I often see people in the circle of friends who miss their predecessors, although I know that the two people can no longer be together, but still can not let go, some people may feel that they seem to be very affectionate, but in fact, this is torturing themselves.
In fact, many times this situation is because when two people are together, one party does not understand the other party's good, always feel that this is the other party should be, sometimes do not understand the other party, always according to their own ideas.
Wait until the end of the breakup of the life without that person, not used to it, only to gradually find out how good the other party is, and then a person fell into endless memories and regrets, to know that this time is too late.
There are also many people who will choose to delete or block out all the contact information of the other party when they break up, but this is not useful.
If you don't let go of a person, you will always want to pay attention to each other's every move, and sometimes ask each other what the other person is doing from mutual friends, in fact, it is yourself who is so uncomfortable.
People who are really relieved will not disturb each other's lives even if they do not delete or block out each other's contact information, and occasionally brush the circle of friends to see the dynamics of each other's likes, knowing that the other party is living well is enough.
And those who tend to deliberately pay attention to the dynamics of others are actually not completely free, you are self-paralyzed.
People who don't really let go, even if you delete or block the other person, is just a superfluous move.
Two days ago, I watched such a video: a girl walking on the street, a boy drove a car suddenly appeared in front of her, and then got out of the car to drag the girl crazy into the car, the girl shouted loudly for help and was finally saved by the people around her. The girl said it was his ex-boyfriend, and he had done this more than once or twice.
In fact, it is conceivable that this is because of love and hate, when the two people are together, they did not cherish the girl well, they regretted breaking up, and the girl was unwilling to reconcile.
So the boy hates because of love, complaining about why the girl does not return to him, in fact, he just can't step over the hurdle in his heart, and his heart can't be released, which is also a manifestation of narrow-mindedness. How deeply you love, how deep you hate.
In fact, if you want to really let go of a person, the most important thing is time and transfer.
As the saying goes: it is easier to fall in love than to be difficult to keep together. It's easy for two people to be together, but many of them can't experience the ups and downs of the way.
The kind of love that runs for a few years or even more than ten years and finally gets married is very enviable, but not all couples who have been together for so long can go to the end.
This kind of final breakup of being together for many years is actually the most difficult to let go, because basically their youth is that person, the hardest days are also spent with them, the process is painful, the memories are beautiful, and this is often the most difficult for them to let go and the most memorable.
But over time, everything will be diluted, and the person you loved before will fade away in your memories.
The other person will have a new life of their own, will meet another person who loves her, and will also have their own family, their own children. At the same time, you will also have your own new life.
So, even if you can't completely let go of a person now, don't worry, take your time, time will always wash away everything.
In addition to time, diverting your attention is also a great way to do it.
When a person keeps himself busy, he doesn't have the extra thoughts and energy to think about other things.
You can do what you love, ask a few friends out on trips, concentrate on work, and spend more time with your family.
When you distract you, you will find that the person is not so memorable to you. When you are really busy, you have no time to take care of more things, and your heart is not so tired.
Only by making your life full will you find that there are many other beautiful things in the world that are worth pursuing, rather than falling into a relationship and not being able to walk out.
To treat a relationship, you must be able to afford to put it down, after all, there is a sacrifice to get. When we are together, treat others with sincerity, and if you break up like this, you will not have regrets.
You always have to believe that there will always be a reward for giving your heart, even if it is not the person in front of you or the person who has been lost.
Don't trap yourself in a relationship that can't come out, so that you yourself will be very tired and will bring trouble to the other party.
In life, no one can live without anyone, more is just a test of time.
So even if your relationship is over, don't be overly sad, it is better to find something meaningful to do, you will find that in fact, life is not so bad, not as sad as imagined, and it is not necessary for her.
Only when you willingly let go of a person is the real relief, can you start a good life again.