"I feel very guilty about my ex-wife, and I don't know how to tell her when I get divorced, for fear that she won't be able to think about it."
This is what Zhao Benshan said during the interview.
Once Ge Shuzhen married Zhao Benshan when he was poor and white.
For this man, she worked tirelessly and never complained a bit.
I originally thought that I worked so hard in exchange for a piece of my husband's sincerity.
However, just after Zhao Benshan became famous, he abandoned her.
Now 31 years have passed, is that Ge Shuzhen, who divorced in tears, okay now?
1.
Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan were both born in a rural family in Liaoning.
The two of them had similar experiences.
When she was very young, Ge Shuzhen's parents died, and it was her brother who pulled her up by doing odd jobs.
The same is true of Zhao Benshan, who lost his mother since childhood, and his father left the country, and finally his second uncle Laerhu raised him.
Two hard-working children, originally uncommunicative.
But in those days, people in the village got married early.
Some people saw that Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan were the same age and had similar family circumstances, so they thought of matching them.
Ge Shuzhen is a very traditional girl, and she has not gone to school to study, in her consciousness, as long as a blind date is arranged, she must get married, marry a chicken and marry a chicken and marry a dog with a dog.
This is not the case with Zhao Benshan.
At that time, when others introduced Ge Shuzhen to him, he was still very happy in his heart.
Because many bachelors in the village could not find an object, and he happened to find it, everyone else was envious.
But on the day of the wedding, everything changed.
They did not have a lively and sensational marriage ceremony, nor the blessings of relatives and friends, even the kangtou for sleeping was rented, and the family's old house was stained with red letters, which was regarded as completing a ceremony.
Such a deserted atmosphere made Zhao Benshan very uncomfortable.
He suddenly felt that this was not the life he wanted.
Zhao Benshan has always relied on the craftsmanship taught by his second uncle to pull the erhu to earn money and eat.
At that time, he kept thinking that he must pull the erhu well and then marry a beautiful daughter-in-law.
Unexpectedly, in the end, his career did not succeed, and his daughter-in-law made do.
Zhao Benshan was indescribably lonely in his heart.
Maybe there is no emotion, so Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan have always respected each other as guests.
Ge Shuzhen works in the fields every day in addition to taking care of housework at home, while Zhao Benshan goes out to pull the erhu every day.
Such an unreasonable distribution made many villagers have opinions about Zhao Benshan, saying that he was a "second-rate person".
At that time, Zhao Benshan's face was also quite unbearable, so he followed his wife to work in the fields.
But he did so badly, everyone else had planted crops, and he was just getting started.
Such a gap made Zhao Benshan very uncomfortable.
He really wanted to save face, but face did not give him this opportunity at all.
Perhaps sensing Zhao Benshan's emotions, Ge Shuzhen, who was working on the side, stood directly in his position and did all the work in the area contracted by Zhao Benshan.
Not only that, but she hadn't said a word of complaint, as if she had done all this as she should.
In that period, most men helped women, and scenes of women helping men were still rare.
Therefore, Zhao Benshan was particularly moved, and he was very grateful to Ge Shuzhen in his heart.
This incident can be regarded as a good medicine to resolve embarrassment, and since then, the relationship between Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan has softened a lot.
They married a daughter, Zhao Yufang, and then gave birth to a son, Zhao Tiedan.
A son and a daughter would have been a good thing.
But I never expected that my son Zhao Tiedan was diagnosed with congenital heart disease and rickets not long after he was born, and he was still deaf and mute.
When a child is sick, how can parents not feel heartache?
At that time, Ge Shuzhen always thought that she did not pay attention to her body during pregnancy, which led to the appearance of the child, so she held the child every day and apologized while crying.
As a husband, Zhao Benshan naturally did not want to see such a scene, so he could only make money desperately to earn medical expenses to treat his children.
At that time, Zhao Benshanla's erhu had already reached a high level, and it was basically no problem to star in the group.
So he leaves early and returns late every day, gets up at four or five in the morning to work, and can't come back until nine in the evening.
Maybe God pity this family.
In 1982, Zhao Benshan received an invitation from director Li Zhongtang to participate in the first rural small drama competition held in Liaoning Province.
For such a good opportunity, Zhao Benshan will not give up.
He and the people in the troupe wrote the script together, and finally decided to perform the sketch "Breaking Three Strings".
In "Falling Three Strings", Zhao Benshan played a blind man.
At that time, during rehearsals, many people asked him: "Can you master the role of blind man?" If you don't master it well, you will be blasted off the stage by the audience. ”
Hearing these words, Zhao Benshan smiled lightly and didn't care at all.
Because the second uncle who taught him Erhu was blind, he often observed the second uncle, so it was not a matter of deducing the blind at all.
In this way, under Zhao Benshan's super high acting skills, "Wrestling Three Strings" became one of the most explosive sketches in the competition that year.
Therefore, Zhao Benshan also successfully stood out and entered the Tieling County Theater Troupe.
With a backer behind, the living conditions of Zhao Benshan and Ge Shuzhen are also much better.
They changed houses and finally had the money to treat their children.
Originally, I thought that there would be a big change in living conditions, and the marriage between Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan would become stronger and stronger.
Unexpectedly, their marriage was disintegrating little by little with Zhao Benshan's fame.
2.
Because of changing jobs, Zhao Benshan often goes to major cities to perform.
Still
So only Ge Shuzhen was left alone with her children at home.
She is raising her daughter, who has just started school, while caring for her seriously ill son.
During that time, Ge Shuzhen's daily task was to send her daughter to school during the day, and then take her son to see a doctor, and cook when she came home after seeing a doctor.
Ge Shuzhen
After cooking, she thought she could rest for a while, but her youngest son was not feeling well, and she could only continue to look at the child with sleepiness.
In the afternoon, when her daughter finished school, Ge Shuzhen warmed up dinner, and then took her son to pick up her daughter.
At the end of the day, Ge Shuzhen had no time to rest at all.
At that time, Ge Shuzhen's brother also told her: "You two don't see each other every day, and he doesn't go home, it's really not like living!" ”
Hearing these words, Ge Shuzhen also smiled and persuaded her brother: "He is busy at work, we have to understand people, and people have not treated us badly, why are we unwilling?" ”
The younger sister's words directly blocked the brother's words.
Ge Shuzhen's brother is very worried that after Zhao Benshan becomes famous, he will not want his sister.
In a word.
In 1987, Zhao Benshan and Pan Changjiang collaborated on the sketch "Blind Man Watching the Light".
This sketch can be said to have pushed Zhao Benshan to the peak, and in Shenyang alone, he has appeared in nearly 600 performances.
At that time, the audience also said: "This sketch is not boring to watch, no matter how many times I watch it, I find it interesting."
In this way, Zhao Benshan completely exploded with this work.
Seeing that her husband has achieved so much, Ge Shuzhen is also very happy for him.
At that time, she thought every day that when her husband came back, she must cook a good meal and celebrate.
However, Ge Shuzhen, who was full of excitement, was finally let down.
At that time, when Zhao Benshan was in the Tieling Folk Art Troupe, he met Ma Lijuan.
Ma Lijuan and Ge Shuzhen are completely different, she has an elegant temperament and speaks very well, the key is that when singing the duo turn, it is like a moment of sparkling stars.
At that moment, Zhao Benshan really realized what it meant to feel like a heartbeat.
Although he liked Ma Lijuan in his heart, he never overstepped the norm, because Zhao Benshan knew in his heart that there was a good wife at home.
Ma Lijuan
At that time, Ge Shuzhen had no idea that her husband had already been attracted to other women outside.
She is still like a lookout stone, waiting for Zhao Benshan day after day, without any complaints in her heart, she just feels that her husband is too busy with work.
In 1990, Zhao Benshan appeared on the stage of the CCTV Spring Festival Gala under the recommendation of Jiang Kun and starred in the sketch "Blind Date".
This sketch made Zhao Benshan popular overnight and directly became a household name.
Since then, his work has become even busier, and he sees his wife no more than 5 times a year, not even as often as he sees Ma Lijuan.
Perhaps it is the reason why there are fewer gatherings and more separations, and gradually Zhao Benshan and his wife Ge Shuzhen are getting farther and farther apart, but the relationship with Ma Lijuan is getting closer and closer.
At that moment, Zhao Benshan realized that his heart had changed.
His heart is no longer on his family, let alone in Ge Shuzhen.
He yearns for the big world, a new life.
So Zhao Benshan began to plan a divorce.
If it were an ordinary person, he might just say the word divorce.
But Ge Shuzhen is different.
She is very traditional, her thinking is also very simple, and her mind is direct, so Zhao Benshan is afraid to say this sentence, and Ge Shuzhen can't think of it.
Zhao Benshan thought a lot, although he had no feelings for Ge Shuzhen, but fortunately, people treated him well.
So he wanted to say this in a soft way, so Zhao Benshan tangled for a long time, and the word divorce was never spoken.
Perhaps it was a woman's sixth sense, and finally Ge Shuzhen vaguely noticed her husband's abnormality.
But she did not puncture the matter, but waited for Zhao Benshan to say.
The longer it takes, the bigger the mess gets.
In the end, Zhao Benshan decided to cut the mess quickly and called Ge Shuzhen and his uncle to the room to talk about it.
At first, Zhao Benshan thought that his uncle would beat himself up, and Ge Shuzhen would cry bitterly.
However, none of this happened.
At that time, the uncle said: "If you can't do it, divide it." ”
And Ge Shuzhen chuckled inwardly, and tears instantly appeared in her eyes, but she held back.
She didn't want Zhao Benshan to see her vulnerable side, so she pretended that nothing happened and said:
"Leave if you want, but you have to let me live."
Ge Shuzhen didn't mess with him ugly.
Because she had him in her heart.
In fact, over the years, although the two are not close, Ge Shuzhen has long left a piece of land for Zhao Benshan in her heart, which is still the most important one.
So no matter what decision Zhao Benshan made, she faced it calmly.
To love him is to bless him, and this phrase came true in Ge Shuzhen.
Ge Shuzhen's tolerance and generosity surprised Zhao Benshan.
He knew that he owed Ge Shuzhen, so when he divorced, he gave all his garage and 250,000 yuan of savings to the other party.
Zhao Benshan left the house clean.
3.
Leaving Zhao Benshan is like a transformation in life.
Ge Shuzhen understood that the money given by Zhao Benshan alone was simply not enough for future expenses, and she had to continue to work to make money.
So Ge Shuzhen found a dishwashing job in a hot pot restaurant.
Due to the inconvenience of work, she handed over her younger son to her brother during the day and took the child home after work in the evening.
Although her work is tiring and hard, Ge Shuzhen has always enjoyed it.
She felt that it was a beautiful thing for her to learn to cook while making money.
So from beginning to end, Ge Shuzhen did not feel that she was having a bad life.
Until 1992, when she was just divorced for 1 year, the outside world reported that Zhao Benshan and Zhao Lijuan were married.
At that moment, Ge Shuzhen's heart instantly cooled by half.
At first, she thought that if she fought up and Zhao Benshan stood on the right one, the other party would return to her.
Unexpectedly, Zhao Benshan not only did not return to himself, but also formed a family with other women.
Ge Shuzhen's heart was like a knife, but she didn't regret it.
After all, people from different worlds will not come together after all.
During that time, Ge Shuzhen has been comforting herself: "The husband is gone, and there are children, as long as the children are good." ”
However, bad news always comes suddenly.
In 1994, Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan's son Zhao Tiedan suffered a heart attack and died.
At that moment, Ge Shuzhen couldn't hold back anymore and broke down and cried.
She knelt on the ground and wailed loudly: "What the hell have I done wrong, why are you doing this to me!" ”
Her husband is gone, her son is dead, and Ge Shuzhen doesn't understand why such pain has befallen her.
On the other side, after Zhao Benshan learned of this, he also hurried to the scene.
He saw this woman's fragile appearance for the first time, and although they were husband and wife, Ge Shuzhen rarely shed tears at home, let alone cried bitterly.
At that moment, Zhao Benshan felt that Ge Shuzhen was really heartbroken.
Perhaps out of past friendships, Zhao Benshan has always been in charge of Ge Shuzhen and his daughter Zhao Yufang.
As long as Ge Shuzhen and her daughter are in trouble, he will appear to help as soon as possible.
In 1999, her daughter Zhao Yufang was admitted to a foreign Chinese college.
In order to facilitate Ge Shuzhen to meet her daughter, Zhao Benshan bought a large house near her daughter's school and let them live in.
Not only that, Zhao Benshan also specifically told his daughter: "You can find me for anything in the future, I have always been your father." ”
For Zhao Benshan's contribution, Ge Shuzhen saw it in her eyes.
So in front of her daughter, Ge Shuzhen never said bad things about Zhao Benshan, but kept telling her daughter: "Your father is very powerful, a very good husband, and a very good actor." ”
The daughter always listens to her mother, and since the mother says that the father is good, then the father is good.
Perhaps Ge Shuzhen played a role in it, so even if Zhao Benshan remarried and had a son and a daughter, Zhao Yufang still had a good relationship with him.
Once, Zhao Yufang suddenly found Zhao Benshan and told him: "Dad, I want to find a partner according to my own standards, and I don't want to be bound by the framework my mother said." ”
Hearing this, Zhao Benshan nodded with a smile, looked at his daughter with a gentle face and said:
"No matter who you find, as long as you can be happy, Dad will support you, and as for your mother, I will go and tell her."
Zhao Benshan personally came to the door to do ideological work for Ge Shuzhen.
He told Ge Shuzhen: "Children's affairs, let's not mix too much as parents, as long as the children are happy, if you break them apart, they will still reconcile at that time, isn't it more troublesome?" ”
Ge Shuzhen did not expect her ex-husband Zhao Benshan to care so much about children.
She thought about it herself and felt that what Zhao Benshan said made sense, so she obeyed her daughter's opinion.
Later, seeing her daughter start a family, Ge Shuzhen also decided to find her own business to do.
One day, she accidentally learned that a restaurant called "Wei Zhenxiang" was about to close, so she managed to spend 20,000 yuan to take the hotel down.
After all, when she was washing dishes in a hot pot restaurant before, she had come into contact with some management knowledge, so she wanted to save this store.
But running a shop is not so easy.
When she first started her business, Ge Shuzhen encountered many problems, which once made her collapse to the point of being unable to help herself.
But she never gave up.
Ge Shuzhen didn't know much words, so she asked a teacher to learn to read and count.
At that time, her daughter Zhao Yufang also advised her: "My father is so powerful now, can't he just let him help you?" ”
Hearing these words, Ge Shuzhen's expression became directly serious.
"I'm me, your dad is your dad, I won't smash your dad's signboard for myself!"
Ge Shuzhen was determined to support the meal, so she took a different path, starting with a fast food box lunch.
At that time, other people's box lunches were sold for 5 yuan, and the cheapest was 3 yuan, and Ge Shuzhen sold 1 yuan.
She still has the concept of small profits and quick sales.
And she not only sells boxed lunches in restaurants, but also runs to the factory gate and sets up a shed to sell to workers.
I have to say that Ge Shuzhen is quite smart.
It didn't take long for her business to catch fire, and the box lunch was welcomed by many people, and then the meal was brought back to life.
It is reported that since the meal has turned into a profit, the cumulative income of the hotel has reached one million.
A dishwasher from the countryside became a millionaire.
4.
Time has changed, and now Zhao Benshan and Ge Shuzhen have been divorced for 31 years.
The gap between the two of them has long been abandoned, and they are not relatives but get along like relatives.
In November 2022, Zhang Lin, Zhao Benshan's apprentice, also posted a video of his master shaving his hair.
Zhao Benshan was already gray-haired, but his face was full of kindness.
Today's Zhao Benshan has gradually retired from the entertainment industry, and he has put his mind on family life.
Ge Shuzhen, on the other hand, is down-to-earth as her own female boss and lives with her daughter.
Life is a drama, and no matter who you meet, it is a practice.
Although the marriage between Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan was not consummated, it was through this marriage experience that she broke through herself and achieved herself.
The most important thing in a good marriage is mutual understanding and tolerance, but under this premise, there is also love.
Cherish the people in front of you and live in the moment.
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