During the Eastern Han Dynasty, Princess Huyang took a fancy to the minister Song Hong, and after her younger brother, the emperor Liu Xiu, knew about it, she thought that this matter could not be easier, called Song Hong, and asked Song Hong's opinion on the words of Guiyi and easy to make friends and rich and easy wives, in fact, it is to imply that Song Hong, since he has developed, it is time to let the wife he married in the poor period leave, and change to a wife who he did not dare to think about before.
Song Hong understood what the emperor meant, but replied, the wife of the chaff does not go to court, that is, if the wife suffers with herself, how can she easily abandon it? The emperor was very moved, so he abandoned the matter.
However, in real life, there are really not many men like Song Hong who do not forget their original intentions, cherish their wives who have suffered with them, and whose wives of chaff do not go to court, and there are many who choose expensive and easy to get rich and easy to change.
Actually, this is human nature. As Yishu wrote in "How Beautiful You Want to Be": Human nature is so cool, as long as it is better in exchange, it will definitely be willing.
Countless women challenge human nature and easily believe that men will promise themselves well for a lifetime, and in the end, in exchange for becoming the wife of abandoned, giving everything and getting nothing, so that other women pick up ready-made.
For example, the recent hot search, in order to let the husband work hard at ease, the wife resigned and became a full-time wife, the husband has an annual salary of 3 million, has a successful career, wants to divorce, deliberately deceive the wife, transfer the joint property of the husband and wife, said only 100,000, it is obvious that he wants his wife to take 50,000 yuan, just get out.
Sacrificing her career, giving birth to children for her, running the housework, taking care of the family, and finally getting only 50,000, if this woman is still clear, knows how to love herself, and decisively sue, if the court is not strong enough, ascertained the real situation, and gave the woman justice, wouldn't her sacrifice have become a complete joke?
Li Bihua said: "Don't test human nature, don't - it's not vulnerable at all." ”
To test human nature, you are likely to fall to pieces, harm yourself, and cheapen others.
01.
"Slut, where are you? I went to your house to look for you, you are not there, your parents are not there, where have you been? ”
"What are you looking for me for? We are all divorced and our daughter belongs to me, are you going to give your daughter child support, or do you regret it? No, didn't you lose your job? And money for alimony? ”
"Sure enough, you did it, you sent those photos and chat records to my company, causing me to lose my job, you..."
Without waiting for her ex-husband to continue to spit fragrant, Ms. Xiao hung up the phone and started the one-stop service of deleting and blocking, and then removed the mobile phone card and installed it on another unused mobile phone.
"When you come to a new city, you have to start a new life, and you don't need a mobile phone card. Comfortable, sure that his revenge was successful, let him lose his job, and his reputation stinks, I will be much happier, next, there is no need to waste time on him, I will take good care of myself and my daughter. ”
It turned out that last week, Ms. Xiao sent some things to her ex-husband's company, which were the evidence she printed out of her ex-husband's cheating, including her ex-husband and mistress holding hands to shop, hugging, going to the hotel to open a room, ex-husband's chat records with mistress, etc., in the end, the ex-husband lost his job, so he was angry and called Ms. Xiao, wanting to find Ms. Xiao to settle the account.
Fortunately, Ms. Xiao was prepared, let her parents sell the house in her hometown, and took her parents and daughter to a strange city, without telling anyone their address, and her ex-husband had no way to find Ms. Xiao except to call this number, and it was impossible to hurt Ms. Xiao again.
02.
"Maybe many people will think that I am vicious, and I refuse to let each other go after divorce, and I have to make the other party's work yellow." I say whatever they want, they don't understand the situation, standing and talking without back pain, people like this must stay away, otherwise when God chops them one day, it may harm you. ”
The reason why Ms. Xiao must take revenge on her ex-husband, even if she is divorced, she must mess up her ex-husband's work is only because her ex-husband has done too much, so that Ms. Xiao has suffered a lot of humiliation and hurt during her marriage with him, and her four-year marriage with her ex-husband has become a joke.
"Four years ago, when I wanted to marry him, both my parents and my girlfriends were firmly opposed to it, just because he was a phoenix man, and in their opinion, a phoenix man could not be married."
Ms. Xiao's ex-husband Mr. Chen was born in a poor family, his parents made a living from farming, and his income was meagre, Mr. Chen suffered a lot during his growth, and under the tempering of the hard life, he became very calm, hard-working, diligent and calculating.
For example, in the relationship with Ms. Xiao, he not only ate Ms. Xiao thoroughly, but also made Ms. Xiao think that her parents did not think about herself, so she beat the mandarin duck, resolutely contradicted her parents, had to marry Mr. Chen, and let Ms. Xiao promise to marry him naked, believing that since the two are true love, they should not talk about money. In the end, Ms. Xiao didn't ask for anything, so she pulled the marriage certificate with Mr. Chen, and the parents couldn't help their daughter, so they had to agree.
"I really want to go back in time and slap my love brain self awake at that time. Not only did I marry him without asking for anything, but after marriage, I became a full-time wife to support his career, because he said that his parents were working too hard and didn't want to trouble their parents with their baby. ”
03.
Mr. Chen said that he worked hard to buy a house in this big city as soon as possible, wanted to buy a school district house, and gave Ms. Xiao and her children better living conditions, and Ms. Xiao also believed, quit her job, took care of the housework, and was very filial to Mr. Chen's parents, and gave birth to a daughter to Mr. Chen.
"I have been married to him for four years, still renting a house, when I asked him about buying a house, he told me that the current market situation is not very good, the company's efficiency is not high, the salary income is not much, moreover, he wants to buy a school district house, or the school district house of the top three key primary schools in the city, he wants his daughter to win at the starting line, no longer suffer from the hardships we have suffered, and also showed me the local housing prices. I also believed in him, and I saved money on weekdays, hoping that I could get this done before my daughter went to school. ”
It was not until it was discovered that Mr. Chen had cheated on him, betrayed his marriage, and had a home outside his home, that Ms. Xiao understood that Mr. Chen was not saving money to buy a house for his daughter, but was saving money for the little three flowers outside, which made Ms. Xiao angry and questioned Mr. Chen.
Since Ms. Xiao took a photo of him with his mistress, Mr. Chen could not deny it at all, but it was clear that he had done something wrong, but he had an arrogant attitude to the extreme.
"Isn't it normal for a man to have a few women outside? How many men under the sky don't have a home outside? You don't mess around with me, if you live honestly, take your daughter, and make a good job at home, I will still give you living expenses, otherwise, if you mess with me and leave me, you won't earn money, you can only starve to death. ”
"He didn't know me at all, I could have messed with my parents in order to marry him, the picture was love, he defiled my love, and he wanted me to swallow my anger, him." Originally, I wanted to prosecute him for bigamy and put him in jail, but I found that the determination of bigamy was too troublesome and difficult to succeed, so I had to directly ask for a divorce. ”
05.
Seeing that Ms. Xiao insisted on divorce, Mr. Chen did not keep it, let go of cruel words and agreed, the two did not buy a house, nor did they have any common property, Mr. Chen did not admit it dead or alive, Ms. Xiao was too lazy to toss with him, and left with the child.
In fact, it is not that Ms. Xiao does not want to seek justice for herself, but she knows very well that she must protect herself and her family before taking revenge on him, otherwise, she is likely to take herself in. So, Ms. Xiao returned to her mother's house and cried to her parents about her experience, and the parents felt sorry for their daughter, forgave their daughter, and agreed to all her daughter's plans.
So, Ms. Xiao's parents sold their hometown house and followed their daughter to a strange city to start over, and Ms. Xiao also sent all the evidence she had collected about her husband's cheating to her husband's company.
Although Ms. Xiao made a big mistake when choosing a mate, she is a love brain, willful, married the wrong person, and miserable herself, but compared to many women who already know the true face of men, but refuse to stop losses in time, Ms. Xiao dares to stop losses in time, dare to find a way back for herself, and seek justice for herself, she can still rely on her own efforts to make herself happy.
Don't challenge humanity, but also understand that for him, you represent his unbearable past, he has developed, and he wants to forget his unbearable past, so you become the person he must abandon, rather than pinning his hopes of happiness completely on him, it is better to rely on himself.
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