Text|Mi Xiaomu
If the child's picky eater affects health, parents will always be very anxious. If you want your child not to be a picky eater, it will be more effective to analyze the reasons first and then find corresponding countermeasures.
At the level of reasons, there are two angles that can be considered, one is the child itself. For example, my second eldest did not eat all the black things before. Eggplant is not eaten because it feels like a snake.
Another perspective is to reflect on parents' eating habits. For example, there are friends who are picky eaters themselves, and it is no surprise that both children are picky eaters.
If the child is a picky eater and there is a parental factor in it, then start with the parents themselves. If it is a child's factor, like my second eldest does not eat eggplant, the method used by the eldest is worth learning.
The eldest first asked the second to try to touch the eggplant, feeling that there was nothing to fear, and the two began to treat the eggplant as a robbery and played the game. Since then, the second eldest no longer resists eggplants. As for black food, in addition to telling the second eldest about the benefits of eating this food, the boss will also use this food to make up stories.
Stories know what to do
Stories, children love to hear. At first, we can't think of making up stories, but we can tell children about this "Picky Eater" from "Stories Never Have Magic". The story goes to the effect that a little girl named Fufu only likes to eat bread. Her home is special, the house is made of all kinds of food. No matter how wonderful the food at every meal, Fufu always loves only bread.
One day, in her bakery, Fufu found a small door the size of her hand. Curious, Fufu opened the door and found a small strawberry. Fufu tasted the taste and felt good, and the next time she ate, she took the initiative to ask her parents for a little strawberry.
The next day, Fufu went to the bakery again for bread, this time discovering a new small door leading to the carrot room. Fufu tasted the carrots and thought they were very good, and took the initiative to ask for some carrots during the meal.
Of course, every day after that, Fufu can find different food in her bread room, and after tasting it well, she will take the initiative to ask for this food. Because Fufu's home is huge, her food discovery journey can take a long time.
That's the end of the story. This is a story that I personally like, love its naturalness, and there is no deliberate preaching. There are other picture book stories about picky eaters that you can find and read with your children.
A small reminder, when telling this kind of story with children, it is best to let go of utilitarianism, do not hold the idea of changing children's picky eaters, and have the heart to share stories. Because children can see our hearts, but whenever we want to change our children's minds, read and tell stories, children may actively block us.
In addition to the stories in books, you can also tell your child about real events. A pediatrician shared that he saw a child in the outpatient clinic, had a fever 12 times in 3 months, and did not grow 1 cm in height for half a year. The reason for the final finding out is that this child has been a picky eater for a long time, does not like to eat green vegetables and rice, his body is weak, and his resistance is poor.
In the face of picky eating children, you can tell relevant stories with children and feel the power of stories.
Get involved in life
Increase your child's sense of food. For example, go to the vegetable market with your children to buy vegetables. When you have time, you can also take your children to pick fruits and vegetables. On weekdays, you can make food with your children. If you don't like vegetables, you can try chopping vegetables, wrapping them into dumplings or buns, etc. Cooking food by themselves, children are full of accomplishment, especially like to eat their own food.
Two days ago, my two babies hydroponic green onions and garlic seedlings, and a few garlic seedlings grew. That's right, it's just a few garlic seedlings, and the children are worried about it, they must be cooked into vegetables and tasted well.
Eating food obtained through their own labor will be especially delicious when children's expectations are full.
Timely affirmation
Timely affirmation and encouragement of every small progress of children, this point really has to learn from my boss.
When the second eldest tried to touch the eggplant, the eldest immediately followed. After tasting the first bite of eggplant, the boss must also keep coming. Of course, the first bite of black food that the second eldest ate was also indispensable to the encouragement of the eldest.
Children are picky eaters, and every time there is progress, they affirm and encourage in time. Picky? Just disappeared like that.
A little summary
Frankly speaking, picky eaters actually have adults. Children have to grow their bodies, as long as they are not too exaggerated, adults do not have to worry too much.
By playing games, telling stories, and participating in life, children can be guided to establish a healthy view of eating and affirm every place that deserves recognition. In this process, don't be an "adult who should guide but like to teach" as Gomi Taro said.
I am Mi Xiaomu, a sincere reader and sharer, welcome to follow.
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