Born in 1962 in Qiqihar, Heilongjiang Province, Wu Ruofu became a professional actor at the National Drama Theatre after graduating from the Performance Department of the People's Liberation Army Academy of Arts. Since his debut, he has starred in dozens of film and television dramas such as "The Great Military Parade", "Holding Hands", "State Secrets", "The True Colors of Criminal Police", etc., and won the "Golden Eagle Award" and "Feitian Award" outstanding actor of Chinese television. His wife, Liu Sha, is 22 years younger than him.
On January 14, 2010, Wu Ruofu was promoted to Happy Dad. On this morning, his beloved wife Liu Sha successfully gave birth to a lovely daughter for him in a hospital in Beijing. Wu Ruofu was straight and bold, and his appearance was consistent, and he named his daughter Wu Bingqing. It is said that the daughter is the lover of the father's previous life, and Wu Ruofu, who is a middle-aged woman, is immersed in excitement. The day after his daughter was born, he wrote a letter to her daughter with passion: "Bingqing, my lovely daughter, there are too many beautiful things in the world, and there are countless ugly states. Dad gave you the name Bingqing, that is, he hopes that you will know the good and evil, the beauty and ugliness, the ice is pure and jade, and the mud is not stained; the heart should be good, beautiful in shape and stationed in the heart, and it is great beauty. ”
Wu Ruofu and Liu Sha
The warm winter sun sprinkled in the delivery room, and Liu Sha held her daughter and leaned against the bed to bask in the sun. Wu Ruofu sat down next to his wife and daughter and read the letter to his wife word by word. Liu Sha said with disgust: "My daughter was just born, where can I understand it?" Wu Ruofu lightly kissed her daughter's forehead and smiled: "This is my birth gift to my daughter, all Written is the words of the heart, and my daughter will naturally be able to read it when she grows up." ”
Liu Sha stayed in the hospital for a whole week, and after the wounds healed, she and her daughter returned home with Wu Ruofu. As soon as she entered the house, Liu Sha's mother rushed over. As soon as they met, she took the initiative to ask her son-in-law: "I am physically strong, and I have nothing to do at home, so why not come and take care of Sasha's mother and daughter." In this way, you don't delay filming at all. Wu Ruofu sincerely refused: "Mom, you have completed your obligation to train Sasha to be a talent, and there is no reason to take care of your granddaughter anymore." Taking care of Sasha's mother and daughter is my unshirkable responsibility. Experts say that children grow up with their parents, and their minds and personalities will be more sound. Through several years of contact, Mother Liu knew that her son-in-law was steady and careful, and knew how to be considerate, so she no longer insisted.
Young Wu Ruofu
In this way, Wu Ruofu began his career as a "middle-aged grandfather". Once he took over 6 plays a year, leaving himself very limited rest time; after the birth of his daughter, he gave himself a long vacation and gave all his time and energy to his wife and daughter. Liu Sha is 22 years younger than Wu Ruofu, began boarding at the Beijing Dance Academy at a very young age, and after graduation, entered the Chinese Opera and Dance Theater to work, and has never lived independently. Wu Ruofu also took care of her like a daughter.
However, at this moment, the happy life of Wu Ruofu's family of three took a sharp turn. One night at 11 p.m., Wu Ruofu drove a friend to the airport. Passing by a bar on the way back, under the dim street lamp, three drunken prime-aged men were pulling and pulling in front of the bar. The same night, the same place, the same scene, like a knife, tore through the trauma in Wu Ruofu's heart, and the terrifying past suddenly surged forward...
On February 3, 2004, Wu Ruofu and a few friends gathered at this bar, which ended in the early morning. Wu Ruofu was preparing to drive home in the parking lot, but before he could open the car door, he was suddenly surrounded by 3 men who claimed to be policemen. One of them showed his "work permit" in his hand: "The car you drove fled after the traffic accident, please come with us." Wu Ruofu vigilantly argued: "You have found the wrong person, what misunderstanding I will go to the traffic team tomorrow to clarify." The other party violently pulled out a pistol, pressed it against Wu Ruofu's waist, hijacked him to the Nissan car parked on the side of the street, and then locked Wu Ruofu's hands and feet tightly with 9 locks on the shackles, and any resistance became futile. Wu Ruofu played a policeman on the screen many times, and he simulated solving the case many times, and he realized that he had really encountered a kidnapper this time, and cold sweat covered Wu Ruofu's back.
More than an hour later, Wu Ruofu was abducted into a farm yard and imprisoned in a bungalow with another "meat ticket" Du Qingjiang. Several gangsters were armed with live ammunition and guarded the two men step by step. The kidnappers demanded a ransom of 3 million yuan from Wu Ruofu, otherwise they would tear up the ticket overnight. At 8:00 a.m. the next day, Wu Ruofu called his friend Su mou and asked him to help withdraw 3 million yuan in cash, and then remitted to a strange account. The friend realized that Wu Ruofu had been kidnapped and called the police at the first time. The Beijing Municipal Public Security Bureau, together with the Chaoyang Public Security Bureau, hastened to set up a "2.3" special case team to carry out all-out investigation. After a thrilling 22 hours, Wu Ruofu and Du Qingjiang were successfully rescued by special police, and several gangsters were arrested...
The horror of life and death many years ago, the film shots were replayed over and over again in Wu Ruofu's mind. His body trembled and his hands were weak. It was hard to drive home, by this time her daughter was asleep, and Liu Sha was sitting on the sofa watching TV while waiting for him. Wu Ruofu did not go into the bedroom to kiss his daughter as usual, but locked the security door and pulled all the curtains in the house tightly.
Liu Sha asked with concern, "What's wrong with you?" Wu Ruofu did not want to spread his nervous fear to his wife, and replied sullenly: "Nothing." After a week, Wu Ruofu's nervous mood eased, life returned to calm, and Liu Sha was relieved. In her opinion, everyone has mood swings when the occasional anomaly is not worth the fuss.
One day, when Wu Ruofu was working out on the treadmill, he accidentally saw the CCTV famous brand column "Today's Statement" tell such a case: an Anhui nanny had evil intentions and secretly took away the baby boy from his employer's family for several months and sold it to a trafficker for 40,000 yuan. Although the nanny was brought to justice, the baby boy was never found, and the hostess was insane...
Before the report was finished, Wu Ruofu walked into his daughter's small room and crouched down at the cradle to look at Xiaoice Qing, who was asleep. The daughter's face is idyllic, the long eyelashes are upturned, the pink and small mouth is like two delicate petals, and the even breath emits a burst of milk... The daughter is clearly a pure little angel. Comparing heart to heart, Wu Ruofu could feel the pain in the heart of the mother who had lost her son.
Since the birth of their daughter, Wu Ruofu and Liu Sha have hired a nanny from a housekeeping company to cook and sort out the housework. That night, Wu Ruofu said to Liu Sha: "I feel more and more that it is very eye-catching for an outsider to dangle around at home. Let's quit the babysitter. Liu Sha asked her husband confusedly: "Auntie has been coming to our house for almost a year, although she is only responsible for cooking and taking care of housework, but when you go out, she helps me take care of Bingqing every time, but she never asks for a salary increase." Good people like Auntie, where do we go to find them? Wu Ruofu hid the real inner world: "I have a distant cousin in qiqihar's hometown who has been laid off, and I want her to come to our house to help." A few days later, Liu Sha painfully dismissed the nanny, and in order to make up for the guilt in her heart, she and Wu Ruofu gave each other two more months' wages.
However, a month passed in the blink of an eye, and Wu Ruofu did not mention that his cousin had come to help at home. Seeing that her husband was too busy to come, Liu Sha had to take on part of the housework. Once, Wu Ruofu drove his daughter to Beijing Children's Hospital for vaccination. At noon, Liu Sha cooked. Because of her lack of life experience, Liu Sha did not even brush the iron pot when making sauerkraut fish, so she directly put the fish into the pot and boiled it. After Wu Ruofu returned home, a large pot of rusty sauerkraut fish was already on the table. Wu Ruofu took a bite, and a bad smell of iron stabbed him straight to his stomach. Liu Sha didn't even move her chopsticks, and there was a nameless fire in her heart...
Once the wounds left over from the disaster are torn apart, they are no longer able to heal. Negative emotions such as anxiety, fear, and worry intertwined in Wu Ruofu's mind, and gradually accumulated into a heart demon that jumped up and down. Wu Ruofu began to fear the darkness, and as soon as the sun set, he turned on all the lights in the house. When he goes out on an errand or a party, he must go home before 9 p.m.
That day, Wu Ruofu led his daughter to flutter butterflies in the community, and as soon as she gave up, her daughter disappeared. The community has a complex personnel structure, and there are strangers coming in and out from time to time, and Wu Ruofu is very worried about what accidents his daughter has, and his heart is a mess. After a few minutes, he finally found his daughter holding a blade of grass and plucking ants behind the rockery.
This incident taught Wu Ruofu a thrilling lesson! Adults have a sense of self-prevention, while children belong to the vulnerable groups, and the awareness of personal protection is almost zero. Wu Ruofu repeatedly warned himself in his heart: He must protect his daughter! After that, he only let his daughter walk around the yard, and the distance between her daughter and himself could not exceed 5 meters. Occasionally, a stranger passed by, and the other party inadvertently glanced into the courtyard, and Wu Ruofu picked up his daughter and went to the house.
A few days later, there was not much pure water at home, and Liu Sha dialed the phone of the water station and asked the other party to send two buckets of water over. Soon, the doorbell rang, and Wu Ruofu glimpsed a young man standing outside the door through the cat's eye on the security door. Wu Ruofu interrogated the other party through the security door to ask which company it was, what was the company's telephone number, and the price of various pure water. Seeing that the other party's answer was like a stream, Wu Ruofu carefully opened the security door.
Sending the waterman away, Liu Sha complained to her husband: "How can you do this to the water delivery worker?" This is disrespectful to others. Wu Ruofu Zhenzhen had a word: "What if he has a murder weapon on him?" Thinking of her husband's various words and deeds in the past year, Liu Sha was depressed and anxious, and she did not know why her husband had become like this.
Du Qingjiang
One day, Du Qingjiang, who had been kidnapped by gangsters with Wu Ruofu, came to the Wu family as a guest. The unforgettable experience of life and death has precipitated the deep friendship between each other, and Wu Ruofu and him have become brothers in life and death. Over the years, the two have been in contact. Like every time they met, Wu Ruofu would high-five with Du Qingjiang, and the two said in unison: "We survived, it is really lucky." "Then I started drinking, and I was in tears.
At noon, Wu Ruofu cooked Zhang Luo's wine dishes, Liu Sha sat on the floor to play with her daughter's blocks, and nagged to Du Qingjiang: "Our family Ruofu does not know what is wrong, all day nervous, beware of everyone, the nanny who did a good job was dismissed by him, making a mess of family life." My daughter and I are locked up at home all day, and occasionally I take my daughter out, and when I come back half an hour late, he loses his temper..."
At this moment, Wu Ruofu's mobile phone on the coffee table in the living room rang, and Wu Ruofu, who was wearing an apron, trotted out of the kitchen, picked up the phone and looked at it, saw that it was a strange number, and said to himself: "Who is this?" I don't know. Could it be bad guys blackmailing? Then hung up the phone. Liu Sha punched her husband's back nu nu mouth and said to Du Qingjiang: "He often does this, all day long grass and trees are soldiers. ”
Du Qingjiang was not surprised by Liu Sha's imagination, and after a long time of deep groaning, he told Liu Sha: "Sister-in-law, this situation in Angkor is very normal, a few years ago, I also had the same mental journey. Psychologists say that this is post-traumatic stress syndrome, and everyone who has experienced the calamity of life and death will more or less reflect it. Some people stand out at the time, and some people will have attacks after a few years by external stimulation. ”
Liu Sha asked anxiously, "What can I do about this?" Du Qingjiang patiently said: "Don't be nervous, this is not a serious disease, you don't need to take medicine and be hospitalized, as long as you give Angkor scientific psychological counseling and family affection, you can let him return to normal life." Liu Sha looked embarrassed: "Can I do it?" "It's not a delicate surgical procedure, why not?" Then, Du Qingjiang recounted his method and experience of bidding farewell to the shadow of psychological trauma.
During the banquet, Du Qingjiang and Wu Ruofu pushed the cup to change cups. Several times, he repeated to Wu Ruofu: "Angkor, your psychological endurance is stronger than mine." When the kidnappers wanted to bury us both alive, I couldn't eat any of them when I ate the 'dumplings on the road'. Not only did you look calm, but in order to encourage me to be strong, you also sang to me, and negotiated with the kidnappers rationally, willing to exchange your life savings for our lives... I have long said goodbye to the past, and you must completely forget the past, as if it never happened. In just a few words, Du Qingjiang actually shed tears several times. After calming down, he punched Wu Ruofu in the back: "I am living very well now, and I hope your life is as wonderful as before." You have a successful career, your sister-in-law is beautiful and virtuous, Xiaoice is lively and lovely, and you are simply the happiest man in the world. You have to grasp the direction of the family! ”
Liu Sha is a "post-80s", active thinking, and quick to accept new things. At the prompting of Du Qingjiang, she began the journey of reshaping her husband's heart. In the evening, Liu Sha and Wu Ruofu led their daughters for a walk in the community, and the family of three circled around the room again and again. Liu Sha pointed to the stainless steel protective fence, steel structure anti-theft door and broken bridge aluminum door and window at home, and told Wu Ruofu: "The perimeter protection measures of our home are very strong, there are more than 200 cameras in the community to dock and monitor, security guards patrol 24 hours, we live here very safe, there will be no accidents." ”
The summer capital is like a burning ball of fire, and Xiaoice Qing can't stand the heat and clamors to go to the playground to swim. Liu Sha carried the swimming ring and led her daughter outside, and Wu Ruofu blocked the door: "What are you going out for?" What if I meet a bad guy? Liu Sha sighed, "Ruofu, the gangsters who kidnapped you were brought to justice in 2005, you should stop thinking about those unpleasant things." People should have a sense of safety, but vigilance against excessive protection will affect normal life. As the saying goes, you clench your fists and there's nothing in it; you open your hands and you have the whole world. Liu Sha said this, and Wu Ruofu finally had to accompany his wife and daughter out of the house.
Wu Ruofu is a well-known rider in the show business circle, he used to go to the horse farm every week to ride a horse for fitness, after the psychological trauma was torn apart, due to poor mood, this exercise method was shelved by him. Liu Sha knew that her husband loved horses, and when filming the TV series "The True Colors of Criminal Police", Wu Ruofu's mount was killed in an explosion scene, and he wiped the horse's tears with tears, and then closed its eyes, sad for two months. Liu Sha learned that exercise is the best way to get rid of negative emotions. She told her husband: "A club in Beijing has recently introduced more than 10 British thoroughbred horses, are you interested in feeling it?" Wu Ruofu used to ride Ili horses, and listening to his wife say this, he entrusted his daughter to his mother's care and came to the equestrian club with his wife.
As soon as he saw the mighty thoroughbred horse, Wu Ruofu's eyes lit up. He stepped onto his horse and pulled Liu Sha up as well. Liu Sha wrapped her hands tightly around Wu Ruofu's waist, and Wu Ruofu kicked the stirrups, and the horse carried the couple on the wide grass. The rapidly skimming white clouds and grass, and the sound of the wind whistling in his ears brought Wu Ruofu a pleasant feeling. Half an hour later, the couple sat down on a wooden bench and relaxed. Liu Sha gave her husband a thumbs up: "I feel the beauty of speed and heroism today, you are a strong hero!" ”
His mentality changed, and the background of the world became bright and brilliant in Wu Ruofu's eyes. In the face of the media and reporters, he can calmly talk about that shocking past. When he went out, Wu Ruofu no longer wrapped himself in scarves, wide-brimmed hats, and sunglasses, and when he saw the aunt and security guard in the communication room, he took the initiative to nod his head in goodwill. Once, Wu Ruofu was very secretive about his address, and occasionally an acquaintance and friend asked where he lived, and he was vigilant.
In order to repair the relationship with friends, in January 2013, Wu Ruofu invited more than a dozen friends to his home for a party. Everyone tasted red wine, sang songs, and talked about parenting experience, and the atmosphere was very harmonious. A friend inexplicably asked Wu Ruofu: "I feel that you used to be a layer away from us, but now you are much more comfortable." Wu Ruofu smiled brightly: "I understand now, I can't be mentally defensive against my friends, there are still many good people in the world." Only by opening your heart can you appreciate the sincerity between people. ”
In 2015, Wu Ruofu was invited to star in the film "Rescue Mr. Wu", truly restoring the life and death horror of his own struggle with criminals on the screen. After the release of the film, the praise was overwhelming, and Wu Ruofu's soul was also reborn.
The guidance of Liu Sha's wisdom and tenderness gradually dispelled Wu Ruofu's post-traumatic after-effects of kidnapping. He was able to tell the story of the horror frankly, and when he went out, he no longer wrapped himself tightly with a scarf, a wide-brimmed hat, and sunglasses. Wu Ruofu completely got rid of the psychological trauma caused by the kidnapping and returned to normal life.
Today is a society governed by the rule of law, with good public order and people living and working in peace and contentment. However, there are still kidnapping and abduction cases in society, and whenever he learns about it from the media, Wu Ruofu's heart has a tingling pain. In January 2020, Liu Sha reminded her husband: "You can write your abduction experience into a book so that more people can be educated." Wu Ruofu said sincerely, "This is also my wish!" ”