Beautiful girls, men all over the world like it, but unfortunately the culture of many countries is different from our own country, there are certain differences in marriage, the poorer the country, the greater the difference in the family concept of this marriage, without a full understanding, sometimes feelings will still catch people.
In 2019, our ship received a plan from the shipping company to go to India to load grain and go to Djibouti to unload. For an unknown country, the crew is actually very curious, and what makes us even more curious is when our crew goes to the local area to play.
At that time, our ship planned to stay in India for 8 days, carrying a total of 120,000 tons of grain. Due to the laziness and laziness of the Indian workers, we stayed in the local area for 11 days before finally completing the unloading.
I was finally able to leave India, but because an Indian wanted to smuggle into another country, our crew discovered it in time and was stranded by the local country for another day, in order to find out if there were other people on our ship who wanted to go to another country through our ship like the stowaway.
Fortunately, such an Indian worker evaded the laws of the local country with his false lie, saying that he was too tired from work, fell asleep in the tool room, and did not know that the ship was leaving port, and delayed this matter for another day.
All the formalities were completed, and the Indian port side smoothly let us go. Just because of the delay in loading in India, the captain needs to go at full speed, otherwise he will not be able to reach Djibouti on time.
Reality is always more difficult than ideal, and because of the difficulties, a seemingly happy marriage has been created.
The ship departed from the port of Mumbai, India, with a planned sea voyage time of 8 days. After disembarking from the Indian pilot, our boat began to speed up, in one step, directly at full speed. Unfortunately, due to the weather in the Indian Ocean, the expected speed was not always reached, and it was only possible to reach the intended port of Djibouti two days later.
It was precisely because of the delay of two days, that my colleague became the most beautiful boy on board.
My colleague is a new sailor, a native of Henan, who has just graduated from university for two years and has the position of senior duty sailor on our ship. It's fun on weekdays, the family conditions are good, and there is always a steady stream of surprises for the crew on board.
On August 6, 2019, our ship departed all the way through the Somali pirate area and arrived at the port of Djibouti. Africa is Africa, the temperature is unusually hot, and there are often several heavy rains.
On the same day, after our ship successfully docked in the local area, many officials came, including a cargo agent, this agent was a girl, very good-looking.
At the time of registration, the girls were registered in front of Henan sailors. The girls are quite enthusiastic, and although they meet for the first time, they are able to communicate with sailors very naturally.
The girl did not go up with a group of officials to the captain's office to handle the information, but waited at the gangway for the first mate to come down to check the number.
It turned out that 50,000 tons of the 120,000 tons of grain we shipped this time were transit cargo, which means that Djibouti is only a transit port for Ethiopia.
As we all know, Ethiopia is a landlocked country located west of Djibouti. Transferring various goods to landlocked countries via Djibouti's railways is the most convenient route.
While the girls were waiting for the first mate by the gangway, the sailors were not idle, they were always looking for various opportunities to chat with the girls, and they could always come up with various topics to chat with the girls.
Among them, talking about sailing is a common topic that the public likes, and girls are also very interested in sailing, especially the salary of seafarers.
In fact, in addition to Chinese no worship for seafarers, other countries still admire the sacred profession of seafarers.
Girls are also interested in this major, but unfortunately their country does not open this major.
The sailor chatted with the girl about the profession of sailing, and learned that the girl was from Ethiopia and a recent college graduate.
The girl is a maritime trade major, which is also a relatively good major in their country, and after graduation, she specializes in the agency of maritime goods.
Because their country does not have a sea, they came to Djibouti to look for work, and Djibouti is the transit area of their country's maritime goods, so they found a company that connects domestic trade with foreign trade, and they just need this professional person to help with foreign trade work in Djibouti.
As soon as the girl graduated, she came to work in Djibouti, and when she was fine, she usually went home and took a part-time job at home, which was still a very hard worker.
When our boat docked that day, the girl had just arrived in Djibouti the day before, which means that if we had not arrived in Djibouti for two days, the girl really did not show up on board.
Perhaps this is the fate of the encounter, the girl came to our ship, the sailor talked happily with her, the girl was interested in the seafaring profession, the sailor seemed to be interested in the girl.
However, this way of teasing girls is what sailors have always done, and the difference this time is that sailors directly ask for people's contact information in communication. I also learned that the other party also likes to brush TikTok, which brings the relationship between the two closer to a step closer.
The sailors themselves opened a TikTok horn early on, dedicated to sharing the scenery of the sea. Seizing this opportunity, the sailor opened his Douyin account and told the girl that if she likes the sea and likes the seafarer industry, she can follow him.
This is really fate, the girl really paid attention to the sailor's TikTok without saying a word.
The two of them had a good chat that day. It wasn't until the first mate arrived that the girl began to get busy with her work.
Due to the climate in Djibouti, there is always a shower of rain from time to time, which seriously affects our unloading. This is not a good thing for our crew, for the sailor, how he wishes that our ship can stay forever, and even hope that it will rain every day.
When unloading grain is often carried out, there is a heavy rain, and our unloading work can only be stopped, closing the cargo hold to prevent the grain from being wet and germinating.
On the third day of unloading, the weather was quite good in the morning, and suddenly a gust of wind came, and a shower of rain fell in the sky, which directly drove the girl to the duty room of the sailor duty to hide from the rain.
That's good, heaven is beautiful, and the two have another beautiful encounter. The sailor took the opportunity to chat with the girl about the girl's personal topics, such as the girl's age, whether she is in love, whether she has siblings.
Sailors ignored Ethiopian culture.
The two walked together and chatted every now and then, and our crew was really envious. During 19 days of unloading, the sailor turned a strange girl into a girlfriend who talked about everything.
You can often see the two of them chatting and laughing, and they look like a natural couple. We all looked at it, and the two of them seemed to have really talked about a little feeling.
On the eighth day of unloading, the sailor ran to the captain and said that the girl wanted a meal on our ship. In fact, the sailors invited the girls to experience the meals made by Chinese chefs.
Although the meals on board are difficult for the crew to eat, for foreigners who have never eaten Chinese taste, the meals on board may be delicious.
The captain was still a good man, and agreed to the sailor's request on the spot, and the girl came to the ship for lunch at noon that day. Even the crew can see that the relationship between the sailor and the girl is not ordinary, and the captain also specially arranged for the sailor and the girl to eat in the ship's small restaurant.
Small restaurants are generally places where temporary staff eat, and crews generally do not go there to eat.
The interesting thing happened during the meal, the girl thought that the chicken legs made by the chef on the ship were very delicious, and the old godmother on the ship was also very good.
During the meal, the sailor took the initiative to give his chicken legs to the girl, and when the girl was leaving, he secretly gave the girl two bottles of old godmother from the boat.
The girls were so impressed. When she came to the ship the next day, the girl went to the local area to buy some barbecue for him to express her gratitude to the sailor.
The two of you have come and gone since then, it is really envious. On the last day of unloading, the girl also showed great reluctance, and brought a lot of vegetables and fruits to the sailors before leaving.
This is the result of their exchanges over the past few days. The two often talked about life on the ship, and the girl learned that the crew's life on the ship was still very hard, especially the lack of vegetables and fruits.
When the girl learned about this, on the day we left, she specially sent 100 pounds of vegetables and 5 boxes of fruits to the sailors. This sailor was so touched that even we were sad.
I think there are so few Africans, especially girls, who have such kind people. The girl's family conditions are not very good, and her parents are just ordinary herders, raising cattle, donkeys, and mules at home. Life depends only on these animals to maintain a basic livelihood and provide for children's education.
In many families, because they are poor, children cannot afford to study, and girls are also very competitive people, and they have found jobs through hard work. In Ethiopia, girls are envious and admired by the whole village for being able to get ahead.
No, the girl told the sailor that since she was admitted to college and finished studying and found a job, she seemed to have become a popular person in the town, and everyone loved her.
It's just that the girl's pursuit is different, she hopes to do her favorite job in Djibouti, and usually goes home once in a while, so she has less contact with people in the town.
No, it seems that fate came, and after this interaction with sailors, the two seem to have some feelings. On the day of leaving, the girl watched our boat leave and looked very sad.
Farewell to our ship, the two became netizens, only able to communicate through Douyin every day, many times, the sailor's video comments are the ambiguous chat records of two people, which really makes the person who brushed the sailor's video mistakenly think that it is a couple.
Perhaps by divine arrangement, two months later, our ship again received the company's plan to unload the cargo in Djibouti, this time loading corn from Brazil to the port of Djibouti.
For the sailors, it was another beautiful encounter, which really gave the sailors a good opportunity to deepen their feelings.
This time Djibouti is even more different than the last time.
I was very impressed that after our ship arrived in Djibouti, the girls were already waiting in the port, and this time, it was not a coincidence, but the two of them had already agreed to meet.
What we didn't expect was that this time the cargo on our ship did not have the cargo that the girls wanted, and the girls came purely to find sailors.
The ship docked smoothly, and after customs cleared the papers, the girls were also allowed to board the ship.
The scene of boarding the ship is really enviable, and after the two people met, they hugged each other tightly, which was really surprising. I haven't seen each other for only two or three months, and the relationship between the two people has developed to the level of hugging, and it seems that the two people communicate every day.
This meeting, the relationship between the two people is obviously different.
The girl brought vegetables and fruits to the side of the ship, and the captain was very happy to see this, and agreed that the sailor would let the girl come to the ship every day to eat.
Since then, the relationship between the two people has officially undergone a qualitative transformation.
Sailors go to work on time every day and leave on time. When I get back to my room from work, I basically don't go out. After being in the room, people passing by in the corridor were envious when they listened to the sound inside.
No way, who called sailors with such high emotional intelligence, it is really not simple to be able to take down a foreign girl.
The two are entangled together every day, and their relationship heats up rapidly, and they almost do not enter marriage. The sailor's life was varied, and the girls often took the sailors to the local area to shop, go shopping, and even more, during the last six days of unloading, the girls planned to take the sailors to Ethiopian homes to play.
But this time it became a farewell.
With the captain's permission, the sailors quickly packed up their things, got into the girl's car, and headed all the way to Ethiopia. It takes about a day to get from Djibouti to the girl's home.
The two walked through many villages and towns, and the sailors could be regarded as seeing the world. The Ethiopia in front of him really made him feel sad and proud of the girl.
Ethiopia is also one of the poorest countries in the world, and the local people live in poverty. For many families, the annual income is only more than 3,000 yuan.
For a girl, her monthly income is more than 8,000 yuan, which is a very high income, and it is no wonder that the people in her town are very envious of her.
On the way, the sailor also had no bottom in his heart, he kept fantasizing about the situation in his girlfriend's house, and out of love for his girlfriend, when he arrived in town, he went down to buy a lot of vegetables and fruits locally. When the sailor wanted to buy beef, his girlfriend stopped him.
His girlfriend told him to wait until he came home and took his head out to celebrate.
This is a luxury, and when a guest comes, a cow has to serve, which is really extravagant.
In our eyes, this is worth thousands of cows, but in the eyes of her girlfriend, a cow is not worth much, and it is also the hospitality food she thinks her family can get.
It turns out that in Ethiopia, every family has a lot of cattle, and the price of beef is quite cheap, and you can eat fresh beef for 2 yuan a kilogram.
However, vegetables and fruits here are really expensive, not ordinary income people, really can't afford to buy vegetables and fruits, just a kilogram of apples costs 12 yuan, some imported fruits are too expensive for you to imagine, basically only a few wealthy families can taste it.
After selling vegetables and fruits, I drove for ten minutes and arrived at my girlfriend's house.
The family saw their daughter return with a foreign man, showing curious and cute expressions. The sailors greeted them, and many did not understand, but just smiled slightly and gave a thumbs up in praise.
Looking at his girlfriend's home, the inside and outside of the house are unimaginably simple and suffocating. There was no desired stove and no decent bedroom.
Even more frightening than this is that the situation in the homes of the surrounding neighbors is even worse, making it impossible to live. In contrast, I feel that my girlfriend's home is much better.
On the day of arrival, the family and even half the village came. One of them came to see the bustle and see the faces of foreigners, and the other was to see the scene of cattle slaughter. Very many people like to make fun, and make fun regardless of neighbors.
On the same day, he also proudly invited the neighbors to eat a meal of beef bone soup together.
A cow, there are really many practices, some are taken to dry, some are taken to stew, some are taken to pickle. The temperature here is relatively high, and beef without a refrigerator will spoil quickly.
At this time, it was also time for the sailor to behave, seeing that his girlfriend didn't even have a refrigerator at home, and immediately asked his girlfriend to drive her to the market to buy one.
Seeing that the price of the refrigerator is also too expensive, a refrigerator without a nameplate costs more than 10,000 yuan. This is simply not affordable for many people in the local area.
My girlfriend told the sailor that even if she bought a refrigerator, she couldn't afford it, one was that there were frequent power outages, and the other was that she couldn't pay the electricity bill.
Indeed, the sailor was at his girlfriend's house, and before it was dark, dinner was finished, and after every family had eaten, those who did not go out went to bed early.
The night I first went, I didn't get used to it, and two days later, I was even less accustomed to it, and everyone didn't bathe much, which made it impossible for the sailors to live at all. And in a simple house, the life of two people is simply impossible.
Just to meet the bathing and the private life of two people, the two people simply drove to the hotel for one night.
On the fourth day of living at his girlfriend's house, the girl's parents finally spoke.
The girl's parents told the sailor that it was no problem to marry his daughter, and they also wanted their daughter to fly farther and leave the continent. However, there is a prerequisite, that is, on the wedding day, the man must bring a donkey on the wedding day, and it is still a male donkey.
The sailor did not understand what her parents said, but only heard from her girlfriend that her parents asked the sailor to bring a donkey when she got married, otherwise it would be impossible to marry their daughter.
This made the sailor's heart ache for a while, thinking that he was just a crew member, and he had never seen a donkey, let alone brought a donkey to Ethiopia.
Just such a question, completely cut off this love of sailors. To the complete disappointment of the sailor, what his parents said next was completely beyond his imagination.
The girlfriend's parents hope that the man will lead the male donkey, and on the wedding day, her parents will also bring out a female donkey, and after the marriage, they will bring the pair of donkeys back to the man's home.
The parents did this in the hope that after the donkey went to the man's house, when the daughter had to work, they could let the donkey help, hoping that the daughter would not suffer in the man's home.
This idea of parents is good, but China is not what they think, today's China is developing very well, women have skills, they do not need to endure hardships.
The sailor also specially fought for an opportunity for this matter, hoping that his girlfriend and parents would talk well, telling that China is developing very well, women will not suffer, and hoping that this traditional culture does not need to be followed.
However, when her parents heard this, they did not agree, and demanded that they must do this, otherwise they would not marry their daughter.
Overnight, there was no room for redemption, and the sailors felt very sad.
Seeing that the time also needs to return to the ship, the sailor is also very sad, feeling that such a good relationship is about to end here. This hit the sailor not ordinarily, how he wished his girlfriend would marry him.
After saying goodbye to her parents and returning to the ship, the sailor was in a very bad mood, and even the crew on the ship saw the sailor's mood, and somewhat guessed that the relationship was about to end.
On the day the ship left, her girlfriend was sadder than the sailor, standing alone on the dock and crying, she didn't know when her boyfriend would come back, and she didn't know if the relationship would end there, she was afraid that her first time would go down the drain.
After leaving Djibouti, after the sailor told us about it, we all felt sorry for him and sorry for the girl. An originally very good love relationship blocked the beautiful love of two people because of such a traditional culture.
When he first left, the sailor was still sad, and after some ideological persuasion from the captain, he returned to normal life.
I envy such an experience, the crew is very envious, but such a love, but because they did not understand the local culture at the beginning, they blocked the normal love of two people, people from two countries, and felt sorry for the sailors.
There are many such things in China, and you should have a lot of them.