fan is extremely proud to be able to marry into a wealthy family and become the wife of a well-known director. This allowed her to finally escape the tragic fate of the past and live a comfortable and comfortable life in the upper class.
Although she bears the notoriety of "Little Three", she believes that this is also a price to bear.
On the other hand, Xu Fan knows that his appearance is no longer as youthful and beautiful as before, and it may be an unattainable dream to find a partner who is better than Feng Xiaogang.
Moreover, over the years, she has successfully "tamed" Feng Xiaogang, turning him into a "child"-like existence that cannot leave her care, and letting go is simply a luxury for her.
With this rock-solid psychological determination, Xu Fan resolutely decided to fully accept and actively adapt to Feng Xiaogang's authoritarian and authoritarian style! In public, she was willing to become the "vulnerable group in the married life of a strong man", turning a blind eye to Feng Xiaogang's lace news and uninhibited private life choices, and even dealing with such situations with avoidance and downplay.
Once she returns to her warm family, she will devote herself to taking care of the details of her beloved husband's daily life, for fear of causing him any shortcomings or unhappiness. She deeply understands that this way of sacrificing her own dignity and enduring the cynicism of others is a kind of "magic medicine" to maintain the marriage relationship, even if it costs her.
In order to achieve this goal, Xu Fan had to give up her last self-esteem and obey her husband. Those "third parties" who once had an affair with Feng Xiaogang have become "moths to the fire" and pathetic characters who are destined to "fail" in her eyes.