Since ancient times, we have Chinese paid great attention to the saying that fallen leaves return to their roots. The idea that a person should be buried in the place where he was born is a memorial to his homeland and a consolation for those who have died.
Just like the ancient mainland poet Mr. Su Shi Su Dongpo, after experiencing the vicissitudes of the world, he still did not hesitate to travel thousands of miles and stubbornly returned to his hometown for burial.
Of course, there is also a situation where you are buried with your loved ones, and you will never leave your life when you are old, and after death, the sea will be rotten and rotten and look together. Just like the ancient poem of the mainland, Jiao Zhongqing and Liu Lanzhi in the southeast flight of the peacock, swear that the sky will not be defeated. This is also a joint burial in another sense. This is the cliché that a person has the rarest and most deserved sense of belonging.
If you say that as a loving couple, it is better to be buried together after death. However, during the Republic of China, there was a couple who could not fulfill such a simple long-cherished wish. That is the famous half-way couple of Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman.
What is even more unexpected is that after Lu Xiaoman's death, her stepson insisted on not allowing the joint burial and even listed three reasons. So what are the three reasons that make Lu Xiaoman not even have a place to bury after he dies.
Halfway couples are not easy
As long as people who know the history of the Republic of China know that there is such a famous half-way couple in the Republic of China, that is, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman. The marriage of the two of them can be described as going through nine nine eighty-one difficulties.
Lu Xiaoman's ex-husband was a major general of the Republic of China named Wang Geng. Xu Zhimo is Wang Geng's good friend. However, due to Wang Geng's excessive snub of Lu Xiaoman caused by Wang Geng's long-term work out, coupled with Xu Zhimo's company by Lu Xiaoman's side, the relationship between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman became closer and closer.
It is said that the near water building platform gets the moon first, and the long-term companionship of Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo continues to deepen the relationship between the two.
Although Xu Zhimo was also a family man at that time, and already had children. But none of this has become a stumbling block to the love path between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman. In order to marry Xu Zhimo, Lu Xiaoman even beat Wang Geng's child in his belly and was very determined to be with Xu Zhimo.
The two finally entered the marriage hall of their dreams. But only two parties seem to be satisfied with this marriage, and Xu Zhimo's father and family are opposed to this absurd marriage, not to mention the evaluation of this marriage from the outside world, which is even more unbearable.
But Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman did not think so, and they have been immersed in the joy and happiness of the world of the two since they got married. I have to say that the two people immersed in love are indeed very happy. Lu Xiaoman's body was left with a root of illness because of the previous abortion, and Xu Zhimo often took his wife everywhere to seek medical treatment.
In this process, the two met a person named Weng Duanwu, Weng Duanwu is a disciple of the founder of Yizhizen, his medical skills are very clever, Lu Xiaoman has fainted many times, thanks to Weng Duanwu's timely treatment helped her out of danger.
Therefore, Xu Zhimo not only thanked Weng Duanwu, but also became very good friends with him. They often sing together, have a very good relationship, and also perform together on stage.
Contradictions and deaths
Although Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman came together because they were very in love, romantic love could not resist the reality of firewood, rice, oil and salt. After the marriage of the two people, there were also many unpleasantness and contradictions. And an important part of it is the rumors between Xu Zhimo and Lin Huiyin. It made the contradiction between the husband and wife deeper.
In 1931, Lin Huiyin gave a speech in Peiping, and although he had some quarrels with his wife Lu Xiaoman before leaving, Xu Zhimo insisted on attending this speech. But Xu Zhimo is not a ruthless and unrighteous person, and before leaving, he specially instructed Weng Duanwu to help him take care of Lu Xiaoman more.
But the world is unpredictable, and accidents always appear suddenly. What Lu Xiaoman and Weng Duanwu didn't expect was that this parting turned out to be the last time they met. The plane Xu Zhimo was riding on was unfortunately killed and wrecked. None of the people on board survived.
After Lu Xiaoman heard the very unfortunate news of her husband's death, he couldn't accept it for a while, and he fainted on the ground. If Lu Xiaoman knew that it would be the last time she would see her husband, she would fight to the death to stop her husband and prevent the tragedy from happening.
The first thing Lu Xiaoman did after waking up was to see her husband's remains and take the body home. But Lu Xiaoman's physical condition is too bad to endure such a journey. And the Xu family was not satisfied with this daughter-in-law, so they rejected her. Send Xu Zhimo's son Xu Jikai to retrieve Xu Zhimo's bones.
At this time, Lu Xiaoman was exhausted, mentally greatly hit, grief-stricken, and did not want to eat every day.
Rumors and results
As a friend, Weng Duanwu naturally couldn't let Lu Xiaoman be depressed like this, so he accompanied Lu Xiaoman to prevent her from doing anything reckless.
Although Weng Duanwu also has a family of his own, in order to take care of Lu Xiaoman more conveniently, Weng Duanwu did not hesitate to borrow Lu Xiaoman's house. But lonely men and widows are in the same room, and they are all people with families, and they are inevitably gossiping from the outside world.
Sure enough, Xu Zhimo's father took action. Although Xu's father was reluctant to admit that Lu Xiaoman was his daughter-in-law from the beginning, it was absolutely intolerable for her daughter-in-law to mingle with other men after his son's death. In a fit of anger, he wrote a letter to Lu Xiaoman, warning her not to have any more dealings with Weng Duanwu.
But Weng Duanwu was even more angry in his heart after seeing the letter, and moved directly into Lu Xiaoman's house to take care of her. This could be a surprising reversal. And Lu Xiaoman also accepted care with peace of mind. Although the two are close, they are indeed innocent. Nothing has been done to exceed the norm.
In 1965, Lu Xiaoman died. The aftermath was jointly handled by Weng Duanwu and some of her relatives. After Lu Xiaoman's death, her nephew wrote a letter to Lu Jikai, believing that Lu Xiaoman, as Xu Zhimo's wife, should be buried with Xu Zhimo.
However, Xu Jikai never thought of doing this. He also gave three reasons for him. Xu Jikai believes that first of all, his grandfather did not recognize Lu Xiaoman as a daughter-in-law, secondly, the husband and wife relationship between Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman was not very harmonious, and finally Lu Xiaoman was suspected of having an affair with Weng Duanwu. So he did not agree with Lu Xiaoman and Xu Zhimo being buried together.
In the end, Lu Xiaoman's ashes were temporarily stored in the funeral home because there was no place to place, so that no one knew where they went.
Brief summary:
Lu Xiaoman, a legendary figure of the Republic of China, could not end well. Her life has been bumpy and bumpy, and she is brave in her pursuit of the people she loves. In his later years, he had to accept criticism from the outside world, which is embarrassing. But only she can experience the scene at that time, and who can understand her heart.