Have you watched the movie "There is Her in the World" released in September?
Douban score 5.5, although the word-of-mouth box office is not satisfactory, but Zheng Xiuwen's appearance still made many netizens sigh "Ye Qing back".
In one of the family struggle scenes, her lines are explosive, vividly portraying the character of a married woman in her early 30s, trapped in firewood, rice, oil and salt.
What's more, at Paris Fashion Week recently, she wore a denim suit with short blonde hair, and her tight figure and fashionable temperament were not inferior to the young stars who watched the show on the same stage.
Zheng Xiuwen debuted for more than 30 years, but in her current state, who would have thought that she was 50 years old.
She has been called by countless fans and fans: "The last diva of Hong Kong." ”
In the updated entertainment industry, Zheng Xiuwen sits firmly on the throne of the queen of heaven, how did she achieve invincibility?
Stepping out of your comfort zone, a new kind of perfectionist challenge
There is a saying circulating in Hong Kong: There is no one in Hong Kong who does not love Zheng Xiuwen.
When interviewing street citizens, everyone's answer was: She worked hard enough.
When it comes to hard work, it sounds simple, but Zheng Xiuwen almost tried his best to implement it in his life.
Zheng Xiuwen, born in 1972, is the fourth oldest in the family, and her grades were not outstanding when she was young, but fortunately, her parents did not blame her for this.
At the age of 16, with the encouragement of her family, she participated in the 7th Rookie Singing Contest held by TVB in Hong Kong.
She became famous through the competition, and then it was even smoother: she was signed by a record company, debuted as a singer, and released an album just as an adult.
But not long after, Zheng Xiuwen himself proposed a transformation to the company.
Because in that era when the jade girl was in power, compared with actresses such as Zhou Huimin and Li Jiaxin in the same period, she was not outstanding.
At her strong request, the company gave her a different positioning.
She became the first artist in Hong Kong to dye her blonde hair, and such an alternative look really made her a little popular.
But soon, the entertainment industry preferred skinny beauties, and she began to desperately lose weight again, and in order to maintain her figure, she had not eaten a full meal for more than ten years.
It is not enough to do well in appearance and music career, she took on nearly 50 film and television dramas from 1996 to 2004.
Among them, she starred in popular films such as "Lonely Man and Widow", "Thin Man and Woman", and "Zhong Wuyan", and was also shortlisted for the Academy Awards.
Not only ordinary audiences, but even director Du Qifeng, who appreciated her, lamented that she could have comfortably lie down and win, but she was too demanding perfection and made herself very tired.
When she debuted, she would faint for a perfect body and a pathological diet;
Before the age of 30, she would be angry because of her imperfect work, and even her assistants were scolded by her to leave her job, and the media called her "Zheng Stinky Four";
She worked hard to film, but she was once depressed, and as a ten-year "running companion" Academy Award, she was nominated nine times and lost six times.
Perfectionism makes Zheng Xiuwen constantly work hard, but it also seems to have become a stumbling block on her life road.
Many people are puzzled: why does she pursue perfection so much?
TED speaker Jon Bowei once said that the reason why people don't recognize "perfectionism" is actually because they prefer to stay in the comfort zone of "just put in the effort".
Psychologists also believe that the comfort zone will make you feel comfortable and comfortable, but not necessarily happy or happy.
Because outside the comfort zone, there are unknown fears and challenges; And in the comfort zone, it is likely to be the timid and content self of the status quo.
A lot of people talk about stepping out of their comfort zone, but very few actually do.
Zheng Xiuwen's constant pursuit of perfection is desperately jumping out of the comfort zone that the public believes.
As she wrote on Weibo years later: "If you can't change all at once, then do your best job thoroughly and so that you can also make progress from it." ”
Never giving up is an important step in self-transformation
In 2004, Zheng Xiuwen ushered in a major challenge in life and took on the much-anticipated literary film "Long Hate Song".
But during the shooting, she was panicked and unwell; At the same time, her boyfriend Xu Zhian, who has been in love for many years, suddenly unilaterally announced his breakup.
Not long after, she had a stubborn attack, and she was unable to shoot normally for a time, and finally finished filming, but her box office reputation collapsed.
After this "catastrophe", she suffered from severe depression.
At the age of 30, I had to leave all my job behind and shut myself in my house.
Of course, this is not her first blow in the star, but in the past she has tried to find a turnaround.
But such a turnaround did not appear soon after "Long Hate Song".
Recalling those days, she said: "Finding a way out is like walking into a dead end, it's dark, cold, chaotic." ”
During the three-year depression period, she kept saying to herself: Don't give up, one day you will get up.
With this belief, she slowly transformed: she began to paint, contribute to newspaper columns, and vent her emotions with a brush;
She began to travel, traveling all over the world; She began to run and became what the people later called "eight kilometers of diva";
She started volunteering, going to the mountains of Yunnan with her good friends to teach English to children in the mountains.
Even she changed her violent temper and began to apologize and get back those who had been hurt by herself.
These made her find a different self, even ten years later, she encountered her husband's cheating, the death of her dog, and the death of her father.
She still insists on living her life well, running eight kilometers a day and even living younger and younger, competing with the trough.
As Zheng Xiuwen said in Weibo remembering his father:
"Turn all the experiences in life into the greatest motivation, don't give up, this is the nourishment for growth."
This can't help but remind people of the "genius girl" Gu Ailing who shone at this year's Winter Olympics.
She won the gold medal in the women's big air freestyle skiing, the silver medal in the women's freestyle slopestyle and the gold medal in the women's halfpipe in freestyle skiing.
Gu Ailing won her first ski event at the age of 9, and reached the top three of the FIS overall standings at the age of 15, winning 50 gold medals.
In order to prepare for the Winter Olympics, she completed the SAT test on her own in advance and scored close to 1580, and was directly admitted to Stanford University in advance.
Not only that, she plays the piano, basketball, and runs in her daily life, and after becoming famous, she appeared in public as a fashionista.
These countless dazzling achievements are all seen by the public, but what is not seen is that she falls and gets up again and again in order to complete the training.
Even at a young age, she faced a series of problems such as torn ligaments, high fever before the game, and even brief amnesia and game mistakes.
She also had an injury in training and wondered if she could do better, but she never wanted to give up.
Although encouragement from relatives and friends is indispensable, she has always had the spirit of not admitting defeat and trying to do her best.
And "doing the best" is not to press others down, but to compare with yourself.
Today is a little better than yesterday, that's the best version of yourself.
With such a never-say-die sports spirit, Gu Ailing broke world records again and again and completed her self-transformation.
It can be seen that behind experiencing setbacks and achieving glory, there are many times to have perseverance and practical actions without giving up.
There is no other in life, how to grow, only action
About the transformation into growth, in fact, it has nothing to do with others, life will not automatically get better, only actions will bring about change.
Do you remember Su Min, who became popular on the Internet some time ago, and ran away from home at the age of 56 to travel by car with one person, one car and one tent?
Before leaving home, she was already suffering from moderate depression and had to take the medicine prescribed by her doctor every day.
In the past 30 years of marriage, her husband has beaten her up, and there have been decades of cold violence.
In the first half of his life, he worked for his family, and his relatives and friends could not help; She also thought: no one is the same, endure it and pass.
But at the age of 56, her body and spirit could no longer sustain it, and she finally chose to go out and find another way to live.
Later, it turned out that her "escape" was successful.
During the journey, she filmed and edited the Vlog, which received a lot of attention and encouragement from fans.
This was followed by live broadcasts, interviews, advertising and other good things, and recently she also changed into an RV.
Psychological counselor Li Songwei once said: Positive action will open a positive feedback loop for us.
Instead of being stuck in place, comparing yourself to others or even to the past, it is better to actively act and let yourself run forward.
Because every day of inaction, every day of comparing with the lives of others, is just consuming your own inner energy.
If Su Min had just been stuck in place and did not take active action to change, he would only become more and more painful on the road of self-deception.
On the track of life, in fact, there has always been only ourselves.
The past cannot be changed, only to look forward more positively and optimistically.
Just like Zheng Xiuwen's song "Crossing Setbacks" sang: raise your head to face it confidently, every day is surpassing today, every time you try to exceed the limit, it is possible to reach the peak.
In the arena of life, may we all live a better life than yesterday and play as much as we can.
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