"Dropped the phone..."
Nowadays, more and more parents are holding their own mobile phones while "spitting" on their children who do not leave their mobile phones.
This phenomenon is not exclusive to big cities, and for some left-behind children, mobile phones have become their "closest partner" in growing up.
Recently, a research group of Wuhan University released a report showing that in the central provinces (Henan, Hubei and Hunan) it investigated, ninety percent of rural left-behind children used exclusive mobile phones or elders' mobile phones for a long time to play. When the research team investigated a township middle school in Guizhou, it was found that some left-behind children did not sleep for 5 days and 5 nights in order to play games. According to a data obtained by a sixth-grade teacher in a county in Jiangxi Province, more than half of the class spent more than 10 hours playing on their mobile phones at home on weekends.
Brush short videos, play mobile games, read online novels... What makes children addicted to mobile phones day and night?
As adults, if you want to throw this problem at your children, you first need to look at yourself: Why do many of us also rely on mobile phones?
Kids playing with mobile phones. Source: Shanxi Evening News
There is a quip on the Internet that seems to be close to the truth: "Brother is not brushing the mobile phone, but loneliness." In the same way, the baby may not be attached to the mobile phone, but the lack of family companionship.
Most of the caregivers of left-behind children are elderly grandparents, who tutor children in their homework and struggle with their homework; Taking the children out to jump and play is also strenuous. With the "electronic nanny" of mobile phones, children can stay at home honestly without crying or making trouble, and the elderly can free their hands to do some housework. Some families use playing with mobile phones as a means of rewarding their children, which exacerbates children's thirst for mobile phones.
Whether it is letting go or tempting, it is undoubtedly pushing the child "into the phone".
Love of play and curiosity is the nature of children. When we adults grew up, game halls, online novels, Internet cafes, and single-player games also made many people addicted. "Internet addict teenager" is a term that existed 20 years ago.
In the Internet age, "Generation Z" was born familiar with mobile phones. And mobile phones are constantly iterating, more and more popular with users, providing a variety of leisure and entertainment products, "there is always a suitable one for you". It is really difficult for minors with limited self-control to be able to resist this temptation of playfulness. Therefore, it seems that we should not be too harsh on children, nor can we bet all hopes of change on one ban.
In response to teenagers' mobile phone addiction, in the fields of games and short videos, relevant departments have successively launched a variety of regulatory mechanisms, and have been continuously updated and strengthened. However, it is better to block than to loosen. If we can't find the root of the problem, the relevant move may be a "chase and block" without much chance of winning.
Most of the left-behind children communicate with their parents through mobile phones; Our communication with the outside world is inseparable from mobile phones; The easiest way for many people to be happy today is still with mobile phones. Therefore, it is not realistic to completely eliminate mobile phones from people's lives. What we need is a harmonious coexistence of children, families and mobile phones.
In the eyes of many children who rely on mobile phones, they also want to snuggle in their mother's arms, share interesting things in school, and also want to climb mountains and play football with their fathers. However, their parents do not have the time or patience to accompany them, and they do not have the opportunity to enjoy the joy of their parents' company.
Therefore, if we cannot improve the child's growth environment, make up for the childhood trauma that the lack of family affection may bring to the child, and create more opportunities for the child to experience "advanced happiness", but blindly attribute the child's rebellion, lack of learning, and self-discipline to the mobile phone, then it is likely to hold down the gourd.
"Contention" was published by Xinhua News Agency and written by Zhu Huiqing
Busy, annoying, tired, there are many reasons for adults to pick up their phones and seek to withdraw from reality. Many times, children invite their parents to play games and read picture books again and again, but their parents inadvertently refuse the children and continue to be silly and happy on the screen. Children protest earlier than adults, wanting to pull back mom and dad addicted to their phones.
When we blame our children, we often forget these and forget to find answers in ourselves. Mobile phones are more of an excuse that we ourselves don't have to take responsibility for not being good parents.
In fact, we also know some answers to keep children away from mobile phones: create more parent-child time, output high-quality companionship, find diversified ways for children to realize self-worth, establish social groups, and find healthier and higher happiness with children...
"Salvage" children who fall into mobile phones, those of us who are parents, we must go ashore first.
Preventing teenagers from becoming addicted to mobile phones requires thunderous measures at the policy level, and every family needs to be able to turn the wind and rain. Solving the problem of left-behind children's addiction to mobile phones is obviously more complicated.
Mr. Gong believes that those who know people better than algorithms are family members who get along day and night; Happier than playing on your phone is being with your family.
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Source: Daily Worker's client