At some point, "women" became a pejorative term. They are yellow-faced women who revolve around the stove, housewives, and even women who men think they have had sexual experiences...
However, according to the definition of the Criminal Law of the People's Republic of China, women who have reached the age of 14 (inclusive) are collectively referred to as women.
Women's Day is the result of the hard struggle of countless women. It's not Girls' Day, and it's not Goddess' Day.
See you for a long time, the Victoria's Secret show that has been suspended for 4 years is said to be returning?
Many people may not have bought Victoria's Secret's underwear, but they must have seen Victoria's Secret's show, and the "angels" full of long legs once became everyone's definition of the perfect body.
But before you know it, the "angels" seem to gradually disappear from everyone's field of vision.
Also, Victoria's Secret has really not had a good time in recent years.
The "The Perfect Body" advertisement released in 19 years bombarded Victoria's Secret's long-standing values of "angel face, devil body".
With the rise of women's thought, everyone's pursuit of "comfort" also contradicts Victoria's Secret's values, and Victoria's Secret's market share has also declined rapidly.
This time the test of the water returned, and the organizers also promised to "strengthen the voice of women".
To be honest, there is too much anxiety about women now, and the advertising slogan "The Perfect Body" that fills life reinforces the narrow evaluation of women's figures.
The former Victoria's Secret bearer of the Wolf Hall has recently been ridiculed on the hot search because of postpartum fat.
The figure that has not yet recovered is sarcastically "It won't be there again, right?" ”
"It's been a few months and the swelling hasn't subsided? Self-comfort! ”
"What's so big?" "Did you let yourself go without catwalking?"
There is also "Lizhongke" said: "It's not to create postpartum anxiety, but she is a supermodel, and supermodels shouldn't get fat." ”
emm... Honestly, does Lima, as a 40-year-old mother of three, really need to be so criticized?
She publicly said a year ago why she had such frequent public events before and after giving birth.
"I stopped participating in events when I was pregnant, and I didn't appear in front of the media again when I was well recovered."
"People always think that supermodels are pregnant with fat belly, but this is not the case, at least I am not, I have become very fat, and after I no longer walk the catwalk, I hope to share my real pregnancy process with everyone, so that everyone does not have to worry about their body shape, because supermodels will also be like this."
Unfortunately, she was 6 months pregnant and still had abs, and was still evaluated as "not working hard enough".
What is even more sad is that many of women's dilemmas cannot be solved quickly for a while, I don't know how many students think that being in anxiety and external criticism is the norm for women?
Fashion week, 18-year-old Gu Ailing was questioned to be too old, but the big cousin of a professional model was too thin with a mouth?
How good do women have to be to be "affirmed"?
Happy and contented days are forever fleeting, and we carry depressed daily life and live only for those few brief moments.
But in fact, the happiness and unhappiness of life are defined by ourselves.
It's Women's Day, today's adult article doesn't talk about anything else, just talk to everyone about practical - how to make yourself happier?
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Where does happiness come from?
Our emotions come from the limbic system in the brain.
The limbic system is made up of nerve cells that have no mouth, no hands, no WeChat, and can only be connected to each other by neurotransmitters - emotions are born between these neurotransmitters.
There are three large neurotransmitters associated with happy emotions, called: endorphins, dopamine, and serotonin.
In addition, happiness is related to oxytocin, estrogen, norepinephrine and so on... There are a lot of things in our bodies that make us happy.
The following will highlight two things: dopamine and serotonin.
One of them is immediate happiness and the other is long-term happiness.
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The key to influencing a happy life
# Mechanism of dopamine distribution
Dopamine triggers hope, challenge, reward.
In other words, it comes from setting goals and then challenging success.
For example, solving a difficult math problem; Brilliantly done a job.
So dopamine is also considered a hormone for survival.
Encourage ancestors to take pleasure in hunting, mating, eating high-energy foods, and other behaviors that can sustain life.
But we now have many new means to bypass this challenge reward mechanism and directly stimulate dopamine secretion.
For example, smoking, drinking, playing games.
can continuously stimulate dopamine secretion, which is also the reason why similar behaviors are easy to become addicted.
So why don't you want to do anything, feel that there is no point in living?
Part of the reason is that we don't need to be happy through the reward system of survival, we are happy lying down and playing with our phones.
Of course, it is not for everyone to quit the mobile phone network from now on.
Life is already hard, how can you deprive the only nipple of pleasure!
But we can readjust the distribution mechanism of dopamine.
Proven by a study of dopamine and passion for work.
Dopamine in people who love their work will be concentrated in areas of motivation and reward; In people who slack off at work, dopamine habits are concentrated in areas of emotion and risk perception.
That is to say, the difference in the area of dopamine concentration will affect our diametrically opposed behavior.
If we can focus dopamine on areas of motivation and reward, it can change our thinking and action.
Some students may ask, "Can I decide such a big thing?" ”
Hi, didn't Jay say it all, my territory, _______.
A study in Germany proved that people who regularly read pornographic websites have smaller and smaller areas of the brain responsible for motivation and reward.
In other words, this thing is used in and out.
The more we get used to taking pleasure from challenges, the more dopamine will focus there, helping us regain our enthusiasm for life and moving forward.
# Stable secretion of serotonin
The difference between dopamine and serotonin is that dopamine makes people happy and serotonin makes people not depressed.
Only the long-lasting and stable secretion of serotonin can prevent people from being depressed.
In other words, if the level of serotonin is low, the person will feel stressed, tired, and have no energy.
As people age, the work efficiency of the serotonin pathway will continue to decline.
One study proved that 60-year-olds had nearly 60% lower levels of serotonin-specific receptors in their bodies compared to 30-year-olds.
Without receptors, serotonin cannot function properly.
This is why the older you get, the easier it is to lose interest in many things, because there really isn't enough energy to deal with them.
In addition, women synthesize serotonin only half as efficiently as men.
So in the face of the same thing, men may be able to calm their emotions quickly (it seems that they have no heart and lungs), but women are prone to continue to suffer from emotional distress.
So how is such important serotonin secreted?
An interesting point is that nearly ninety percent of serotonin is not in the brain, but secreted from the intestines.
The raw material tryptophan of serotonin can be easily obtained from the daily diet.
So when we are depressed, eating makes us feel happy because we increase the content of serotonin in a short period of time.
Sun exposure, exercise, and rhythmic behaviors such as walking and dancing (Zumba, jazz, aerobics, etc.) all promote the secretion of serotonin.
Keeping serotonin levels stable is necessary to feel happy in life.
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How to achieve lasting happiness?
# Set small challenges for life
As mentioned above, if we want to save our wasted lives, we need to use dopamine in the area of motivation and reward.
Reduce interest in immediate rewards (alcohol-tobacco, gaming, social networks) and regain joy and motivation from delayed rewards (fitness learning).
A very simple way to do this is to set small challenges in your life. For example, if you can complete a day of work, you decide to get it done in half a day.
The most annoying thing about dopamine is that life is unchanged, it needs fresh stimulation.
I wonder if there are any classmates who don't like the word "challenge"?
When you think of challenges, you think of battles, you think of winning or losing, and you can't afford to lose.
But in fact, fear of challenges may be a manifestation of low dopamine content. Similarly, people with high dopamine levels show irritability and aggressiveness.
Dopamine is a very self-pleasure, so don't be afraid, the challenge can be aimed only at ourselves.
As long as you always have the courage to stand up, you will win or lose until the end of your life.
# Discover hobbies
One way to get both dopamine and serotonin is to discover your hobbies.
Drawing, writing, photography, cooking, dancing, word practice... Anything that makes you willing to put down your phone and dive into it, grab it.
You will get dopamine from progression and serotonin from stable relationships.
# Intake of high-quality protein + B group + magnesium
Another way to get both dopamine and serotonin is to eat.
Because whether it is tyrosine, the raw material of dopamine, or tryptophan, the raw material of serotonin, can be obtained from eating.
——Especially high-quality protein, the conversion and utilization efficiency is higher than that of carbohydrates.
In addition to high-quality protein as raw materials, vitamin B complex (mainly B6) and magnesium are needed as catalysts to promote the production of these happy hormones.
Put a food table rich in these elements for everyone, and if you have nothing to do on the weekend, you can pick a few things from above and eat them together, and you can really grow up and be happy.
# Dopamine fasting
In the first two years, there was a meditation method that was popular in Silicon Valley called dopamine fasting.
If you can't find a reason why you can't live a motivated life, you may want to try it again if you are in good health, have low blood pressure or other medical conditions.
The rules of dopamine fasting are simple: do nothing that stimulates dopamine production, not even eating.
The duration of fasting is generally 24 hours.
Only drink water, meditate, and do a small amount of exercise, such as walking, throughout the day.
You can use a pen to record your mood.
There will be nothing to escape from this day but to face the pain in our hearts and find out the problem itself.
You can try to write the following questions:
In addition to helping to be more aware of yourself, it can also slightly improve your sensitivity to dopamine.
Imagine that after fasting for the day, eating favorite things, reading novels, and listening to music, these daily behaviors will become more interesting.
In addition to dopamine and serotonin, we have other happy hormones to work with.
Bungee jumping can get adrenaline pumping, singing loudly to get endorphins to work, touch hugs to promote oxytocin...
There are really a lot of happy things.
Don't hesitate, don't wait.
To be a puppy that rolls around in the spring, we all have to be happy.