Now the state advocates the birth of two children and three children, many older children will be opposed, but adults will say that with a second child, parents will still love you the same, I want to ask parents who already have a second child and parents who are about to have a second child, can you really do equal treatment?
I was born as the second child in the 80s, and at that time family planning was practiced, I was the second child who was born over. Tell me about my family! My family has two daughters, and I originally wanted to have a son, but I still gave birth to a daughter. My sister was born relatively thin and weak, she was small since she was a child, and she was weak and often sick since she was a child, so my mother took care of her from a young age. And I originally planned to give birth to a son, but I was born relatively strong, even if it was a daughter, I was raised as a son. Since I can remember, all the gravity work in the family has been my responsibility, such as cooking is always my sister's, and carrying water and manure is always mine. My memories of my childhood have always been this distinction. In fact, I don't complain about these at all, and what makes me most uncomfortable is my mother's neglect of my emotions.
Since I have developed a self-reliant and self-reliant personality since I was a child, I am still happy after marriage. I have always been relatively independent, I have been working since I got out of school, I myself am also a very diligent and motivated person, my husband is working in a stable enterprise, my family has slowly stabilized under the hard work of the two of us, bought a house in the city and settled down, not rich but certainly happy.
And my sister's first marriage failed, the second marriage gave birth to a second child, since the birth of the child he has been at home full-time with the child, her husband is out of town usually likes to play cards, the work belongs to the kind of small contract worker, the income is very unstable. During this period, there were often financial difficulties, and it was certainly indispensable for my mother and me to provide financial support. When the child reaches school age, my sister has no idea of going out to work, and in her words, it doesn't cost much to just eat, so she wants to continue playing at home. My mother has also been using her own money to help her in this way, feeling that her living conditions are not good, she needs my mother's help, or when my sister is a child, and my sister has become a habit because she has enjoyed the care of her mother since she was a child, and she does not intend to stand on her own at all, and enjoys everything her mother has done for her with peace of mind.
My mother often said, you have a better life than your sister and live happily. My sister's life is difficult, and her words are distressed and unbearable. I wasn't jealous of my sister, but I felt that my mother was too partial. Isn't the reason why my sister caused her current predicament that she has been too protective of her since she was a child, so that she has developed to rely on her family, not be self-reliant, and take the help of her family for granted? Now look at me although I have a better life than my sister, but I definitely pay more than her, I work under pressure, long time and my mother can't see these payment processes, what I see in her eyes is that I am indeed better than her, as for the hard work and sadness of the intermediate process, my mother ignores me in her heart, and as a daughter I still have some dissatisfaction with my mother in my heart.
It's not that I hate my mother when I say so much today, nor do I see my mother help my sister be jealous. It's just that what has always been missing in my heart is my mother's real concern for me, in fact, no matter how old everyone is, they long for my mother's care and love. It is recommended that parents who have a second child must care about the heart of each child and do not only see the surface. Maybe my mother's concern, even if it's just a sentence of "I know you've worked hard" and "I know you're wronged", this is also the most soothing thing thing thing in the world.