Speaking of gnawing the old. The elderly must pay attention, whether it is to retire with the child, or the child comes back to you for the pension, or what kind of pension. The old man must be ruthless and say so, if you are not responsible for yourself, then who will be responsible for you, only if you are responsible for yourself, others will be responsible for you, the old man must pay attention to this matter.
In the face of the child's unreasonable demands, you must ruthlessly refuse, ruthless rejection is responsible for yourself, you must be responsible for yourself. If you are already responsible for your wrongdoing, then in the end you will also be in the article this old man is the same, even if the pension 7000 can not live, let's take a look at this matter. A new type of gnawing old man is coming, a 68-year-old man with a pension of 7,000, but now he can't survive.
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68-year-old Uncle Li:
68 years old is still very young, after all, the average life expectancy is so long now, let alone 68, 78 88 98 are all there, but 68 years old I can't live. Then some people think that I can't live, it must be because there is no money, or there is no pension, if there is a pension and there is still a more pension, I will definitely want to live, after all, this society is so beautiful, and then there is no need to work, you can also take so much money, who does not want to live who does not want to live a good life.
What I want to say is to say so, but it's not like this, I have a pension of 7,000 yuan a month, so much money is a lot, but I still don't want to live, I'm too uncomfortable, but who can blame me for this ending now?
I can only blame myself, if I am cruel to the children, maybe this is not the end now, it is me who hurt myself, which is the fundamental reason why I said this thing. Don't think your children will be like this, I want to say that children are the same now, their pressure is too much and too big, take my children for example.
My child can also be regarded as a famous university graduate, now more than 10,000 yuan a month, it sounds like more than 10,000 yuan is a lot, after all, now can get more than 10,000 yuan is very few, according to relevant data, can take more than 10,000 yuan a month on 1% of people, that is to say, only one person in 100 people can get 10,000 yuan a month. This probability is less, it can also be regarded as the dragon and phoenix among people, he is more than 10,000 yuan a month is still not enough to spend, is it not because of a mortgage?
It will take 30 years to repay the mortgage, and then the car loan will take several years, and it will take several years to raise children, family, and wife. Don't you need money for all kinds of expenses? This more than 10,000 yuan can sound like a lot, but it is not enough to spend me at all, and then I softened my heart to the children, I thought that after I helped them, they would be filial to me, and they are my children, they are so difficult, can I ignore them?
Don't say I'm like this, I think there are a lot of parents under the sun. I never thought that helping my children hurt myself, and how good it would be if I didn't help them and ignore them, otherwise I wouldn't be so miserable now. I'm too hard, I can't live now, isn't it because of them? The old man must pay attention to such things, if you are not responsible for yourself, who will be responsible for you, you must be responsible for yourself, you must carefully read my case.
I stayed with my son a year ago. Isn't it my son who came back to pick me up because I live with my son? At the beginning, I didn't agree to go to my son's place, I said directly to my son, forget it, I don't want to go to your place now, I know your wife doesn't like me, and I also know that I will disturb your life if I go to you. I still live in my hometown, I live alone in my hometown, it's fine.
More importantly, I live freely in my hometown. When I really need to take care of you or need you someday, I'll go to your place. Now I really don't want to go. My son said, it's not a question of whether you want to think about it or not. It's me who worries about you. As soon as you are old, I don't worry if you are home alone. That's what my friend's friend's mother did the other day.
My friend's friend's mother lives at home. Then something happened to my friend's friend's mother. But my friend's friend didn't know. It took several days to find out, and it was someone else who told him. What if something like this happens to you? I was out all year round and I rarely went home. What should I do if something happens to you?
When my mother died, I promised my mother that I would treat you well. Now that you are old, and my conditions there are quite good, I should give you a pension and should be responsible for you. In the past, if there was no such condition, forget it, but now it should be responsible for you when the conditions are good. I'm not responsible for you, who is responsible for something like that, although the probability of it happening is a little small. But once it happens, it will make me feel guilty for the rest of my life. I don't want to feel guilty for the rest of my life, and I don't want to be so bad for you. Without you there would be no me, you gave me life, you gave me everything. You are my father, so I should be responsible for you.
I didn't say anything, you just go back with me, you don't have to worry about my wife's side, I'll find a way to solve it." And men talk, women interject what? I'm talking to you two big men, my wife shouldn't say anything. My wife didn't dare to say anything, and if he dared to say anything, I would throw my wife out. I am the head of the family, and the decisions I make are the decisions made by this family. So you don't have to worry about what's going on on my wife's side. Come back with me.
That's how I went with my son to retire. When I first went to my son's house, it was really good. My daughter-in-law doesn't like me. But my son taught her a lesson. In the end, the matter was gone. I thought my son would always be responsible for me and would always be good to me. I never expected that my son did everything with other intentions. It didn't take long for my son to hand over my pay card. I told my son that these things were my life-saving things. Can I not hand it over?
If I don't quit, what will happen to me in the future? My son said, what are you afraid of? Isn't it nice for you to live here? In the future, when you run out of money, I will also be responsible for you and will be responsible for you. You don't have to worry about that, I'll let you hand over the money, not just for my own good, but for your own good. We live in this house now, and the monthly mortgage is more than 8,000. Your rent refund is almost enough to pay the mortgage. Leave him to you later. Because I was responsible for living the life of this family, we divided the work. This can also be regarded as a shine for this family. I wanted to refuse, but my son simply didn't give me a chance to refuse.
Then I told my son, if you don't want to hand it over, then you can lend me the money. I'll write you an IOU. Then you hand over the money, and then the conditions are good or when I have money. I'll give you back all my pay card and your money. That's always okay, right? Then my son said that I had not seen my son ask his father for money to write an IOU. But if you have to ask me to write an IOU, then I'll write it. If you have to ask me to mortgage something, then I will mortgage this house, and the title deed will be kept for you.
That's always okay, right? I have to support a large family by myself for a house, and the pressure is too great. You are my father who came to live in the house again, and I am so good to you. Shouldn't you share the pressure for me? You keep that money, so it's better to take it out. You know I'm out of breath alone. Who will help me if you don't help me? You're my father, and you have to help me.
My son has said this, how can I refuse? Later, my son wrote me an IOU. What is the use of this IOU? This IOU is of no use at all. I later learned that there was no date on the IOU. That is to say, the IOU is not valid at all. Even if I had to call the police, the police wouldn't be able to help me. That's when I realized that I had fallen into my son's trap. Just like that, my money was gone and I couldn't get it back.
Said, if the conditions are good, he will return it to me, but after a few months, my son has not returned me a dime. If you don't pay me back, forget it, and all kinds of wool consumption. I was asked to pay for food, and at the beginning, I paid for food. Later, even the utility bills and the cost of my children's education were asked for me.
Although I have a deposit, I can't withstand such a wool. Soon I ran out of money, and when I ran out of money, I started asking my son for pocket money. Unexpectedly, my son not only did not give me pocket money, but even blamed me. My son said to me angrily, don't you know that it is difficult for young people to work? We suffer and suffer to earn a little money, and you are so relaxed at home alone, do you still have to ask me for money?
If you have no money, you will spend less, there is no need to spend money indiscriminately. What do you want to do at home? Don't toss it, don't ask me for money, I don't have money if you ask me for money. How this home is so difficult for you to know, where there is still any money for you to make pocket money. Even if you have money, you should read to your children, do you have to compete with your children for resources? It's just a little bit of money, do you want to spend this money? Shouldn't this money be left for children to study?
When the child grows up and knows that he has such a grandfather, do you think the child will be filial to you in the future? You are not young, it is time to be sensible, don't do such meaningless things, okay? If you are at home all day and don't go out, you don't need to spend money at all. I was directly speechless, who said I didn't go out? No matter how old people are, they need to spend money. I also don't want to talk to my son anymore, I'm mad at me. I shouldn't have come here to retire, I shouldn't have handed over my pension and all my money.
Now I have nothing, I want to leave this home, and I don't know where to go back to my hometown, but how can I live without money? Many people say that it is not possible to replace the salary card? I also know that it is possible to make up pay cards. But my son warned me what would happen to him if I refilled my pay card. More importantly, I don't dare to make up my salary card, how to say such a shameful thing? The more I think about it, the more uncomfortable it gets.
Later, my son still hid from me and sold the house in his hometown. I was directly stunned. Originally, I thought that I could go back to my hometown in the future, but now my son has directly cut off my back road. Where do I go from here? It's been almost half a year since my son came. Tired and angry, and the main thing is that there is no money left. I can't afford to buy something if I want to go out, so I usually buy everything for my son, or ask him for money.
Let my son buy it for me, my son directly does not buy it, asks him for money, my son directly does not give it. Sometimes my son asks me to ask my daughter-in-law. My daughter-in-law asked me to ask my son again. They kicked me around like a ball. I regretted that I shouldn't have come over, let alone handed over everything I had. There is no turning back now. There was no way, it would cost money to get by, and then I asked my friend to borrow money. Every time you borrow money, you borrow a few hundred or 1,000. Those friends thought I was having some kind of trouble and lent me money. After all, after decades of friends, you can still borrow a thousand and a hundred. The money was borrowed, but there was no money to pay it back.
In order to repay the money, I could only tear down the eastern wall to replace the western wall. Borrow money from this friend and borrow money from another friend to pay it back. Later, they all knew about it, my reputation stinked, and no one dared to lend me money. Then those people started coming to me for money, and my chain of funds broke. Then there is the paragraph at the beginning of the article, where friends come to my house and ask me for money. I was wrong, I was wrong, wrong. With a pension of 7,000, I now have my turn to borrow money to live. I'm so miserable... Can't live.
Outcome:
Who can be blamed for this ending now? If you want to blame, blame yourself, if you were ruthless to refuse the child at the beginning, then is this the ending? But I can't blame you entirely, old people like you have a lot of real life. Many elderly people feel that their children need help, and then we have to help.
But what I want to say is what about the children in your class, have you thought about your future life, you helped the children, are you responsible for yourself? Help the child can, after all, the child needs help, but you also have to leave yourself a way back, if you don't leave a way for yourself, it will definitely be you who regrets it later, because there is a saying that says so.
If you are not responsible for yourself, who will be responsible for you, only if you are responsible for yourself, then others will be responsible for you, even your children, if you are not responsible for yourself, then your children will not be responsible for you. So you have to be responsible for yourself, and when you are responsible for yourself, your children will be responsible for you, understand? I hope that through this case, all the elderly can pay attention, you must be responsible for yourself.