Some people are red, it is red on the hot search; And some people are red, it is red in the hearts of the public.
Zeng Li counts as one.
The legend about Zeng Li on the rivers and lakes, the first is beauty, and the second is indisputable.
As an excellent student of 96 Chinese drama, most of the actors are supporting roles, from the gentle Jiangnan woman Song Jiayi in "The Barber" to Yang Guifei in "Glory of the Tang Dynasty", these "small" roles have left a deep impression.
Now 46 years old, her face is like a flower, and her life is casual enough, unlike a star who actively "sells".
In Zeng Li, the unsolvable dilemmas in women's lives, such as age, appearance, and career, seem to float lightly, making people can't help but want to explore in detail how she did it?
On the way to acting, hide your desperation in the "Buddhist system"
In 1976, Zeng Li was born in an ordinary family in Jingzhou.
Her mother attached great importance to her artistic education from an early age.
At the age of twelve, it was the age to enjoy the favor of his parents, but Zeng Li went north alone to study and entered the Beijing Theater Academy to major in Tsing Yi, which was 7 years old.
This lonely period of study in the north shaped her independence and strength.
After graduation, Zeng Li became a member of the Hubei Provincial Peking Theater, but the work in the troupe was not challenging, and Zeng Li felt that this kind of life that could be seen at a glance was not what he wanted.
She made a bold decision: give up her job in the regiment and apply for the Chinese drama exam.
In order to make up for the cultural lessons, Zeng Li pounced on the textbooks for three whole months.
In 96, he was finally admitted to the undergraduate class of Chinese opera with excellent results.
This class is a recognized "star class" in Chinese opera,
In the third year, everyone was busy running the crew, looking for filming, hoping to become popular all over the country early.
However, Zeng Li was a picture of staying out of the matter, becoming the only person in the class who quietly gnawed on books in school for four years.
In 1998, Zhang Yimou took his new movie "My Father and Mother" to the Central Academy of Drama to select the heroine, and at first he looked for Zeng Li, but Zeng Li did not want to give up his studies, which led to Zhang Ziyi's interpretation later.
Zhang Ziyi also became popular because of this movie, and many people felt sorry for Zeng Li.
But she said unhurriedly: "Don't watch others play fire, maybe I can't play it." ”
It is precisely because she feels that "she doesn't seem to have a particularly big desire to be popular", the public gave Zeng Li a Buddhist label.
For the "misunderstanding" of the outside world, the real Zeng Li described himself as follows:
Buddhism doesn't mean not working hard, I just want to take my time and walk more solidly.
After graduating and stepping into the entertainment industry, Zeng Li did his best to treat every role.
During the filming of the TV series "In the Distance", Huo Mei and his companion A Chang played by Zeng Li were trapped in the mountains, and Huo Mei carried him on his back and walked in the rain for a long time, this tragic scene made many viewers cry.
Zeng Li mentioned in an interview that it was a cold winter when this scene was filmed, and Zeng Li was so cold that he almost lost consciousness.
When the director asked her if she could step barefoot in the river and shoot another one, Zeng Li agreed without hesitation.
For variety shows, she is also dedicated. Previously participated in the kicking hall of "Sister Lang 2", for Zeng Li, who has never learned dance, it was very difficult.
In order to show her best condition on stage, she practiced hard, even jumped to a toenail without knowing it, and lost 10 pounds.
Sweat finally allowed 40+ Zeng Li to bloom on the stage. She made a stunning appearance with an adaptation of "Laughing Red Dust", although she did not succeed in kicking the museum, she gave the answer with practical actions:
"Even if I don't dance as well as other sisters, I see another self through my own efforts."
Know what you want, don't be impatient, and have such a philosophy of life in order to live without panic.
When others are anxious about a step-by-step life, she always quietly sticks to her time zone and lives her own "customized life".
Slow down and run a "Li-style" life
Zeng Li in his career, "simmering slowly on a small fire", does not hurry, and only plays his favorite plays.
Zeng Li in life also broke the socialized evaluation system of "success and family happiness".
She has created a "slow, but just right" lifestyle for herself.
Drink tea, vegetarian food, get close to nature.
When she first got involved with vegetarianism because of the filming of the movie "The Barber", she was a little baby fat at that time, and the director asked her: "Can you lose a little more weight?" It will look better! ”
In this way, Zeng Li decided to control his mouth and only eat vegetarian, but he did not expect that it would be 13 years after eating, and it had already become a part of his life, from willpower insistence to enjoyment.
Since 2005, in the days when he is not filming, Zeng Li fell in love with tea.
No matter how complicated the circle is, she can always calm down and make a good pot of tea, and tea lovers have given her the nickname "Joy Thought".
Zeng Li once said: "I am willing to spend a long time quietly waiting for something, in her heart, this is not consumption, but accumulation of energy." ”
Only by slowing down your life can you temporarily stop the complicated thoughts in your head and truly explore your true self inwardly.
The seemingly simple "Li-style" life hides a determined, indifferent, and calm attitude to life.
And about love, Zeng Li also prefers to believe that it is a fated "Zen".
In recent years, Zeng Li has played a scheming woman, but the real Zeng Li is very serious in love, sad and serious, so every time she separates, she is as painful as fading a layer of skin.
The two boyfriends she has dated basically have nothing to do with handsomeness.
In this regard, Zeng Li has publicly stated:
"I don't define whether he can be my boyfriend by being handsome, it's more important to be motivated inside."
During the filming of "Return Like a Rainbow", Zeng Li and Fu Dalong rubbed a spark of love, and there was a small episode when the two met, Zeng Li mistook Fu Dalong as a takeaway brother, and as a result, Fu Dalong's humor made her have a good impression.
Fu Dalong's appearance is really not eye-catching in the entertainment industry, but his ability is outstanding, and he is also delicate and considerate to Zeng Li, giving her enough security when her parents divorced when she was a child.
However, this relationship only lasted for a short year, and later ended without success because of busy work, gathering less and leaving more.
After separating from Fu Dalong, during the filming of "Qin Huai Tragic Song", Zeng Li and Li Yixiang fell in love, and many people said that she "stuck to an ugly man".
Zeng Li's acceptance of him has a lot to do with Li Yixiang's desperation for love, and he takes good care of Zeng Li.
But Li Yixiang only has a junior high school education, and was a mechanic before becoming an actor.
Therefore, even if he has a successful career, he still has low self-esteem in his heart and has a strong desire to control Zeng Li.
Strong love becomes paranoid love, and caring becomes possession.
Zeng Li was restricted everywhere, and even contacted the organizer privately at the award ceremony to ask Zeng Li not to share the stage with Fu Dalong.
For this reason, the two also quarreled constantly, and finally Zeng Li could not bear the suffocating relationship and chose to break up.
In a relationship, Zeng Li values respect and trust the most. Uncomfortable feelings will only make her feel stressed and tired.
Talking about the concept of love, Zeng Li said: "Marriage must be married to the only person you recognize, and the most important thing is mutual trust and attraction, which may become a failure in future life." ”
People like Zeng Li who have enjoyed freedom for a long time and do what they want at will, cannot give in to their own free space, and have their own insistence on feelings.
It is calm and self-sufficient, Zhang Feng and moderately managing the "Li-style" life, and she lives a beauty far beyond this age.
Throw away your anxiety and live this life in your favorite rhythm
A woman who never presses the fast forward button for her life, always trying to change at her most comfortable angle, step by step, looking for herself, this is Zeng Li.
Her philosophy of life is both transparent and open-minded, and living in her own "time zone" gives her stable energy at all times.
In this fast-moving world, people are often caught up in external evaluations and focus on immediate worldly success.
If you think about it, many times the loss of control of our life situation begins with inner disorder.
Get rid of the inner judge and dial your own "inner clock."
Many people have an external evaluation system inside, often chattering in their minds, such as "Can you do the right thing at the right age like the people around you..."
Darling, no matter what stage of life you are in right now, it's worth stopping and thinking about two questions:
"Do you love your life right now? If you don't love it, what can you do to make yourself happier? ”
"Do you like who you are now?"
Living more and more like yourself, then it proves that the road is right.
And if you live more and more twisted and internal attrition, then you should be vigilant, do you give the choice of life to others? Always lack the courage to do what you've been thinking about for a long time?
Li Zongsheng sang in "Song for Myself": "When you find out that time is a thief, it has already stolen your choices." ”
Therefore, learn to find the "soft landing" of life, and when you can't catch up with the time, it's better to stop and rest.
I have seen friends who live comfortably and self-consistently, experienced company layoffs at the age of 40+, took the initiative to resign from many years of step-by-step work, and did not choose to continue to the next job, but took a break for half a year.
Experience your inner "unfinished business" as much as possible – buy a go-and-go ticket and spend the rare 48 hours of the weekend in an unfamiliar city.
Watch a comedy, catch a concert, participate in various art exhibitions that interest you, and make the most of this moment.
Finally, he made vlogs of his life and shared them on social platforms, establishing a tree hole for dialogue with himself and others.
When the "social clock" breaks down in you, your life is no longer linearly, and there is not much to hold you back.
As Zeng Li wrote in the essay collection "Born with the Wind":
Flowers have a flowering period, and so do people, so do they don't have to be demanding to bloom all the time.
The girl who flies against the wind is very sassy, and the girl who is born with the wind is beautiful.
A good life is to maintain your own state of life.
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