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"Dialogue for Life": Understand these 3 truths to make your old age life more exciting

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When it comes to models, in the eyes of the public, in addition to being beautiful and beautiful, the most important point is youth.

When Meyer Musk first entered the industry at the age of 15, her peers also told her, saying that modeling careers usually end at the age of 18. Initially, in order to live, Meyer Musk took as long as he had a job and left when he had a show, and appeared on the cover model of the health edition of Time magazine in his 40s.

I thought that this had reached the ceiling of the model and became an old man in the modeling industry. As everyone knows, at the age of 69, Meyer Musk became the spokesperson of the best-selling makeup brand in the United States, ushered in the golden period of his modeling industry at the age of 71, and later published his own books.

As the old saying goes: If you don't want to grow old, you won't be old.

Therefore, no matter how old you are, as long as you don't think you are old, you will always be young and life will be as exciting.

As mentioned in The Dialogue for Life, the two best ways to grow old are "grow to age" and "grow old positively."

"Dialogue for Life": Understand these 3 truths to make your old age life more exciting

"Growing to old age" means that we cannot take the initiative to grow old, but choose a growth mentality, wake up with such a mentality every day, and continue to grow and contribute in the face of aging adversity.

"Actively aging" is more of a state of mind, in the second half of life, no longer pursue external achievements, but pay more attention to their inner growth, become more want to become, change to who I am.

The two authors of this article, Richard. Ryder at the age of 41 met with another author, David Ry. Shapiro met by chance, when Dave was 28 years old, in the eyes of Dave, according to the eyes of the world, Richard was about to enter middle age, but the age gap did not affect them, and in later interactions, the two became friends and co-authored books to grow together. Richard was 76 and Dave was 63 at the time of writing, and "growing old" and "actively aging" are also the best interpretations of their growth.

The three translators Liu Caimei, Zhou Meiyan and Jiang Shu have also been engaged in work related to old age and psychology, and the concepts of "growing up to old age" and "actively growing old" in the book are also the content and spirit they spread every day.

01Clarify goals and make life more meaningful

There was once a very hot question on the Internet: "Since all life must die, what is the meaning of life?" The question attracted 20 million views and nearly 80,000 answers, and the results were surprising, with most people thinking it was meaningless, just alive.

So what is the meaning of life?

The author believes that only the drive and desire that really come from the depths of our hearts can make us feel the meaning of life.

"Dialogue for Life": Understand these 3 truths to make your old age life more exciting

There is such a story in the book:

Ed Rapp, president of the Caterpillar Inc. group, set his life goal in high school to "have a positive impact on the people and responsibilities in his life," and he has been working toward that goal.

But life always presents us with extremely difficult challenges, and at the age of 56, Ed was diagnosed with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS). Even so, Ed hasn't given up on his life goals, saying that if he can make a difference at ALS, his life can be considered wonderful.

He left his job to embrace new challenges and eventually became a global leader in researching, treating, and finding treatments for ALS. Also created "Stay Strong vs. Stay Strong vs. ALS), which raised more than $14 million for research in frozen people by the end of 2020.

It is precisely because of Ed's dedication to his goals that he chose to be a light in a dark tunnel, constantly awakening, growing, constantly giving, to bring change to others, and finally realizing his "positive impact on people and responsibilities in life" setting and living his own meaning.

So how do you determine your purpose in life?

The book also gives us three simple steps:

Step 1: Confirm how you want to help

The process of confirmation can give yourself more patience and try, just as the author Richard initially wanted to do everything in his power to help everyone. He did a lot of research, seminars, meetings and lectures, but these did not make him gain, but became a kind of consumption.

But it was also in the process that Richard discovered that what he really loved and was good at was content and sharing through writing and speaking.

So, we can ask ourselves, what is my talent? What do I like to do? Only by figuring this out can you make better use of your talents to help others.

Step 2: Be clear about what kind of person you want to help

Richard's books have more than 1 million readers around the world, and he is happy to share his books and his ideas. He believed that the goal of life was to achieve self-growth and full giving as much as possible, and that for those in their 50s, it was more important to actively age rather than passively age, and later he focused on people's transition and transition from adulthood to old age, and this book is no different.

So, we can ask ourselves, what kind of people do I want to help? Why should I help such a person?

Step 3: Find out what motivates you (and what will make you give it your all)

If we only stop at the above two steps, find our own interests, or find the problem we want to solve, it is not enough, we need to think about the solution to the problem.

Richard said that he had worked in personnel for a well-known company in the industry and had a successful career, but in fact, there always seemed to be a gap in his heart that had not been filled.

He later set up a company called Lunch Hour, Ltd. and gave him ideas if someone invited him to lunch. Whenever he sees a customer solve the current confusion because of his opinion, he is especially happy, and he finds ways to solve more problems for more. Life is also full of passion and motivation.

Therefore, if you want to find out what motivates you, you first need to think clearly about what you are willing to sacrifice 100% for, no matter what difficulties you encounter, always persevere.

Like Ed, even if he has serious physical problems, he still achieves his goal of "making a positive impact on people and responsibilities in his life" and becomes a leader in ALS treatment.

02Live well in the present and make life more meaningful

In the traditional Hindu concept, according to people's age, life is divided into four stages: the stage of study; WTO accession phase; The introspective stage as well as the birth stage.

The birth stage may be what we usually call retirement.

We think of retirement as a reward for years of paid work. In fact, according to the Hindu concept, it is more meaningful to see retirement as an opportunity for personal spiritual growth.

"Dialogue for Life": Understand these 3 truths to make your old age life more exciting

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At this stage, we are used to seeing the various situations of life and know the most important things in life, so that we will not waste the good time on the trivial matters of the world.

Richard believes that there are three important components that are indispensable to a good old age: money, health, and meaning in life.

Although the golden Q can allow us to live a prosperous life, as people say, Q does not bring in life, and does not bring with it when it dies. Enough is good.

Someone once asked, how many Qs are considered Q? I think the best answer is that if you have Q, you can consume as much as you like, buy what you like, have Q treatment when you are sick, and you can go wherever you want, and that's enough.

So when you retire, just ask yourself what kind of pursuit you still have in life, and how much Q you need to support it while pursuing it.

True wealth is not having what we want, but valuing what we have.

According to statistics, the number of people over 80 is the fastest growing population in the world: in the United States, the number of people aged 100 and over increased by 44% from 2000 to 2014.

According to the book, Dan Bittner, founder of the Blue Zone Project, believes that the health of old age comes more from choice.

He believes that in our lives, we must either live a short life with perennial disability, or we will live in healthy old age.

People in the blue zone often live above the 100-year mark, and they often avoid age-related diseases. Later, I learned that these centenarians were supportive, chose to improve every day, lived with purpose, and accomplished all this with the help of friends.

It is because they maintain this balanced life for a long time, achieve their goals, make themselves happier and more proud, and their bodies are great.

For young people, time is money, and in old age, money is life. In your limited life, do what you have meaningful, so that you will not regret walking through this day when you look back.

03Accept it calmly and live your own value

Otsu is a Japanese doctor, mainly engaged in the work of end-of-life care, helping patients with terminal cancer to relieve physical and mental pain, and at the end of their lives, try to give them comfort and love, let them calmly and peacefully go to the end of life, over the years he witnessed and heard the last words of more than 1,000 patients, sorted out 25 things that people regret before dying, the first of which is not doing what they want to do.

The items on Carter's last wish list in "Bucket List" are all things that he did not do when he was young. In the film, Carter is lucky and has been helped by rich people to fulfill all his last wishes.

But life is not about movies.

St. Benedict famously said: "Let death be before your eyes every day." ”

People say that death is the fairest thing in the world, no matter how rich, powerful, or healthy you are, death will come.

As mentioned at the beginning, many people have questioned that once a person dies, is there still meaning in living?

In fact, it is precisely because of the shortness of life that life is more meaningful.

Kazuo Inamori once said: Death is only physical death, and we have the obligation to temper our eternal soul into a purer and better one. He also practiced it with his life, without attachment to life and without fear of death.

The author believes that even if life cannot escape death, it is better to be friends with death, face death squarely, find out the reason to live, fully devote yourself to life, and do your best to live your beautiful day.

Therefore, even in old age, we keep our goals, live well in the present, calmly accept death, and let ourselves not be afraid of good and old age. As Wu Yushao of the Institute of Aging of Fudan University said, old age may become the most meaningful and satisfying period of our lives, allowing us not to passively grow old, but to actively "grow to old age" to meet the most meaningful and satisfying "second growth" in life.

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