| Rice grain mother
In 2019, there was an unprecedented "famous scene" at the awards ceremony of the British Academy of Film and Television Arts.
At the time, the podium was empty in the spotlight, and the winner who should have stood there was being arrested by police in front of the Washington Capitol.
Dressed in a dazzling red coat with his hands tied, the man did not forget to shout his acceptance speech in the midst of the noise of the crowd and the police.
This person is Jane Fonda.
The above big news that blew up the front page headlines of world-renowned newspapers and periodicals that year was just a "small episode" in her climactic life.
Just looking at the accumulated achievements of Jane Fonda's acting career is enough to make the rice grain mother marvel - 7 Oscar nominations, 2 awards, 15 Golden Globe nominations, 7 awards, a Hollywood evergreen tree.
But who can believe it?
At the age of 84, she is still active in the film and television circle, fitness circle, and fashion circle, and she has been trapped in the strange circle of inferiority in the first few decades of her life.
All this has to start with Jane Fonda's broken family.
Lonely childhood
In the winter of 1937, Jane Fonda was born in New York to a "model family".
Her father, Henry Fonda was a household name in the United States, with a handsome appearance and first-class acting skills, and was regarded by Americans as the embodiment of the "American Dream", and was in the limelight in Hollywood and Broadway.
Contrary to Henry Fonda's identity, Jane's mother was a socialite and a beautiful and gentle wife in the eyes of everyone.
Since she was a child, Jane Fonda has been accustomed to shooting magazines, giving interviews, recording family videos with her parents and brother, and the family of four in front of the camera is warm and happy.
But the cruel thing is that such a "perfect family" is just a pretense for the outside world to see.
Only Jane Fonda herself knows how oppressive and distorted the environment in which she grew up was.
In this family, the father has an unchallengeable authority, and the mother is in a weak position for many years, and the best thing is to swallow his anger and force his face to laugh.
The young Jane Fonda was also indoctrinated with the idea that her father was a "great hero" and that she must be the "perfect daughter" to please her.
Her father wanted her to be sweet, and she hung a smiling face all day; Her father disliked her figure, so she went on a hunger strike to lose weight, and at one point suffered from anorexia and bulimia.
But the object of her best efforts to please has never fulfilled her father's duties.
As a messenger of justice in the hearts of the American people, Henry Fonda was stingy about leaving time for his family, and even had extramarital affairs. (The scum has to be righteous, and the rice grain mother is really angry!) ）
This went on for more than a decade, until the news of Henry's falling in love with a young girl only 7 years older than her daughter came before Jane Fonda's mother.
She also tried to deceive herself, but her husband filed for divorce.
The helpless woman had no way out, she collapsed at the dinner table and wept, shaking uncontrollably as she held her daughter's hand, and the depressive episode was menacing.
After the divorce, Jane Fonda's mother began a long hospital stay. Jane Fonda and her brother were left at home and lived like "wild children".
On a calm afternoon, the mother, who claimed to be recovering well, went home to visit her child accompanied by a nurse.
At that time, Jane Fonda was playing with her brother on the second floor, and she was very resistant to meeting her sad and depressed mother, so she went into hiding.
But who could have imagined that just this afternoon, my mother stole a page of blades from the bathroom and committed suicide shortly after returning to the hospital.
Father initially kept the matter a tight secret, and it was many days before Jane Fonda saw the news in the newspaper.
The ex-wife of the famous movie star Henry Fonda committed suicide by slitting her throat with a razor in a mental hospital.
The icy statement left Jane Fonda flustered, and she realized she had missed the last side with her mother.
As a young child, she was swept away by great sadness and guilt, so shocked that she could not shed a single tear.
But the outside world "praised" it: "You are very strong." ”
What pained Rice Mother was that Jane Fonda who lacked love since childhood mistakenly took this comfort as an affirmation. Since then, she has learned to suppress her heart and increasingly lose her desire to express.
Until the age of 21, she had a fateful opportunity to save herself.
Live with shadows
The father's hypocrisy and indifference in life as an actor made Jane Fonda avoid the profession.
When she was young, she would rather pretend to be an Indian and arrange hikes for herself in the mountains and forests, rather than be vain and snake in the world.
But at the age of 20, her stepmother kicked her out of the house, and Jane Fonda had to turn to an acting class teacher to make a living.
She was lucky enough to meet Lee Strathberg, a Bó Lè who had pointed out superstars like Paul Newman and Marilyn Monroe.
Lee told Jane Fondard: "Of all the students I took with me, you were the most talented, and your eyes were full of stories. ”
With talent and hard work, Jane Fonda quickly showed strong acting strength, and won the Golden Globe Award for Best Newcomer in three years of his career.
Unfortunately, at this time, she had no ambition, and the only role she wanted to play was a good girl in her father's mind.
Later, Jane Fonda's self-awareness gradually awakened, and she began to understand that no matter how many films she made in Hollywood, she could not become a world of her own, but would always live in the shadow of her father.
So she decided to leave.
Jane Fonda chose to go to France, the origin of the film, to explore more.
Here, she was attracted to the famous director Roger Wadim, and the two soon became married.
In Jane Fonda's eyes, Roger is sexy, charming, and powerful, and they have a tacit understanding in their work and life, and they have a carefree and hedonistic time.
But the hidden dangers of pleasure are also obvious, Jane Fonda said that she was very dependent on Roger at that time, like climbing on the vine of his survival, always putting herself in a very low position to please the other party.
What is even more heartfelt is that Jane Fonda does not dare to be himself at all around him, and always subconsciously behaves obediently and sensible.
On the surface, this seems to be Jane Fonda compromising for love, but Rice Grain Mom thought about it carefully, isn't this marriage model a copy of Jane Fonda's parents?
It turned out that Jane Fonda who left the United States was still shrouded in the shadow of her childhood.
Unfortunately, after the two married, Jane Fonda discovered that Roger was an alcoholic, gambler, and repeatedly blatant cheating. Not only did he let himself wander away, but he couldn't hear his wife complain.
But Jane Fonda is obsessed with love, not only resigned, but also put down her body to star in the erotic science fiction film "Space Heroine Babalina" directed by her husband.
This work can now be said to be a stain on Jane Fonda's career.
But even so, she was willing to accompany Roger to the interview and sincerely expressed her admiration and appreciation for Roger.
It wasn't until 1968 that 31-year-old Jane Fonda became pregnant.
Break the cocoon and be reborn
Jane Fonda said that when a new life is born, she is like a sponge, absorbing all the information from the outside world.
The 1970s were the culmination of the fierce war between the United States and Vietnam.
Jane Fonda learned about the cruelty of war in the news and the press, saw refugees and soldiers struggling in the depths of the sea, and saw that the double-edged sword of democracy was driving the United States down the wrong path.
At the time, a friend of Jane Fonda's actors had joined the political movement, and under her influence, Jane Fonda realized that she could do more meaningful things herself.
She is no longer content to be a "good woman" in the traditional sense, but her husband seems to know nothing about the great changes in the world, and still indulges in absurd hedonism.
At this time, she began to get bored, but she was still trapped in the new life in her belly.
The process of giving birth to her daughter Vanessa made Jane Fonda desperate, and the blows of postpartum depression and breastlessness followed, almost killing her half life.
Under the influence of the deformed mother-daughter relationship in childhood, she increasingly did not believe that she could be a good mother, and even pessimistically determined that she and her daughter were victims.
This painful experience made Jane Fonda determined to end the marriage, and she desperately needed new space, new strength.
At this moment, a script that perfectly fits her mood falls from the sky.
She was away from home for half a year and created a desperate, lonely female character in the movie "Desperate Bet", which is far from her previous screen image.
After the film was broadcast, word of mouth exploded, and it was nominated for an Oscar in one fell swoop.
Jane Fonda said she had a very different acting experience during the filming process.
After this film, Jane Fonda personally tore off the labels of "stupid woman" and "sweet beauty", cut a tough new hairstyle, and became strong from the inside out.
In 1969, Jane Fonda joined the Peace Movement, standing on the open-air podium where the masses flocked to the podium, shaking her fists, shouting out her inner demands word for word.
At this time, she looked back at the absurd life of the first 30 years, only to feel ashamed, she hated her ignorance, so she moved forward more urgently.
In 1970, Jane Fonda was arrested at an event, and Nixon, then president of the United States, said: "I feel sorry for Henry Fonda, whose daughter has gone astray." ”
Jane Fonda did not explain this, and even solemnly told the audience when she first appeared on the podium of the Oscars: "I have a lot to say, but now is not the time." ”
Jane Fonda, who was deeply involved in the whirlpool of public opinion, met his "spiritual mentor" - Tom Hayden.
The hard-line political activist later became Jane Fonda's second husband.
Both husband and wife engaged in anti-war activities, and Jane Fonda personally went to Vietnam to block the criminal plans of the US government, and for this reason he did not hesitate to bear the insult of "treason".
But Jane Fonda doesn't care, what worries her most now is how to raise money and organize a larger democratic event across the United States, so that more people can participate and fight for the rights of the vulnerable.
Reconcile with imperfections
In their eyes, Jane Fangda's practice at that time was to let the rich woman and the perfect movie star of Yangguan not go, but to want a single wooden bridge to break into the water and be fishy.
Why bother?
Jane Fonda, who was closely monitored by the F.B.I., arrested and imprisoned again and again, and forced to live in a Vietnamese bomb shelter with her newborn young son, said: "That way I will not give up." ”
In those years, she completed many films of social significance, such as the cold-style detective crime film "Flower Street Killer King", "Nine to Five", which exposed the injustice of women's workplace, and "Rong Gui", which focused on the current situation of disabled veterans returning from the Vietnam War...
Among them, "Return" has a preparation period of six years, and it also won Jane Fonda a second Oscar.
In her words, she is "leading history with art."
But while her acting career is advancing, she still faces the reality of "not being able to open the pot".
In order to raise money for social activities, Hayden tried all kinds of ways to do business, but he was unable to make the trip.
Looking at her frowning husband, Jane Fonda thought of a way to record fitness videos, after all, bodybuilding is the best thing she has been good at since the film.
Not long after, Jane Fonda's Aerobics came out.
The work exploded as soon as it was launched, sold in large quantities in the form of videos and books, and for the next 40 years, it topped the sales list of home fitness categories.
And Jane Fonda put all the income from the video into the common cause with her husband.
She gave speeches with her husband, organized a non-racist summer camp, and adopted Lulu, a hard-working dark-skinned girl.
But such an excellent Jane Fonda is still extremely dependent on her husband Hayden in private, and even the film awards ceremony has to bring her husband on stage with her.
Hayden was conceited of his wife's dependence while getting tired of showing off his private life with his wife.
The two were gradually estranged from each other, and later, Hayden cheated on him.
Jane Fonda was in her 50s at this time, and she once again dropped the knife in her hand, ending the marriage that made her powerless.
Immediately afterward, Jane Fonda ushered in a two-line trough in her relationship and career.
In the most frustrating moment of her life, she meets Ted.
The funny man who pursued her wholeheartedly was the founder of CNN and was worth $4.8 billion.
Unlike his two previous husbands, Ted recognized and adored his wife, using Jane Fonda as a spiritual pillar, claiming that by her side, his bipolar disorder was cured.
This marriage is a journey of mutual redemption.
Jane Fonda spent 15 years in the shadow of Ted, and they left the worldly turmoil to groom in a ranch and enjoy nature.
This kind of day is more like a recreation of childhood for Jane Fondard, who has returned to her original "Indian Girl" in the wilderness.
These years of life have healed her inner regrets, and she reconciled with her childhood and parents, and is no longer trapped by the past.
But after all, Jane Fonda is not a woman who is willing to live in a mansion, and she has seen heaven and earth, and she has more demands in her heart.
But her husband was too attached to himself, and in just a few days after leaving home, he would pestering her to cook phone porridge, which made her very tired.
Jane Fonda in her 60s already knew that she didn't need to give up on herself for someone else.
So she divorced again and started over.
In 2005, the 65-year-old Jane Fonda made a comeback, shining in masterpieces such as "Newsroom" and "Young and Energetic", and appeared on the cover of the special issue of "Vanity Fair" with a popular actress who was dozens of years younger than her.
In 2018, Jane Fonda who is still active in the front line of film and television founded a new clothing brand, and her career has reached a small peak.
At the same time, Jane Fonda has not given up her social activities, speaking out for environmental issues, openly protesting Trump's "air strike" atrocities...
Today, Jane Fonda is 84 years old, and she is still burning her life for her career.
She once hid behind four men to seek refuge, and when she was full of hair, she finally broke through the cocoon and was reborn, independent and confident!
The words she said made the rice grain mother feel a lot, and also shared it with you:
"Age doesn't follow chronological order, it's only about your spirit and attitude."
What about being tired of everything at 20? At the age of 70, you can still restart your life.
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