Xiulan's hometown is from Hebei, and she has an older brother, two younger brothers, and a younger sister.
When Xiulan was young, she was introduced to Heilongjiang to settle down, married and had two sons, and her husband died after she was in her 50s.
Xiulan made a family for her two children and would go to Hebei every year to visit her old mother.
Xiulan's parents both lived in rural Hebei, and three sons and a daughter were also married in the same Zhuang.
Xiulan's parents have a big business and are rich families in the village.
After Xiulan's parents turned 70, Xiulan's younger brother-in-law and daughter-in-law Huiying tried her best to coax her in-laws to return to her home for the elderly.
Xiulan's parents are old, they can't withstand the hush and warmth of their daughter-in-law, and they take care of them before and after running, and they return to their youngest son's house.
Xiulan's parents have a large compound, as well as land, four cows, and part of the savings in their hands have been handed over to their daughter-in-law.
When Xiulan's parents first got together with their youngest son. The youngest daughter-in-law Huiying also took good care of her in-laws, who died at the age of 78, leaving her mother-in-law alone, still living with her youngest son and couple.
The old lady is physically tough, usually her son and daughter-in-law go to the field to plant crops, she can help cook at home, feed chickens, ducks and geese, the family cows, the old lady can also add fodder and drinking water.
The old lady does not eat idle meals at home, and helps with everything.
Xiulan's older brother and second brother, because their parents gave all the family property to their younger brother, resented, and rarely interacted with their parents when their father was alive.
Xiulan lives in the northeast and usually calls or mails some clothes to her healthy mother.
My sister, who lives in the same village, from time to time goes to her brother's house to see her mother and help her wash clothes and bedding.
When the old lady can do things, she lives peacefully with her daughter-in-law and children.
The little daughter-in-law Huiying did not expect that the old lady would live a long life every year, and after 80 and then to 90 years old.
After the old lady turned 90, she could no longer do the work at home, and lived alone in the Westinghouse, where she could only eat the meals prepared by her daughter-in-law every day.
All the actions of the old lady need to be taken care of, and Hui Ying's heart is gradually unbalanced.
Huiying often nags with her husband: "The little things I got when I first separated the family have been spent all these years, who would have thought that this old lady has been dragging people down for a long life?" If I knew that she was like this, how could I want all those insignificant possessions? ”
After Hui Ying had this idea, she gradually lost her attention to her mother-in-law's service, and usually croaked at the old lady and broke the bowl.
The old lady could only pretend to be deaf and dumb and pretend to be confused.
Huiying has a son and a daughter, the daughter is married, and there is still a son at home, sometimes the son is not used to his mother treating his grandmother slowly, and will count his mother: "Can you be kind to my grandmother?" She is not stupid, she can understand and understand, you will also be a mother-in-law in the future, to accumulate blessings for yourself. ”
Huiying converged a little in front of her son, her son was not at home, and she went her own way to the old man.
Xiulan was afraid that her mother would be angry at home, and once took her mother to live in the northeast for two or three years, and her mother later thought that she was old and could return to the west at any time, saying that she must return to her roots, so she returned to her youngest son's house and refused to leave her youngest son's house.
Huiying saw that the old lady was always in her own home, and she complained, and often pointed at her mother-in-law with a burning stick to blame.
The mother-in-law did not say a word, and pretended not to understand with her eyes closed.
Xiulan went to Hebei to visit her mother, and saw that her mother's mattress was all black marks, so she asked her mother: "Why did you make it, it is so dirty?" ”
My mother said, "Your sister-in-law often knocked on my mattress with a burning stick and counted me. ”
When it was almost noon, Xiulan found that her mother kept opening the door and looking at her brother's house, and looked at it again and again; Sit for a while, and then go to the ghostly look.
Xiulan asked her mother: "Mom, what do you see?" ”
The old lady said, "Did I see if I had eaten?" If there is a table over there, and I am still sitting here, my daughter-in-law will say to me: The meal is ready, I have to invite you, you are the emperor! I had to get ready, see the people put the table and move over to sit and wait. ”
Xiulan is not by her mother's side, what can she say?
The old lady's clothes are provided by Xiulan all year round, Xiulan is the salary of five or seven workers, she does not earn much, she pays 200 yuan to her brothers and daughters-in-law every month, thank her for taking care of the old mother.
Because Xiulan sends money to her brother-in-law Huiying every month, Huiying and her eldest sister also say a few words with a smile.
And the two eldest uncles and sisters-in-law living in the same village, Hui Ying did not say a word to them, because the two brothers came to see the old lady empty-handed, and the second uncle could still buy something to eat with his daughter-in-law behind his back, and the eldest uncle was afraid of his daughter-in-law and had nothing.
The sister-in-law in the same village often visited her mother, helped with laundry, and asked her what medicines she needed.
The old lady lives year after year, she is not confused, her ears are not deaf, and her eyes are not dazzled.
Huiying looked at the old lady's long life, I don't know when it will be the end, and she takes care of the old lady even more inattentively.
When the weather is warm, the old lady squats outside to pee, can't get up if she wants to stand up, will climb forward, climb to a place where she can use her hands, and then barely stand up.
When Xiulan went to visit her mother that time, she didn't tell anyone, she came directly to her mother's house, and saw her mother climbing forward underground, climbing to the windowsill, dragging a railing next to the windowsill, and slowly straightening her waist.
Xiulan rushed over to pick up her mother, and her tears rolled down.
Xiulan's heart is very bad, seeing her mother in her 90s being aggrieved, she lives in her little brother's house and takes care of her mother every day.
Seeing that the eldest sister did not leave, Hui Ying went out to work with her husband every day, throwing all the cows in the family to the eldest sister, letting the eldest sister feed them, as well as the pigs and poultry in the family, and everything was handed over to the eldest sister.
Xiulan served her mother for more than two months, plus taking care of some livestock in her brother's family, so tired that she worked at her old mother's house for a few days, and her sister came to take care of her.
Huiying said to the eldest sister: "You are also in your seventies, don't tire yourself out, you should go back, you don't have to take care of the old lady so much, can't you believe me or what?" ”
Xiulan said good things to Xiuhuiying, separated from her mother in tears, and returned to the northeast.
When the old lady was 96 years old, she unfortunately contracted the flu and had a fever all over her body, which made her scratch her heart and liver painfully, and she talked nonsense every day, and she tore the clothes she was wearing hard.
The night that the eldest son and the second son of the same village came to take care of their mother, the mother was surprisingly quiet, drank some water, and ate a small half-bowl of eight-treasure porridge
The next morning, my sister-in-law came to see how her mother was doing
The eldest brother said to his sister: "Last night I gave my mother some antipyretic medicine, I slept very well this night, I didn't make any trouble, and I drank some porridge in the morning. ”
Hui Ying, like the lit cannon fight, "poofed" and jumped on the kang, grabbed her mother-in-law's clothes, and said loudly: "If you want to die, you will leave while there are many people, and as soon as others leave, you will make trouble and toss me!" ”
The two eldest uncles didn't say anything and left. The sister-in-law stood next to her with a mask because she had a cold, watching the old mother lying on the bed with her eyes closed, motionless.
Huiying ignored her sister-in-law.
The sister-in-law said to Huiying: "I also have a cold, I am here to serve my mother, are you afraid that I will infect you?" ”
Huiying said: "You go back first, mom is fine." ”
The old lady stood up for another three days, and two big brothers from the same village helped take care of it until the old lady swallowed.
The 73-year-old Xiulan received the news of the death of her old mother in the northeast, and said that this was an old man, which can be regarded as a joy and a relief.
Xiulan called Hui Ying for 3,000 yuan and said, "I got the flu, don't send her, you can buy whatever you want for your mother!" ”
Hui Ying said to the eldest sister: "The old lady died, I have no shame, the old lady has been with me since she was 70 years old, I have served her for 26 years without merit and hard work, even when she returns to her soul for seven days, I am not afraid." ”
It turns out that there is this saying, saying that after the death of the old man, he will watch the house for seven days, of course, this is a superstitious saying.
Xiulan said to her brother and daughter-in-law: "My mother is a kind person, she will not be scared by anyone, what are you afraid of?" ”
When the old lady died, they were all buried by the old son, daughter-in-law, and the other two sons also attended the funeral, but they did not spend a penny, they felt that the property was inherited by the younger brother, and it was natural that he should send it to the old man.
My neighbor Jiang Daniang died at the age of 96, she had six children, Jiang Da Niang had her own independent building, because she had opened a grocery store since she was young and had some savings, and after she was 85 years old, her children began to take care of her.
Mrs. Jiang said to her six children: "Each person takes care of me for two months a year, 12 months a year, just one reincarnation, you don't take care of me, a hundred years later, my savings and real estate will be in duplicate, who doesn't take care of me, who automatically gives up inheritance?"
Jiang Da Niang found a notary and made a will
Jiang Daniang's children are also from all over the world, but everyone will automatically schedule shifts to her house to take care of her
Jiang Daniang said: "Whose class I go to, who provides me with rice, flour, grain and oil, my salary and savings are all saved, and they all belong to the inheritance in the future." ”
Jiang Da Niang also died at the age of 96, and after her children buried her, they sold the house, and the house money and savings were made in triplicate.
Jiang Da Niang's children said: "Old mother, from the expenses of being sick and hospitalized to dying, we did not spend our own money, this is all her own money. ”
Jiang Daniang's six children have always coexisted peacefully, and for the sake of money, there is no one who does not take care of the old mother.
You say: Do you keep the money until the end, or do you distribute it to your children in advance when you are old? Where is the safest place to put your money?