"Between work and school, which would you choose?"
"I choose incense."
Instead of struggling hard himself, he became CEO, married Bai Fumei, and reached the peak of his life. It's better to lie down and dream, and ask the gods and Buddhas to make themselves rich overnight!
This seems to have become the latest trend of contemporary young people!
Some time ago, Weibo hot search has an entry #Why temple tourism exploded in the 90s and 00s#. Just one post triggered more than 1,300 comments.
According to Ctrip's data, since the beginning of this year, the number of ticket orders for temple-related scenic spots has increased by 310% year-on-year; Since February, nearly 50% of the people who have booked tickets have been post-90s and post-00s. The temple is no longer the main battlefield for the elderly.
Whether it's the cherry blossoms in Jiming Temple, or the incense ash bracelets in the Lama Temple, or the temple in Longhua Temple... Overnight, it seemed to be full of different charm, attracting groups of young people to come to check in and take photos.
And these ancient temples, at this moment, no longer have feudal superstition, but instead place the hopes and expectations of many young people.
So, what are these young people who choose to burn incense and worship Buddha, what are they asking for?
Temple tourism, a popular new way to decompress
Why temple tours can be so popular, in the clues of netizens' messages, we seem to be able to find some clues:
Many young people have ridiculed: the main thing is to know that it is useless to rely on yourself, you can only rely on God!
If you can't find the other half of your life, write the birthday eight characters on the marriage tree, and your boy/girlfriend will not be captured!
I can't make a fortune by working my own, I can't afford to kneel in the Temple of Wealth, and it's not a dream to get rich overnight!
I want to go ashore for graduate school and do a ritual before coming to the Buddha, but everything will not go well!
In the final analysis, even if it is a pure holy place of Buddhism, as long as you are in the red dust, what you want is a worldly wish.
Praying to God and worshipping Buddha is just to relieve the anxiety of life in the moment.
Where do young people get so much anxiety?
When it comes to the topic of anxiety, it always resonates with young people. The pursuit of grades in school and wealth in the workplace is like entering a besieged city, there is no way to retreat, there is no escape.
Under endless pressure and the contradiction of finding no solution, I can only helplessly "lie flat". Where does the pressure of today's young people come from?
· Source of one's own body, fear and confusion ·
The first is confusion and fear of the future. Most people live a step-by-step life when they are students, as long as they grow up slowly along the grade, the biggest trouble may be that this question will not be, and the exam will be smashed.
And once you enter the society, you will face many paths, graduate school? Examination for public service? Employment? Go home? North Drift? ...... Which path will you not regret? How to choose to become a better version of yourself? This is all confusing and fearful, after all, there is no turning back arrow in the bow, and the only person who can be responsible for himself at this time is himself.
The second is the uncertainty of the perception of one's own strength. Some people are accustomed to evaluating themselves by reference to past glory and evaluation, even if the past is no longer applicable to the present.
Some people are used to judging themselves by the evaluation of others, and although we are all willing to believe that the person who evaluates us is rational and objective, the fact is that everyone has biases, and these prejudices affect our cognition. The result of this is either overconfidence or excessive inferiority.
Finally, there is the divergence between ideal and reality. There have been many passages on the Internet: I thought that my twenties were to see the mountains, rivers and seas, and the sunset, but the reality is that I am still looking for my true self. How much helplessness is said in this sentence.
Although everyone's dreams are different, they must be full of spirit and color, but the reality is that we worry about how to survive at an age when we should strive for our ideals. This is inevitably disappointing.
· Source from the outside world, create anxiety ·
This is an era of "national anxiety", no matter what industry or industry, anxiety spreads like a virus.
Without "A4 waist" and "comic legs", you are an unqualified woman;
Your mom-and-pop shop downstairs sells 10 trillion a year;
Do you want to learn Olympiad in elementary school? In order for the baby not to be left behind, this matter must be known early;
Top 10 jobs that will be replaced by ChatGPT;
……
Headlines such as Weibo, Douyin, Xiaohongshu and other self-media platforms can be seen everywhere, using various information gaps and individual cases to create anxiety and spread anxiety.
What should we do in the face of anxiety!
Although anxiety is the norm, we can't let it run rampant, and there are other ways to release the stress of the mind than praying to God to release the stress of the mind.
· Accept your mediocre self·
More important than how to face the gap in reality is that we accept our own imperfections and mediocrity, and generously tell ourselves and others: I am just a human being, as long as I shine in my own life.
· Tell yourself you're free ·
Don't live in the expectations of others, always tell yourself: I am free.
People's lives are too short, live as much as they want, slowly pursue their dreams, do what they want to do, and love the people they want to love.
· Let it be ·
The beauty of natural things is due to the nature of natural things, and it has nothing to do with human preferences. So, going with the flow is the best state of life. Of course, this does not mean that we lose our pursuit and struggle, but that we change our lives to a different state. After all, there must be a road before the car reaches the mountain, and the boat is naturally straight to the bridge.
· Learn to subtract yourself ·
Sometimes, we are anxious because we think too much and ask too much, but we lack the skills to achieve our goals and needs. At this time, it is better to do some subtraction, don't think too much, and focus on finishing your current things first. And you must have a ruler in your heart to measure what you can do, do, and challenge.
· Daydream for yourself ·
"Anti-Anxiety Thinking" says:
"When you're daydreaming, you're in a trance-out state in which memories and imaginations that are highly focused in your heart collide. It's a state that allows you to break free from the shackles of self-criticism and trigger creativity. ”
Therefore, when you are irritable and anxious, it is better to find something to relax, do not think about anything, but also think about everything, maybe in a flash of inspiration, your troubled things suddenly have a solution!
Young people pray to God and worship Buddha, in fact, the essence is to make their lives "comfortable".
I also hope that everyone will not be kidnapped by the "expectations" of the outside world and can be brave to be themselves.