Behind the fermentation of Hu Ge's wife's incident, what I saw was the "sense of unworthiness" of the female collective

At the end of last month, everyone should have seen the hot search of Hu Ge's official announcement of becoming a father, although the popularity of this matter has passed for more than ten days, I still want to talk about some views on some comments on the Internet and the influence behind them. As one of the remaining male gods of Immortal Sword, Lao Hu finally got rid of the single.

Followed by netizens to Hu Ge's wife's "infinite" curiosity, painstaking people do not live up to the day, this girl named Huang Xining, from birth to work, as long as there are photos are all at a glance, after reading the appearance to understand the information, netizens waved a pen and commented one after another - "Mean looks" "Very scheming" "The temperament is like a working girl at the bottom of the society with a low culture, and she can't take it" Some netizens mocked Hu Ge and said: "Maybe you're old, don't pick it, find a woman, just have children." Some netizens even suggested that his wife publish a book titled "How to Become a Star Assistant and Win a Star"

These netizens judged and scored from the woman's appearance, education and family lineage, and then tried to conclude that the woman was "not worthy of Hu Ge", and behind this layer of unworthiness may be a deep group unconsciousness.

I don't know if you have heard similar words in your life - good women are not hundreds, girls don't need to fight too hard, it's good to find a rich man to marry, good girls won't dress so revealingly, girls are the most suitable to study liberal arts, and women who don't have children are incomplete.

Will you carry all of this? Consciously or unconsciously, we have become commonplace and even acquiesced to such "disciplines", and these terms seem to be aimed at women, and the Japanese sociologist Chizuko Ueno has referred to this common cultural phenomenon as "misogyny" in her book

Chizuruko points out that misogyny is divided into two types - one is men's contempt for women, and the other is women's own contempt for themselves.

For example, in certain moments of life, you don't want to be a girl; There is also the otherness of the self, in short, the need to be recognized by men.

In the book "Misogyny", it is mentioned that men's values are determined by the struggle for hegemony in the men's world, and women's two values are earned by themselves and given by men. Hu Ge's value is outstanding by the measures of the male world, with money, beauty, and career. Compared with Hu Ge's wife, in addition to being young, an ordinary girl's appearance, education, and family conditions do not seem to meet the "standards" in the hearts of netizens, but if she is talented and has a successful career, can she be worthy of it?

Yang Zi, as a new generation of traffic flowers, a well-known "national girl", also because of her lack of outstanding appearance, was suggested by Song Dandan not suitable for entering the entertainment industry, her Weibo content, friend circle entries, variety show famous scenes, many of which are related to weight loss, was dragged by the assistant to the upper account, was cooperated with the male star smiled and said: "The upper limit is Yang Zi" But she is obviously already very thin, but she is still losing weight, in order to complete the 90-pound plan, she said that she has not eaten normally for a long time.

Powerful actor Zhou Xun also said that for a while he was afraid of aging, and even wanted to "engage". Facing Dong Qing on "Reader", she frankly said that after the broadcast of "Ruyi", a group of questions about her appearance on the Internet made her feel very sad, she said that it was the first time to face aging so strongly, she really saw that she was aging, and even tangled herself to do it. The characters are tall, short, fat and thin, and people will not be young forever, and they still face the "sense of unworthiness" that is questioned.

Gina once made hot search headlines with "6 months pregnant and no change in waist", and the expectant mother praised and promoted "not showing pregnancy", is it beautiful? People with a little common sense know that pregnancy and childbirth need to face a lot of risks, bear a lot of pain, will not always maintain a beautiful "A4" waist, chest sagging, urine leakage, body shape, but also stretch marks distress, not a key recovery. "After giving birth to a baby, it is still full of girly feeling", such propaganda can only be misleading.

But under the packaging of the Internet, it is difficult for us to see the real side, not only for pregnant women, more girls in reality, guided comic legs, ant waist, vest line, collarbone fish farming, etc., and even shopping malls, have posted an aesthetic discipline such as "Women's Size Recommendation Sheet" Is it the aesthetic standard of the female group? Is blindly pursuing girlishness, white and thin, really just a woman's standard for herself?

The king of Chu loves a thin waist, and he starves to death in the palace, such examples are not scarce even today, so is no one jumping out of the discipline of the "king of Chu"? Some people say that Jia Ling is a representative, but I don't think she escaped either. The book "Misogyny" mentioned that there are two strategies to get rid of misogyny, one is to become a privileged elite woman, treated by men as an "honorary man", that is, to become a "strong woman" The other is to automatically withdraw from the category of "woman", escape the identity of the woman being evaluated, and become a female man who obscures female characteristics, Jia Ling in front of the public has been laughing at her figure and playing terrier, in the sketch she is regarded as, a "female man" who foils the goddess, but she seems to be grinning, but she covers her vulnerability and sensitivity, and there can be many Shen Teng in the entertainment industry, There are many Huang Bo, but there is no second Jia Ling.

After Hu Ge's official announcement continued to ferment, some people even ran to Hu Ge's ex-girlfriend, Xue Jianing's Weibo commented that she felt sorry for her, and even some netizens said that women should eat more wild vegetables. In addition to the figure and appearance, there are really many "unworthiness" feelings of blow and denial, can we change this situation? It's hard, but we can change each of us "as an individual", get rid of the shackles of discipline, make the skin a little lighter, and every girl must have a sense of deserving, because you are unique, tall, short and thin, to follow your most comfortable posture, the traces of the passage of time, not always wrinkles, but also experience.

Countless girls are working hard to get rid of "not thin enough" "not beautiful enough" "good work is better than marrying" "can't learn science and engineering" "can't wear too little" "life is incomplete without children", breaking all the special labels defined in "women", the value of women deserves to be seen by everyone, and more worthy of being affirmed by everyone, Girls help girls!

No one can escape this big net of culture, but we still hope that we will unite and become "fish that slipped through the net", as Beauvoir said in "The Second Sex": women are not born, they are created by society, and we rely on the change of the entire society in addition to our own liberation.

There is a long way to go, but we can start with ourselves, love ourselves and then love others, refuse to be dominated, be controlled, and dare to say no

Break stereotypes, be confident and love yourself more, Girls deserve everything!