How big is the difference between the baby brought by the mother and the baby brought by the grandmother?
Some people say that the two are like a layer of enchantment, no matter how well-behaved and trendy the baby, as long as you return to grandma's love, ensure that the painting style changes abruptly, and the mother may not necessarily know each other.
Before, Wen Wen's father didn't believe it, until he saw the gap between his sister's twin daughters, he gradually believed it.
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Despite her family's opposition, my sister married her brother-in-law, who was poor, and gave birth to twins soon after marriage. However, since both of them had to go to work and could not take their two children, after discussion, they handed one of them to the grandmother in the country to take and the other to bring it by themselves.
During the period, due to their busy work and one child, the two sisters basically couldn't find time to go home to see another child. I went back two or three times in five years, and seeing that my twin daughters were more than 5 years old, my sister was ready to take the children back to the city to attend primary school.
The moment I went back to my hometown to see the baby, my sister was devastated. As soon as I walked to the yard of my hometown, I saw a child squatting next to the mound, and my sister complained to my brother-in-law, whose child played so dirty, and the adults didn't care.
At this time, my sister's mother-in-law came over with a smile, pulled up the baby in front of the mound, and shouted: Quick, Ruirui, your parents and sister are here, call people quickly... The sister and brother-in-law instantly petrified.
The younger sister looked at her eldest daughter, who was dressed in dirt, messy hair, and had a face full of mud and dust, and could not see her original appearance at all.
Looking back at the little daughter beside her, a pink princess dress, with a blue crown headband, plus a pair of diamond-encrusted princess shoes, from head to toe exudes the temperament of "princess" and "little celebrity", and compared with Dabao, it is simply one day and one place.
The younger sister looked at her eldest daughter, feeling helpless and guilty, after all, she missed her eldest daughter's growth for 5 years, and she owed her too much. Now, my sister just wants to get back to the city quickly and make up for her daughter.
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After returning to the city, my sister found that the baby she brought with her and the baby brought by her grandmother had a clear gap:
For example, eating:
From the age of more than 2 years old, the younger sister trained her to eat by herself, after all, she was almost in kindergarten.
At first, when eating by himself, the child always likes to wipe the food on his head, and every time he finishes eating, the younger sister begins to wash her hair, bathe, wipe the table, and wipe the floor, and a process is at least 1 hour.
After training like this for 3 months, the little daughter was able to eat independently and eat well, and when she was in the kindergarten class, she was often praised for eating well.
On the other hand, the eldest daughter, now more than 5 years old, eats slowly, and has to eat while watching cartoons, otherwise she will not eat, and said that she will go back to her grandmother's house, and her grandmother will feed her and watch cartoons.
Later, my sister had to formulate a principle: no one in the family was allowed to look at mobile phones or watch TV during meal time, and the whole family implemented it together.
At first, the eldest daughter howled with all kinds of ghosts, and even threatened her sister by skipping meals. Fortunately, my sister was strong-willed, and after a period of time, she changed this bad habit and began to eat by herself.
Another example is brushing your teeth
Since the youngest daughter had her first tooth, her sister insisted on brushing her teeth, and now she is more than 5 years old, she has not a single caries, and her teeth are white and good-looking.
On the other hand, the eldest daughter's teeth, not to mention yellow and black, have several caries, and are now being treated in the hospital.
What is even more annoying is that every night to coax the eldest daughter to brush her teeth, after all kinds of coaxing, the daughter still does not brush, shouting and shouting: Grandma said, the child's teeth are not dirty, there is no need to brush every day ...
As everyone knows, the immune system of young children has not been fully established, and the ability to resist bacteria is relatively weak. Therefore, grandmothers should clean the baby's face and teeth in time.
Another example is photography
The photos of the little daughter are all blockbuster feelings; And the eldest daughter, Zhang Zhangdu is "ugly to the point of slag", and she wants to laugh when she sees it.
Grandma is always afraid of her daughter's cold, in order to make the baby warm dress, she will always wrap the baby tightly: cotton pants, cotton socks, smocks, scarves...
The younger daughter has clothes, the eldest daughter has them, but after being added by a grandmother's blouse, it always feels that something is wrong. But in grandma's opinion, the new clothes worn by the baby, without a smock, will be dirty after a while, especially when eating, the smock is really too useful.
Before the mother started square dancing, the 5-year-old daughter was already very proficient. Once I saw my mother-in-law dancing in the square downstairs, and the eldest daughter actually ran over and danced along, which is simply a living square dance little princess.
Looking at the changes of a pair of twins in his sister's family, Wen Wen's father also collected some cute baby photos of "mother's belt" and "grandma's belt" on the Internet, and really felt the kind of steady, honest, and non-adulterated love from the old man with the baby.
In general, the elderly with the baby is not as fashionable and fashionable as the mother with the baby, in the eyes of the grandmother, as long as the baby eats in large gulps and does not get sick, it is the best standard.
Although the younger sister complained about the eldest daughter brought by her grandmother, from the heart, she was still very grateful to her grandmother, and under the care of her grandmother, the eldest daughter's physique was much better than that of the younger daughter, and she was almost not sick.
Secondly, the grandmother's physique that is not afraid of hardship and diligence is also reflected in her 5-year-old daughter. This kind of spiritual nourishment may be the greatest life wealth that grandma brings to her children.
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Looking around the families, the elderly help with the baby. Wenwen's father and wife are people who work hard, and the baby at home is taken care of thanks to her grandmother's help.
At first, Wenwen's father was also worried, but later found that as long as the "vaccination" was given to the elderly in advance, the elderly could also raise children scientifically.
For example, make an agreement with grandma on these things:
(1) You can't do everything for your child
When communicating with kindergarten teachers, I found that those old people with big babies in one hand have poor self-care ability, mainly reflected in: unable to eat by themselves, wear undressing shoes, and lose their temper when encountering difficulties.
Therefore, for the good of the children, grandmothers cannot arrange everything for the children, but let the children learn to eat, dress, brush their teeth, etc. by themselves.
(2) Children cannot be forced to be polite
The eldest daughter of my sister's family is a little slow and introverted, and she doesn't like to say hello very much. And after her grandmother met an acquaintance, she always urged the child to "shout people".
If the child does not speak, grandma begins to be soft and hard: you child, why are you so rude, how grandma taught you ... You don't call people, and people still think you are dumb?
After a few years, children are afraid to say hello! Therefore, mothers should make an agreement with grandma and cannot force their children to say hello to others.
In addition, it is necessary to remind grandmothers not to interfere with children's toys and not to suppress children's curiosity. I believe that every parent does not want to raise their children into flowers in the greenhouse, so let their children explore the world.
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