The Internet is good, you can be angry at home without leaving home.
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Depression is like drowning in a shoal
There is a child in Hangzhou who is not adapted to the junior high school, his grades have plummeted, and his parents are anxious, the child said,
"I don't want to go to school anymore... Mom, I seem to be sick and want to go to the doctor. ”
Parents were furious, only wondering why the child was so lazy? Make a bunch of excuses for not wanting to go to school!
Both of them are high-level intellectuals, graduated from top universities in China, and never thought that they would give birth to such a "non-productive" child!
After several arguments, with a "slap in the face" mood, he took the child to the hospital, which diagnosed moderate depression.
And the attending physician described,
"After talking to my child several times, I learned that my parents are usually demanding and stubborn, and since kindergarten, her family has asked her to play the piano for several hours a day.
After the visit, the mother even asked the child to stop taking antidepressants regularly and replaced her with vitamin tablets.
When she came to me again in the third year of junior high school, she was already suicidal. ”
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When I heard that their children were depressed, many parents said this:
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"Ta looks like a good person, there is no missing arm or leg, who believes when he is sick."
"It's just that the psychological endurance is poor, this thing can't stand up, what will happen to the pressure of life in the future?"
Perhaps the root of the problem does not lie in depression at all, but in the arrogance of parents, who are high and unwilling to understand.
Without depression, there will be other rare diseases that ordinary people cannot understand, don't you understand that if you don't recognize, the disease does not exist?
People who are afraid of heights will panic on ordinary tall buildings and suddenly lose their mobility;
People with claustrophobia will suddenly have shortness of breath in a closed elevator and fall into fainting;
Patients with fainting will be flustered and dizzy after seeing blood, and their limbs will be cold;
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Patients with these diseases look the same as ordinary people, and the reasons for their pain are difficult to understand.
We are parents, not doctors. We are confused about many diseases, and we can't figure it out.
Depression? An emotional illness, the doctor said that the mood caused the disease; But in the eyes of many adults, depression is just that they can't think about it - hypocrisy.
But parents, treating diseases and saving people is not our job, there are a large number of professionals who have graduated from famous schools and studied hard and have been practicing for decades.
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Even if we can't understand it, why don't we want to try?
Depressed people are like drowning in a shallow, outsiders seem to be no big deal, but those who are in it are already breathless.
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A satirical word can drown a person in shallow water; A big hand that cares can also save her to get up and step forward.
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Children who are "easily depressed" have their own talents
Children who are prone to depression tend to have mood ups and downs easily.
· A small thing that is common in the eyes of ordinary people, a word of greeting, quietly set off a storm in their hearts.
· Insecure, always doubting whether you are good and whether you can make others really like you.
· Dislike large groups of many people, prefer small organizations with few people.
· There is perfectionism, trying to avoid any mistakes, and feeling extremely guilty once you hurt others.
· More prone to anxiety...
Sensitivity is their weakness.
Sensitivity is also a gift from God.
Some people are naturally dull, in our words, "big heart", these children are completely worry-free.
But extreme blunt sensations can lead to apathy and lack of empathy.
I once saw such a post in Zhihu, the roommate who claimed to be "very good" was ill and moaned in pain for several minutes, and she actually cursed, swore a lot, and complained for days.
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People are social animals, people who lack empathy will suffer big losses in interpersonal communication, and it is not easy to accumulate contacts over time.
Highly sensitive people often have a strong ability to empathize. As long as they want to, they know how to put other people in a comfortable state in their relationship.
Most people probably don't know that strong emotions are a common trait of gifted people, whether children or adults.
Strong learning ability
Perception and learning must complement each other, and God has opened more senses for highly sensitive people and not for others, so they can receive more signals and mobilize more emotions.
This can be a nuisance, making children more vulnerable to their environment, becoming vulnerable, depressed, and depressed.
But mature highly sensitive people have extraordinary creativity, imagination, insight, passion and love, and a strong ability to be alone.
They can clearly feel their talents and observe details that others do not observe. No matter what you learn, you can quickly find the know-how, know your strengths, and make it easier to distinguish between good mentors and friends.
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It's easier to get people's hearts
Empathy is a rare virtue.
For example, the pair of parents mentioned at the beginning obviously did not have it in the incident.
However, empathy is an important plus in interpersonal communication.
Understanding is an umbrella that is independent of wind and snow, and many people spend their lives pursuing an intimate person who can understand ta.
When the other person knows that we can understand his feelings, he will feel understood, and they will empathize with each other, so that sensitive people are more likely to build deep relationships with others.
Great view
Most people are unable to do or are unwilling to think differently, and from their own perspective, they will inevitably fall into a black-and-white thinking dilemma.
And highly sensitive people who are good at empathy have a truly open and inclusive mentality, can talk with all kinds of people, and will not fall into the situation of loneliness.
Shhhh
If you also have a sensitive child,
Try telling ta,
Baby, you are not fragile, you are just kind, so you are prone to tears and sadness.
But as long as you want, there will be many, many people in this world who like you~
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