Wang Gui and Anna have both cheated, and even struggled between "leaving" and "not leaving"!
Anna shouted for a lifetime of divorce, and Wang Gui suffered for a lifetime, but in the end, they lived as the envy of everyone, from one to the end, helping each other to old age.
Anna was packaged and married off by An's mother as a "cunch", for fear that Wang Gui would regret it after learning Anna's nature.
This marriage, for Anna, is aggrieved, because there is no love, and Wang Gui, in addition to the "honest and honest" nature, can hardly find anything in him that can attract her.
After being married for a lifetime, the most common thing she said to Wang Gui was: I have never loved you as a hillbilly, sooner or later I will divorce you, and I will definitely not live with you for the rest of my life!
But Anna said that she would divorce him all her life, and when she was old, she often told her children to thank her mother for choosing this good marriage for her, and also took Wang Gui as the standard for "choosing a husband", hoping that her daughter An An could also find her husband with the standard of "Wang Gui".
Speaking of which, Wang Gui's life, cheating, and only caring about his own big family, his wife and children are out of rice, and he only wants to send money home, so that Anna has to pick vegetable leaves to survive, Anna can be described as disgusted with him in a thousand ways, but in the end he can live with him from one to the end, just because he did these three points in marriage.
01 Know how to bow your head in marriage
An An and her husband Sun Guocheng quarreled and went back to their mother's house to live for a week, Wang Gui and Anna made a phone call on the left and one on the right and asked for four requests, Sun Guocheng was unwilling to compromise and took the initiative to pick up An An.
For Sun Guocheng's "not giving face", Wang Gui was very unhappy, and couldn't help nagging Anna: "The little couple is noisy, and there must always be an explanation for the old man on the big face, and he can't go down the steps, what does he want?" ”
Wang Gui has a lot of experience in coaxing his wife, he coaxed Anna all his life, and was transformed by Anna from a wooden "hillbilly" who couldn't even speak completely to a "flirting" master who was easy to talk sweetly.
He immediately found Sun Guocheng and taught him his experience in coaxing his wife:
Don't take coaxing your wife as a burden, don't associate it with any self-esteem and tasks, that's part of your happiness, you can coax your wife to be happy, and your life will be complete.
Wang Gui feels that people in this life, carefree and trouble-free is not called happiness, happiness is based on comparison, today quarrel, tomorrow as soon as the reconciliation, this happiness will come, a lifetime of noisy marriage has problems, but the premise of noisy is that you have to be positive and optimistic to solve.
Anna quarreled with Wang Gui all her life, and when she didn't go her way, she pointed at him and scolded him as a "hillbilly", and sooner or later she would divorce him, Wang Gui never paid attention to it, and always laughed it off.
Once, Anna went shopping with him and asked him which dress looked good, and he slapped the horse seriously:
Both are good-looking, I think your vision is very unique, this is very suitable for your temperament, the one sets you off very white, I think wearing clothes is not the quality of the clothes, but the person who wears.
Erduozi and An An were stunned to hear this, but Wang Gui said proudly:
In my life, I can coax your mother well, I benefit endlessly, my father can have today's achievements, all thanks to your mother, because I have a good relationship between the top and bottom, the leader said that I have a way, can flex and stretch, I thought to myself, what is so difficult about this, I have been doing this job for decades, your mother and I are coaxed well, and I am afraid of coaxing anyone, no matter how difficult the relationship, Dad can deal with it,
Anna looked down on Wang Gui at the beginning, to the death of Wang Gui, during which he also cheated on him, and he relied on a "coaxing" word.
Wang Gui does not feel that "coaxing" Anna is a shame, or hurt a man's self-esteem, in his heart, a stable and solid home is the most important, if you want to be married happily for a lifetime, you must learn to bow your head and learn to "coax" women.
He compared marriage to a pot of porridge, men should learn to "boil" porridge, not "boil medicine", to simmer slowly, looking at this small flame, it seems to be nothing, the water above is bubbling warmly, at the beginning the soup is weak, and later the room is fragrant.
People are happy for a while, that is called pain, there is fast and pain, Tu I is happy to call happiness, people are busy all their lives, lose a smile, coax their wives, all for the happiness of boiling into a pot of porridge when they are old.
In fact, marriages like An An and Sun Guocheng abound in real life, and after many couples quarreled, they were unwilling to take the initiative to show weakness because they could not pull off their sons and self-esteem, so the husband and wife began a cold war.
It was originally a very small matter, because of the cold war, in the end, it became bigger and bigger, leaving an uneven gap in each other's hearts, as Wang Gui said:
Originally a small contradiction, if not dealt with there, it will become a big contradiction that cannot be healed, you are relaxed this time, women are careful of their eyes, all day long they do not calculate something restless, originally small things have become big things.
A couple has not communicated for a long time, a quarrel will be a cold war, and the cold war is longer and longer, meet under the same roof every day, see each other's cold faces, such a depressed marriage and family, will only make both parties want to escape from each other.
Proud as Anna, under the offensive of Wang Gui's "finger rou", he can follow him all his life, and even picking up vegetable leaves to make a living, it can be seen that men will "coax", which is the magic weapon for a happy marriage.
02 Carry it on your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Anna once asked her mother-in-law to bring the child for a while, and the two didn't get along for a long time, because of the difference in life habits, the two looked at each other, and the situation was like water and fire.
The mother-in-law has always looked at Anna unfavorably, feeling that she is pretentious, fake clean, and eventful, and many of her mother-in-law's bad habits in life are also unbearable for Anna.
Finally, once, this pair of mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law who had been hiding for a long time broke out.
The cause was that during the meal, the mother-in-law first spat out a mouthful of thick phlegm on the ground, then crushed it with her feet, then she wiped the snot with her hand, and then took the snot hand to peel a shrimp for her granddaughter and stuffed it directly into the child's mouth.
Anna witnessed the whole process of her mother-in-law from spitting to pinching her nose to peeling shrimp and stuffing it into her daughter's mouth, and she completely collapsed, and she went crazy and pulled out the shrimp in her daughter's mouth, and then hysterically made trouble with Wang Gui.
The mother-in-law is not easy to mess with, as soon as she saw the daughter-in-law who was crying and making trouble, she immediately opened the situation of the shrew quarrel, she sat on the ground, crossed her legs and began to sing and scold, her voice was depressed, there were boards and eyes, she cried and patted the ground, and continued to blow her nose on the ground, making Wang Gui and Anna look stupid.
Seeing that the situation had been controlled by herself, she stood up agilely, and while pointing at Wang Gui and scolding, she asked him to "teach" Anna:
You are also a man, I don't care if I see this goblin bullying me, you still crawl out of my belly, don't protect your mother, you protect her, today if you don't clean her up, I will hang on the door beam.
The mother-in-law had to beat her daughter-in-law and subdue his wife before he gave up, and Wang Gui was forced by her to helpless, so she had to symbolically touch Anna's face.
Anna went back to her mother's house, and her mother-in-law "forced her to die" to resolutely prevent her son from going back to pick up her daughter-in-law.
Wang Gui looked at the once clean, tidy and warm home, but now he was tossed by his mother, where there is still a little bit like home:
The daughter was dressed in dirty clothes, with snot on her clothes and cuffs that gave the sun a shiny sun;
The house was disorganized, and the bowl was on the floor;
Wang Guiniang is still talking: Chai Ming'er will pick a chicken seedling for you and raise it at home.
Wang Gui restrained the guilt in his heart, and endured the courage to say to the queen mother:
Mom, I see you better go back, the child is still young, can't live without mom, if she leaves me, how will I live.
Wang Gui's mother eventually returned to the countryside and never set foot in her son's home in her life, not because she didn't want to, but because Anna didn't want to, and her son didn't want to.
Wang Gui has always been a filial and caring person of the big family, as the eldest in the family, his parents worked hard to send him to university, and he has a heavy sense of responsibility for his original family.
But the biggest difference between him and most of the "phoenix men" from the countryside is that in the relationship between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he can still carry it clearly, and he is not so foolish that he has torn apart his small family and separated his wife for his mother.
Anna once said to Wang Gui: My mother and I can't get along, doesn't mean I don't respect her, two people who can't get along, instead of resenting each other together, it's better to stay away and worry about each other.
If Wang Gui had to take his mother over to enjoy the blessing for the sake of "filial piety", the final outcome of him and Anna might be like all "phoenix men", living a chicken life, exhausted, and finally having nothing, returning to his hometown to farm.
Without their mother's provocation, Wang Gui and Anna's life returned to its original calm, and the family of three was happy, although there were also difficulties of starvation, and there were brief losses outside of marriage, but they all survived under the common regression and support of the two.
As for the queen mother, Wang Gui and Anna used money to make up for the companionship of the old man, and the Wang family's relatives, friends, sisters and father-in-law could not find any fault from Anna.
03 Dedicated to home
When Anna gave birth to her second child, the two had an extremely difficult time.
At that time, An's father was sick and An's mother was unable to get rid of her to take care of her.
Wang Gui shouldered all the responsibilities alone, he got up before dawn in the morning to make breakfast, and then sent his daughter to school, and then rushed to work, his son cried at night, three meals a day during the day, and after cooking at night, he packed up the child and rushed to substitute class.
All things, Wang Gui survived alone, he was often so busy that he didn't have time to eat a bite, but fortunately, the neighbors were enthusiastic, often took a hand, the children stayed in the host house for a day and the west family stayed for a day, sometimes Wang Gui couldn't come back in time to cook, and the neighbors sent it to Anna.
In order to make more money and let Anna and her children live a better life, Wang Gui took the initiative to apply to Africa, where malaria is endemic without food or drink.
Anna felt sorry for him and didn't want him to take his life to exchange money, so she secretly messed up his application, and in order to improve the conditions at home, Wang Gui applied for ten more substitute classes a week with the department when there were already ten classes, which is equivalent to Wang Gui having no rest time a day like a spinning top.
Anna felt sorry for him, so that he didn't have to cook so busy in the future, she came to do it, but he said quite "overbearing president":
Gab! I substitute classes to improve your life, not to make you suffer, you come back and wait to eat, don't want you to be busy, you are not busy, your dishes are not delicious.
Mother Ann once said to Anna:
Looking for a husband is to find a backer, not to find a person who plays the piano and sings and gossip, love cannot be eaten as white rice. ”
It wasn't until she was old that Anna finally understood the truth that her mother said, the reason why people get married is because it is too difficult to live in this life, and we need someone who can stand firmly behind you when they can't hold on, support your life for you, and let you breathe a sigh of relief.
Anna no longer looks at Wang Gui, but there is one thing in him that makes Anna feel most at ease, that is, a sense of security.
In life, Wang Gui gave Anna the greatest sense of security, which is to put it colloquially as "as long as he has a bite to eat, he will never starve his wife and children".
Wang Gui had deserted in thought, and once insisted on sending the money back to his home when he couldn't open the pot at home, but he also gave sincerely to this small family, as long as he had enough money, he would hand it all over to Anna, and he also took out his heart and lungs from beginning to end, closer than his own son.
There is a saying in "One Hundred Years of Solitude": the secret of a happy old age is nothing else, but a decent agreement with loneliness.
The purpose of marriage is to let us get rid of loneliness, so that in this lonely red dust, someone laughs with me, someone cries with me, someone accompanies me in pain, someone accompanies me through the change of seasons, wind and rain and thunder, someone accompanies me to watch the blossoms and sunsets, and human suffering.
Anna found such a sense of security from Wang Gui, so that she never had to worry about life, never had to bear the hardships and pains of life alone, she knew that no matter what kind of difficulties she encountered, Wang Gui would always stand behind her as a protector.
This is the true meaning of marriage.