Last year now, I was just 49 years old, and it was my most painful moment.
I was not in good health, I came to menopause, I was covered in pain every day, and my legs hurt when I slept in bed at night.
I sought medical treatment and medicine in many places, visited famous doctors without effect, and went to the major third-class hospitals in the city, and spent more than 8,900 yuan a year on various examinations and treatment fees. What's even more infuriating is that after reading the diagnosis, the doctor invariably said that I had no problem, but a disease-free moan.
In April 2020, I said goodbye to my great aunt of 33 years and became a carefree fake woman. But the pain that followed made me restless.
Because I reached menopause, my body's estrogen dropped and there was a menopausal reaction.
Since the summer of 2020, I was inexplicably anxious, depressed and worried every day, and now I look back on it funny, and I feel that I am unfounded.
But at that time, it was like this, every day I was depressed, anxious, and even crying for no reason.
I feel like the most pitiful woman in the world, and everyone else is much happier than me. I often dwell in the past, reminiscing about things I forgot for decades, and even being bullied by boys at the same table when I was in school.
These memories are all painful, not a single happy thing, so it makes me even more painful, I feel that I am the most pitiful person in the world, who has experienced too much suffering in the world. Therefore, I often cry inexplicably.
Seeing me in this situation, my family was helpless. Because in their eyes, I am purely looking for something to do, and I am panicking and thinking of things.
My lover and children think that I have no worries about food and clothing, although I am not very rich and noble, but I am also a well-off family, and I am more than enough than the bottom. The lover will not cheat, young and handsome, gentle, the children are sensible and obedient and have an ideal work, the appearance is high and the salary is high, the family house has also bought several sets, the deposit is not much, but there is no worry about food and clothing.
Therefore, in the eyes of the family, I just have nothing to look for, pick bones in the egg, and find unpleasant for myself.
My daughter is as gentle as my father, and their father and daughter often make me happy, and they are all choked back by me because I am annoyed!
I was upset and didn't know if it was because of physical discomfort caused by irritability or irritability caused by physical discomfort. All in all, I was uncomfortable all over, from physical to mental.
I like to sweat, I sweat profusely when I move, because I dare not wear more clothes because of sweating, it is late autumn and I am still wearing a summer dress, and people look at me strangely when walking on the street. Even so, I was drenched in sweat.
When I slept at night, I couldn't stand the heat, and I was sweating under the summer blanket. I simply stripped off the quilt and slept in only my thin summer pajamas.
My lover woke up from his sleep, shivering with cold, and he fumbled with his hand to find the quilt and cover it again, but I kicked it away again. After a few rounds like this, he had no choice but to cover half of his body with a quilt.
Worried that I was frozen, he secretly covered me with a quilt while I was not paying attention, and asked me to push it back.
In order not to disturb each other, I went to my son's room to sleep. Because I originally slept lightly, coupled with sweating, it was difficult to fall asleep at night. And my lover snored all the time, which made me even more irritable.
At night, my calves were sore, and I still couldn't solve the problem of changing various postures, and I rolled uncomfortably on the bed, feeling that the 1.8-meter big bed was not enough for me to occupy alone, and my lover became an obstacle for me.
So, I slept in separate beds and felt like I was sleeping alone.
When I wake up in the morning, my calves and ankles are stiff, and my index finger joints of my hands are stiff and painful, and I have to move for a while to relieve them.
My headache, dizziness, memory loss, dare not stop when working, others immediately forget as soon as they make a fork, and I don't know what I want to do.
Once, I went to the market with 100 yuan in my hand to buy vegetables. When choosing vegetables, I forgot the yuan in my hand and lost it. When I chose the vegetables and said that I had to pay, I realized that I didn't know when, the money in my hand had long disappeared, and I was so anxious that I shouted that there was a thief. But the money is obviously in his hands!
Helplessly, I had to admit that I was unlucky.
Since then, I have to carry my bag when I go out, what should I do if I lose my phone? Every time the family is not worried, they have to tell me several times, and when they go home, they have to ask me if the things I brought with me are brought home safe and sound?
I have a restaurant in my house, and the business is booming, and there are many customers who eat, but because there are many customers for meals, I am annoyed.
I can't remember the guest menus, I often put them on the line, I have to calculate the accounts several times, I often forget the drinks and cold dishes, and sometimes I even find the wrong money.
The customers were dissatisfied with me and gave me their opinions, saying that I was a hostess, and my ability was not as good as the waiter in the store, and I could go home and hold the child.
I was angry, my head began to hurt again, and the pain was so dim that I couldn't stand firmly, my face was sallow, and the sky was spinning, so I had to slip down and squat by the wall.
The guest was frightened and quickly called my lover to take me to the hospital, worried that I would depend on him.
Some guests said that I had suffered from heat stroke and kindly brought me Huo Xiang Zhengqi Water. But I knew in my heart that I was not suffering from heat stroke, but was caused by the noise of the guests.
So, I went to the hospital to check my health, and it was to Tangdu Hospital.
After some examination, I got all the checklists, and after the hospital looked at it, it strangely said that my physical indicators were normal, and there was no disease.
I begged the doctor, saying that I was indeed sick and uncomfortable, which affected my normal life. But the doctor ignored me and called for the next patient to come in and check his body.
I knew that the doctor was messing with me.
Therefore, I went to the lesser Chinese medicine hospital for examination, and felt that the big hospitals only paid attention to critically ill patients, and did not pay attention to patients like me.
In the Chinese Medicine Hospital, the doctor was confused after doing various examinations for me, saying that my indicators were normal and there was no problem.
Finally, the doctor asked me to do a psychological test. Because of irritability, I answered the questions indiscriminately and ticked off the most serious performances.
Based on my tests, the doctor said I had anxiety and depression and hospitalized me.
The child listened anxiously, saying that the mother is menopausal with a bad temper, where is there any depression? In terms of quantity, that is, short-temperedness, a little anxiety.
Therefore, the child strongly disagreed with my hospitalization, saying that it would make my mother sick.
She also called her father to inform him of the incident, and the father and daughter agreed not to let me be hospitalized.
Therefore, a lot of Chinese and Western medicines were prescribed, and there was no effect, but because of the side effects, I couldn't wake up every day, and I had nightmares.
I was so frightened that I cried out loudly, but I couldn't wake up from my dream, so my lover had to shake me up desperately and stay by my bedside.
Finally, he got angry and said that if I drink it again, my people will be wasted. He threw away all the medicines, and I was a little reluctant, thinking that it cost thousands of dollars to buy them.
I went to the rheumatology hospital again to check the rheumatoid factor, and after a series of tests, the results showed that everything was normal, except for mild index finger arthritis.
The doctor prescribed me a lot of Chinese and Western medicines to take at home, saying that I couldn't come again.
Unwillingly, I went to the orthopedic hospital again, feeling that the doctors of the rheumatology hospital could not do it.
But in the largest orthopedic hospital in the province, after doing various examinations, the doctor also said that I was not sick.
Seeing other patients on crutches, in wheelchairs, and being carried alive, I felt ashamed and felt that I was taking up public medical resources and blocking hospitals.
Helpless, I went home again.
I was still reluctant and felt I needed to be treated for sweating. Now, all the major hospitals have been there, and I have nowhere to go, so I have to visit famous folk doctors.
My lover inquired in many ways, saying that there was a famous old Chinese medicine doctor hundreds of miles away.
He took me to treatment.
I took all kinds of checklists and showed them to the old Chinese doctor. The old Chinese medicine doctor said that the moisture on my body was too heavy, and it was the poor blood circulation caused by the cold that made my legs, feet and hands stiff in the morning. There is also sweating, which is also caused by too weak the body, and if blindly treated, it will also be life-threatening.
I was terrified and quickly begged the doctor to treat me properly, and the doctor said that I was lucky to have met him, and he could definitely cure my sweat.
He prescribed me more than 400 yuan of Chinese medicine, packed it in a snakeskin bag, and asked me to go home and take it slowly.
My heart felt like it was going to fly, and I felt that this would definitely cure the disease. Because in order to treat my illness, my family has closed the store, stopped business, and my lover has done her best to accompany me to see a doctor.
But by the time the medicine was finished, my legs and hands were still stiff.
I was discouraged, thinking that I was just a menopausal reaction, why is it always cured?
I also went to Tangdu Hospital for examinations many times and asked the doctor to give me estrogen supplements, but the doctor refused.
The doctor said that he should be responsible for the patient and cannot supplement estrogen indiscriminately. Because this is easy to cause cancer, my body is far from the point where I need estrogen supplementation, and she asked me to go back and adjust my mentality, change my lifestyle, and change my environment.
I think it makes sense, my anxiety may be caused by too many customers in the store, and I don't like to open a restaurant and do things I don't like, which makes me feel unhappy.
My physical discomfort is because of the menopausal reaction, maybe I have magnified the condition and paid too much attention to the body.
As a result, I stopped paying attention to my body, I chose to ignore it, and I felt that there was also a reason for too little exercise to be unwell.
I started to exercise, go out for a while every day after writing headlines, go to the community fitness square to do a while, and then go to the Decathlon track in the evening for a few laps, and the child also gave me a card to do yoga.
I want to travel! Because I like to travel all my life, I used to have no time to go out because my family opened a store, so I could only take advantage of the holidays to close the store for two days.
Now that I have a lot of time sitting at home, traveling should be the most appropriate.
So, I added six tour guides to WeChat, and when I saw a good tourist route, I signed up for the tour. Because I don't have enough energy, the tour is very suitable for me, I don't have to worry about the travel route and accommodation, just follow the tour guide.
My lover went out with me on a trip in order to take care of me. We went to many places, Hunan Xiangxi almost ran all over, the beautiful Phoenix ancient city left our footprints, Zhangjiajie and Furong Town did not miss it, Shaoshan Chong and Ningxiang County Great People Hometown also went.
He also went to the steep Fanjing Mountain, climbed to the golden peak of the red clouds, and sang mountain songs to welcome the guests with the hospitable Miao family girls in Miao Village.
Suddenly, one day, I found that my legs, feet and hand joints became sharper, and I was overjoyed. I feel that my head is not painful and dizzy, and my mood is cheerful.
I tell my lover about these changes, and she is happy for me, and I think it's all a credit for travel.
Because I didn't have time to think about those worries during the trip, I was so tired that I fell asleep all day, got up at 5 a.m., and returned to the hotel at 11 p.m., with a full schedule and no energy to think about other things.
Because I went to beautiful scenic spots and monuments, I was accompanied by my lover, who had a high tacit understanding with me, and took care of me in every way, which made me feel happy.
I love to travel and these are the things I have fun with, so I'm in a good mood.
I think these are the reasons why my body is getting better. Therefore, I prefer to travel more.
On days when I can't go out of the province, I choose to participate in local day trips to play with a group of elderly people who like to be lively, and I met a few people of the same age during the tour, we have similar families, have a common language, and are very compatible.
I took a lot of videos, had fun, and felt happy and healthy. It seems that mood is an important factor in determining the body.
At home, I happily write headlines, buy myself snacks and fruits, make myself delicacies, and go out to exercise.
I do what I love, have fun, be in a good mood, stop crying and laughing, and stabilize my emotions. The family breathed a sigh of relief and felt that I had finally regained my composure.
In order to let the moisture out of my body, my child bought me a foot soaking bucket and soaked my feet with mugwort leaf ginger and peppercorn water every night. I also bought sea salt online, put it in the microwave and warmed it up.
I don't know if these habits changed me, or God took pity on me, and slowly, I became healthier and the symptoms of menopause gradually disappeared.
Because I put my time to work every day, doing what I like.
I often go on day trips, go to the countryside to catch big fairs, feel the fireworks of the world, and eat delicious snacks that can't be eaten in the city. Go hiking in the wilderness and get some fresh air, something I haven't had in town for decades.
I go shopping, go shopping, go to eat food, go to the movies, often have merchants find me for publicity, I take the opportunity to go out and have a lively look, and the car and horse fare, I am very happy!
I write headlines with income, no burden to my family, and a sense of accomplishment. My lover said that I had finished writing the people around me, and if I let them see the right sign, I would die.
Therefore, I chose to cut off Douyin's WeChat and address book, and I would not appear in real people, so as to reduce the suspicion of being recognized by acquaintances and friends, and avoid embarrassment.
The physical discomfort is gone, finally it has passed, I am happy, I am excited, I no longer go to the hospital twice in three days to check my body.
The money saved in this way is enough for me to go out for a few trips, I climbed Mount Hua with my lover, took photos on the lotus peak of Mount Hua, I went to Zhengguoqu, to Taibai Mountain, to Ma Songyi, and also to Jiangshan Scenic Area to play.
The child happily said that I was not only in better health, but also in better health. Because with my previous body, even if I don't have menopausal symptoms, I can't walk and travel for a long time, let alone climb Mount Hua.
Now seeing that the menopausal symptoms not only did not break me, but also much better than before, my family was happy for me, saying that I finally wanted to open and would enjoy life, so that they could rest assured and work with peace of mind.
Since November 20, the unit price rule of Toutiao has changed, and my income has dropped from the original fixed 200-300 yuan per day to about 50-60 yuan.
I saw this situation and remembered that I still have 7800 followers on TikTok.
So, I opened a Douyin group buying expert and became a local group buying shopkeeper.
I worked hard to learn to edit videos and was determined to start from scratch.
Slowly, I learned to edit all kinds of videos, from it used to take hours to edit a video, to now half an hour and 20 minutes.
I post four or five videos a day and make time to write headlines.
A week after editing the video, I woke up one morning, habitually turned on my phone and found that I had billed.
I was very happy, shouting out to congratulate my family, everyone in my family was happy for me, I just had to be happy, anyway, I was doing the right thing, and they were very supportive of me.
As of today, I have just been a Douyin group buying expert for a month, and this morning I woke up to find that I was promoted to the third level, and I have sold 88 orders, with an amount of more than 5,400 yuan.
It means that I will go out to participate in more and more activities in the future, and I will be busier and busier, and my income will increase.
I am sitting at home now, taking time out every day to write headlines, and then edit videos to earn money for myself, I edit a video every day, the manual cost is about 6-7 yuan, and after the release, I will issue a bill to earn commission.
My headlines used to write many questions and answers, and now I still have a wake every day, and I can earn tens of yuan.
Although these incomes are not as good as the income I used to write headlines, grasshoppers have meat.
Today's environment is not good, in this situation, my 50-year-old aunt can easily earn money, while enjoying life freely, and I participate in group buying activities, and there are car and horse fares, food, and happiness, which are all things that make me happy.
I told the child this good news, and the child happily said that the mother is really powerful, the spirit of serious learning, worthy of young people to learn, is his idol.
From my personal experience, I have learned that after the age of 50, the body faces menopause, all kinds of discomfort is normal, do not be cranky, worry about the body has a big problem, this is the discomfort of many women to the physiological response of the body, only need regular physical examination, take drugs under the guidance of a doctor, there is no need to over-medicalize, waste money and resources.
It is usually necessary to strengthen exercise, because menopausal metabolism slows down, gastrointestinal digestion weakens, and physical fitness declines. Proper exercise can help digestion and strengthen the body.
Don't stay at home, go out and walk more, travel more if you have the conditions, keep yourself busy, that is, be happy and exercise, and get both.
Do what you want to do at home, be with people you like, stay away from people and things that make you unpleasant, and don't worry about the future. Happiness is a day, unhappiness is also a day, life is impermanent, we must live in the present and cherish every day, live well, live with quality, so as not to come to this world in vain.
Mentality is the best medicine, as long as your mood is happy, nothing is a thing, what pain and discomfort can not be difficult for you, you have a good mentality and strong psychology, busy all day, do what you like, eat and live regularly, change bad living habits.
In this way, it will not be long, as short as a year and a half, as many as three to five years, and it will almost return to normal, as long as the attitude is positive and sunny, the pain will eventually disappear.
50-year-old people, rich in life, stable mentality, have a lot of time to improve themselves, if they have a pair of discerning eyes, according to their own strengths, you can find a way to earn money suitable for yourself, and also find happiness, it is really a double win.
I know a 60-year-old sister who does just that, often goes to events with me, has an income every day, and she is in a happy mood, saying that everyone around her envies her, and her family is very supportive.
After the age of 50, we are often called old aunts, thinking that we do not understand anything, and that it is outdated.
In fact, our own happiness has just begun, people after the age of 50 are almost retired, have a lot of free time to do what they like, if you can turn your hobby into a career and have an income, it is better.
May we after the age of 50 still earn a lot of money every day, be happy and happy every day, be healthy, spend money without worry, be able to afford what we like, eat the food we want, and save a large pension for ourselves, and spend the rest of our lives beautifully. #在头条看见彼此 #