Before encountering the invasion of "Little Three", all the original partners thought that their marriage was indestructible.
And they've all spoken to cheating men, or thought to themselves that if he betrays him, I must divorce.
But what about reality? Most extramarital affairs are not indestructible, there are few Yanagisha Hui, and there is no cheating because there is no little three to send to the door.
The original partner who encountered betrayal will not divorce decisively, for the sake of children, property, parents, and the eyes of others, or continue to marry.
When many of the original partners came to find Su Yue, they were helpless, and they couldn't think of a way to do it, so they had to come to ask for help.
For example, in a case of infidelity that Su Yue handled before, ms. Huang, the original partner, found that her husband may have cheated.
Because she found half of the lipstick in the pocket of her husband's clothes, but it was not hers,
All women in this situation must take lipstick to question their husbands, Ms. Huang is no exception,
But the explanation given to her by the cheating man is that it is a female colleague, two artificial positions together, and she is taking the wrong one,
Although Ms. Huang did not believe this statement, the cheating man explained it at the time, and she had no other evidence and could not do anything,
But I also began to pay special attention to the cheating man, secretly checking the cheating man's mobile phone, and did not find anything abnormal.
Until one day, the family of three took their wives to the amusement park, he took pictures of the child, but her mobile phone was running out of battery.
Just use her husband's mobile phone, her husband is also very generous to give her his own mobile phone to use, after taking photos when she checks the photos,
In her husband's mobile phone album found the woman's selfie, only a few, do not know when it was taken,
The woman inside she didn't know, good looking, smiling a little triumphantly inside the screen,
The child is still around, she can't directly hold the mobile phone and her husband to question, can only pretend that nothing happened,
Wait until the child is asleep at night to confront her husband, take his husband's mobile phone and turn out the photo, and ask who the cheating man is.
The cheating man obviously did not know the existence of these photos, and was stunned to say that he did not know when the female colleague took the picture with his mobile phone.
Ms. Huang then asked if it was the female colleague who accidentally took the wrong lipstick last time, and the cheating man paused and said no.
In fact, from the reaction of the cheating man, Ms. Huang knew that it was definitely, and she also felt that her husband and this woman definitely had a leg.
But a photo, a lipstick she and cheating men, cheating men just deny that she can't do anything.
Later, she also tried to find various ways to find evidence, and when she did not find a suitable way, Xiao San took the initiative to send it to the door.
A stranger added his friend, without adding any notes, she originally refused to add,
But after looking at the avatar, it seems to be a little familiar, click to take a look, is not it the selfie inside her husband's mobile phone?
She went through the add, typed directly over the phone, there refused, and she typed again to ask who you are.
The other side did not answer, but said to her you look at my circle of friends, Ms. Huang clicked in to see,
The content inside shocked and saddened her, it was various photos of her husband and women,
Two people went to the movie together to dry the movie ticket stub, although she did not shoot her husband's face, but she looked at her husband's hand,
There are also two people hanging out together, even photos on the bed, although only the little three show their faces,
But with her understanding of her husband, she knows that the man on the little three sides is her husband.
She played the voice again, Xiao San directly blocked her, and the circle of friends had not yet taken a screenshot, so she could not see it.
She was angry, but there was no evidence, she didn't know why Xiao San did this, and she didn't know how to find out the showdown of the cheating man.
And you can't pretend that you don't know anything, let it go, wait until she finds evidence, and delay for so long and don't know what the situation is.
It was in this dilemma that Ms. Huang came to Su Yue for help.
Su Yue gave Ms. Huang the following suggestions based on what she said.
First of all, analyze the behavior of Xiao San, what is the purpose of Xiao San's doing this, and what everyone does and says is actually purposeful.
This little three did this nothing more than to stimulate the original match, let the original match and the cheating man make trouble, and destroy the relationship between the original husband and wife.
The first time secretly put lipstick in the pocket of the cheating man, the second time secretly took a selfie with the cheating man's mobile phone,
The third time directly add friends, show ambiguous photos to the original match, these are all behaviors that stimulate the original match.
The reason why Xiao Sanyi and repeatedly stimulate the original match is because the original match did not receive the move before, and the purpose of the small three was not achieved.
But Xiao San was not willing to do it himself, and the original match did not react at all, so it was too much to do each time.
Secondly, he analyzed the purpose of Xiao San's doing so and Xiao San's psychology, and continued to analyze whether Xiao San had exposed any weaknesses.
Through Xiao San's behavior, Su Yue analyzed the following weaknesses of Xiao San.
The first point is that Xiao San wants to ascend to the throne, but her own ability, cheating men's feelings for her are not enough to support her ascension.
In other words, Xiao San's weakness is that the cheating man does not have so deep feelings for her, and she is not as important as the original match.
This can be seen from the fact that she only pokes and pokes at the original match of stimulation, and does not dare to come to the door.
Second, although this little three is a little careful, he is unstable and eager.
The clever little three are all screwed up with the cheating man and then find the original match trouble, this little three did not get the cheating man to dare to provoke,
Because the little three hearts are not enough, and at the same time more urgent, they can't wait for the cheating man to agree, and they want to be on the throne.
Third, this little three is very unconfident and insecure.
Xiao San himself also feels that the cheating man does not have deep feelings for himself, and the two people are not in a long-term relationship.
So all kinds of provocations, but do not dare to leave evidence for the original match to point out that she is deliberate, afraid of cheating on men.
Finally, according to the weakness of The Third, the original match made a targeted counterattack.
Xiao San is anxious to stimulate the original match, the original match is to press the soldiers and not move, that is, to make the purpose of the little three can not be achieved,
Let Xiao San's heart be even more bottomless, she also wants to take the position is still very urgent, she will continue to do things, the original should pay attention to the preservation of evidence.
Xiao San is afraid that the cheating man knows that she is secretly doing things, and the original match is to let her take the initiative to expose her behavior.
Xiao San has no sense of security, feels that the cheating man does not care enough about her, and the original match must also learn to add fuel to the fire,
Use the original way to show love and stimulate Xiao San in front of Xiao San, such as going directly to the cheating man company to give the cheating man to send food,
Give the cheating man to buy flowers to send to the office, call the cheating man more, talk about love, let the cheating man also say some meaty words,
The original match can be stable, the unstable is the small three, the small three all kinds of things, must not only stimulate the original match, but also force the cheating man,
Jealousy, insecurity bonus, qualified small three finally directly forced to start making trouble in the company,
The cheating man originally did not want to divorce Xiao San, and Xiao San still made such a big fuss, so naturally and quickly separated from Xiao San.
The more the cheating man does not admit that Xiao San is more angry, the last two people dog bites the dog, Xiao San is expelled, and the cheating man stays on the job to check.
In addition, Su Yue wants to encounter a marriage with extramarital affairs, which will be very different from ordinary marriages.
The original partner will have a deep sense of distrust of the husband who has cheated on him, and will always worry about the other half cheating again.
And cheating men will also feel that even if their wives say that they have forgiven themselves, they have not really forgiven.
The hearts of the two people are no longer together, they want to continue this marriage, they are not cheated on twice, and they must master the method.
The best way is that the original match is no longer trapped by emotions, but can let the cheating man immerse himself in feelings by playing the emotional card.
Then he said that he didn't care about money but only love, but he had to seize the economic dominance in action.
Emotional bondage coupled with economic dominance keeps cheating men in marriage, while the original matching is sober and will not be hurt by cheating men.
Only in this way can the original match live well in the marriage that has been cheated on, and there is no need to worry about being afraid of being cheated on again.
At the end of the article, Su Yue wants to say that the original match of cheating needs to first repel Xiao San, and then solve the problem of cheating men.
It is not that the cheating man who cheated on this matter is less responsible than the little three, because this treatment is more beneficial to the original match,
There are priorities, the original should distinguish what is the most urgent need to solve, what can be settled after the autumn.
If you encounter a derailment and don't know how to solve it, you can pay attention to Su Yue and talk about your situation in private messages.
I am Su Yue, a marriage maintainer who focuses on the separation of third parties.